#questioning aplatonic

[victorianvivisection]

Questioning aplatonic stuff I guess 🍏

- I mostly talk to people just because I’m bored and I need something to do, not because I’m like damn I really wanna talk to this person/people in general.

- I don’t really miss people but I will occasionally reach out to people I haven’t heard from in a while because I recognize their absence is atypical.

- I’m better with it now I think but for a very long time I would come up with every excuse to not call someone my friend because it didn’t feel right.

- I think I’d like to be apart of a group but I have little to no desire to be friends/close friends with people one on one.

- I heard platonic attraction is wanting to know someone better. Is it platonic attraction if I have curiosities about people but I satisfy that urge by just going through their social media not because I’m scared to talk to them but because I genuinely just don’t want to?

- I think I form bonds cognitively as opposed to emotionally but there might be an emotional attachment there and I don’t want bad things to happen to those I’m ‘close’ with even though I actively feel nothing for them.

- I typically talk to people of current relevancy which sounds completely normal to me but I’ve been hearing things saying/implying it isn’t??? Like if I wanna talk about this thing I should talk to this person, or this person is typically better with this stuff, etc.

[allegoriesandepithets]

Large Pixel Size Questioning A-spec Flags

[PT: Large Pixel Size Questioning A-spec Flags]

Questioning Ace-spec ~ Questioning Aro-spec

Questioning Apl-spec ~ Questioning Aqp-spec

Questioning Analt-spec ~ Questioning Asen-spec ~ Questioning Anae-spec

Definition: One who isn’t sure if one is on the a- [attraction type] spectrum or not.

These also go by a-[attraction type]-allo-unsure (ex: ace-allo-unsure).

All flags are 3000x2000 pixels.

@tertiary-attraction-archive @orientation-archive @radiomogai @liom-archive @imoga-pride

[justatorturedpoet]

I'm questioning if I'm on the aplatonic spectrum

[shadowgirl-10]

chat i might be aplspec

[analyticcataclysm]

📌

hi !! i figured i should make a pinned eventually. albeit i rarely use this blog, but i might repurpose it as a fandom + aspec blog ?? not sure yet.

basics > just call me anon. 16. it/its only. aroace + questioning aplatonic.

interests / fandoms > homestuck. south park. mandela catalogue.

list of tags i use (for filtering purposes. will add stuff as i see fit or if someone asks):

#friendship (mentions, implications or depictions)

#romance (mentions, implications or depictions. includes most shipping content)

i try to tag most common problems (like #blood, #eyestrain, etc.) i might occasionally miss/improperly tag stuff (feel free to dm me/send an ask if this happens.) its always ok to ask me to tag anything for any reason.

[serahblue]

It's PRIDE MONTH!!!

Shout out to those who are:

Gay

Lesbian

Intersex

Nonbinary

Trans

Asexual

Aplatonic

Aromantic

Agender

Xenogender

Pansexual

Bisexual

Questioning

Polyamorous

Genderfluid

Unlabeled

Stay safe and enjoy this month :D

[small-bug-in-the-woods]

hey could someone pretty please explain the labels aplatonic and afamilial to me?

bc i get the general gist of like aro or ace but with platonic and familial bonds (i think that’s what it is?), but (and i apologize for my slow silly brain) how???

how do you just not have/want to have friends?? or am i just off with the meaning?? would it be offensive to you if i called you my friend? or is it more like you just have no desire to make friends but sometimes you just wind up having them???

and afamilial, is that just you don’t feel like your blood family is family (bc i get that so hard) or is it you just don’t consider anyone family? like no found family with your friends??

i am so sorry if i sound stupid or like im trying to invalidate people, i am just genuinely confused, these are all well meaning questions but please tell me if any of them are offensive

i want to support you, please explain to me what this means so i can back you up

[itsoktocallmegay]

Friendly reminder that aplatonics are queer. It’s so disheartening to see so much aphobia be directed towards aplatonics. The A includes all aspecs.

[u5eername]

who up nothing their common human emotions and traits

[aro-culture-is]

sorry if this isn't the place to ask, i'm just feeling really dumb right now and the blogrunners here are very good at explaining things in a kind way i can understand: how do aplatonic people think of the people in their lives if not as friends? i don't ask to be judgemental, i'm really sorry if my question sounds rude, i just want to know if most aplatonic people see their (nonromantic, nonsexual) relationships as purely transactional or if it varies from person to person. i maintain a lot of impersonal transactional relationships myself so i get that, i'm just curious

hiya! i think this is something that's more of a personal question that varies among aplatonic folks.

we (the blog runners) are a system, with some members alloplatonic, others apl-spec, none who primarily identify as apl currently. Our apl-spec headmates usually call individuals we're close with our friends, in a similar way to how ace people can have sex and aro people can have romantic relationships - it's not exactly the same, but they don't feel strongly about not calling those people friends. they feel no particular drive to hang out with specific people, thought they may do so for an assortment of reasons. those are often either transactional, about maintaining relationships with people that our system values, or about community building and care, which we are very driven towards. (as in, regularly start up connections for the purpose of community building and forming affinity groups)

I'll also encourage other folks under the apl-spec to respond to this via reblogs!

note: Our blog preference, to be clear, is that we do not receive follow-up asks from anons on previous topics, as it just gets pretty confusing to navigate. when our inbox used to be in the 6-7 hundreds regularly for this blog, we'd often have asks from over a month prior appear and disappear from the inbox by just... refreshing the same page. thank you for understanding!

[one-blaze-of--glory]

saw a post about friendship crushes that I didn't reblog purely because I don't want to derail there was nothing wrong with it but it's always fascinating to me to see that perspective. y'all have those?

[victorianvivisection]

In a surprising turn of events I might just be completely disinterested in people as a whole

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

Questioning NPD + APL culture is feeling physically repulsed when you think about the idea of people liking you, or wanting to befriend you- but also thinking you SHOULD like me and look up to me! But you don't deserve to be close to me at all.

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[psychotic-tbh]

I need more autistic friends (but I’m apl questioning and also struggling with my own autism and masking related to it??)

I find that finding each other—while it comes with its own challenges (*cough cough*, communication struggles)—it’s still very comforting and rewarding :3

But unfortunately I’m also at maximum mental capacity for making friends 24/7 to the point where I’m questioning whether or not I’m apl spec 😭

Any advice is welcome ?? :(( especially if you have advice on communication between friends because I think that’d help

[hermit-pride]

Day: 29.

I've had a bit of a lightbulb moment lately. While I have a handful of acquaintances, I've never really experienced what I would call a "true" friendship. I often wonder if it’s worth diving into, especially considering the emotional ups and downs that come with it. In the past, I’ve tried to cultivate friendships, but honestly, the emotional return just didn’t justify the effort. It’s a bit like my struggles with plants—I seem to have a knack for killing them, too, probably for the very same reason. Nurturing relationships, whether with friends or flora, takes patience and care, and sometimes I find that tough to manage.

For many people, the desire to maintain friendships is incredibly rewarding, making that pursuit feel almost instinctual. However, when I crunch the numbers on my own social connections, I often find myself coming up short, time and again. It’s a puzzling conundrum that leaves me reflecting on what truly matters in relationships. And why would I need to sacrifice my alone time.

[foolishfynnesse]

Questioning whether I’m actually grayplatonic or if it’s just the AuDHD.

Lmao help /srs