#passing tips

[thelastlightningbug]

My passing advice/tips, now that I've been out as trans for nearly 4 years:

Signal that you plan on passing.

Look over your shoulder to check your blind spots.

Never drive off the paved or main-traveled part of the road to pass.

Never pass on the left if the driver ahead is signaling a left turn.

When turning left, do not assume that an oncoming vehicle with its right turn signal on is turning before it reaches you.

Hope these tips could be helpful! I've learned a lot in the past few years and wanted to share :)

[neutralunisexstyle]

beautiful rectangle silouhette with a cropped boxy shirt or baggy shirt and some jorts paired with loafers or a similar shaped shoe is such a versatile black gender neutral combo.

[xx-pr0p5-n-m4ur1c0n-xx]

To the trans man that gave me the tape binding tip about cutting the edges of your tape into a curve so it's not as itchy,

I really hope you get your ass ate out or you get the best sloppy toppy cause omg I'm still itchy but it lasts like 5 mins. I can lean forward without the feeling of my skin stretching. Life is good. It fixed my marriage. It makes me look flatter now that I don't have to cut the edges after I applied it.

[clowningcrows]

googles how to sneeze like a middle aged father

[saturnballz]

never underestimate how much confidence is important in passing

when I was in my very early social transition I'd cut my hair very short and wear only boardshorts and oversized hoodies and speak in my deepest voice (when I spoke at all) and refrain from doing anything remotely feminine, and I still got misgendered every single day because I just wasn't comfortable, I was just forcing it too much

now I haven't had a haircut in months (I really want to but don't have the money currently), I wear crop tops and fitted shirts, skinny jeans, speak in my gayest™ voice and I still pass at least 90% of the time because I assert myself in a masculine position and I am confident about it. confidence had such a big impact on my ability to pass that people that knew me three years ago now don't recognize me anymore + assume i'm a cis guy when interacting with me.

obviously if passing is important to you there's a lot of things that impact that, but genuinely don't underestimate how important confidence is. instead of forcing yourself to adhere to hypermasculine stereotypes you don't fit in, focus on becoming comfortable in yourself & your manhood

stay safe, love y'all

[ash-den]

Big transmasc passing tip

My personal biggest passing tip is dyeing your eyebrows with any brown box hair dye (adapt to your hair color, if youre very blonde take a dark blonde, etc - chose a tint darker than your actual eyebrow color).

Do it a day where you KNOW you’re not going out the day after, because you will have stains on your forehead - to minimize that, before dyeing, rub some vaseline on the skin around your eyebrows (dont put any on the hair though or it won’t absorb color). Use a spoolie or a small brush to apply - you really don’t need a lot, so don’t use all of the dye, just a very small amount.

Make sure to follow the recommendations on the box, like the allergy testing and stuff. They do warn you on the box not to use on eyebrows, but it’s only because they don’t want you getting product in the eyes (please be careful).

When I did that the first time, I was pre-T and got immediately gendered correctly after going out, it was so nice!

Any box dye will do, I always went for the cheapest in my color. You can also use it to dye your peach fuzz or facial hair if you have some, but I don't really recommend it as it leaves a lot of stains if you don't have enough hair to absorb it, it all goes on the skin. Also eyebrow hair get replaced pretty quick so it will fade away.

[emotboyswag]

The bittersweet nature of "passing" as a trans person

I have no regrets in my transition except this one thing which i find it hard to express bcs i dont wanna sound ungrateful for being a passing trans person.

my disclaimer to this post is: it is hard to be a non passing trans person and non passing trans people are far more vulnerable than passing trans people. Also passing is not every trans persons goal. Although it is one of my goals in my transition im not saying "i have it now i regret it" im just gonna say kinda like. a sadder side to passing.

pre T i would say i passed like 60% of the time to cis ppl and when i wasnt seen as a dude theyd always either ask my pronouns or like ask my gender (i live in a pretty liberal place). i was quite rarely out and out just misgendered like maybe 5% of the time in the basically 7 years i lived as a pre T trans person (not including ppl who misgendered me on purpose) but i was sooo clocky to trans people like i am a v socially awkward guy but i found it easy to make trans friends when i met trans people irl when i was pre T bcs they mostly knew and we kinda were drawn together.

Im now a year and 8 months on T and i love passing i pass genuinely 100% of the time even when im not binding (and i have a larger chest that im very dysphoric about) and i have a cis passing voice. I often have a lot of like. not imposter syndrome about it but i have bad dysphoria and often assume im not gonna pass when i do or assume i look more like a girl than i do. Also im 5'3 and have kinda long hair (not long but i used to have it super short and now its a bit longer) but im just seen as a cis guy. so like i am not pretending i dont love passing it makes my life soo much easier and lessened my dysphoria.

What i will say is i miss the immediate kinship of meeting another trans person or being in the same room as another trans person and both knowing ur trans or becoming friends bcs ur trans or automatically having someone to pair up w in a group of strangers bcs u both know ur trans. Also on nights out i miss meeting new ppl and just talking to each other about being trans bcs we automatically recognise each other. like i miss the solidarity u feel as a trans person when u seen another one rather than trans ppl assuming im cis and me actively making an effort to mention im trans around new trans ppl. also i miss that trans ppl used to feel automatically safe around me whereas now i know bcs im perceived as a cis man sometimes they feel on edge. idk its just bittersweet i think <3

[l1ve-l4ugh-lov3craft]

nico nico do you have tips for passing when it comes to hair 🙏🏻

ohhhhhhhh okay i do have a couple actually!

so ofc generally it helps to keep your hair shorter. just cos we live in a depressingly gender role-y world and people associate short hair with masculinity

HOWEVER!

if you want your hair a bit longer, keeping it down? i think? works for me?? cos it can kinda hide your face if you think it looks a bit feminine

or even, like, and half up-half down look if you want your hair out of your face

errrrrr…those are the ones i have on the spot?? i hope they helped???

[riejournalz]

Passing tips b like: NO makeup, NO long hair, NO alt clothing, big pant big shirt ONLY!! Man thats all my swag gone. Goth transmascs gotta suffer i guess.

[neutralunisexstyle]

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[mandefined]

TIPS FOR MY TRANSMASC COMRADES

Shave your face!! (except for ur mustache)

Square off your sideburns. Either get a barber/hairdresser or just do it yourself with scissors or a clipper

Dye your eyebrows and facial hair darker

Get a buzzcut if u want (in my experience people tend to read this as masculine)

Wear a watch

Use men's deodorant, body wash, shampoo, etc.

[mrramblesalot]

Hey fellas and non-fellas!

I'm looking for a binder that flattens the chest but is easy to put on. One of my arms doesn't really work so I'm looking for something accessible.

I've been out of the loop for a while, so tips on passing with clothes and what not would mean everything to me. I also have long hair and I can't really cut it short at the moment so would I part it a certain way?

Any help is appreciated:- )

[slvnderman]

white transmen always try to pass by transitioning into an asian male. it will never work. real white men are pretending to be black. get with the times and put a sag on that bubble butt.

[dunmertitty]

TLDR: not every trans man/ftm/transmasc is the same and just because a guide says something, doesn’t mean you NEED to do xyz to be a “real man” or passing. not every guide will be helpful for everyone! don’t let guides or gatekeeping make you self conscious! (more under readmore)

i will say there is absolutely 100% a problem with internalized transphobia (and homophobia for those of us who are interested in men) in the ftm/transmasc community and a lot of these things unfortunately get spread around, whether knowingly or unknowingly and play into the internalized transphobia and toxic masculinity that’s very kalvin garrah-esque.

(this next part is not a dig at op, just a reminder) that being said, these passing guides can be useful for those of us living in more dangerous and anti-queer places who need to be stealth for our safety. these guides were also helpful to me when i was pre-t and parts of passing guides that talk about chest flattening are still helpful to me as someone pre-op top surgery.

i think anyone writing their own passing guide, or even just spreading one around, should always have a disclaimer at the beginning reminding people that there is no one correct way to be a man and that any passing tips should be seen as something to do for your own comfort/safety and not a necessity to be a “real man”.

it’s also helpful to those who will be reading your passing guide if you give a little information about yourself. things like location/area, class/amount of money, sexuality, race/ethnicity, etc. can all impact different transmascs in different ways.

i’m a white american man, so my experience is going to be different to men of color, men from other countries, and obviously those who are both. my experience will even be different from people in the same country or even the same state! northern fashion and culture (and therefore masculinity) is different from here in southern us. and even then, yes i do live in texas (notoriously transphobic), however i live in a very queer city.

i’m a lower-middle class man who is employed, but works a low-paying indoor manual labor job. so my fashion choices and budget will be different than someone making more or less than me, someone who’s unemployed, and/or someone who works a desk job or outdoor labor or customer service.

my experience as a bisexual man exploring my gayness for the first time is going to be different from men exploring their heterosexuality, asexuality, aromanticism, or even men who have been in the gay community longer than i have. as someone who prefers t4t relationships, but isn’t exclusive is gonna be different from someone exclusively t4t or someone not t4t.

and always remember that just because you’re ftm/transmasc, does NOT mean you have to BE masculine. fem/me trans men exist! and i don’t believe i’ve ever seen a detailed guide for y’all!

anyway stay safe and remember to present in a way that makes YOU comfortable!

gotta say i don't like how many "how to pass ftm" guides are straight up just like. be monotone and uninterested and don't engage in your "feminine" hobbies and don't wear bright colors and don't be polite and don't smile at people and don't show emotion ever. like how precisely is this a healthy thing to be teaching people (especially the young people these are often targeted at)??? i am a bubbly boy. a cheerful chap. a merry man. a good-humored guy. a glowing gent. a veritable ray of fucking sunshine and i am NOT toning that down!!!! fuck you!!!!!!!

[neutralunisexstyle]

Intro post.

abt me:

black

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aroace lesbian

nonbinary, they/them

types in aave

no dni but if i block u that’s that

main @rusababy

who is this for ???

(mainly) nonbinary people who want tips to dress more gender neutrally

anyone else wanting to dress gender neutrally

curious individuals who wanna see what gender neutral clothing looks like from a black perspective (careful, im not an expert.)

i mainly will post these in the form of collages, might do some clothing analysises but who knows.