#questioning aro

[cringelordofchaos]

uh yeah turns out I might be aromantic or at least arospec 👍

[ftm-radio]

tbh I think one of the coolest things a person can ever do is take the time to really explore themselves & their identity and then live their life with intention as their most authentic self

(oh & you know what I'm not editing the meme bc I'm lazy but this also applies to folks who explore their sexuality and find they're 100% straight, y'all fuckin rock and i love that for you)

[seehowdeepweget]

it is once again that time of year when I start questioning whether me not being interested in literally anyone is because i'm just unlucky in meeting people or if it's because i'm aromantic

[randomfandom-3]

aM I about to realize I'm aroace and thats why I don't feel attraction without being shown attraction first, or do i just form crushes differently?

[cat-doggy]

Loving the aro, ace, and aroace posts lately

I've been questioning if I'm aromantic/arospec/alloaro lately, so seeing these posts has been really helpful :3

[bregee13]

Wait genuine question do alloro people experience romantic attraction to strangers? Like on a consistent basis?? Because ngl that kinda sounds fake if true.

[sortingmyideas]

so for a while i was aroace right right and for a bit there i would always think about who i would date in my friend group if i had to for some reason and like almost two months ago my other aroace friend who was like top of the list who i would date asked me out right right i said yes right right and now both of us are heavily questioning the aro part cus yea. what would you like think like would panromantic make more sense like we both don’t know….

From what I've read from other posts questioning their identity, do whatever feels right for you.

Personally I am VERY bold stripe aroace and I've never really questioned it after I figured it out, so I can't give much advice on how to tell if what you're feeling is romantic or platonic.

But if you're confident you're aromantic, and you're in the relationship for reasons other than romance, and you're comfortable with the aromantic label, there's no reason you have to change it!

Use whatever label you feel is right for you, and if you realize sometime in the future that it's not for you, that's okay!

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

I would love some advice please, I’m questioning my placement on the aroace spec. I’ve had relationships in the past but I’m not sure if I ever felt real attraction to them romantically, and even recently I had a crush on a friend but I’m still not even sure on how much romantic attraction it was. But, at the same time, I really like being in relationships cause they make me happy I’m just kinda confused on the romantic part and how much I feel that attraction.

I want to start out by saying (to everyone, not just you) that being in a relationship does not make you less aro - aromanticism is defined by experiencing a lack of romantic attraction, so if you don't know whether you've been experiencing that, it could very well be that you're aro.

There are also microlabels like cupioromantic which describe wanting to be in a relationship or liking the idea of being in a relationship, so you could check out some of those. But, again, how much you like being in a relationship doesn't really have that much of an impact on what your romantic attraction is.

[thatautisticlesbian]

I'm scared I might be aromantic too... I feel so much love twords my friends but I've learned that I don't really discriminate and I treat the very few partners I've had the same as my closest friends and I'm polyamorous which makes me think I just want a really close and questionably sexually intimate idk asexuality go brr, but most of my romantic fantasies are about having a family and doing stuff besties would do, I'm a sucker for romance but, I'm confused I don't need to be another thing omg

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size Questioning A-spec Flags

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Questioning Ace-spec ~ Questioning Aro-spec

Questioning Apl-spec ~ Questioning Aqp-spec

Questioning Analt-spec ~ Questioning Asen-spec ~ Questioning Anae-spec

Definition: One who isn’t sure if one is on the a- [attraction type] spectrum or not.

These also go by a-[attraction type]-allo-unsure (ex: ace-allo-unsure).

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@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[frazelforever]

Today’s vibe:

[identitty-dickruption]

things that should’ve tipped me off about being aromantic sooner:

always being the one to end a relationship, and never being the one to initiate it

getting bored when people talk about crushes

“a romantic partner is just a friend you make out with, right?”

not being able to imagine getting married

being able to imagine having a romantic partner, but the moment I tried to put a real person in those fantasies it turned me off (even if I liked them as a friend or as a sexual partner)

being confused when people acted like “love at first sight” and “the one” were real things and not just. exaggerations

never having a celebrity crush, and being weirded out when people talk about theirs

other aros can add theirs if they like!

[ghostscrown]

Help I made a loveless aro OC and now I started to question if I'm loveless and just using it to project, I mean I already consider myself aroace lovepunk but-

I mean. I mean I always had a hard time saving I "love" someone or something, always said it only by obligation (in my language I always replace it with the word "adore" whenever I can) I literally had multiple existential crisis wondering if I ever LOVED anyone- I mean-

Idk if it's because of neurodivergence but for some reason I just. Don't feel like I ever loved anyone ? And I feel kinda bad because of that because I don't even think I can say I "love" my family, it's just- This word never felt right- But also I want to be queerplatonically partenring one day, but I don't know if I'd "love" the person, hell I don't know if I ever "loved" anyone. And I feel platonic attraction too-

I already thought about being loveless before, but I kinda- pushed it under the rug until now-

Loveless communitity help, I may be one of you-

[geogemstone]

I've been questioning if I'm aromantic for months but I'm worried that if I start identifying as aro and then later find out I was wrong, that I'll then be contributing to the idea that aros just haven't found the right person yet

[royallygray]

hey

I might be aromantic

......???

i...???

I have never had a crush?? and like it's probably fine that I've never had a crush?? but I'm also older than 13?? and just.

I've never had a crush?? and I might be interested in a romantic relationship? but at the same time? I'm so content with being single. I'm also young but??

what??

There was this one boy who was really good at acting when I was like nine and like. that's kind of what I might imagine a crush to feel like, but idk. especially since I was actively repulsed by the idea of dating or kissing him or anything.

I think I'm aromantic

or at least aro spec.

I haven't cared about my sexual/romantic orientation in a while but like. I googled what age people have their first crush and like. what

also I can recognize when someone is really pretty. like aesthetically. and I know what aesthetic attraction is and I know I get it bc like. Taylor Swift is pretty in the same way an old bookshelf is, except I'm also like attracted to talent and she's rly talented

just

what

anyways I'm arospec

and also acespec. either aegosexual or somewhere else on the ace spectrum, but I've known that for a while.

and I would be bi because I would be willing to date anyone that's aesthetically pretty or just. I don't know.

and like I could be cupioromantic (don't experience romantic attraction but want to date people) but firstly I don't like the label and secondly?? idk if that's fully accurate.

conclusion: I'm arospec and I don't have enough energy to think about this more.