#overgiver

[museinblooming]

Funny how what I considered the bare minimum was too much for them... It’s not high standards... It’s just... how I love...

[mint-midnight]

my therapist told me to make people angry on purpose as part of my homework (as advice for people pleasing recovery) and all i’ve done all week is say no to everybody i don’t want to say yes to and they’re all raging 😂😭

[americannoteven]

We’ve done it lads. We’ve finally hit a point for the first time since I first opened it that I now need to actually watch my spending……….. ha

[theambitiouswoman]

You will disappoint people you care about when you put yourself first.

Perspectives shifts to make peace with this:

• Disappointment is unavoidable; it’s part of being human.

• Putting yourself first doesn’t mean you care less about others.

• You can’t pour from an empty cup—your well-being matters.

• People who truly care will understand your need for boundaries.

• Disappointment is temporary; resentment from overgiving lasts longer.

• Prioritizing yourself sets an example for others to do the same.

• Your worth isn’t tied to how much you sacrifice for others.

• Saying “no” to others is saying “yes” to yourself.

• You’re responsible for your happiness, not their expectations.

• Growth often feels uncomfortable, but it’s necessary for a fulfilling life.

When it comes to family (as many such cases):

• Family expectations can feel heavier, but you’re still allowed to set boundaries.

• Disappointing them doesn’t mean you don’t love them—it means you’re human.

• Your needs matter, even if they don’t always align with family traditions or values.

• You can explain your choices, but you’re not responsible for their feelings.

• Loving your family doesn’t mean sacrificing yourself.

• Putting yourself first can strengthen relationships by reducing resentment.

• Healthy boundaries lead to healthier family dynamics over time.

• It’s okay to grow in a direction that feels right for you, even if they don’t understand.

• You are not obligated to meet everyone’s expectations—family or not.

• Peace comes from accepting that love & disappointment can coexist.

[loveemagicpeace]

🌊May Astrology🌊

On May 13, the Scorpio Full Moon pulls us into the underworld— a release of shame, attachment, fear, or power struggles. We rise raw, exposed and finally honest. Scorpio is very deep, honest and always seeks the truth whatever they go. He likes dark things and things that are ugly but that's why they're so beautiful. Something will be transformed and thus also released from life. On May 24, Saturn enters Aries for the first time in nearly 30 years. From surrender to action. From karmic dissolving to karmic claiming. Now we build through will. We take spiritual responsibility for our identity. Saturn will show where you can have more courage to achieve something and where you can go outside your comfort zone to achieve it. To do what is best for you and to do it bravely and proudly.

🍕Aries Rising - Saturn enters your sign—a major rebirth. The weight of becoming falls on your shoulders, but it's yours to carry with grace.This is a time to carve yourself with discipline. You are no longer waiting for life to shape you-you are shaping life. You're being asked to show up with maturity, self-trust, and grit. It's time to put structure around your fire. The Scorpio Full Moon in your 8th house calls for deep emotional release—let go of attachments that disempower you. You are not a victim of your fire—become its master. Release old energetic contracts. Let go of fear-based control. True intimacy is earned by vulnerability, not dominance. May brings focus to your 2nd house-your self-worth, money, and values. Expect financial opportunities or the need to upgrade your sense of security. You're not just attracting abundance-you're becoming it.

🏝️Taurus Rising- The Scorpio Moon rises in your 7th house— relationships intensify, truths emerge. Partnerships become mirrors.You're asked to face uncomfortable truths: what are you giving, what are you tolerating, and what do you truly deserve? Saturn in your 12th house begins a period of inner spiritual work. You may feel called to withdraw, to protect your energy, or to heal karmic weight from lifetimes. This is the quiet before a personal storm-clearing space for a future you haven't met yet.Some bonds deepen, others end. A quiet, karmic preparation begins. This is the start of your inner reckoning. You'll be asked to face your shadows with maturity. Not everything needs to be seen-some growth is sacred, invisible, and divine. The spotlight is on you. With the Sun and Mercury in your 1st house, it's your season of radiance. Redefine your identity, style, or presence. You're magnetic-don't dim for anyone.

🍀Gemini Rising- The Full Moon shines in your 6th house-your body, health, and habits. What needs detoxing, emotionally and physically? Let go of overworking, overgiving. Your body may be whispering truths your brain avoids. Burnout? People-pleasing? It's time to release toxic patterns of productivity. Saturn enters your 11th house: dreams demand structure now. The future is real-but it needs devotion, boundaries, and a better circle. Build with those who respect your vision. Build community with intention. Choose your dreams with discipline. This is a deeply spiritual May as your 12th house is activated.Solitude heals. Old dreams, hidden emotions, and unconscious patterns rise-observe without judgment. Rest is sacred.

⚡️Cancer Rising-The Scorpio Full Moon in your 5th house unearths your hidden desires and forgotten joys. Let your heart grieve what it didn't receive-then reclaim your right to joy. Your joy, romance, and creativity are undergoing rebirth. Let go of performative love or childish seeking. What makes your heart burn with real passion? Saturn enters your 10th house-your career and purpose are no longer a fantasy. You must embody the leader within. This is the start of a new legacy. This is grown-up visibility. You're being called to show up in public the way your soul shows up in private. Your 11th house lights up-friendships, networks, and wishes. New allies enter. A long-held dream may show signs of life. Don't be afraid to be seen by your soul tribe.

🦁Leo Rising-The Full Moon activates your 4th house-home, safety, family karma. Let go of inherited emotional burdens.You don't have to carry it all. This is a purge of inherited emotion. You are not your family's pain. Saturn rises into your 9th house: your beliefs, education, and spirituality are under construction. Choose truth that strengthens your fire—not fear that tames it. Learn something that humbles you. Teach something that strengthens others. Structure your freedom so it lasts. Your faith will become more serious and you may travel to countries for work, or travel may become a little strenuous. May energizes your 10th house-career, public image, and legacy. Big shifts are possible. You're stepping into more visibility-show up with intention. Eyes are on you.

☀️Virgo Rising-The Scorpio Moon electrifies your 3rd house-words become spells. Release toxic mental loops and speak truth into your own life. Truth, communication, siblings, and the way you process life through thought. Words are medicine or poison-what are yours doing? Let go of false narratives and outdated opinions. Saturn enters your 8th house-this is karmic intimacy. You'll be asked to commit to your healing, your power, and your emotional depth. Real transformation begins when you stop hiding. This is emotional excavation.Your intimacy becomes a karmic classroom. Power, sex, trust, loss-nothing shallow survives. Intimacy will become more serious for you and you won't share it with everyone. A time to expand your mind. With the 9th house illuminated, May brings spiritual insight, travel, or study. Truth is your teacher now-stay curious and let your beliefs evolve.

🍇Libra Rising-The Scorpio Moon lands in your 2nd house—a purge of attachments around money, beauty, and worth. You are not what you earn-you are what you honor. Let go of what you think you should value. What do you really need to feel rooted, secure, and alive? Saturn moves into your 7th house— partnerships mature or fall away. Contracts, soulmates, karmic ties-this is relationship initiation. Choose with awareness. Commitments deepen, or collapse. The people in your life are no longer reflections of your potential, but of your choices. You'll want something more serious and real. You may now feel that the people around you are no longer a good fit for you, and Saturn can create a sense of loneliness. On May the 8th house brings transformation. It's about intimacy, shared resources, and soul-level healing. Surrendering control allows deeper connection—and maybe unexpected support.

🫐Scorpio Rising-The Full Moon is in your sign—a raw, emotional cleanse of who you've been. You are allowed to evolve beyond others' projections. A full circle moment of shedding skin, releasing projections, and reclaiming your truth. Let the masks fall. Let the ego crack open. Saturn in your 6th house asks you to refine your rituals. Your power lies in how you show up every day—with sacred intention. Your health, work, and habits must align with your soul. It's time to become the container for your transformation. Relationships come into sharp focus with your 7th house active. New people, commitments, or clarity around love may arise. What does true partnership look like for you now?

🦄Sagittarius Rising-The Scorpio Full Moon in your 12th house opens a portal to the past-spiritual endings, dream release, ancestral closure. Let go with ritual. It's time to bless your ghosts and thank them for the lessons. Saturn enters your 5th house— your creativity, romance, and joy will now demand commitment. The muse wants devotion, not chaos. Joy isn't random anymore— it's a commitment to your soul's radiance. During this time, you may spend more time alone and it will be important for you to really connect with people. Maybe partying, drinking, or similar things will no longer make you happy. May is about the 6th house—your routines, body, and sacred service. Refine your rituals.Productivity increases when it aligns with purpose. Take care of your vessel.

🦋Capricorn Rising-The Scorpio Moon - Let go of expired dreams or alliances. Your community, dreams, and collaborations. Let go of any group or goal that feels fake or forced. Saturn enters your 4th house-your emotional foundations and home life require rebuilding. What does it mean to truly feel safe inside your own body? You are not just building a home-you're becoming one. Safety isn't external anymore. You can start thinking more seriously about a stable home and you can also you sign a contract for a new home. Your 5th house calls: joy, romance, creativity, and inner child healing. Allow yourself to play, flirt, and create without pressure. You deserve to feel light.

🥑Aquarius Rising-The Full Moon rises in your 10th house-your career and public image are transforming. What no longer fits your soul's mission? What part of you have you been hiding to feel accepted? Let it go. Be seen fully. Let it fall. Saturn, your ruler, enters your 3rd house—it's time to speak with responsibility. Your voice is your sword now.Use it with integrity. Every conversation is a contract now. Mean what you say, and say what you're ready to live. More responsibility when it comes to driving, the car, and maybe you won't feel the same joy in driving during this time, it can also be a little stressful.May roots you in your 4th house-home, family, and emotional foundations. It's time to nourish your inner world. Make space for softness and realign with your sense of belonging.

🍬Pisces Rising-The Scorpio Full Moon energizes your 9th house— releasing false beliefs, outdated philosophies, and spiritual illusions.Let go of beliefs that kept you small or afraid. You are ready for a soul upgrade. Saturn exits your sign and moves into your 2nd house. Your worth is no longer up for debate—it's time to build it from within.What you commit to now becomes your foundation. It's time to make your worth tangible. What you invest in now-time, money, energy— must honor your future self. You can rely more on your inner feelings and things can get serious regarding finances. Your 3rd house is alive-communication, writing, and short journeys. Share your voice. Start the podcast, write the piece, make the call. The message is yours to deliver.

-Rebekah💘🌅🌙

[astroxrion]

Your Chiron | Your Wounds

Chiron in Aries

You struggle to believe your presence is enough. You were made to feel invisible or "too much." Healing feels like reclaiming your right to take up space. When you're healing, you stop shrinking. The wound shows up as rage, overcompensating, or fear of being forgotten.

Chiron in Taurus

Your safety was unstable or conditional. You crave security but feel like it's always slipping away. Healing means trusting yourself to build a life of comfort and worth. When healing, you stop clinging. The wound shows up as scarcity, overattachment, or numbing out.

Chiron in Gemini

You were silenced or misunderstood. Your thoughts were dismissed, and now your voice trembles or over-explains. Healing means speaking freely—even when you're scared. When healing, you communicate clearly and with confidence. The wound shows up as self-doubt, gossip, or overthinking.

Chiron in Cancer

You long for nurturing but learned not to expect it. Childhood left scars that never got validated. Healing means reparenting yourself and allowing softness. When healing, you care without self-erasure. The wound shows up as abandonment fears, emotional shutdown, or overgiving.

Chiron in Leo

You feel unseen, like your light is ignored or mocked. You want to shine, but fear being rejected. Healing means owning your gifts without apology. When healing, you lead with heart. The wound shows up as attention-seeking, shame, or avoiding praise.

Chiron in Virgo

You try to earn love by fixing yourself or others. You obsess over being "right." Healing means accepting imperfection as part of the journey. When healing, you relax into the present. The wound shows up as self-criticism, burnout, or anxiety.

Chiron in Libra

You shape-shift to be liked. Peace feels more important than truth. Healing means standing firm in who you are, even if it causes conflict. When healing, you attract real harmony. The wound shows up as codependency, people-pleasing, or resentment.

Chiron in Scorpio

You were betrayed, exposed, or deeply hurt by trust. Intimacy scares you because it once broke you. Healing means choosing vulnerability again. When healing, you stop needing control. The wound shows up as obsession, emotional walls, or silent suffering.

Chiron in Sagittarius

You feel disconnected from purpose or belief. You were shut down for dreaming too big or asking hard questions. Healing means honoring your truth and expanding your mind. When healing, you teach others through your journey. The wound shows up as cynicism, restlessness, or escapism.

Chiron in Capricorn

You had to grow up too fast. Love felt like performance, not presence. Healing means allowing yourself to rest, fail, and receive. When healing, you lead with integrity, not pressure. The wound shows up as workaholism, guilt, or coldness.

Chiron in Aquarius

You never felt like you fit in. Group rejection or being "too different" shaped your life. Healing means owning your weirdness and finding your soul circle. When healing, you feel less alone. The wound shows up as detachment, bitterness, or self-isolation.

Chiron in Pisces

You absorbed everyone's pain, but never felt truly seen. Boundaries were blurry or absent. Healing means learning where you end and others begin. When healing, you channel compassion without drowning. The wound shows up as addiction, fantasy, or martyrdom.

[thesirencult]

Pick A Card Reading : New Year Guidance

What you need to leave behind in 2023.

What you should keep from 2023 and wisdom it gifted you with.

What you should start doing in 2024.

PILE 1

What you need to leave behind in 2023.

7 Of Pentacles Leave behind not aligning your goals with your values. Sunk cost fallacy is when you don't stop doing something that is costing you and harming you because you have been doing it for a while. This is so 2023 babies! Are assesing your input vs the output you receive. Where in your life are you selling yourself short?

What you should keep from 2023 and wisdom it gifted you with.

4 Of Swords, 6 Of Pentacles In 2023 you learnt that everything comes with the cost. The cost though, better not be your physical and menatal health. A piece of wisdom you shoul keep is that resting is as important as growing. Also, remember to not sell yourself short and to stop self sacrificing and overgiving. Equal giving and taking is a moto you should keep repeating throughout 2024 and the end of 2023.

What you should start doing in 2024.

4 Of Cups, 10 Of Cups In 2024 you can start practicing being grateful for all you have already received or want to receive. Focusing on what you have and what you want to accomplish is more important than looking into what you lack. This will help you fight off any remaints of the "scarcity mindset". Also, practice patience and learn to bask in the light of the journey, not obsessing over the destination.

PILE 2

What you need to leave behind in 2023.

King Of Cups Rx, 3 Of Cups Rx What you need to leave behind in 2023 is your inability to express your true emotions and to listen to your heart instead of your mind. Many people around you do not have your best interest in mind. You have noticed that due to how they act when you succeed on your endeavors. Leave these people back in 2023 and use their jealousy as fuel to gas yourself up. Your inability to see your worth clearly is another hinderance. Learn to autonomously realize what your true value is without needing to use others as a mirror. Sometimes the mirros around you are broken and a change of surroundings can go a long way. Being autonomous and self-sovereign will help you navigate life in 2024.

What you should keep from 2023 and wisdom it gifted you with.

9 Of Swords 2023 taught you that negative self talk and a toxic environment affect your self esteem, image and life choices. You should hold close to your heart all the moments you suffered and you were left alone with your thoughts. This will help you understand that you are far more powerful than you think and that in big life choices we are always on our own with only Spirit by our side. If you wanna go fast, go by yourself. If you wanna go further, go with others, but, remember, that others have to want to reach the same destination as you, or else, you will keep visiting cities in ruins.

What you should start doing in 2024.

The Lovers Be independent and learn to make choices all by yourself, without considering how it affects others, if your choice is not directly harmful to them. Being a part of a unit and team is amazing but spreading your wings and flying is even better. Your vibe attracts your tribe. Be yourself unapologetically and authentically. Stop trying to blend in and fit in or you will bleed out.

PILE 3

What you need to leave behind in 2023.

8 Of Swords, The Fool, 6 Of Wands Let go of the belief that others can hold you back or that your past dictates your future. Do not let others tell you what you're capable of accomplishing. Everything lies in choice and perception. Master the last two and you have the key to open the door of success and happiness. Stop closing your eyes to the truth. You are capable of setting yourself free. YOUR choices dicatte your life. You are responsible for yourself and your future. Leave behind analysis-paralysis and planning but never following through. Keeping the promises you make to yourself is as important, if not more important, than making them. Clear your head and your vision. Stop feeling unlucky and fallen from grace. Stop thinking you are uncapable of being seen as succesfull, powerful, beautiful and being able to connect with others. You can be a leader and example for others in the future. Authority comes from self-belief. It should make you mad that people with one third of your talent, wisdom and capabilities are achieving more because their ego is inflated. Be the good guy who wins in the end. Your scars are your medals. Show em. Let yourself be seen.

What you should keep from 2023 and wisdom it gifted you with.

The Hierophant, 7 Of Wands, 10 Of Pentacles IDK. Maybe, I said, MAYBE THAT YOU ARE THE ONLY THING STANDING IN YOUR F*ING WAY AND SPIRIT WANTS YOU TO SEE THAT YOU'RE MEANT TO BE HAPPY AND WEALTHY AND SUCCESFULL, you naughty little thing! In 2023 you saw a glimpse of what lies ahead and what you can accomplish, if and only if, you dare to have faith in yourself and to trust in the highest power. Remember that you are not meant to follow the "traditional" path to success. This reminds me of the "Dumb Money" movie. Outrageous succes. Overnight success in the making for years. Looking in the dashboard and seeing the 000s pileing up while brushing your teeth in 8am unaware type of success. Rebel against the norm. You're in service of spirit because you have a pure soul. You are chosen and protected, you dumb lucky b*tch (I'm aggresively affectionate and you KNOW it). You are meant to be a leader and a guide for others. You are the reverse of pile 2 when it comes to this. Others can see the power and the beauty of yours. They love basking under your warm rays. You are the one unable to see your light. Just like a star, you only see the darkness around and the lights of others. You have been cursed to be unable to see your own beauty and light, so, take this as a sign and continue shining, tone it UP a bit. Connecting with Spirit/Universe/God and channeling is something you learnt this year. You might be my creator/energetic healer/tarot reader/coach/astrologer/crypto bro pile.

You are a creator at heart. A trendsetter, an influencer (in your own unique way). Keep sharing your ideas as they attract abundance and wealth in all forms, as well as your tribe. Sidenote. This year you had to protect yourself and learnt how to set boundaries. If someone disrespects you do not hesitate to get those claws out pantheress. Community, legacy, wealth and abundance were the pillars around the pieces of wisdom this year gave you. Also, read "Think And Grow Rich" by Napoleon Hill. Be brave and fierce.

What you should start doing in 2024.

Ace Of Swords, The Magician, Temperance

What you should start doing from now on and going forward is learning how to act as the equaliser, alchemist and embodying the witch/wizard archetype.

The next year your consciousness will further heighten and your task is to communicate your insights with others.

Accept and believe that you are a winner and develop the "winner's mindset" that will lead to triumph.

Don't play small, for once. Be selfish. Hold the mirror up and see the light. This is your light. No one can take it away from you. Profit from your light, don't let others be warm while you are burning yourself up or shivering in the cold.

Act with your personal interest in mind (Honestly, how much of a people pleaser are you? Do I have to tell you that? *Totally hugging you and playing with your hair while flaming you.*

Go watch some YouTube beauty influencers from 2016 and take some notes from Kim Kardashian when she was searching for her earrings in the Carribbean or somewhere, while people were dying.)

Keep on having that tunnel vision and focusing on personal gains.

Be resourceful. Create, transform and pivot when it is necessary. We are making this whole thing up along the way, this is LIFE, get over it, lol.

Meditating will help you ground yourself and set those energetic boundaries.

Hmmm, last random thoughts : Dare to blend multiple energies and to unite extremes. Be your OWN niche. Keep connecting people with spirit and their highest potential. Be a mediator for others and lastly, share as you keep on studying and learning.

We are not here to be perfect, we are here to BE. FULL STOP. PERIOD

Bye my fellow unhinged b*tches.

XOXO, the CEO of being unhinged, 💋💕🤎

S

[loveyourlovelysoul]

Childhood wounds may originate also during family financial struggles or in case your parents/caregivers stress a lot about money and the costs of things, especially things you want or related to you. According on the way money is discussed at home, a child may perceive themselves as a financial burden to the point of experiencing shame, unworthiness and suppressing their personal desires. This may also lead to feeling guilty for having needs, having anxiety around spending money, living in a scarcity mindset making it hard to feel secure, overworking and neglecting self care to avoid being a burden.

More in detail, children (and then adults too) may:

Feel unworthy of care: a child may believe that they're too needy, expensive or inconvenient, and start asking for as little as possible so to not create stress in the family. This may lead to self abandonment: the child minimize needs, feelings and desires to avoid causing troubles

Suppress needs: a child may feel guilty for basic needs, so they avoid asking for help or support even when they need it; downplay their emotions (thinking eg. "I don't really need that" or "It's not a big deal"); struggle with receiving care or generosity (especially as adults, feeling unworthy); overcompensate by becoming a caretaker, believing love must be earned through service

Hyper-Independence: a child can become overly self-reliant to survive. They may believe they need to take care of themselves to not be a burden to others, they may cause troubles if they depend on others, and they need to grow up fast and make money. This may lead to lack of trust in others, resisting help, feeling uncomfortable with financial and emotional support later in life

People pleasing and overachieving: to compensate the feeling of being a burden, a child may become a perfectionist to feel worthy of love and care, taking on adult responsibilities too early and over-function in relationships, struggling with boundaries cause that means they're putting themselves first and it makes them feel guilty

If unaddressed these wounds can have a long term impact:

chronic guilt for spending money and prioritizing personal needs

feeling like a burden in relationships and suppressing emotions to avoid this

burn-outs from overworking and overgiving in an attempt to feel worthy

avoidance of financial discussions due to past discomfort

(source divorcefamilymediation on ig)

[just-some-random-blogger]

He Tells Me

Masterlist

You've fallen into psychological stalemate with a man who does things for you without needing to be asked, and neither of you want to give up the last say.

Joel Miller x Reader | 1k+ | cw: fem!reader, fluff, overgiver!joel & yn, ellie 'JUST FUCKING KISS ALREADY' williams, typos, etc.

A/N: ive fallen into this song again. ITS SO JOEL CODED

Tagging: @pinksirensong @aralezinspace @sloanexx @multifandom-fangirl4

▶ ♪ Play touch tank by quinnie ♪ ◀

I love you isn't always I and Love and You; it isn't always the words that tumble out of your mouth or the lump that's stuck in your throat.

I love you isn't always a kiss and a hug; it isn't always the way lips brush against skin or chests press against chests.

Sometimes it's good mornings. Good morning, I love you. Did you sleep well, I love you. Have you eaten, I love you.

I love you, I did the dishes.

I love you, I fixed your faulty light.

Hey, let me carry that for you.

This reminded me of you, here.

I think you'd like this.

I love you.

But somehow, those I love yous read to you as you owe mes, and now, you were paying back every bit of your debt with blood, sweet, and a burnt hand.

Ellie opens the door and smiles, immediately calling your name and pulling you into a side hug. You lean into her embrace as much as the steaming casserole in your hand will allow you.

"You made it just in time for dinner!" she says, pushing you in with her.

You chuckle, "oh, Elle-machine. I'm just here to drop this off and-"

"Don't be silly," a voice cuts you off. Joel comes down from the stairs, barely glancing your way as he overtakes you both, heading for the kitchen. Still, you notice his faint smile and a shot of electricity ripples down your spine, a swell of warmth crawls up your ears.

Joel walks off, grunting as he did, "you're staying for dinner. End of story."

Ellie watches you be rendered frozen in your spot. She does not hide her grin, "he just called you silly."

You turn to her, finding the pot in your hand was feeling heavier, "... he did."

You and Ellie make it to the dining table and you set the food you prepared on a table next to the other dishes.

"Wow," you mutter, "roast chicken, mashed potatoes, and a salad," you look up at Joel, who was walking over with another pot. He sets the pot down as you turn to Ellie, "is it your birthday or something?"

"No," Ellie sit down with a smile, "Joel just knows I'm a growing child who needs her food."

You bring a hand to your mouth to hold in your giggles. Joel catches this and furrows his brows.

"Consider me jealous, honey," you tease her.

"Well, you could always move in with us," Ellie props her elbows on the table.

Before you can reply, Joel takes your hand, making both you and Ellie turn to him. Your heart pounds. His expression hardens as he takes in the cloth wrapped around your palms, "what happened to your hand?"

You watch him examine your hand a second too long. Joel looks back at out, ripping a response from your lips, "I- uh- the... the casserole."

Joel raises his brows, "you burnt your hand cooking?"

The worry in his brown eyes ate away at your heart. You clench your jaw, unwilling to admit you were a useless and bad cook, "... no."

Joel thinks back to the contents of the first aid kit in the compound.

"I- I was doing something with the pot and then I-"

"I think Tommy has burn ointment somewhere," Joel trails off, immediately releasing my hand and marching off.

Your stomach drops. You immediately catch his arm, "wait!"

Joel stops in his tracks, looking back at you.

"It's not a big deal!" you say through an airy chuckle, "I put it under running water for a while. I just put a wrap because it hurts when I-"

His hand, warm and gentle, coming atop yours cuts you off. Joel shifts in his spot; your ears perk, as they were sensitive to the sound of his boots. He gives you a look, a kind one, a patient one, a tender one, "it isn't a big deal. I'll be back in two seconds."

The moment Joel walks off, Ellie pipes up, "you should just take a seat. You know you can't argue with him. Well, I mean you can but that normally doesn't end up well." She pats on the empty chair beside her, "want to hear about what I did in school today instead?"

You release a soft breath and smile, "of course, darling."

When Joel came back, he announced there was no burn ointment, but he did find an ice pack. The only problem now, there was no ice. And so as the three of you began to eat, he explained he'd fix the broken ice cream freezer in the warehouse and make ice for you tomorrow. To which you said-

"You really don't have to," you shake your head, suddenly too embarrassed to get anymore food than you already had on your plate. You had one scoop of mashed potatoes.

Joel moves the bowl of mash closer to you then takes off the lid of one pot, "I meant to do it anyway. They found spare parts for it. Now I have a reason," he turns to you, "have some pasta. I made it for you."

Your eyes land on the pot. You begin to feel a nasty little feeling claw up your nape at the thought of Joel going out of his way for you. I mean, you made the casserole to repay him for helping you do your laundry, and if it wasn't bad enough that he saw your underwear, he made you food, one of your favorites. You offer Joel a smile, "thank you, Joel."

He reaches out to your for your plate. You hand it to him wordlessly. He mutters, "you're welcome, sweetheart."

Your lips part. He's never called you that before, only Ellie.

He stills the moment he has your plate in hand, "I- I mean-"

"NAH," Ellie cuts as she rips off a chicken leg, "you called her sweetheart. No take backsies."

Joel clears his throat as he puts pasta on your plate.

When you all finished eating, not a lick was left on your plates. You obviously insisted on washing the dishes and Joel countered you wouldn't be because you were a guest. The back and forth became so insufferable Ellie stepped up and volunteered, insisting instead that Joel walk you back home. You had no means to insist your way out of that.

And so you waited by the front door for Joel to get his jacket from the second floor. When he got it, the two of you headed out, walking quite leisurely.

"You know," you shove your hands in your pockets. You couldn't help it, "my house is literally, like, two steps away from here. You don't have to walk-"

Joel draping his jacket around your shoulders silence you. He pulls the thing by the collar, making sure it was snug on you, "yeah. All the more reason to walk you, since it's so close."

You watch him pull his pants up as he looks around. He offers, "but if it's a challenge you want, we can circle 'round the compound a bit before heading back to yours."

A warmth envelopes you, and it's not because of his jacket.

He turns to you when you don't respond, immediately blurting, "only if you want," he wipes his lips, "I'm not trying to make you do-"

"No, I know," you shake your head, "I know what you mean."

You and Joel look at each other in the quiet while walking. He takes a moment before nodding. He chuckles rather uneasily, "okay... good- that's good."

Seconds pass with just the sound of your footsteps between you.

You decide to say what's on your mind, "Uh," you turn to your feet.

Joel immediately locks his gaze on you.

"Next time," you purse your lips, "just leave the pasta to me."

Joel knits his brows. Damn.

"You know..." you look away, "like, I'm glad you invited me over and all, but you-"

"Was it that bad?"

You finally turn to him, "what?"

"Was my cooking that bad?" Joel feels his insides churn. He feels so stupid suddenly for not following the recipe to a tee. Damn his personal tastes.

You shake your head, "no. No! Your cooking was great! It wasn't bad at all. I enjoyed it. This isn't about your cooking."

He makes a face, "oh..."

You nod, clarifying, "I just- you don't have to do that for me."

He takes a moment to think. Oh... He snorts and rubs his nose, "ah... I see."

You knit your brows at that.

Joel's shoulder's slump. It was him then. Well, he doesn't blame you for not being interested. He releases a breath. It was stupid of him anyway. He thinks of a flimsy excuse to break the tension. It a horrible lie, "sorry, uh, it's just-- Ellie just really wanted to eat with you."

His words make you knit your brows deeper. You blink twice, "Ellie... wanted me to join?"

"Yeah," Joel huffs, "she thinks your great."

You nod slowly.

"But... if you don't want to eat with me, I'll make sure to-"

"Wait, what?"

The both of you stop walking.

Joel feels his insides disintegrate when you look at him the way you do. He looks away and clears his throat. Man up, "I... don't want to make you uncomfortable with any... unwanted advances."

"Wait," you quickly step forward. You rapidly shake your head, "no! I..." you raise your brows, "I just- I don't want to burden you with... with- d-doing things for me."

A deep line forms between Joel's brows, "burden? Who said anything about burdens?"

You look away as you continue to shake your head, "I- I don't know. I just- I don't want to bother you-"

"JUST KISS ALREADY!"

Both of you snap to the side There, from the second floor window, was Ellie, head sticking out of the window. She cups her mouth with her hand and screams again, "KIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSS!"

You look away from her. You turn to your feet as you feel your face burn.

Joel's loud voice surprises you, "GO TO BED!"

"I'M NOT 4!" Ellie screams back.

Joel decides to end the screaming match with a grumble, "well, you're damn acting like one." He turns back to you, "sorry about her, she's-"

"I really like you," you blurt when you look back at him, "I really like being around you."

Joel feels his fingers tingle.

Your impulsiveness only now begins to feel like a bad idea, "I-" your voice gets smaller, "it's not unwanted advances... not per se... It's just- when people do things for me, I don't- well, I don't know, I-"

"You can't just accept it?"

You stare at each other for a moment. You nod. Joel nods too.

"I'm usually the one giving, ya know," you say.

Joel nods again, "I do. I feel the same way. I don't like needing to get help from anyone," he crosses his arms, "but, you know, being with Ellie... she's taught me that sometimes-"

"FUCKING KISS HER OLD MAN!"

You can't contain the snort that leaves your mouth. Joel shoots a glare to his side. Still, he breaks into a chuckle, "I'm gonna kill her."

Ellie makes a face and waves her hands, "NO! DON'T LOOK AT ME, LOOK AT HER! LOOK AT- oh my god he actually did it."

[vintagegeekculture]

One of the cleverest and most practical use of Lego in movies would be in the Danish comedic crime series, the "Olsen Gang" movies. A group of hapless thieves led by Egon Olsen, the Olsen Gang never use weapons or violence, and often use everyday items in clever ways in their robberies, like lego or balloons.

In "Olsen-banden overgiver sig aldrig" (1979), the Olsen Gang create a Lego device that is able to go up stairs and even open a door from the other side, created by the production team entirely out of real Lego toy parts, with no movie trickery whatsoever. The entire sequence is worth watching in its entirety.

Perhaps because of this astonishing sequence, and also because the Olsen Gang movies come from Denmark, home of Lego (and share Lego's whimsical and nonviolent ethos), the Lego community has a strange affection for the Olsen Gang films, often producing custom kits and figures of Egon Olsen, Benny, Kjeld, and Yvonne, along with his 1959 Chevrolet, and recreate entire scenes from the 14 movies in the series.

[matrix-fairy]

If you keep facing the same issues in your relationships — the same patterns repeat, you attract the same type of people, you get deeply attached then end up hurt, things start beautifully but the other person pulls away, you can’t fully be yourself and it frustrates you, you give a lot but don’t feel seen — then check these points in your Matrix of Destiny and personal year chart:

• D1 point in your natal matrix and personal year chart (your karmic lesson in relationships)

• Relationship channel or the heart-marked energy in your charts (how you experience relationships)

• D point in your personal year chart (your main lesson this year)

• C1 point in your natal and personal year chart (money and self-worth challenges that often reflect in relationships)

• Shared energy (with a partner): the theme mirrored back to you

• Energies frequently carried by your partners (themes trying to be resolved through them) — look for these:

2 → Need for approval, fear of emotional disconnection

6 → Self-worth issues, overgiving tendencies

15 → Addiction to passion, desire for control

18 → Subconscious fears, abandonment trauma

8 → Seeking fairness, feeling things are never just

12 → Playing the victim, losing yourself in the relationship

4 → Rigid boundaries, emotional withdrawal

13–16–22 → Relationships marked by crises, transformation, and emotional chaos

[nico-esoterica]

How to stop being a peasant in your own life

It's still Leo season and as a Leo stellium, I'm here to encourage y'all to get in the habit (or knuckle down on) being ruthlessly self-centered and to put yourself on a pedestal at all times. The gag is that the more secure with yourself you are, you actually never feel any inclination to be rude or mistreat others. It'd be beneath you. So don't think you're gonna be some narcissist or something. Relax.

But this means prioritizing yourself. Many, many, too many of you were raised w/o boundaries, are chronic overgivers, and have no idea what 'no' means in relation to others, esp those around you.

This is how you start treating yourself like royalty. Baby steps create strides over time:

Create small promises with yourself and keep them (even if it's just eating)

Accommodate yourself unapologetically (do you need more space/time for things? do you need people to be mindful of something about you? tell them. think about where you feel discomfort and let the people around you help you or find ways to help yourself w/o guilt or shame -- there's usually blogs/youtube vids/tiktoks of people who give tips about everything uncomfy known to man you can learn from)

Treat yourself with dignity and compassion (hold yourself to a higher standard but be understanding about it)

Always talk to yourself like you would to a child (gently, encouragingly, constructively, lovingly)

Find something to be proud of yourself about everyday (even if it's just getting up)

Be your biggest cheerleader with your tasks (even if they're small)

Practice self-love by pretending strangers are describing what they love about you

Practice mirror work by looking in the mirror and seeing yourself through the perspective of an artist (who's in love w/ you tbh) and try to imagine what they'd find alluring or interesting about your body

Think of yourself as a character and think of what'd make you unique in a story (be biased and have fun!)

Do something small for yourself today that will make tomorrow easier or that you'll feel good about tomorrow

Think of an old limiting belief you can say goodbye to and remind yourself that it's gone if it comes up

Find little ways to take care of yourself that help you feel safe and appreciated (change your sheets, buy labels/post its for reminders, trash expired things, delete/archive old files on your tech)

Reflect on current boundaries within your relationships and start (safely) telling people you aren't available to do xyz, xyz isn't for you, you don't want to do xyz, and "No."

Researching if there are discounts/affordable versions of what you love (search reddit and twt communities for tips)

Adopt the mindset that everything in your life is easy and never going out of the way for anything/anyone unless you're prioritized (this makes you become aware of who/what's been taking advantage of you in your life)

Never doing anything which compromises your safety and to stop 'going against your gut' even if you're not 100% sure

If anyone/anything in your life doesn't make you feel good, find a way to put (safe) distance between you and it until you can cut it/them off completely. Mutual closure is subjective and isn't always necessary. Prioritize your peace over a lifetime of resentment

Devote yourself to joy in any way possible. Other people's opinions don't belong to you

Think of something your inner child always wanted to do and find a way to do it :)

[sensualites]

2025 - INs

- prayer

- prioritizing education + $$$$$$$$

- bakhoor

- walerian borowczyk movies

- hibiscus juice

- magnesium salt baths

- korean scrubs

- low cut lace tops

- persian ice cream

- morning affirmations

- swim classes

- desert rose bonsais

- weekend trips out of state

- goat milk lotion

- lavender sachets

- orange blossom water toner

2025 - OUTs

- negative self-concept

- sedentary lifestyle

- overgiving

- not taking up space

- situationships

- 10 step skincare routines

- self-isolation

- overconsumption

- doomscrolling

- alcohol

- clutter

- cutting carbs

- Instagram

[coven-of-genesis]

My Feminine Energy Glow-Up Timeline

How I stepped into softness, self-love, and divine energy

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Phase 1: Awakening

• I stopped overgiving and started asking: “What do I need?”

• Bought myself flowers for no reason.

• Cut my hair and cried — it felt like releasing a version of me I no longer needed.

• Began journaling under the moonlight.

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Phase 2: Healing & Softness

• Let myself rest without guilt.

• Switched to skincare routines that felt like rituals, not chores.

• Started dressing how I felt inside — feminine, dreamy, magnetic.

• Forgave people who hurt me (without letting them back in).

• Walked barefoot in the grass to ground myself.

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Phase 3: Romanticizing Everything

• Lit candles just to eat fruit in the bath.

• Lingered in silks, lace, and soft pinks.

• Said affirmations like spells: “I radiate divine feminine energy.”

• Listened to music that made me feel like a goddess.

• Treated my beauty routine like a sacred ceremony.

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Phase 4: Embodiment

• Spoke slowly, moved intentionally.

• Set strong boundaries without shame.

• Saw beauty everywhere, especially in myself.

• Became magnetic — attracting aligned people and opportunities.

• Realised my softness is a power, not a weakness.

[bookkeepert]

A broken man will punish you for loving him.

Not because your love was wrong, but because it exposed everything he was running from.

Your softness triggered his buried wounds.

Your patience made him feel unworthy.

Your light became too bright for someone who never learned how to receive warmth without suspicion.

He’ll push you away and then resent you for leaving. He’ll confuse chaos for chemistry and silence for safety. And every time you try to pour into him, he’ll make you feel like you’re doing too much, asking too much, being too much.

Not because you are, but because he doesn’t know how to be enough.

You’ll find yourself shrinking, second-guessing, overgiving, hoping love can fix what trauma built.

But love doesn’t heal someone who hasn’t chosen healing.

Love doesn’t save someone who’s committed to sabotaging everything good.

A broken man will call your boundaries disrespect. Your honesty, an attack. Your care, control. And all the while, you’ll be drowning in confusion, trying to decode behavior that was never your responsibility to fix.

[msburgundy]

thinking about all my friendships in the last ten years, those that have lasted and those that didn't, i've noticed one constant: people who have healthy boundaries by far make the best friends. people who simply won't let you be too much because they don't want it.

the other major thing is that overgivers are actually much worse to be around than selfish people. especially if you are an overgiver yourself.

it's easier to see things aren't working when you're dealing with a selfish person, but two overgivers get really enmeshed in a horrible way. and you almost can't even back track once you've let it get that far

so if you're worried about setting boundaries and having people not like you keep that in mind. it's the only way to have healthy relationships that actually last. people pleasers are not actually pleasing anybody lol