#transguy problems

[tenkhoe]

How honestly frustrating to get in the mood for some *self care time* but the MOMENT you put your hands there it disappears into nowhere bc you're brain expected a dick THAT'S NOT THERE

[cosmic-dust-poltergeist]

Karma is making Vash trans and have awful cramps, less than 24 hours later and I'm in the same boat

[fiddleheadfinn]

Can someone please tell me how to get rid of these things?? 💉 hashtag transguy problems

[genderqueerdykes]

when i come out i usually find myself immediately trusting cis dudes more. because if they have a problem, ill know immediately and be able to cut that shit off. on the other hand, ive been "accepted" by cis women, only to have that acceptance taken away if i become too masculine , or theyll try steer me a more feminine direction while not directly saying anything. so then when i try to bring up issues its like "how dare you!!! im not a transphobe!!!"

that aint to say one group is more accepting than the other. for awhile i thought ciswomen were more accepting when actually i was a younger transguy who hadnt caught on yet. in my experience cis guys just immediately make it clear, and theres something about that that makes me feel a lot safer and not like im walking on eggshells. the cis women in my life who do support me are important and i love and appreciate them all, but there needs to me for conversations around more covert transphobia that even Allies can fall victim too

everyone is capable of being an asshole or shifting the goal posts and it's not okay for people to assume cis women can't do this. ive had a lot of cis women just constantly change the playing field and only accept me under certain conditions or if i performed manhood the way they wanted me to. i've had some cishet men do this too but honestly not very many. cishet men can be assholes but a lot of them are also just upfront and honest and it's a trait i'd rather appreciate

i'd rather someone just straight up tell me they don't want to associate without forcing me to guess or play mind games. i don't like when anyone of any gender does that. but i appreciate that a lot of the cishet men in my life have been very transparent about how they feel about interacting with me and i think its helpful as hell.

a lot of cishet men also just really do not give a fuck about queerness in a very productive way. as in "that doesn't pertain to me at all that's your business and i just want to be your friend. if you wanna tell me you can, but i'm not prying you for answers." i've had so many cishet guys treat me this way. most of my friends have been cishet guys and they've all been chill as hell about me being queer.

people need to accept that a gender doesn't make you evil, nor does it make you exempt from being called out for doing harm. thanks for sharing your experience, it deserves to be heard

[j4idenmcdglazer]

SHADOW KNIGHT HEADCANNONS

(I might make a part two, maybe a MCD version idk. This is basically me self projeting through zenix help)

GENE (Mystreet)

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Gene dated Laurence in highschool when Laurance was a freshman. Things kinda of ended bad with Gene going back to his manipulative tendencies. Gene went to therapy for years and become a better person as an adult (as we can see in like s3) In highschool, he got his hair got professionally and shopped a lot for his clothes, not understanding where the true culture of alt style came from. Gene and Dante are also hispanic and speak fluent Spanish. Gene cusses A LOT. Like every sentence he'll start swearing like in Spanish bro. Gene overthinks a lot, wondering if he'll get left by Sasha and Zenix like he was left by Laurance. After discovering Garroth and Laurances relationship he feared Sasha and Zenix would get together and leave him alone. Gene actually moved up a grade in 2nd grade somehow, making him a senior when his friends were sophmores, but almost the same age. He's often depressed but distracts himself by smoking or drinking. He drinks plain black coffee. He often roughhouses with Zenix, easily overpowering him every time.

SASHA (Mystreet)

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Sasha grew up with a dysfunctional dad who drank a lot. This caused her to not speak out about her feelings and bottle things up. She befriended Laurance when Laurance joined the Shadow Knights. Sasha and Laurance became close and she would go over to his house to escape it all. She learned how to DIY her clothes from Cadenza, and therefore bullied Gene for his fast fashion. She is somewhat of a phone addict and chews a lot of gum for her stress and anxiety. She prefers tea over coffee. She is very observant despite her disassociating and isolating herself. She doesn't show up to class because nothing really motivates her to and she finds it too easy. She thinks of Zenix as her best friend. Sasha felt empty inside and yearned to feel something. She looked at all the couples in love and wanted to feel something like that. She tried to view Zenix in that way, but she couldn't force herself. She did research on why she felt no attraction to anybody. She thought she was broken until she discovered the term aroace and that it was normal!

ZENIX (Mystreet)

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Zenix is really insecure of his body, so he wears really big jackets and hunches over almost 24/7. His posture is ASS like its so bad he has the transguy posture. He went into highschool with no friends until he met Sasha, who became his best friend who he could always talk to. Zenix has always been seen as the "easy to bully" friend. He does get hurt by his friend's constant bullying but pushes it down and laughs it off. He gets grounded a lot, but seems to not even care or get affected by it. Zenix is the opposite of Gene in the sense that he actually doesn't cuss. Like he is not a pottymouth. Zenix SUCKS at handling his emotions and he bursts out most of the time because he's a teenage boy and his emotions are everywhere. He is a true believer of conspiracies and the supernatural (like aliens). Zenix likes to geek out to Sasha about that kind of stuff. Zenix didn't know where he'd fit in in highschool until he found Gene, who he looked up to and joined the Shadow Knights. Zenix has a LOT of piercings including 5 different ear piercings on each year and a tongue piercing.He thrifts for all of his clothes. He and Sasha go on thrifing dates (FRIEND DATES THERES NO ROMANCE FOR THEM). He LOVES sugary coffee. He cant drink it if its not loaded with Sugar. Zenix had a little crush on Gene when he first met him, to later discover it was gender envy. He gets stressed out and angry by schoolwork and gives up on it easily.He has natural red eyes i dont wanna think of them as contacts guys. Hes 5'7 and Achillean. He gets easily jealous and angry but never talks about why, which causes more problems. His favourite color is pink!!!

[barbwritesstuff]

OK, this might weird, but I'm a transguy who has very little exeprience, but a lot of interest in, dating women, especially after bad exepriences with men. And I've been nervous about treating my interest in women as "an experiment" and so I've been exploring it a lot with your game because... it's just so easy, and not a problem to be trans in your game. Like, it just IS in your game, not a whole *thing* so to speak, so it's been kind of theraputic to romance Carrie and struggle with it, but not *because* my MC is a transguy, if that makes sense?

What I mean is, as a long-time werewolf enthusiast, and transguy, Carrie is my wife and makes me SO happy to make progress with her and love her. Thank you so much for your game! Genuinely a huge favorite for me.

As a person who often processes my thoughts, feelings, and ideas through fiction... I understand this 100%. I'm so glad you enjoyed Blood Moon so much.

[lifeofademisexualtransboy]

I started a new blog so I can blog about my new creative works.

Follow @bravegrumpy if you want to see the creative ramblings of a guy who recently learned "Why am I like this"

Huetopia is the name of a fictional world I have been noodling on, for about as long as I've been away from tumblr.

My new blog will be focused less on my queer journey of self-discovery, and more about expanding my creative outlet, and juggling my need to be creative, my neurospicy lack of understanding time, and my dislike of capitalism.

[ankiebitez]

not gonna lie its pretty insane seeing that one person saying the whb fandom is transphobic just because they can't handle someone dissagreeing with them... mind you this whole thing started over a hc about clothes, it had nothing to do with their transfem paimon hc.

im literally a transguy and was one of the first people that started arguing with them so ig i just dont exist now lmaooo

but yeah no I've been in the fandom since the day the game was released and ive not had any problems with transphobia

i blocked the user a few days ago but i would honestly just leave this whole thing alone they're not gonna try to agree with anyone 😭 i think they either deactivated or blocked me anyway so its best to just leave it be

[crimsonender]

interested in seeing you discuss how people view intersectionality/ and or just hearing you talk about intersectionality as whole! I saw your Transandrophobia reblog so i wanted to listen to your opinions. A quote i saw people reposting occasionally was about how no amount of shared marginalization between a man and a woman will make men have empathy for women. sorry if this is like too vague to go off, but i saw that same quote a few times and i agree to some extent but i feel like trans men's involvement in these discussions tend to be overlooked. should probably mention my bias but i'm an indigenous transguy but i don't want to hold resentment over online discourse and just want to hear other people's thoughts.

"no amount of shared marginalization between a man and a woman will make men have empathy for women."

This is TERF shit. And if you've seen a trans person say it, it's a trans person trying to reframe TERF shit to fit a trans person. The idea that men are biologically predisposed to dominate and oppress women is the cornerstone of radfem ideology.

Moreover it really sounds like the kind of thing that only a white person could say.

I really recommend reading The Will to Change by Bell Hooks.

Bell Hooks is really good about talking about how while men are largely responsible for their role in the patriarchy, women are complicit in it as well, and both men and women are hurt by it, even if women are moreso. She frames it in a way that doesn't feel accusatory and is very compassionate towards men, but also acknowledges that from the time they are young boys that they are trained and conditioned to be emotionless and even that to be accepted as a man that they must be violent. The titular will to change is about being willing to be cooperative with women, and for women to accept that male pain is not at its core an accusation of the failure of women as a social class. If we can all learn to accept that in our hearts then we can truly find love in our intimate and personal lives but also we can fight for a better tomorrow.

To bring it down, and make it a tad more personal to me, I was. Not a boy. I didn't really feel the onset of dysphoria until I began to fill the social role of a woman, and began puberty. My dissonance with my gender began around nine or ten and I knew in my heart I was transgender when I was fourteen. I came out at nineteen. For the first half of my life, I lived and filled the social role of a girl. I then grew up and became a man. Not all trans people like to conceptualize their transness like this, but there is no right or wrong way to be transgender. This is what feels right to me. There is a distinct who I was before and who I was after. (Though I do prefer other people to refer to my younger self as male and with my chosen name. Not the place to talk about why though.)

My biggest allies have always been women. My sister, my best friend, and my Moms have been supportive of me from day one when I came out to them, and the gratitude I feel... it cannot be put to words. Whereas I don't talk to... Any of the men in my life I knew pre-transition. Not my brother, my father, any of my male friends, my two male cousins whomst I was close with growing up, I don't see outside of very occasional family occasions where everyone is there. My family is not particularly progressive outside of my Moms being lesbians. Feminism is not exactly something any of them care about across the gender spectrum. So this doesn't really surprise me. I also do occasionally run into empathy problems with the women in my life, but all of us have that titular will to change.

Taking it back to intersectionality, in many black feminist writings such as those by Hooks as well as the coiner of the term, Kimberlé Crenshaw, it very specifically talks about how you don't really stack identities into a list. As a hypothetical example, you wouldn't say:

I'm a person of colour

I'm a woman

I'm trans

I'm working class

I'm disabled.

These identities coexist and interact with each other in ways that are unique.

"I'm a disabled working class trans woman of colour."

This lines up with Crenshaw's idea of intersectionality. There are experiences that this person will have that no one other person with part of her identity will, even if you only changed one small part of it. But it's also important to realize there are common experiences that we do have, when sharing parts of our identity. Having empathy for one another and coming to the table with kindness and understanding in our hearts first and foremost is how we coexist and find that acceptance that all of us want.

I think at the end of the day that being a human being is messy and almost always painful. But I think the pain is worth it. I think the best thing we can do is show one another compassion and grace.

[definitely-not-an-alias]

Anyone know what's been up with all the animosity I been seeing between transmen and transwomen lately? Is it actually a thing going on, or some overblown foolishness, or some shitty sector of Tumblr leaking onto my dashboard? Seems most every day I see a transguy saying something like "transwomen are ignoring our problems" or a transgal saying something like "transmen are exaggerating the problems they face". I though there was supposed to be a whole community here. I ain't trans so I'm probably not in the know as to the particulars. But I operate under the belief that queer and lgbtq folk are a family, united in our struggles against individuals, groups, and societies which seek to destroy us all.

*edit to be clear: those examples I gave were off the top of my head, and not strictly representative of what I've been seeing.

[tdlosk-confessions]

It annoys me that Kaidou is the main transmasc hc in the fandom. Because it's always like the guy who's feminine that gets it. I remember seeing a lot of him before actually watching the show, and the hc always left a sour taste in my mouth, but I couldn't figure out why. when I got to the island episode where Yumehara says something along the lines of Kaidou being more like one of the girls and he cries about it I thought "ah. That's why." Because damn can't we have transmasc!Hairo? Why's it always gotta be the crybaby wimp who's a bit feminine and cringefail?

I don't think it's a problem to have this hc, but the fact it's so widespread over any other makes me a little sad. Because I know he's textbook transmasc stereotype.

It's a little bit like when the non human characters are heavily hc-ed as autistic. Like, sure, their behaviour might fits and their character can be very relatable for people, but man does it get disheartening to see it's so rare for other characters to receive the same hc.

I've got some feelings about trans hcs, as you can see. Oof.

Anyways spread the transguy!Hairo agenda

-🐇

[Confession 396]

[wolfertinger]

salem is a good example of what happens when you absorb discussions of bigotry/intersectionality/community issues via shit like video essays or tumblr posts and then try and regurgitate second hand so that you can pretend to be the wokest person in the room. a lot of his posts have roots in more popular posts by people who have done actual research/discussion on the topic but since he doesnt bother reading past the 'interesting observation' phase when he covers it you get this half-assed statement with a side of accidental awful implication. take his stance on femininity/misogyny and transmen: transmen do have a problem with misogyny within their community, because misogyny is baked into the undercurrent of society and because most of them have personal and particularly crushing experiences with 'being a girl' (because they never were, and were being forced into a role that was both completely unfitting for them and horrifically oppressing) some of those guys come out with more sympathy for women in part because they themselves have experienced it- but you do also occasionally get folks who's bad experiences manifests in a bitterness. Its something worth addressing for sure- especially by other transmen! but salem only cares about uplifting what personally benefits 'his side', so he doesn't cover his bases and ends up espousing this awful 'masculinity bad' rhetoric where someone who actually cares would instead discuss the way some trans guys might benefit on examining their relationship to femininity and see if they might be worsening aspects of dysphoria by holding onto misogynist bias or bitterness towards femininity as a concept without implying this is an inherent fault of being a transguy or something that will 'fix' them (kinda like what salem is clearly doing for masculinity- he can be a fem guy, but it needs to be something you do because you want to be a feminine guy and not because you're bitter towards the opposite. salem can say he loves being fem but its also very clear that hes biased towards the opposite in a way that he would certainly benefit from addressing and improving before he starts preaching the other way)

agreed. i think, if you want to express yourself, in a way that makes you happy. then do it. but when your happiness, is at the expense of others. i have an issue.

there has been long standing issues, within the trans community, of infighting. salem, rather than attempting to fulfill his desire for "representing tboys", is fixated on a specific kind of trans man. and when other trans men, including those that look like his art, point this out, he becomes hyper defensive, and lashes out, accusing these trans men, of being "cissexist kalvin garrah transmeds", when most of these transmascs, may be people who do not or cannot transition medically, or are poc.

salem notably, picks and chooses when to take stake in your identity or not, shown how he will publicly humiliate a black trans woman, for adding onto a joke about blackness, claiming "white people ruin everything", yet will eat up analysis of his art by a "white enby", because the latter, is being more positive to him.

[compulsory-obsession]

Hey, welcome to my blog.

I'm Dean, I'm a 28yearold Transguy and I create art for a living.

This is a blog for me to be horny on main, since I don't do it anywhere else. 18+ MINORS GTFO.

I'll also probably post some other stuff here and there like gaming posts, art, and cryptic and or funny shit.

DMs and Asks are open. Say anything you want, just don't be a dick, and please understand you might not get a response in a timely manner. I struggle with multiple physical health problems and frequently am running on fumes.

Pronouns are HE/HIM/(HOLE)

You can call me Dean, Good Boy, Perv, Pathetic Slut, Toy, Puppy, Pet, Prince, Pretty Boy, Desperate, anything you want really, unless I say otherwise.

Posts with my face/body in it or personal text posts will be tagged with #me-li

If I post any art here, you can expect it to be tagged under #me-art

If you wanna see more about my kinks and how to interact with me, look below.

MINORS/RACISTS/HOMOPHOBES/TERFS/TRUSCUM/STRICTLY CISHET MEN DNI.

or anyone who's just generally an asshole.

KINKS: (I am 100% Submissive)

Fuck Yes:

GFD, Mdlb, Puppy Play, Impact Play, CNC, Body Worship, Restraints/Bondage, Breastfeeding, Praise, Light/Affectionate Degradation, Dacryphilia, Somno, Edging, Orgasm Control, JOI, Forced orgasm, sexual torture, Overstim, SensoryDep, Age Gaps (younger men/older counterpart), Corruption, Voice Kink, Possessiveness, Yandere adjacent kinks, objectification, free use, masochism, aaaaand probably more that I can't think of right now.

Respectfully, Fuck No:

Fauxcest, feederism, vore, ddlg, age play, rape play, scat, piss(?), any bodily fluid that isn't cum spit or occasional blood, race Play, Forced homosexuality or Forced heterosexuality, anal(both penatrative and oral), sissification, detrans, forcedtrans. If I think of anymore I will update the post.

When referring to my body parts, I am ok with Dick, Cock, Tdick, Tcock, Hole, Cunt, BoyCunt, Boyhole

I'm comfy with calling my being aroused both wet and hard.

Potentially thinking about posting voice recordings / selling customs. Stay tuned.

Or don't, if you don't wanna. I'm not your dad.

[transmasc-advice-blog]

Bathroom Problems

Sorry I just realized after writing this is super tmi but I just really need advice

Help. I'm transmasc but I haven't really started using men's bathrooms yet because I don't pass and I'm honestly kind of scared. However, there are a few things that I think will change that: I'm starting testosterone soon, and I want to buy an stp/packer. So the testosterone I think will probably make me look masculine enough that I can't use the women's restroom anymore without scaring people, and the stp will allow me to use the men's room. But like there are still problems with that. For one thing, they're super expensive! I've been looking on the transguy supply website, and I found one that I like, but it costs 50 dollars, and it also doesn't look like it will fit in the harness (made by the same company, sold separately on the website). I found another one that's small enough for me to pack with (I'm short so I really don't want anything big, I literally pack with a single pair of socks) and that would work with that harness, but it's $75. They have one for $15, but it says in the description that it's not good for packing. Also, I don't particularly want balls. Which is a problem because nearly all of them have balls. The $50 one doesn't, and I like the look of it, but like I said I don't think it will fit to wear it, just based on its shape. There's one on the site that has all the attributes I want (small, discreet, skin tone, no balls, would work as a packer), but it's over $100 and there is no way I'd ever be able to afford it. So I'm probably going to end up with one that doesn't fit the aesthetics I want. Which is fine, but I just really need to find one that's more affordable. Between the packer I want, the harness, and the underwear, it could easily add up to at least $150. I can't ask my parents for help because the first time I brought up packing my mom said she wouldn't buy me one because it "feels like a sex thing" and it makes her uncomfortable. So like if anyone knows where I can buy a cheaper one, that would be much appreciated.

Also, once I get the stp, I still don't know how confident I'll be using it in men's bathrooms. Would it be weird if I went in the stall to pee, at least at first? Do people do that? Would it be wrong for me to use the disabled accessible stall when it's the only stall?

Also, I don't know what to do about people who know me. I'm out as nonbinary, but given the way I dress most people assume I'm a girl, and I think people would get uncomfortable with me suddenly switching bathrooms, especially if I started using the urinals. Plus I occasionally wear dresses, so what bathroom am I supposed to use when I'm wearing a dress and have facial hair? Like that's how I want to look, that's what makes me feel like me, but I feel like that's also what would get me assaulted in a bathroom. I guess I'm starting to realize how my transfem friends feel :/

Sorry for the long ask, if you or anyone has any advice that would really help. Thank you

-🚹🚽🍌💵 (emojis so I can find this later)

Lot to unpack here! I don’t have much experience with STPs but i’ll try my best to help :)

First off, you know those STPs that don’t look realistic? (linked one is for $12) they might not be ideal, maybe don’t use it if the urinals are crowded, but it’ll work just fine if it’s just a few people in there! no one’s looking at you. you could keep it in a bag or a nice big pocket, discreetly whip it out to pee, have a lil plastic baggy to put it back into maybe once you’re out of the bathroom… i’m not sure exactly how that one works but i’m sure you’d figure it out eventually. i also found this one and watch the ad! the woman in the video keeps it in her pants and just. pops it out. it can stay in your pants! perfect. $18.

Next thing, can a friend help you out with cost at all? Maybe a sibling? Also, once you get the STP, you probably know this but just making sure. do NOT immediately, right away after getting it, go out in public and use it. you’ve gotta practice at home first. until you’ve got the hang of it.

Nextttt, no it is not weird at all for you to use a stall. I do that all the time. The bathroom might be busy, with all the stalls in use. super awkward waiting there as the urinals free up. but that’s the only problem i can really think of? i just go super fast. in and out. no time for anyone in there to see my face. i’ve never had any problems. a few times i’ve had to go to the women’s. wasn’t great but it was all ok! for the disabled stall thing, id say use it, just be fast.

Onwards, you can let your friends and family know “i’m ready to start using the men’s restroom now so that’s what i’ll be doing just a heads up”. it’s just a bathroom, right? just a place to pee, why should anyone care? for the wearing a dress thing, make sure you’re in a safe area. you might get strange looks, ignore them. if someone tries to talk to you, go into a stall or leave. or, on days when you wear a dress, you could strictly go to places with gender neutral bathrooms. there are apps that can help you find which places have them. i think one of them is bathroom refuge? not sure.

congrats on starting T! good luck, i hope this helps, i am sick rn so this might be nonsensical

[your-queer-dad]

hi! im a cis gay guy, in a polyam with 2 transguys :] both of my boys mean the world to me but they both experience HORRID dysphoria (one has medicallt transiyioned and doesnt feel it as much/badly tho). any tips on how to support them ? (the pre transition bf is in ED recovery as well, and his dysphoria might make him r3lapse which jm terrfied of)

Hey kiddo! This question is so sweet, the fact that you're asking is very sweet and you seem like a very kind boyfriend. I will try my best to help!

A lot of the time dysphoria is based on the knowledge of knowing your body isn't how you want it to be. It's like having a stone in your shoe, it's repetitive and an irrating reminder, and sometimes you can't think about anything else other than the stone.

Distractions I've found help me a lot, as well as comfortable clothing that hide the problem. Maybe offering to watch a TV show with them or some form of distraction?

Dysphoria fluctuates a lot- there are days when it's 100% and days when it's 15% and 0%. Honestly just being there for them and talking to them about it, maybe complimenting them and talking them up about it.

Thank you for reaching out and please feel free to ask if you have any other questions!

- dad x

[azureajax]

Haiii haii heloooo :3

My name is Joel!! Or Ajax!! Call me whatever you want :p

I’m 19, a bisexual transguy and I use he / they!!

I’m also a fuckass yumedanshi. Maybe selective? But my f/os are two of my partner’s ocs so only our friends know about them and I’m comfy with anything they do soo :3

And yes, I do yumeship whilst having a partner. They do not care. If you have a problem with that then that’s your issue, don’t take it out on me.

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I very much so love Hermitcraft/Life Series and Starlight Express (mainly the 2024 ver)!! I also like Genshin Impact, Honkai: Star Rail, JJBA, Bleach, Naruto, Dr. Stone, Pokemon, South Park, Stardew Valley, A Hat In Time, Homestuck + others.

PLEASEPLEASEPLEASEPLEASE TALK TO ME ABOUT OCS AS WELL. I LOVE OCS.