#twitter culture

[jessiarts]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but no one ever learns from being yelled at.

I've watched from the sidelines of many discourses/"cancellings"/what-have-youse that've happened around the internet and one thing I've noticed is none of the "Internet Public Enemies" ever learned from their mistakes or changed their minds by being bullied, receiving death threats, or threats of cancelling.

At best I've seen rejected public apologies. At worst I've seen people have genuine mental breakdowns and develop intense fear of ever speaking up again in case they accidentally say the wrong thing or their thoughts are misconstrued. Because the human mind is simply not equipped to deal with the very real effect of hundreds of thousands of people very loudly saying how much they hate you and that thing you said.

You know what I have seen change people's minds, though? Kindness.

I know, it sounds corny and not nearly as satisfying for some, but I've genuinely seen more people change their ways of thinking when someone has taken time to have a calm conversation with them instead of screaming back.

I think we need to try more love with these interactions. The goal should be to get the other person to grow as a person, not to "win" because you made the "bad person" leave the internet. Most people genuinely don't want to be hurtful, they just aren't informed.

The best way I can put it is to think about it like raising a child.

When a child says or does something bad, and they get screamed at and/or smacked, they don't "learn their lesson." The person who yelled at and/or hit them only took out their own frustration on that child, they didn't teach them anything. The child doesn't learn why what they said or did was hurtful or why they shouldn't do it again, they only become afraid of the punishment and usually try to find ways not to get caught the next time. They also just become resentful of the person who screamed at/hit them.

However, when a child says or does something bad and instead they are sat down and talked to like a person about why what they said/did was harmful, they're more likely to learn from that mistake and not do it again. Yes, they may mess up a few more times now and again as they're still learning and not perfect, but as long as you keep coming back to them and calmly explaining to them that what they did wasn't very nice and why, they'll grow as a person and learn they can trust the person who helped them through it.

The same is very much true of adults. I know it can be frustrating when someone who we believe should know better about something doesn't, but we also can't go after everyone like they are a Big Bad Evil for making a mistake either. (Save that energy for corporations.)

Will there be some people who just won't listen no matter how much it's explained why their behavior is hurtful? Of course, but they likely won't be the norm. And it's perfectly ok not to consume the content of someone who makes you uncomfortable. It's ok to state your disappointment and leave them to slip into irrelevance. But I've rarely seen a big flashy announcement for a boycott of a person result in that person believing anything other than they were being persecuted and then doubling down on why their behavior wasn't bad.

It's honestly a very Terminally Online thing to do, assuming everyone is meaning to be a bad person for supporting or saying the wrong things, and propagating the idea that if you mess up you must grovel for forgiveness that will never come because mistakes mean you are inherently bad forever and can never change.

Honestly I believe that's why so many people double down when confronted anymore. The internet has cultivated a culture with no forgiveness. Admitting you were wrong has become weakness in the internet's eyes- Better to double down and show everyone how Right™ you are and really how Wrong™ those bullies who disagree actually are. And if someone does come to change their mind, they're met with jeers for not getting there sooner or for believing the wrong thing in the first place. It's toxic.

We need to allow apologies and encourage growth and guidance. We need to let people know that if people make a mistake they'll still be welcome when they change that behavior. And also that they won't be met with some variation of "See, was that so hard?!" or "FINALLY!" That's important too.

We can't punish the behavior we want to see, and punishment isn't going to help us see that behavior.

[handmedownpocketpussy]

It kills me when there's a dope art post that says, "you can see more on my twitter!" so i navigate to their tumblr profile because of course they haven't linked their twitter, and it's just a handle @jagoffsocialmedia or whatever. I don't have a twitter account but I want to see this art, so i go to twitter, the search function fails, i reload it tries to make me create an account, i reload, finally find the artist in my search! Click it... nothing related to that post I navigate back to that original tumblr post, and the timestamp reads it's from four years ago... Why don't you post the permalink in the original post?? You're already plugging your twitter (which is a flash-in-the-pan views website as it is) but you KNOW if it gains traction on tunglr it will be circulating for years why shoot yourself in the foot?

Completely related: trying to use modern day twitter without an account is a straight up nightmare one stray click and you're banished to the shadow realm (account creation screen)

[iprefertheterminsane]

Discussion of Site Culture

TWITTER is a BUSY TOWN

TUMBLR is a LABYRINTH of SEWERS 

DISCORD is a COMMUNITY HOUSE 

[shinygemstone]

fucking hate twitter because I'm in two different fandoms. One of them has really cool stories, but if I scroll too far, I get HEY YOU ENJOY X THING??? HERE'S ALL THE REASONS YOU'RE A HORRIBLE PERSON!!!!! THE ONLY WAY TO FIX THIS IS [redacted because Tumblr deserves better]

The other has pretty mid content, but important information that makes my life easier about events and updates in splatoon. The issue is that I don't have the motivation to delete my first account and I can't just uninstall Twitter outright because of account B. Honestly it's better to just not look because Twitter loves prancing around with its holier than thou attitude

Fuck twitter. Fuck Elon Musk, but also fuck the culture Twitter has developed. A Twitter refugee will never be truly welcomed on Tumblr because being on twitter requires a tolerance for some pretty heinous comments and the absolute worst of cancel culture.

Someone who belongs on Twitter is likely to agree with the sentiment that someone is a bad person for enjoying Harry Potter or dsmp or Homestuck or whatever other controversial fandom. They're the ones engaging in sexuality discourse.

It's just exhausting to deal with, and it's exhausting to have to get news over that platform because there's no other real way to do it. Nobody takes Tumblr seriously, reddit serves it's own purpose, YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok just won't work for that, and facebook is Facebook. Unfortunately Twitter isn't being replaced, so we have to deal with it

[adverbian]

Twitter:

Tumblr:

Twitter is an outrage machine (and I say that from personal experience; I used to spend a lot of time on there). Like Monty Python’s “Argument Clinic” sketch, you will get an argument.

Tumblr is mostly people showing each other stuff they think is neat.

Tumblr certainly has its outrage moments. It used to be much worse in terms of incessant “discourse” and callouts. But that’s no longer the main culture. A few people still want to do that sort of thing, but I recommend just quietly blocking them (and blocking associated tags).

Recommendations for new users: Follow some tags of stuff that interests you. Especially media you’re a fan of.

Once you notice users who consistently post stuff you think is neat, follow those users. They’ll reblog from other users; you can follow those users too if you like them. (If someone irritates you, or you run into stuff you don’t enjoy — no need to engage; just quietly block.) It’s a good way to get a feed full of stuff you think is neat.

Reblog stuff you think is neat. Think of it as collecting neat stuff in your underwater cave, and showing it to your friends. (You can add a comment or not; your choice.)

Be aware that search is fairly broken. Search for your own blog is 100% broken. Just ride the river of posts and accept that you can’t step into the same river twice.

This is the internet from a time before they learned that outrage grabs eyeballs and started pumping outrage directly into everyone’s brain 24/7. It feels quieter and a bit kinder. Just let it flow.

[mysticalcoffeequeen]

I get there are legitimate trolls & folks devoid of empathy who comment blatant ignorance because they want entertainment or to waste your time, but I don’t like this bizarre trend where folks shit on well meaning people who legitimately do NOT know better as if they’re out to personally get you. You have the right to be annoyed at their ignorance, but to go after someone with such hostility as if they’re out to get you and your rights because they didn’t know a detail on a topic they are just figuring out is insane. Twitter Culture.

[octopisunsets]

with the looming possibility of the really toxic part of twitter returning to tumblr, i want to remind everyone that YOU CAN TURN YOUR ASKS, SUBMISSIONS, and DMS OFF.

And if you still want to receive asks, you can turn off anonymous.

[animentality]

[tippenfunkaport]

there is something so darkly comical about tumblr potentially outliving twitter

tumblr, which is held together with duct tape and madness, run by three raccoons in blood stained Yahoo! hats and a handful of crabs, its only discernible source of income the sale of shoelaces from an inside joke so inside no one knows the original source anymore and fake blue checkmarks... that website still lives on

truly the cockroach of social media and I love it for that

[vivalamusaine]

Reddits mods are pissed that the CEO is getting paid 190m a year while they cull CSA and hate speech for free. Instagrams AI is mistakenly banning users for spam when they comment on friends pictures. Twitter is a hate filled bot farm run by an egomaniac. Facebook is a boomer graveyard filled with AI conspiracy theories radicalizing granola moms and your grandad. Tumblrs CEO is breaking data privacy laws on a targeted harassment campaign. Tiktok is making sexism woke and trendy again. 2024 is the year social media sites implode and take us all out with them.

[artsekey]

Thinking about the time I lost a game of Overwatch and I was so mad about it that I genuinely considered getting into shit with the other team in chat and then realized that it was a colossal waste of my living breathing Human Time and uninstalled Overwatch instead because it was only making me angry.

And then thought about the OTHER time when I was on TikTok and realized I was Not Enjoying Myself and was, in fact, seeing so many sad videos and fake influencer ads that I felt Truly Despondent and then just…Deleted it.

Imo I want my social media /general media experience to be a pleasant break from real world and I get to decide what I get to cull to make that a reality for myself. I highly reccomended it! Life has improved considerably!

[jessiarts]

It genuinely surprises me how the most simple things will make some people go absolutely berserk.

Like, there are posts where creatives are simply asking others not to use this site like instagram, and to consider supporting the creators who make the stuff they enjoy with a reblog or nice comment every once in awhile- just to to let them know they matter and to continue the communal nature of this site.

And you'll get some people responding to that with, "I'm not going to reblog every fucking thing on my dash you entitled cunts!"

Like... no one asked you to?? Literally I've never seen a single person on here ever ask that of anyone- though I have seen several of the above angry response and I genuinely don't understand where it's coming from.

This is why we don't want that instagram culture here. You forget there are people behind all that art/fic/whatever you enjoy consuming, and that you're not entitled to them pumping out "content" all the time for your own consumption.

Get a grip. It's not shoving a gun down your throat to remind you that creatives are people.

They aren't required to pour their time and souls into creating stuff just so others can consume it and demand more without ever exchanging even a kind pleasantry. Stop hurling abuse at them if they don't just smile and take it and "keep producing."

It's gross, and it's definitely saying more about your own entitlement than theirs.

[dont-be-tumb]

[wombocombo4x3]

Japanese Users Are Concerned About "Twitter Culture" Invading Their Spaces

[missroserose]

—Torrey Peters, Detransition, Baby, 2021

[godsfavefemboy]

Twitter is toxic in the same way a chemical wasteland is toxic.

Tiktok is toxic in the same way a relationship is toxic.

Reddit is toxic in the same way Bananas are toxic. Mostly fine, but if you go too far you die.

Tumblr is toxic in the same way I'm toxic I'm sipping on the taste of your poison paradise, I'm addicted to you don't you know that your toxic.