#visibly queer

[fayrobertsuk]

Okay listen, because nothing was ever going to prepare me for this, but when I first came out*, I had no idea what a profound effect that was going to have on other people.

I thought I was braced for the bad stuff, how some people’s fear about what your simple existence means can dampen, darken, and corrode your joy, your sense of safety. I wasn’t prepared for the scale of that, but that’s not what this post is about.

I had no fucking clue that my existence as a queer person taking up space could mean so much joy and relief for others. And I was utterly unprepared for how that has only increased as I’ve aged, and as the world has become more connected. Eventually, a young trans man explained it to me, saying that seeing me just... living, 30 years older than him, brought him hope, a model for the future, that there was a future, for the first time. Several others chimed in to say the same and I felt airless for a dizzying second. I hadn’t been able to really understand, until that point, why various younger queer folk would thank me on Twitter, call me and others like me icons. We’d shrug: We’re just... being, we’d say. Exactly, they’d reply.

I thought that things were easier for young, queer folk now. That they have more access to information and vocabulary and acceptance than we did, growing up. Hell, I might never have worked out my gender stuff if younger folk weren’t out there being loud about their pronouns, breaking down microlabels, and sharing their feelings about their existence.

And that’s also true, but being visibly queer, and over 30, and it not being a tragedy? That gives people enormous hope. That’s a landmark to reach, a future to picture yourself in. My life is nowhere near perfect, but it exists.

And heavens, it’s good to know that these proliferating silver hairs and wrinkles are beautiful signs for those who long for the decades’ stretch between now and then.

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(*still not quite realising that it’s something you do again and again, and sometimes additionally, if - like me - you find yourself going “oh, and this thing too”)

[femgineerasolution]

I love my local board game group so much - yesterday there were 9 of us, with 4 men (who I think are all cishet but I could be wrong) and 5 women (who I know are all various flavours of queer) and I just love that we can meet up in a local pub once a week and play board games together and no one really cares. The worst harassment we ever get from the other punters is someone asking if we're playing monopoly

[rjhpandapaws]

One of the last places i would expect to feel safe being visibly queer is in a factory setting. But tonight i used the mens bathroom and when i was washing my hands this big 6 foot something guy told me he liked my nails and to come to him if anyone gives me trouble.

Its odd to feel safe in the work place for me, but its a pleasant change

[moronic-validity]

So funny little Ted lore!

I was talking to one of my dad's friends, a guy that's known me for well over a decade and has gotten to see me grow up and go through a dozen some odd phases, and he just confirmed to my father that I have always been visibly queer.

Like painfully visibly queer.

He always thought my dad knew and that's the only reason he never brought it up.

My dad learned I'm queer 2 years ago.

[witherbee]

stop saying people are "straight passing"

let me tell you why

when we say someone is "straight passing," that places an intention or an action on the person who is being perceived as straight. when we say someone is "straight passing" what we're implying is "that person made intentional choices and has decided to look straight / not look queer. they decided to pass." it puts the responsibility on the person being perceived instead of the person doing the perceiving.

instead of this, i think we should say someone is "straight assumed"

the verb "assumed" puts the responsibility on the person making the assumption. we don't know shit about that person. we don't know what their sexuality is. we don't know their relationship to their identity. if we assume that they're straight based on their appearance, that's our fucking problem.

the language we use matters and we should stop making people feel like they're not queer enough because of the assumptions we make about them.

[sweatermuppet]

redesign for lesbian visibility week 🩷🧸🫶

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[alienbycomics]

Content Warning: religion and transphobia⚠️

Happy Trans Day of Visibility 🏳️‍⚧️ I made a comic reflecting on my church upbringing as an eXvangelical trans person. The Jesus conservative Christians claim to represent looked lot more like many of the LGBTQ+ friends I know and love. Just some food for thought 💖

[andrhomeda]

drawing after drawing, comic after comic, I hope to tell more trans stories, for me and for other people HAPPY TRANSGENDER DAY OF VISIBILITY 2024

[my-chemical-ratz]

happy trans day of visibility🔥🔥🔥🔥

[james-isqueer]

The amount of nonbinary friends I've had ask me, a binary trans man, if they're "allowed" to call themselves a part of the trans community is so sad. Yes, of course you can. We are all in this together. You can fly the trans flag you can call yourself trans you can celebrate TDOV and mourn TDOR with us please come hold my hand and fight by my side. When you started identifying as nonbinary you got an optional trans bundle, too—you don't have to take it but you absolutely should if you want to. The white stripe is for you.

[jay-wasstuff]

[kaibascorpse]

some of you people are so obsessed with having an acceptable group to ‘punch up’ at that you would rather pretend a marginalized group are Basically The Oppressors™ than listen to their valid criticisms about the fact that ‘punching up’ very rarely hits the intended target, and the majority of the actual damage of that act is suffered by fellow marginalized people in your own community. there is a significant difference between venting frustrations about privileged groups and just outright attacking anyone who (you assume) experiences that axis of privilege regardless of - and in many cases outright denying - their actual lived experiences. it goes far beyond just ‘venting frustrations’ when what you’re really doing is trying to find a moral justification to bully people you don’t like, and when your own desire for catharsis and moral superiority leads to ignoring the voices of the vulnerable people you hurt. you’re not ‘punching up’ - you just like punching people for the sake of punching.

[cherrytastiq]

seeing a (fellow) butch out in the wild

[jun0jupiter]

happy lesbian week of visibility here’s a new illustration 🪲🪲🪲

[justdavina]

Incredible transgender girl!

[tiffanyachings]

what i love about the queer women rep in tlt is that so much of it is just like. gideon reading her titty magazines but getting zero action. ianthe trying to kiss harrow and getting rejected. harrow begging a hallucination of a corpse to have sex with her and getting rejected. marta turning down judith, judith turning down corona, corona unsuccessfully flirting with camilla. nona's one-sided attraction to corona and camilla. camilla’s third-wheeling (x3) and plain lack of interest in getting it on with anyone. gideon and ianthe fighting over harrow when they’re both losing out to a frozen ice bimbo. ‘but she never gave you anything. you never got anywhere.’ ‘did you???’ << honestly sums it up.