#some women experience and some don’t

[king0fcrows]

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[trans-androgyne]

When discussing things like privilege and oppression, people seem to have one of two ideas about transmasculinity depending on what suits them best at the moment. They either picture a passing masculine trans man or a femme-presenting non-binary person. Both of these prototypes are skinny and White and relatively palatable to the general public. They find it easy to paint both as basically having cis privilege anyway, just wanting to play up their oppression to make people feel bad for them or excuse their (trans)misogyny. They’ll call the former a misogynistic dangerous Aiden and the latter a basically cis theyfab. There’s no room at all for people like me, people on T but still perceived as a butch lesbian. Closeted transmascs. Intersex transmascs. Multigender transmascs. Gnc transmascs who’ll wear a beard and a dress, but are allegedly exempt from experiencing transmisogyny. And yet even those two prototypes still get discriminated against, assaulted, and killed in cold blood. But that must have been despite their male/cis privilege.

It’s funny that those narratives are so dominant. Have you considered you’re seeing transmascs as privileged because you’re only hearing from the most privileged transmascs? That the handful of skinny White transmasc youtubers and musicians and celebrities you can name only got that far because they fit the picture? But invisibility is a privilege, so I guess the rest of us should shut up and be grateful.

[coolcarabiner]

lesbians who are terfs will never make any sense to me crying about the supposed exclusivity of the “female experience” like my brother in christ she experienced an othered, lonely, confusing childhood where she was made to feel inadequate in her gender, sexuality, or both just the same as you and instead of letting this unify you against patriarchy you just enforce it on other people to maintain the sliver of “power” you think you have. how do u not see how dumb this is oh my god

[mintharasthrone]

more “gay” pages posting complete homophobic garbage claiming bisexual women are lesbians

[bisexualseraphim]

Alright fine I’m gonna speak my mind.

My cis followers, listen up:

Being attracted to trans people is not inherently a fetish. The way you speak about trans people CAN be fetishistic, but 99% of the time when I see cis people calling out trans fetishism it’s literally just. Someone being really horny for a trans person. That’s not inherently fetishistic.

Sorry but it actually hurts me a little when I see cis people claim that a content creator is being fetishistic for drawing a trans guy with tits and a pussy, or for writing smut where a trans guy really enjoys using his pussy for sex, or God forbid said trans guy is fem. Trans people like that exist, you know. I myself have a pussy and fuck yes do I want people I’m in a relationship with to be attracted to it. And the same goes for many transfemmes who keep their natal parts, especially butch transfemmes.

Trans people are not a monolith. We don’t all hate our bodies or experience dysphoria or express our genders the same way. I swear to God cis people are all “allies” until a trans man is fem or a trans woman is butch or an enby isn’t androgynous or we actually enjoy our bodies or we have a kink or sexual fetish you don’t like.

Cis people: I know your hearts are in the right place and I appreciate that, but spouting “oh this content is fetishistic and Bad because trans men NEVER like their vaginas and are NEVER feminine” (or something equal to other trans people) is seriously not the allyship you think it is.

There is absolutely a conversation to be had about fetishising trans people — chasers in particular — but it’s quite a bit less black and white than hating certain FICTIONAL portrayals of trans people because these types of trans people exist in real life and we can see what you say about us.

I love my dick and my pussy (because I have both — are you aware we can have both?) but I saw a post today by someone I really like that actually made me feel kind of shit about myself because it was a cis person essentially saying that smut that describes my genitals in any particularly horny light is fetishistic and that really kind of hurt me. It made me feel like people think I’m undesirable due to my body only it was said in some backwards attempt to be an ally which is almost worse than deliberate transphobia lol.

I guess my point is: not all trans people’s feelings and experiences are universal. Call out obvious transphobia when you see it, yes, but please stop speaking for us about complex situations you just can’t fully understand unless you’re trans. Trans identities and experiences can be so much more complicated than what mainstream celebrities and articles will tell you and I just really need cis people to stop behaving as though the issues we face are a quick and easy fix. It never is. Sometimes the best allyship is to listen to how WE feel and take it into consideration instead of saying whatever you think we want you to say — because a lot of the time, we don’t.

[divinebunni]

i don’t know who needs to hear this but good men do exist, they are soft and gentle and respectful, they hold you when you cry and pet your hair and place gentle kisses over your whole body and learn every little thing they can about you and strive to keep you safe and be a friend as well as a lover and they treat everyone and animals with respect and don’t say misogynistic sexist racist phobic things and they sing with you loudly in the car and let you braid their hair as practice and say i love you without you having to say it first and express their love for you in front of everyone and they look at you deeply and support your every decision and lowest moment and wish nothing but greatness for your health and mental betterment and treat women and men and all with such kindness. good men exist, good men deserve the same love and respect and kindness and support that you would give to anyone with a good soul. good men understand, and they will always be here with genuine hearts

[itsabee]

Will y’all ever make a fic with a fully They/Them pronoun using reader or a male reader?/Gen

Asking as someone who loves your fics but doesn’t use She/Her.

We don’t plan on writing another fic after this one tbh. We think we have exhausted all of our idea.

We have tossed around a male x reader so we could finally romance Liu but I don’t think a lot of people would read it nor would we have the time and energy to finish it as I don’t even know how long HO1C is gonna be.

Also I don’t use she/her and Reagan is a butch lesbian, x readers are more popular when you use a woman and I don’t really have a problem with it. Sometimes you just gotta do what will alienate the least amount of people and that’s she/her pronouns.

[androgynealienfemme]

This weird terminally online idea that if anyone tried to talk about transmasc issues or experiences that somehow means you hate transfems or don’t believe they’re oppressed is just bizarre. Like I’m sorry it’s just so weird like these two ideas aren’t connected? Both groups are oppressed for being trans? In different but similar (and sometimes exact) ways?

[noturmuse]

So many men think they’re owed a woman’s time, attention, intimacy, etc and it has brought on so much violence that women have had to undergo

[femmeidiot]

being a conventionally attractive cis straight girl sounds so scary low key guys will literally never leave my coworker alone and like she’ll block them and they’ll contact her in other ways a guy from the gym tried to follow her home and then found her on instagram and she didn’t even tell him her name? That’s terrifying.

[cithaerons]

the reason why the barbie movie is getting criticized on here in in a way other movies haven’t been is because everyone and their mother-in-law had been uncritically acting like the barbie movie is going to be the height of cinema for months on end. that said, i do have neck damage from the discourse whiplash.

[blessphemy]

get called into bossmans office (x2 bosses)

- you’ve been great and professional

- responsive and easy to work with

- take feedback well, good follow up

- done a great job, great work ethic

- hope we cross paths professionally again

- anyway bye!

[thecorpseinthisbed]

we need to make like a support group for trans/gnc ppl with pcos bc if i see one more tik tok about what i need to cut out of my diet to lose weight or how much shaving makes some magazine cover looking tradwife feel insecure i’m gonna kms

[akkivee]

i rewatched the rhyme anima episode on a different jp streaming site and boy i sure hadn’t even considered that there’d be jp anime only fans until commenters were going ‘who??’ when bat showed up in the op lmao

[iskierka]

actually tbh i think the reason i don’t like being called “wlw” or “sapphic” is bc i fought really, really hard to feel proud of being bisexual and have had so many (unfortunately often gay) people tell me i’m not/gross/lying for saying i’m bi. so being loud about it is really important to me! and sometimes it feels like being told to be quiet and use a less offensive or controversial word for my identity. i know that that is absolutely not the intention behind the terms wlw and sapphic—they’re intended to be inclusive to bi+ people! and yet they feel so alienating to me

[please-picturemeintheweeds]

I’m on my second listen, and just finished But Daddy I love him, and it is so fearlessly arranged. i felt the “YOU, you should see your face” in the very end like a slap in the face because of the drums and the fury in the way she delivers it. The whole song is very theatrical (hello little mermaid I see u I luv u and all u symbolize), and walked me straight through the years long experience of defending whatever partner (that was functioning as self harm) I brought home to my parents and how parental reactions (and in Taylor’s case, the wider paternalizing public) reinforce patterns. It’s very Speak Now.

And I love how she leans into the symbol of “baby” and uses it to talk about the shame/scandal/sensuality of forbidden love but also the prize to be won at the happily ever after. What happens when shame and intimacy get twisted, and someone takes andvantage of that? or when the elders at town hall are a corrupt judicial system? We double down, we insist, and we exercise autonomy over the one thing we feel we have control over, ending a relationship. It’s all about the choice, it’s so so relatable. It reminds me a lot of Dolly Parton’s Down From Dover.