#provide trigger warnings

[thecouncilofidiots]

Mm, I 100% understand and support posting about Important Things, but please please tag properly and provide warnings for images/not have the image be the first thing on the post so people can't scroll by if they're not in the right headspace to see that content.

Posting triggering things uncensored for shock value to prompt response?

Dick move, guys, dick move.

Not everybody can handle that. Sending people into unexpected panic/anxiety attacks, PTSD flashbacks, ect is pretty shitty.

[ftmtftm]

Saw a post that said "y'all don't deserve trigger warnings for this one" in regards to the atrocities in Palestine right now and there is something that makes me so indescribably mad about that.

Most importantly it is so deeply, disgustingly dehumanizing to the people in front of the camera that you are claiming to care for. Using someone else's trauma. Someone else's suffering. Someone else's pain. To in turn traumatize others? To guilt them? To intentionally trigger them because "they don't deserve it"? That does nothing. That does absolutely nothing.

How does stripping someone of their personhood and turning them into shock value trauma porn for the sake of proving a point to other vulnerable people do anything constructive?

What good does that do for the person in pain besides turn their pain into a tool to inflict further damage?

How does that help anyone at all?

"But it's awareness!!"

No it's not. That's not advocacy. That's not "spreading awareness". That's intentionally going out of your way to degrade, demoralize, and guilt people by preying on their sense of morality and using the horrors of genocide as a fucking prop for it. And you are a sick bastard for that.

[runawaymarbles]

When you love a fic but are deeply irritated by the author's notes. We all contain multitudes.

[cult-of-dollbabies]

And another thing there was zero trigger warning for that one scene in that one episode and I think it could've used one

[the-l00ker]

serious

After seeing alot of things on twitter about Lovejoy coming back, blah blah blah etc... Etc...

What's come to my attention is that what Wilbur soot has done (NOT JUST TO SHELBY BUT OTHER ALSO) has messed up the sense of what consent actually is.

It's sounds simple. Saying yes or no. But things and topics like this aren't linear.

You should not, UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES, let a celebrity lead your way of life and/or manipulate what you believe to be right and wrong.

You do not have to "pick sides" you do not have to defend a (probably) millionaire because they've fucked up, and you certainly should not change your outlook on life because of what a celebrity has done or said and because you still want to be fans of them.

First things first

Consent can be both given, and taken WHENEVER.

Not no "but they said yes before" or anything like that. You can say no afterwards. No discussions. It shouldn't be an argument or a heated debate for you to say no.

If you don't like a certain type of food, are you gonna force yourself or get your partner to force you to eat it? No.

If you don't like something, should you force yourself to like it just because you said yes 20 minutes ago? No.

You can say no. Whenever.

I don't care, if you're male, female, non-binary or anywhere else on the gender spectrum, YOU CAN SAY NO.

Second.

You can communicate that you didn't like something, even after it happen.

No questions asked.

If you didn't like it, and you came to that realisation after, it shouldn't take a fucking rocket scientist to be like "Hey my S.O, I didn't like this. Can you not do it again?"

Communication in a relationship is important. Extremely important. And it shouldn't be taken lightly.

If you don't like a restaurant after eating there, then you shouldn't have to go back, right? You can say no to going again.

This may seem small and probably meaningless, but imagine taking this scenario and applying it to something you love, something you do, something that you want to do.

Is it fair that you should tolerate something you dislike because of another person needs/wants? Absolutely not.

It doesn't matter if they say please with 50,000 cherries ontop, with a "but my friend said" or a "but X let me do it all the time".

No, believe it or not, means fucking no.

Third.

If someone repeats a behavioural pattern over the course of multiple months/years inwhich that you've know them, and it hurts you or you dislike like it, and they KEEP DOING IT even after you asked them not too, then they're not worth it.

You do not have to tolerate someone else's pity-party, designed to guilt you into staying because of "reasons"

"they're getting better"

"they're getting help and all the things they need"

"they didn't mean it"

"I'm used to it"

"they didn't mean to hurt me"

"I promise they're getting support"

Yeah and how about you?

Your own mental health, emotional health and physical health should not come at the expense of others.

It may seem selfish to some, I do agree, but do not set yourself back for others to move forwards.

Sometimes it's better to be alone.

Partners should love and support each other and if they do shit like this then that isn't support. That's a 80-20 % relationship and it's not right.

I can really only comment on the Wilbur Soot drama because I'm a fan of mcyt people. But what he's done, justified or not, has genuinely messed with 16yr-20yr+ old sense of reality and what they believe consent is.

It's shocking. Please. Please. Please. Do not let a celebrity drama change anything in your life that you hold dear to you or that benefits you.

[alittlelessalone]

Hello fellow Scum Villain fans! If anyone is bored, loves Moshang and Qijiu (especially Shang Qinghua and Shen Jiu), and would be interested in hearing the details of the very long fic I’m writing, I would love to have a brain or two I could bounce ideas against to make sure they sound valid, interesting, and in character. I have a full outline and around 150,000 words written so far, but there are parts that I could use some insight/thoughts on and I figured other passionate fans might be the right people to ask!

[aspec-manga-snom]

My Aspec Manga List

This list will be continuously updated from time to time.

Everything on this list will be my personal recommendations for manga that either give off the aspec vibes, have a canon character or have an indirectly labeled character. I will admit a lot of these may be headcanons more than anything, but they aren't without their backing.

I'm using the term aspec as an umbrella term for arospec and acespec.

Trigger Warning Key:

*Contains Sexual References (Jokes, Mentions, etc.)

+Depictions of Sexual Imagery/Complete Nudity (Usually won't go that far, but just to be safe.

-Homophobia,Transphobia, Aphobia, etc.

!Themes of Suicide

/Gratuitous Violence, Gore

Aspec Stories with Canon Characters:

In which the words are said.

Mine-Kun is Asexual by Isaki Uta (ace)

My Astible by Amupaka * (aroace and demiaroace)

Our Dreams at Dusk by Kamatani Yuhki *-! (aroace)

Is Love the Answer? by Isaki Uta - (aroace)

Sex Education 120% by Takaki Kikiki, Illustrated by Hotomura *+ (aroace)

I Want to Be a Wall by Shirono Honami (aroace)

Scum's Wish Décor by Yokoyari Mengo *+- (aroace) (sequel anthology, haven't read the original)

Ame ga Shinai Koto by Okaya Izumi * (aroace) (they don't say the words but "never falls in love" is just right there)

Bloom into You by Nio Nakatani * (aroace) (demiromantic lesbians)

Kiryuu-sensei wa Renai ga Wakaranai by Haruka Ono * (aroace)

Kanojo ni Naritai Kimi to Boku by Umi Takase *-! (alloace)

Ano Yoru no Pool by Pukupuku (aroallo)

Romantic Killer by Wataru Momose * (aroallo)

Hatsukoi, Catharsis by Nuko Hatokawa * (gayace)

Lilies and Voices Born Upon the Wind by Mei Renjouji *- (aroace) (pan, demiace)

She Loves to Cook, She Loves to Eat by Sakaomi Yuzaki (ace lesbian)

Sensitive Boy by 46 *+! (aroace supporting)

Basically Unconfirmed but Implied Aspec Headcanons (Some Personal, Some Universal):

The Disastrous Life of Saiki K. by Asou Shuuichi (aroace)

Frieren: Beyond Journey's End by Yamada Kanehito, Illustrated by Abe Tsukasa * (aroace)

Oshi no Ko by Akasaka Aka *! (aroallo)

It's Not Meguro-san's First Time by 9℃ *+ (alloace and aroallo)

Doughnuts Under a Crescent Moon by Usui Shio *- (demiaro ace lesbians)

Last Gender: When We Are Nameless by Taki Rei *+-! (arospec aspec)

Umi ga Hashiru End Roll by Tarachine John (aroace)

Fly Me to The Moon by Hata Kenjiro * (aroace)

I Think Our Son Is Gay by Okura *- (aroace)

Renai Daikou by Akasaka Aka, Illustrated by Nishizawa 5mm * (arospec)

Spy x Family by Endou Tatsuya */ (aroacespec) (I'll die on this hill)

One Piece by Eiichiro Oda *+-!/ (aroace)

The Apothecary Diaries by Hyuuga Natsu & Nanao Ikki, Illustrated by Nekokurage *!/ (aroacespec)

Something Like the Dust That Is My World by Amano Shuninta*+- (aroallo)

Seibetsu "Mona Lisa" no Kimi e by Tsumuji Yoshimura *+-! (aroacespec) (kinda bad ideology of gender binary)

Dr.Stone by Riichiro Ingaki, Illustrated by Boichi * (aroace)

Monthly Girls' Nozaki-kun by Izumi Tsubaki * (aroace)

My Love Story!! by Kazune Kawahara, Illustrated by Aruko * (aroace)

Tanaka-kun wa Itsumo Kedaruge by Nozomi Uda * (aroallo)

Skip & Loafer by Misaki Takamatsu * (demiaro? demiace?) (strong platonic relationships)

Dungeon Meshi by Kui Ryoko*!/ (aroace)

Girl Meets Rock! by Kuwahali, illustrated by Tetsuo Ideuchi (aro)

Watashi no Yuri wa Oshigoto desu! by Miman *+ (aro & demiaro coded)

[thecreaturecabin]

Seeing you’re doing better made my week. I’ve been a long time follower. Your progress as not only a creator but a person (from what you share) is inspiring.

Favourite thing to eat/drink as of late? Mine is chocolate chip eggos.

Hi this ask nearly made me cry in the middle of my biology lecture /pos

Messages like these remind me why I love content creation so much, and why I miss it :( I miss the community dearly.

Thank you for your kind words 💕 there’s times in my life where every day is a means of survival. I’m not recovered, and I don’t think I’ll ever be 100% okay, but I’m trying my best.

To answer your question: Oreo ice cream. I have a huge sweet tooth and it’s ice cream season now that it’s getting hot where I live :)

LOTS more below about mental health; read at your own risk (talking about OCD and the severity of mental health struggles)

TW// graphic depictions of violence, self h*rm, intrusive thoughts

When I say every day is a means of survival; I mean that sometimes “my best” looks like getting to the end of the day. Sometimes “my best” is getting UP and just surviving until I can be unconscious again.

I try to be reserved with what I share online, as I know as soon as something is posted- it’s there forever. I haven’t gotten into the specifics of my mental health struggles in a very long time mainly due to my reclaiming of privacy (I was an open book as a teen), but there are things I think are important to share, and in doing so actually help me recover.

So I’ll talk about my OCD a bit here.

Right. So I have clinical depression, general anxiety disorder, and social anxiety disorder. I have had these diagnosis since I was 15.

But in… I think September of 2023? I was diagnosed with obsessive compulsive disorder (aka OCD). It’s a type of anxiety disorder!

This was not only my first time being diagnosed with something as an adult, but also the first time anyone had ever told me that my behaviour aligns with OCD. I realize this is because obsessive compulsive disorder is not talked about very often, and like every mental illness, many people are relatively misinformed about what it actually is.

If you don’t know what OCD is; I’ll explain that here:

OCD is a mental disorder in which the person experiences repetitive and persistent intrusive thoughts. Everyone has intrusive thoughts, but not everyone experiences them at the same frequency and persistence.

Intrusive thoughts are NOT: “I wanna dye my hair blue”. That’s what we call an IMPULSIVE thought.

INTRUSIVE thoughts can be something like: “I’m going to jump in front of the car.” “You should cut your hand.” “When you open this door there’s going to be a dead body there”.

The “obsessions” are the intrusive thoughts. These thoughts can lead to repetitive behaviours that someone with OCD carries out in order to feel better. These reactions to the intrusive thoughts are called “compulsions”.

For example; maybe one of my intrusive thoughts is that someone is watching me. My compulsion for the thought is to look behind me - to prove to my brain that there ISN’T someone watching me.

I’m not a psychologist, so take this with a grain of salt - but this is how I would explain it as someone who lives with OCD.

Now, there’s multiple types of OCD, but I’ll leave that for you to research.

My biggest struggle with OCD so far has been the realization of how difficult it makes living to be. Before I was diagnosed, I was beginning to believe I was losing my mind /gen.

My intrusives (what I call intrusive thoughts) tend to be gruesome; witnessing acts of violence, being a victim of an act of violence, someone I love being a victim, or committing acts of self harm. They also focus on gruesome imagery. I have hyperphantasia- This means I see clear pictures in my head 24/7. This is great sometimes, but when my intrusives decide to torture me; they can manifest as horrifically violent imagery.

I have had to stop watching things like true crime due to the severity of these intrusives and how often in a day I’m affected by them. (I’d say on average I experience a minimum of 5-10 intrusive thoughts a day, always regarding the same topics.)

I’ve discovered it’s why I enjoy a busy lifestyle - and why my depression tends to act up during times like summer/spring/winter break. When I’m left with nothing to do, I’m left with my thoughts, and my thoughts can be scary.

To put all my feelings about it into smaller words: the realization that I can’t escape this has had a severe impact on my life. I live in my body. There is no escape from my own mind, and knowing that it’s my own psyche that’s torturing me every day is a hard pill to swallow. I wouldn’t wish this on my worst enemy. I wish no one would have to experience this.

Sometimes I feel like I’m being dramatic about living with OCD, but those feelings are short-lived. When I say that it’s torture, I mean it is torture.

One of my favourite books- turtles all the way down by John Green - has a main protagonist that suffers from contamination OCD.

Aza, the main protagonist, constantly refers to her OCD as a demon. Towards the end of the book, she says “I wasn’t possessed by a demon. I was the demon.” - Chapter 19, page 229

Turtles all the way down has an incredibly effective representation of OCD that hit home for me, and I would recommend reading it. It’s also just a great book!

I hope this shines some light on what OCD is and how it may affect someone. If you have any questions, I would be happy to try and answer!

This was a little bit hard to write, and I’m sure it’s not something that’s easy to read- but something that I’ve come to understand about mental health as a whole is that it isn’t meant to be digestible.

Struggling with mental health is a horrible experience. It’s hard to live through, therefore it’s hard to read about.

[chlothequeen]

Watched Nimona and I think that was the most trans allegory to ever allegory

[gratisdiamanten]

Dead dove do not eat means "there is troubling material in here i don't feel the need to handhold you about"

[perhapsibility]

let's not go supporting terrorist organizations who have the eradication of all jews in their charter, shall we?

HAMAS IS A TERRORIST ORGANIZATION WITH A PRIMARY GOAL OF JEWISH GENOCIDE. THEY DO NOT SUPPORT THE PEOPLE OF PALESTINE. THEY DO NOT REPRESENT THE PALESTINIAN PEOPLE. THEY ARE USING THE PALESTINIAN PEOPLE AS HUMAN SHIELDS. THEY DO NOT SUPPORT THE FREEDOM OF PALESTINE. THEY ONLY WANT GENOCIDE

does this mean the state of israel is the good guy here? absolutely fucking not. they have truly brought this violence down upon itself due to the horrific apartheid tactics and violence they have put upon the palestinian people, and their response to the hamas threat has been horrific with the amount of bloodshed they have reigned down upon innocent civilians. They have bombed hospitals and areas they themselves have deemed safe. They have placed seige on gaza and prevented desperately-needed resources such as food and water and fuel from coming in. They have murdered thousands of innocents directly and will continue to be complicit in the deaths of tens of thousands more due to their level of disregard of human life which will allow for mass starvation and disease

but don't you dare "thank god that there's an armed palestinian resistance fighting tooth and nail". THAT IS A GENOCIDAL TERRORIST ORGANIZATION THAT HAS SINGLE HANDED KILLED THE MOST JEWS SINCE THE HOLOCAUST, RAPED AND PILLAGED AND SLAUGHTERED THOUSANDS ON OCTOBER 7TH. THEY STILL HOLD INNOCENT PEOPLE HOSTAGE. these people were living their lives, doing their jobs, spending time with family and friends. hamas tortures, murders, rapes, bombs, mutilates, and kidnaps. they are not an armed palestinian resistance. THEY. FUCKING. ATTACKED. A. MUSIC. FESTIVAL. they are a group with a primary goal of the eradication of the state of israel and the murder of all jews. that's written in their charter. you do not support them.

[stuck-in-the-ghost-zone]

HI MAC. FINISHED SEASON ONE OF HANNIBAL. THOUGHTS: AHGHSGHFAHSGDKDFHKJGHKJGD OHGHGGG WILL GRAHAM THERE IS SOMETHING SO WRONG WITH YOU. i am holding him by the scruff of the neck and looking directly into his sad autistic eyes. i love this little guy. he needs severe medical and psychological help. i love him more than anything. dr lecter is so fucking interesting i need to grab him by the neck and strangle him he is such an awful person but such a cool character agh ough agh. he says he's will's friend but then he manipulates him and does all these horrible things and i just!! wanna know why!!!!! if he is your friend why are you hurting him!!!!! or is he actually your friend at all?? do you see him more as something to play with???? someone who thinks in such an interesting way that you wanted to know what lengths you could push him to???? I DON'T KNOW!!!! I WANT TO KNOW SO BADLY!!!!! pls tell me will doesn't die i am so attached to him i am putting him in my pocket and feeding him jellybeans <3 i am going to watch season 2 once my cold is gone because when i feel bad physically i feel bad MENTALLY so i am Not in a good like. headspace?? to watch it rn what with the death and blurring of reality and such but MAN. MANNNNN oh it is so cool i am kicking my feet and giggling i am so excited to watch the rest oghhh it is so fucked up <3 i love fucked up weird murder stories 10/10 amazing show no notes thank u for recommending it 2 me i love it v much :3

NORMAL HANNIBAL EXPERIENCE. OH MY GODDDD im so glad u sre enjoying it so farrrrr <3 its like. beloved piece of media to me but also it fucks me up in the brain. its a good horror reset for me . occasionally im just like. i need to feel weird about blood and gore and death and then i will watch a couple epispdes of hannibal and just sit there like

TAKE YOUR TIME. OF COURSE. dw dw i was the same way watching it for the first time because it gets SO weird and existential sometimes and. tbh the artistic gore kind of got to me in ways i did not expect ??? it can be so overwhelming sometimes and my exact feelings on it are very hard to articulate and i could sit here for hours discussing it and not actually ever get to a point . SO I GET U. it's just the kinda show you gotta take ur time with. and thats totally cool :) I CAN TELL YOU WITH. MINIMAL SPOILERS. will graham doesnt die . absolute mess of a man. u know that post thats like "what a beautiful man . i would love yo see him in a fit of despair" thatd me about will graham. and also covered in blood. and let me tell u this show fucking DELIVERS.

[be-the-glenn-to-my-maggie]

Fetishistic content anon here. So those questions were coming from a place of good faith, but you're right, I was asking them in a snarky tone. I shouldn't have done that and I apologise for it. I was genuinely curious about your responses to those questions, though.

I appreciate your answer. It's helped me see a bit more of your perspective. I disagree with it, but I appreciate you taking the time to answer and won't be bothering you any more. If you're interested in a respectful discussion around dark fic and such, I would totally be interested in engaging in that, but if not, I very much understand. Take care!

I very much appreciate the chill response anon, genuinely nothing makes me happier. I apologize if I jumped down your throat, you are not the first ask I've gotten on this subject and it can feel like it's the same person over and over if it's all anonymous.

You can for sure send me whatever you'd like to discuss about dark fic, I am cool with all discussions when people are being reasonable and coming from a good place. I don't mind dark fic, I read some dark fics; I've also read both Lolita (and seen the movie) and Flowers in the Attic, and It is my favorite book and it famously contains a very odd child orgy. Criticisms for that content should and do exist. Dark fic is a very wide category of content though, and I made my stance as clear as I could. I think people misunderstand me when they read it. They are topics that deserve to be taken with the upmost sincerity and seriousness, not as a smut oneshot or a disturbed dark romance plot.

[fandomtransmandom]

Bill Hader on Ten Percent Happier Podcast

[angomay]

if i have to see one more person getting mad about people properly tagging dono posts i’m going to scream

[emphasisonthehomo]

DEATH INDUSTRY REACTS TO LORNA SHORE - PAIN REMAINS II:

Wracking my brain to try and figure out why a casket with full set up would be left unattended in a church. Maybe there were funeral home employees outside the doors, and they were just giving the spouse privacy. Though he’s not dressed for a funeral so who knows. Unable to suspend my disbelief, because I’m a fucking square.