#queer eye anon

[foreshvdowing]

you’ll never let her go, why don’t you let her go?

[apollos-boyfriend]

what about creepypasta queer discourse, would jeff the killer identify as a bi gay

now this is what i’m fucking talking about

[thedreadvampy]

was chatting to a fellow tumblrina on Friday and they were saying like

we talk about the tiktok brainworms and the twitter brainworms and the 4chan and Reddit brainworms but Tumblr has a type of brainworms that's all its own and it's that little fucking Discourse Demon that lives behind your eyeballs and is always always always double and triple guessing everything you say for the worst possible interpretation

it's not DISSIMILAR to the Twitter and Tiktok brainworms but it's a flavour all its own and it is very paranoid and freezing.

[destiny-in-the-universe]

At this point, I’m genuinely fucking uncomfortable. I just had to delete not one BUT THREE asks from my tumblr inbox- because I’ve been spammed repeatedly about someone requesting continuously for ‘straight Fowlham’. Dude. I will literally only say this once and only once- get the hell off my page.

This is the person who asked for Fowlham earlier (NOT man of nostalgia- they’ve been nothing but amazing to me), it’s the one who asked for them to have a stroll in the park and ‘they no love LGBTQ’. I hate that I’m having to resort to these measures but if you don’t stop- you will be making it considerably difficult to my followers and to myself.

This is a blog meant for a fun, interactive community and anon is a privilege I’ve granted- unfortunately I’m actually considering turning anon for an undisclosed amount of time (at least until I’m confident it’s blown over).

At this point, it’s not even funny. You’re just a troll testing my patience AND my boundaries. This is your last and final warning. The fact this post is even being made is actually frustrating

I wanted to just continue on but SPAMMING my inbox with not just one but MULTIPLE asks about the same bullshit and flat out being homophobic? Yeah, no and whether it is (or isn’t) legal in your country - if it’s even true - is not my problem.

I don’t live in your country and therefore have as much right to post content I find enjoyable to write about. Ruining a ship I like with your nonsense will not be excused.

To anyone genuinely interested in my content and respects me as a writer, and everything else, I sincerely apologize- I will continue doing my regular content and posts, but this is not going to slide.

Leave me the fuck alone if you’re that anon.

[freckliedan]

i kinda want to know what do you consider new phannies? i’m not really asking for myself i got into them in 2015 so i think i qualify as not new but i personally think of like 2019ish or later as new even though that’s like 4 years now 😭

there's layers of old but i think anyone who got here from 2019 onward will forever be a new phannie to me! i'm forever delighted by the fact that people are still discovering them but you simply have to have experienced the closeted era to truly count as an old timer and there's nothing that can change that!

i do think there's levels of fandom-age, too. like, original phillies who were around before dan & people who were around before the halloween leak of the vday vid in 2012, that's true phandom olds to me. there's a difference between the aftermath/radio show era, when i showed up, & the tatinof era once they'd settled in to the closet, but having been around in any regard at any of those points makes you some level of old timer.

the endpoint/turning point towards coming out was them moving out of the first london apartment & dan rebranding, so like, spring 2017 through the gaming channel hiatus is an era where like? if you showed up then you're not a newbie, you've been around the block, but it also doesn't qualify you as fandom old bc the horrors were mostly over by then.

none of that is coming from a place of pretentiousness or judgement either! just being honest that nobody escaped the trenches of the past unscathed.

[custom-emojis]

Please stop faking OSDD it’s not cute bae, love that fact you break ur own rules in ur very own discord server, no slurs, hun you said faggot one time with yo cracker white ass, please stop faking osdd it’s not cute🤗

god you're so boring please get new material than the fakeclaiming. Nothing a person says online will trump my lived experience and what my doctors say. also the slurs in my status which we dont moderate. Im sorry if me being an unapologetic fag bothers you but i think A: you should have bigger issues than what slurs queer ppl you dont know reclaim and why and B: i thought i made it pretty fucking clear that im not gonna be anything less than unapologetically, boldly queer here. Dude this is an emoji blog lol. You can just not look. You're so worked up and for what.

[lollybliz]

Hey, do you have any proof or screenshots about the Predestrogen aphobia thing? I'm not saying I don't believe you, I just genuinely did NOT know she was aphobic. It would be nice to have proof so that people have even more reasons not to support her /gen

I wish I did, for the sake of giving you a clear answer, but I don't collect screenshots like that on principle, so i'm afraid I've got nothing. I remember I'd been following her for maybe 6 months, and I think she'd responded to an anon with a joke about virginity that made the hair on my neck stand up, and went through her blog searching the terms I tend to use to check blogs' stances; ace, asexual, asexy, acehet, that sort of thing, alongside a bunch of others. It can be useful to check if a blog treats transfems differently from transmascs, for example. I found enough posts in contexts that made me uncomfortable, and few enough supportive posts, that I felt it best to unfollow and stay away for my own comfort.

I'm staunchly against calling people out, i think it's a gross practice that discourages people from learning and growing and becoming better versions of themselves, so I'm saying none of this in the interest of encouraging anyone to support or not support anyone else, I'm answering nonny's question as best as I can, and stating that i Do think it can be good to double check blogs you follow, especially big blogs, to see if they consider you a person. The world shouldn't be like that. but we do be stuck in it.

[playawner]

Here's a reminder because I've seen discourse regarding queer identities a lot lately, both here and in other apps.

I don't fuck with 3xcluz1onists (e, s, i) nor tr4nzm4dicalists (a, s, e). If you are that please block me. I do not tolerate them as I see it as a way to harass and infight other queer invididuals without getting called out; I've seen a LOT of them harassing, sending d3ath threaths, even DOXXING, which is something I do not accept no matter what.

Yeah, I may not get some labels, but I don't do that! You shouldn't too , you shouldn't go in your way and call people invalid or telling them to d1e what the fuck?

Focus your anger and confusion at the right places, at the amount of conservatives threatening the lives of many trans kids, at how some countries are now calling lgbtq+ rights a "terrorist group". Someone being demi or a masc/fem nonbinary isn't worse than that. If you think it is then there's something up with you

[schizopilledjester]

it’s sad to see when people say people are in a better place when someone passes away. lately it seems like they’re right a little bit. when ur losing ur losing and the definition of loser gets weirder everyday. so much harsher and without a promise of the chance to win. i’m scared for a lot of people these days. i get rlly scared for myself but today has been pretty gewd. i spent a lot of time chilling and reflecting and i’m noticing i just post what i notice and i comment on it like others need to learn from me bc i recently learned these things and now ppl irl think i’m a cult leader.

i guess the way i speak is freakish who can confirm or deny ?

dms r open

[askthedice]

I have a question dice man

do you eat? can you eat?

"Uhm.. Yes? I think so? I think the last time i did was.. Maybe on me and Eye's date? I don't like doing it, though, so i don't."

[foreshvdowing]

offended by the lack of asks in my ask machine !!

[owlee22]

Side eye all day

[jeanmoreaux]

You need "rigid" labels sometimes to be able to have an actual community in which people have things in common and understand each other. And labels are only rigid to people if they a) misunderstand them or b) just don't fit them in the first place. Why would LGBT labels be restricting for members of that community? If you're a lesbian woman, a gay man, a bisexual person or a trans person, you fit into it. And if you don't fit into any of those "rigid boxes" then guess what? You aren't part of the community then. Because yes, being L, G, B or T CAN be clearly defined. For example, if you're a woman who's only into other women, you're a lesbian, no ifs or buts. The LGBT community isn't for everyone who thinks they don't fit into society or whatever, it's for homosexual, bisexual and trans people. If someone feels restricted by LGBT it's because it's not for them.

And no, "queer" doesn't tell me "enough". There are straight people who call themselves queer because their partner is gnc or because they don't like ONS. Wanting to be special isn't the same as being LGBT.

okay i feel like you’re trying to misunderstand my tags on purpose, but i also know that my tags were really brief and i didn’t put disclaimers at the end bc i am genuinely just tired to write down disclaimers for every possible way my words can be interpreted. so i am giving you the benefit of the doubt and assume that this is not coming from a place of malice or an exclusionist standpoint.

i was putting the emphasis on RIGID labels. labels, in general, can be super useful and great to build a personal or a group identity. i use the bi label myself bc i feel like it fits my experience well. the issue is that in recent years some people have taken it upon themselves to police these labels. they act like there are specific things that can excludes you from a label even if you identify as such. people should stop acting like they’re the authority on one of the labelled queer experiences and start appreciating the differences within a community. that’s all i was saying. stop. policing. other. queer people’s. identities.

also, personally, queer does tell me enough about someone if that’s all someone wants to share with me. they don’t own me a label???? like, i‘d never go around asking strangers or people i am not that close with or anyone really to give me specifics—if someone just wants to go with queer that’s okay with me. ((we‘re talking about people with queer identities here pls don’t misconstrue what i am trying to say)).

[daydadahlias]

aw not answering my question because you know you don't know what you're talking about at all how cute 😍 anyways you're literally aroace, leave the slur discussion to actual queer people and stop trying to erase the history of that word just because you're weird and want to say a slur thanks!

when have I ever said a slur ever

[figofswords]

the op of the Hannah Gluckstein post is a terf :pensive: shes red on shinigami eyes + has some real sketchy stuff on her blog. obv no judgment, just letting you know in case you wanted to block her. love ur art <3 <3

eurgh thanks for letting me know :/// I’m not gonna delete the reblog bc hannah gluckstein as a jewish butch artist is still something that speaks to me personally and I had never heard of her before but I will be blocking the op. fucking astounding that these people will understand gender-nonconformity of lesbianism and then turn around and fail to expand it beyond the end of their nose. goddamn.

[disgruntledkittenface]

not me forgetting you wrote the queer eye fic, I need to add that to my favorites!

YES I DID!! That was such a fun time, I was so consumed by Queer Eye and the idea for the fic and finding it as I wrote. Thank you so much for the reminder ❤️