#out loud queer

[rjhpandapaws]

One of the last places i would expect to feel safe being visibly queer is in a factory setting. But tonight i used the mens bathroom and when i was washing my hands this big 6 foot something guy told me he liked my nails and to come to him if anyone gives me trouble.

Its odd to feel safe in the work place for me, but its a pleasant change

[aromantic-diaries]

Asexuals can just bring up the fact that there's very little authentic representation for us and that maybe we would like some more of it and someone in the notes will be like "omg why do you hate gay people huh why don't you want gay people to have sex why do you want to erase our sexuality" just say you hate asexuals and move on, jesus fucking christ

[prettysweetprettysweet]

boy there is so much to unpack based on what Karan's sister said to her mom about how Karan was raised. its so crazy that his parents reinforced what they valued and what they didn't value by withholding reactions/not engaging with Karan if they didn't like or approve of what he was doing (and up until the present part of the story, didn't think this was harmful??). i don't know if the writers meant for it to be so profoundly sad, but the thought of a queer child who already felt deeply conflicted about his identity trying to express himself, find out who he is, and share his excitement about cool things he finds in the world only to get nothing from his caretakers to acknowledge it is heartbreaking. his flames burned out because he was doing it in a cold empty vacuum. she said he would pursue those things until it "got boring" but really what that means is he pursued those things/expressed himself in certain ways until the lack of interaction from his parents made him feel so insecure, self-conscious, and lonely that he phased it out. and then when he started getting engagement from his parents again, he would internalize that he shouldn't go where his instincts/pleasures/interests guide him because they're the makeup of an unacceptable person.

so Karan's historical self-deprecation in regards to his queerness and his uncontrollable, tear-filled reaction to hearing his mother indicate that she does want to support and engage with he and Achi, makes all the sense in the world. when he confessed his feelings to Achi he apologized multiple times essentially for letting the real Karan take over and control what his brain and heart were doing, ruining things between them. i love that Achi's immediate reaction to that was "you're sorry???" because its so bewildering that Karan would apologize for being himself, feeling his feelings, or thinking his thoughts. but he has been trained his whole life not to indulge or engage with his authentic self, so he feels like a failure when he does. he built his life around models of perfection and ways of carrying himself that were molded by other people.

Karan asking his mother "are you disappointed" that I'm gay/in love with a man really gets to the heart of it. like, if his mother had a choice, if his mother had the ability to change things about her son to fit her image of a better person, what parts of Karan would she remove or swap out? this is something he has had to consider, if not on a conscious level then definitely on a subconscious one, for his whole life: what parts of me are scraps, what parts of me are unwanted?

its such a relief that Achi stated that for him, caring for Karan means supporting him in doing the things that he likes and that bring him pleasure (like cooking and spending money on things that he and Achi can do together). Karan had asked Achi to "bear with" him but its clear that Achi isn't bearing anything. Achi takes pride in his charge of caring for Karan -- and helping him indulge his wants, abandon the constant grind for perfection, and reconnect with himself is a huge part of that.

[identitty-dickruption]

call my gender afloat the way I’m a boy

[yagikidd57]

I think what makes explaining to people that I’m not gay or straight, I’m Asexual Aromantic and i prefer to be labeled as queer complicated is because our society has taught us that sexuality (attraction in general) is black and white.

I’ve heard bigots say, “You’re either gay or straight.” This statement not only erases aro and ace people but it also erases bisexuals and pansexuals too. Sexuality isn’t and never has been black and white.

[your-queer-dad]

My friends might mistake me for cis now but if I talk in a way they understand they'll see I'm trans later

[doobler]

Steven Universe discourse still cracks me up like

Y'all got a show made by people who clearly love doing their job with explicit LGBT+ rep including non-binary rep and a majority female cast with a variety of body types and with multiple women POC voice actors regarding topics like mindfulness meditation, forgiveness, trauma, PTSD, establishing boundaries within relationships, compassion, with an overall message of forgiveness

And yet y'all seemed to wish for the series' demise at every moment and complained about the most insignificant details like that the storyboard artists had slightly inconsistent art styles

The messages and characters are so complex and compelling and the show gets you to think about difficult concepts and topics which flew over people's heads completely

People still think Steven should've idk wiped out the Diamonds? In the show where the whole message is that people are complicated representations of their experiences and trauma and people deserve second chances?

Idk I feel like a lot of "fans" who start discourse don't actually like the show, otherwise they'd actually absorb the basic premise of it

[ffc1cb]

i’ve always found it peculiar how during meeting the chargers cutscene the game just assumes your character automatically understands what krem is talking about when he mentions binding (though, granted, it’s all very unsubtle). like, this is a roleplaying game. what if i want to play a character who just doesn’t get it

[bumblebeerror]

Frankly allies should be at pride. Especially now. Trust me, most of them are held outside and there’s plenty of room for them. Pride is not just a parade - remember the first one was a riot, and by god I’d rather have more hands on deck if we need to start throwing bricks again, y’know?

[byler-alarmist]

Has it been long enough that we can acknowledge "vagrant" (used by Ercole against Luberto) was a stand-in for the f-slur?

And this was basically a stand-in for a gay bashing

[gay-strawberry]

what if i cried and never stopped crying what then

[noridal]

I know it must be an unpopular opinion but part of me wishes they won't canonize Grimmons because it would go against the RvB spirit to do so right at the end. We either get Simmons or Grif going to superhell or something but I won't stand for RT just casually saying "yeah they're a thing now".

You know what would be cool though? If it was something really soft like the whole mayhem goes down and Simmons is like "what do we do now that it's over?" And Grif just replied "yknow. We could still hangout" and keep it as that. Which isn't like they're canon-canon but they also didn't really leave each other right? So it's basically canon too.

[just-being-all-bi-myself]

I have a normal almost perfect life. I am a straight A student. Most of the time I am happy. I have a few awesome friends whom I can always rely on. I have a sibling who annoys me but also adores me. I have parents who take care of me and provide me with all the materialistic things I need, even if they are not available for me emotionally. But I am used to it so that's not really a problem. I have suffered from depression and anxiety but now I am happy, I have overcome my problems. So basically I have a good life, better than many people actually.

But there is one secret that no one knows about me. A secret that could change the course of my whole life. A secret that could alter my almost normal and perfect life.

I have a secret. I am bisexual. But I cannot tell this to anyone.. But it's fine. I don't need to tell this to anyone. It's okay if no one knows.. I decide when and who to tell...

Thanks for reading all this..

[thegyusorcerer]

I am a lesbian.

I am a lesbian.

I am a lesbian.

I am a lesbian.

[yagikidd57]

Being asexual and having to constantly tell people that I don’t hate sex gets to be annoying. Never in my life have I said “I dislike or hate sex.” Not every aspec person is sex repulsed. i am sex aversed but also sex positive so sex doesn’t bother me in the slightest. i just don’t care for it. I don’t need sex to live or to be happy and i won’t die without it.

[killjoygem]

Btw I really reccomend the movie Do Revenge. I usually find netflix movies aimed at gen z cringey but honestly it was really good. It really has that feel of "early 2000s high school flick" while still having its modernity, and they did a good job of criticising overly performative fake progressiveness without slipping into bigotry, which is something I feel a lot of gen z aimed media struggles with

It was also just really enjoyable and funny, there was some feel good moments and also a GREAT plot twist that creates a nice little bit of drama and heartbreak towards the end of the movie

The music was fantastic, I loved the opening with a Hayley Kiyoko song, considering one of the main characters is queer, it was a nice touch to open with that. Brutal by Olivia rodrigo was also a great choice, it really fit the movie's vibes. I was genuinely tearing up at the montage with with Happier Than Ever by Billie Eilish. And finally, Bitch By Meredith brooks was a great song to finish up with, "im your hell, im your dream, im nothing in between" is really fitting for the relationship between Drea and Eleanor