#we have the same extrovert/introvert problem

[panlight]

One of the main reasons I don't think Renee was originally intended to be terrible IS the fact that the miracle wonder baby is named after her.

Think about it: in the original Twilight, Renee's just kind of flightly. But she canonically tells Bella she doesn't have to exile herself to Forks and if she changes her mind, "You can come home whenever you want―I'll come right back as soon as you need me." She's emailing Bella pretty regularly ("Write me as soon as you get in. Tell me how your flight was. Is it raining? I miss you already. I'm almost finished packing for Florida, but I can't find my pink blouse. Do you know where I put it? Phil says hi. Mom.") and calls when Bella's emails sound 'off.' She shows up at the end when Bella's in the hospital. Sure there's the stuff about "lol Bella's been paying the bills since she was 10" but that could be hyperbole (that's how I originally read it). She's eccentric and forgetful but Bella calls her her best friend and she seems attentive and loving.

Forever Dawn was the original sequel to Twilight that was eventually reworked into Breaking Dawn to account (somewhat) for the stuff that happened in New Moon and Eclipse. The baby was always named Renesmee. She was named that before New Moon or Eclipse existed.

I genuinely think Renee got retconned somewhere along the line. Starts with Eclipse when she doesn't show up for Bella's graduation because of Phil's broken leg (although I still feel like this is mostly an Author Choice -- Bella and Renee already had their moment on Bella's trip to Florida, SM didn't feel like writing another one -- rather than a Character Choice), but accelerates in Life & Death (where Beau and Charlie basically say Renee needed custody because she couldn't care for herself) and Midnight Sun (where she's pretty much canonically a neglectful narcissist with a latent power to get people to do things for her).

But I don't think SM would have named the baby RENEsmeE if Renee had always been intended to be this narcissistic nightmare. I think SM's ideas about Renee changed as she kept writing but that originally she was just the quirky extroverted mom that the serious introverted daughter loved but didn't understand.

[jillianstudies7]

i have to write vignettes for english class, and it is making me go absolutely batshit. i am a research paper girlie at heart, and i was finally in the groove of writing this bullshit when my mum interrupted me to ask if i was writing well? bitch hello? what the fuck was that for?? i completely lost what i was writing and i think im going to cry now lolz

[mirohlayo]

https://www.tumblr.com/mirohlayo/736270231017865216/my-introvert-girl-ln4?source=share

Is it bad I wanna see avas reaction andl her showing everyone she hates reader?

okay so i didn't intend to write a part 2 for my introvert girl but many anons asked me for ava's reaction so here is it !! 🫶

MY INTROVERT GIRL | LN4 (pt2)

( lando and you are finally together, but it seems one girl still hates you no matter what )

warning : slight angst, insecurity, fluff, like a lil innuendo but that's all, soft lando

note : not gonna write a part 3 because i think it's useless, but already pretty proud of these 2 parts !!

word count : 4k

!! english not my first language !!

lando and you are dating for quite some weeks now. and everything is going wonderfully. he has never been so in love, and therefore the same for you. he loves you so much and he's never tired of showing it, you being overwhelmed by his affection.

he doesn't hesitate to show the entire world how precious you are to him, and if he has to prove it until everyone notices that you are his he will do it for eternity. and you would do the same for him without a doubt, he is your first boyfriend ever and certainly the last of your life.

your love is so intense and can be feel wherever you two go, that necessarily it does not go unnoticed. especially in the eyes of the pretty blonde who obviously feels the same feelings for lando as you. even if it's always good to remember that lando only has eyes for you and only you.

and it gets on ava's nerves. when she knew about you dating, her jealousy towards you has only increased. she saw red. she was horrified by this sudden new. she was sure lando would ends up dating her because there was no world in which he would have ended up with an introvert like you.

she finds you so bland. uninteresting. you're not comfortable with people and being shy you're not talkative. and you're always stuck on lando's side as if you were going to die if you didn't stay close to him.

and the fact that lando doesn't see anything wrong with it and isn't even a little annoyed by your behavior because he adores when his girl gets clingy. he always ends up staring at you with tenderness like you are the most beautiful thing in the world.

you here, you there. ava hates it. she detests you. if we would offer her the choice to break your couple she would do it without hesitation. and this is obviously what she intends to do. because since she sees no point in lando dating his complete opposite, such an introvert girl. no, he needs an funny and extrovert girl like ava to match him.

winter break allows the f1 drivers to relax and to rest, to spend time with their loved ones. lando was looking forward to it since it's his first winter break with you, so he wants to make the most of it to spend as much time as possible with you.

he organized many trips, one of them is a trip to vietnam. some of his closest friends will take part in the trip, including ava. normally, she wasn't supposed to come but ria had an hold up so she ended up replacing her. to her greatest happiness of course.

for your part, you weren't comfortable with going on this trip with the blonde girl. you know very well how much she hates you and that she wants to ruin your romantic relationship. you don't want to alert lando or anyone else, you don't want to create problems because it's not in your nature unlike ava. so you just decided not to say anything.

you told yourself that putting up with her presence and her stupid remarks for a week wasn't going to be that complicated. and then you'll be with your lover most of the time, so ava won't be able to speak to you much. ignoring her will be the best solution.

you arrived two days ago now, and after eating you all decided to spend the afternoon on the beach playing games like volleyball or even mini football. nothing but just activities for fun.

everyone is excited to play games, but you're not really in the mood. you're feeling a little tired and you just don't feel like having fun right now. on the one hand, your shyness also forces you to stay locked up in the hotel. you like playing games but you're afraid of making a fool of yourself in front of others. especially in front of ava.

so you inform lando about it, that you weren't coming, and he told you that he wasn't going to leave the hotel and stay with you either.

"baby it's okay, i'll stay in the hotel room. go play with the others" you say to him before slip in under the blanket. "no. if you don't go then neither do i. i’ll stay with you" he retorts, joining you in the bed.

he places himself above you, his chest on yours and his arms tightly wrap your waist. "please lando. i know how much you want to spend time with your friends so i would never refuse that to you. i don't want you to stay locked up because of me" you say to convince him.

"but that's the point, i want to stay locked up with you baby. you’re the one i want to spend time with the most. i don't really care about the others for now. if you stay here, then me too. i just want you with me” he pouts, and places his chin on your stomach.

you look down to plant your eyes in his gaze and he shows you his prettiest smile. what an adorable man. "okay fine. but i don't want you to be mad at me for that later" you warn him. "never. i would never blame you, love” he said before hiding his head in the crook of your neck.

"love you" he muffles and his breath tickles you. "i love you too lan" you says before pressing a soft kiss on his hair. you start playing with his curls, while he's here holding you close, leaving some kisses here and there on your shoulder and neck.

an hour passes like this, you two cuddling close to each other. a text from max makes lando's phone vibrate and he groans. he extends his hand lazily and grab his phone to read the text. "what he's saying ?" you ask, sounding sleepy. "if we're going to join them or not" he replies sounding the same as you.

you think for a few moments. lando was going to put his phone down on the nightstand when you finally suggest that you must go out and join the others on the beach. "are you sure? do you really want to go outside?" he asks you cautiously, his tired eyes scanning your face. "yes. i want to stretch out. your body made me sag" you tease him and he rolls his eyes letting out a laugh. “just say i'm too heavy” “no you’re perfect baby”.

he can't help but blush so hard. god it's the first time that a girl has had such an effect on him. and it seems that it flutters him even more coming from an introvert. "fine. let's go then my girl" he says and in a second you're already outside, walking hand in hand to join your friends.

“it looks like the sloths are back” pietra says, nodding towards the couple arriving on the beach. “we didn’t even sleep” lando responds defensively. “oh so you must have done dirty things then" max said playfully, giving implied glances to the two lovers.

lando can feel himself blushing really hard, just like you. “shut up you muppet. you're saying bullshit" you reply embarrassed. everyone seems amused by the situation except of course one person.

ava.

she seems to be killing you with her gaze, looking you up and down like you're the plague itself. of course lando doesn't notice, too hypnotized by the beautiful girl walking beside him. he almost falls to the ground because of you.

“well, looks like y/n finally got the guts to show herself. which is rare with her, we almost wonder if she even exists sometimes.” ava looks at you and displays a fake, hypocritical smile. no one seems to laugh at her remark and the atmosphere becomes uncomfortable. you don't know where to go or how to react. you feel a little humiliated to tell the truth.

"huh, what did you say ?" lando remarks, a little confused by what the blonde just said. the girl sighs and rolls her eyes before showing her smile that you dream of making her swallow. “oh it’s okay, it was just kidding. we all know that y/n isn’t comfortable with people but i love her anyway” she finally added.

you feel like shit. she's talking like you're the worst scumbag on earth and you don't even have the strength to defend yourself. your shyness seems to be taking over. "um well. okay ava just stop talking and instead start playing. you've been losing every round since a while ago" martin says to lighten the atmosphere because everyone seemed disturbed and embarrassed by the situation.

you sigh and slowly drop lando's hand, but he holds it tightly and looks at you. “don't worry baby, i'm going to stay with you. we can relax on the deckchairs if you prefer” lando kindly offers you, he wants to make you feel comfortable.

“as you wish” you shrug your shoulders trying to hide your sadness and pain and lando smiles at you before leading you towards the deckchairs. he lays down comfortably on one and you move towards another one close to his. but he grabs your hand and makes you sit on his legs. “lie on me love” he begs you with his eyes.

you smile shyly at him and stand up. "nah. we're in public lando, i don't want to receive all the teasing from our friends" you declare before lying down on another deckchair. he pouts, disappointed not to feel your body against his. he even brings his deckchair closer to yours so he can hold your hand, or play with a few strands of your hair.

the sun is strong and the beach umbrella protects you, with of course the sunscreen that you put on before. the waves dance loudly and the laughter of your friends fills the atmosphere with joy. it's calming.

well, it was calming for a little while. ava noticed that you weren't with them playing a game of volleyball and while scanning the surroundings, she spotted you on the deckchairs, silly smiles on your races and lando being extremely touchy with you.

she hates this view. she hates you. she would like to tear off your smile and make you disappear. she already imagines herself in your place, laughing loudly with lando. you are not in your place. it's her. you don't deserve lando.

she walks briskly towards the two of you, and your faces turn towards her. the blonde smiles hypocritically and without any hesitation, she sits on the edge of your lover's deckchair. which you don't like at all. and neither does lando, since he doesn't wait a single second to gently push her with his leg.

she seems hurt and shows it openly, putting her hand to her heart to express her pain ironically. "you hurt me lando. i thought we were friends" she said in a sad tone. “we kind of are. but this place is reserved for my girlfriend only” he answers, holding your hand tighter.

you feel more reassured and you feel your heart soar at the words of your lover. he knows when to show others that it's only you who matters. this comment makes ava roll her eyes, but it's subtle enough that only you notice. she sits on another deck chair and turns to you.

“why don’t you come play with us?” she starts to start a conversation. “y/n doesn’t really want to and neither do i, so i'm staying with her.” lando says and she lets a mocking laugh come out of her mouth and you look at her surprised. “it looks like you’re babysitting her” she says, laughing.

did you hear that correctly? is she serious? you can't let this go. “what did you say?” you ask with a frown. she lets another laugh escape and it also attracts lando's attention. "you seem like you're a baby who always needs lando's attention. he looks like a babysitter because of you"

it’s lando’s turn to frown. he holds your hand a little more firmly. “what do you mean ava?” he says, he knows something is wrong. the blonde sighs deeply and rolls her eyes, glaring at y/n.

"look, she's not even capable of playing with others and having fun. she's stopping you from having good times. she's so shy and... introverted that she's ruining your holidays, even your personal space. she's always stuck to you, it seems like she doesn't know how to cope without you it's just... pathetic." she unpacks it all while looking at you with disgust.

oh you feel so humiliated now. you feel tears coming but you hold them back, crying in front of her will only make things worse. you feel so weak and worthless. you blame yourself for being so insecure, being so shy and reserved. because maybe it's the truth.

maybe lando is finally fed up with you and he hates being around you, stuck with an ordinary and shy person like you. he probably can't have the fun he wants because of your shyness. maybe it's true, you're like a child who's ruining his life.

"don't ever talk about her that way again. you really disgust me ava. you don't even measure up to her and you dare open your fucking mouth to say bullshit" lando starts to raise his voice. you can tell he looks extremely angry.

“oh because you also want to defend her?” she asks mockingly. "i defend her and will defend her no matter what happens. you don't have to talk to my girlfriend like that when she is everything you will never be" he spits his words in her face and gives her a cold look.

he jumps up and holds your hand tightly. when his gaze falls on you, it softens. “come on y/n. let’s go back to the hotel” he pulls you towards him and walks you to the hotel pushing ava out of the way. “get out. i don’t want to see you anymore.” he says his last words to her.

the blonde remains standing, alone. a strange, painful and hurtful feeling takes hold of her. the rest of the group stopped playing, observing the scene. now it's ava's turn to feel humiliated. why did she do that?

for your part, you and Lando return to your hotel room. it's silent. he opens the door and you run to take refuge in the bed, so that he joins you a few seconds later. "don't worry baby. don't listen to her, she's talking nonsense. she just wants to destroy you" lando tries to reassure you and you just nod your head.

you smile at him to reassure him in turn, although deep down you are still a little worried. you're still a little hurt. a part of you tells you that it's true, that Lando doesn't like being constantly stuck to you. you don't like it at all.

the rest of the afternoon passes quickly for your boyfriend, but slowly for you. you can't stop overthinking, thinking about ava's words. part of your brain still makes you believe that you don't deserve lando and that he will be better off with ava. it eats you from the inside. you don't like to doubt lando but ava makes you feel vulnerable and insecure.

and your boyfriend noticed it. he noticed that you had become quieter, you only spoke to him very recently. and he starts to worry about you. he suspects deep down that it's because of earlier that you seem off. so he knows exactly what to do.

he proposed, well more like forced you to watch the sunset, just the two of you, him and you on the beach. no group of friends, no ava, no games, no, just the two of you on the beach. you weren't for it at first but you love sunsets and night walks on the beach, so you finally gave up. especially if it's with lando. you walk hand in hand on the warm sand. the waves rock your ears and the sun slowly begins to set on the horizon. how beautiful. you find a comfortable spot and sit down, lando still holding your hand in his.

he gently caresses it with his thumb, pressing a few random kisses on the back of your hand. he rests your head on his shoulder, and you admire the magnificent landscape in the distance. it's soothing, it's romantic.

"beautiful right?” lando murmurs against you, staring into the distance. you smile to yourself. “very beautiful” “just like you” he responds quickly and you can tell he’s grinning. you laugh softly and shake your head. “how cheesy” you blurt out and it’s his turn to let out a soft laugh.

oh his laugh.

although you still hide it, lando knows he needs to talk to you. that he must reassure you. that he has to make you sure how much he loves you and that he would literally do anything for you. because you're the only girl who makes it feel this good.

“y/n” he whispers your name so softly, and it warms your heart. “hmm babe?” you hum. he moves to get a little closer to you and rests his head on yours. "i know what you're thinking about since this afternoon” he begins cautiously not wanting to rush you. he knows your nature.

"w-what ?" you try to hide. but you know very well that he knows you by heart. “please don’t try to avoid the subject. you know what i'm talking about.” he ends up saying.

you sigh. you know you have to talk to him about it, it will only do you good. “yes sorry.” "don't feel sorry love. take your time". he said in such a caring way. he presses a soft kiss against your hair. and another on your cheek. he loves kissing your face so much.

you take a deep breath. you press your hand a little more against his. "it's just... it's just that i feel so insecure when ava talks about me like that. i keep telling myself that i don't deserve you, that you deserve someone who looks like you and who is not your opposite. like ava". you pause but you know he continues to be attentive and listen to you.

"i..." you continue "i keep thinking that it must bore you to stay constantly and always with me. that my shyness surely prevents you from having fun and enjoying your life to the fullest. that i'm like a drag and dating an introvert like me is a bad idea” you finish, tears soon escaping your eyes.

now he faces you. he looks at you with so much gentleness, so much affection and love. his gaze becomes sadder when he hears what is on your heart and his heart suddenly tightens at your words. he hates hearing you talk about yourself like that, devaluing you when all he loves about you is what you're insecure about.

“my baby…” he whispers and places his hands on your cheeks, caressing them gently. he wipes with his thumb a tear that has just escaped your eyes. he places a soft kiss on the tip of your nose and smiles affectionately at you.

"i wish you could see you through my eyes". he places another kiss on your forehead. the sun illuminates his face, the waves seem to transport you.

"i fucking love you. like fucking fucking love you. it's me who doesn’t deserve you. it's me who should hate myself for not always making you feel secure about me and our relationship" he explains. "i don't care about ava, you know that. she is absolutely nothing compared to you. it's not her or someone like her that i want. it's you. you're the only one i want and need so badly".

his hands slide to grab yours. "being constantly by your side is the best thing in the world. i don't care if we are in the worst place in the world, in the worst possible situation, as long as i am with you and by your side i know that everything will be fine. there's nowhere i'd like to be without you. it's just impossible. all i fucking want is to stay with you as long as possible."

he smiles brightly at you before finishing. "and your shyness will not change my love for you or how i live my life. i fell in love with you because of this side of you, because you are introverted and you are so much my opposite that i am extremely attracted to you. it's like that. so don't blame yourself, because i don't want you to change that even though it doesn't even bother me a little bit. i love it. i adore you. i love you and i love you. love you and i will always love you"

you sure you look like nothing now. your eyes must probably be puffy and red but that's okay. lando doesn't care too. you can't help but smile at him with all your teeth. “i love you so much lando. i love you with all my heart and that will never change” you whisper against his neck.

he places thousands of kisses on your head, caressing your back. god how much he loves you too, your love is so deep and strong. “hope it'll never change then” he adds and puts his arms around your waist, bringing you as close to his body as possible.

and without a word, in a calming silence, you stay in each other's arms until the sun sets completely. a starry sky now paints the night. you are still glued to each other, your head on your lover's stretched out legs. you admire the stars while he admires you. it's perhaps one of his favorite activities. just looking at you, like the most beautiful paintings in the world. but soon you notice that he doesn't pay attention to the sky and you point this out to him, teasing him.

“look at the sky, it's so pretty” you hum “but you're prettier” he simply retorts, telling the truth. you roll your eyes and let out a small laugh. “never tired of being cheesy” you laugh shyly. “never” he adds while smiling. but he ends up raising his head towards the sky. it is true that the stars are infinitely beautiful. they shine so much, and he can't help but describe them like that, as he describes you the same way. he runs his hand through your hair, eyes anchored to the stars.

“do you see all these stars?” he asks and you hum in response. "i would hunt them all for you if you asked me. i would bring them all to you if that's what you want. ask me to bring down the moon and i would do it without hesitation just for you" he said softly, a silly smile on his lips.

you can’t help but burst out laughing. “how romantic” you tease him but deep down you melt, feeling so confident after all those sweet words. he lowers his head to look at you, smiling fully.

he admires you for a moment, take in your features. his heart never stops beating faster at the sight of you, even after weeks of being in a relationship. and he leans down to finally kiss you, his lips capturing yours perfectly. gosh he loves kissing you so much, he might never stop. he pulls back and pecks your nose.

“love you always, my introvert girl” he smiles softly.

[xanderisbraindead]

How to get the confidence to dress alternative in public: LONG POST {from a scene king!!}

I hear a lot of young teens online saying things along the lines of, “I would love to dress like that but I’m scared”. We’ve all been there, it takes bravery to step outside the box. Since 2020, there has been an uptick in alternative fashion, which makes things a little better, but it doesn’t mitigate the fear some people feel.

As someone who has been dressing alternative all throughout highschool and who I’d like to think has some 17 year old wisdom, this is how you can get the confidence to dress how you want. This can apply to other alternative fashion types like decora, punk, goth ect ect.

This post goes with a youtube video!! You can just watch it if you dont wanna read

Realize why you’re scared: Is it because you’re afraid of being different or picked on? Are you afraid of change? Do you think your friends/peers won’t care about you anymore? These are all valid reasons, and once you know why, you can start to tackle it. Change isn’t bad, everyone changes, change is natural. Look around at nature, seasons change, we grow and age, animals migrate and go through metamorphosis. You don’t have to be confined to one thing forever just because you weren’t born that way. As for the fear of being picked on, fuck those people. Do you know why people tease others? It’s because they’re insecure. Hurt people hurt people. When people see you being yourself and they wish they could do that, they take it out on you because in their heart, they’re jealous. You’re not the problem, they are. (If you’re afraid of being physically hurt, that is completely different and I would not advise putting your safety in jeopardy)

Start slow. While you’re still building your wardrobe, you can start slowly stepping out with small accessories and such. Add some kandi to your outfit or a tattoo choker. This is mainly to ease yourself into it. Big changes can be pretty scary and jarring, so easing into it can help you.

Have some role models. By this I mean, have people you look up to, people that are inspiration to you. Me? Some of mine here on tumblr are @xx-may4-malic3-xx , @xx-k1tsun3-k1d-xx , @xxdespairfactionashtonxx , @cigsnvalentines to name a few. Theres also some old scene queens, musicians, ect. Find whoever you want. I’m reccomending this, because when you see other people doing the same as you, it makes you go “if they can do it, so can I”. Most people probably wont even mind if you send them an ask about specific things (ik i dont, i love them).

Kinda the same point, but build a community. We have a pretty good community here on tumblr. Community is the backbone to everything. Ideally it would be someone irl, but not everyone is lucky enough to have cool irl friendz.

Fake it till you make it. Nobody has to know you’re scared but you. I’m not saying get super extroverted if you’re introverted and go around exuding confidence like a lazar beam. Dance in your mirror, hype yourself up. Take cool pictures and edit them, even if you don’t post them online. Learn to walk with your head up, again SLOWLY. As you start introducing more alternative elements into your wardrobe, wear them with pride.

Be the change you want to see. What I mean is if you want people to be kinder, you be kinder. Try to compliment someone every day. People actually aren’t as rude as you think, maybe I’m an optimist, but I think the average person isn’t terrible. Complimenting other people also makes you feel good, try it. Piggybacking off this point, don’t take things so personally. I know if can be easier to harp on the negative looks and comments you got versus the good ones, but you have to look past this. There are gonna be bad apples always, but their misdeeds can blind you from the people who think you’re pretty cool. Don’t let one bad apple ruin the bunch.

Lastly, realize being cringe is okay. Not just realize it, but internalize it. What even is cringe? Define cringe… Weird? Different? Everyone is different, everyone is weird about something. As I said earlier, some people are just too scared to be themselves. In 80 years when you’re old and looking back on your life, would you rather regret not being your authentic self, or think of all the fond memories of your life? Regret is one of the worse things in life, it’s terrible. There is nobody you can be but yourself. You’re you, so be you.

Remember that this is something that can take months or years. I feel like this past year and a half I have become fully confident in my fashion. I have been dressing alternative for 5 years for reference. I hope this could help someone.

If I wasnt clear on anything, feel free to send me an ask! Im more than happy to help!!

[sarabethsilver]

Am I the only one who thinks Jess and Lorelai are nothing alike?

Aside from what I'd consider surface-level similarities, like a propensity for sarcasm or many opinions on music, these two have nothing in common. Yes, they both had bad childhoods... but they were bad in opposite ways, and these two emerged with diametrically opposed worldviews.

Let's consider the Big Five personality traits, just to give us a framework. At a basic level, are their personalities compatible?

Extraversion. Well, that's an easy one. Lorelai is the quintessential extrovert. She thrives on social interactions, she tries to befriend everyone she meets, and she adores chit-chat. Jess, on the other hand, could not be more of an introvert if he tried.

Agreeableness. This includes one's ability to cooperate and trust others. Lorelai believes in the goodness of others. She trusts her friends, her coworkers, and her entire town. She places a high value on community, and she gets along with pretty much everyone. Jess has no such trust in others, and he's famous for NOT getting along with people. I don't see him placing much value on community. I think that's why he ends up working at a job with exactly four other people, because that's probably his max capacity for trusting others.

Neuroticism. One's tendency to experience negative emotions. Lorelai is, at baseline, a happy person. She finds great joy in small things. She wakes up in a good mood most days. Jess, for the majority of the time we know him, does not. I would describe him as irritable, withdrawn, and/or anxious most of the time. Even when good things happen to him, he doesn't trust it. He anticipates being disappointed, and when that happens (Jimmy re-abandoning him, Luke kicking him out, Luke guilting him into Liz's wedding, Rory using him in a revenge scheme)... Jess is sad but unsurprised. These events fit with his worldview, and with his general mood state. Lorelai, on the other hand, gets her heart shattered by her parents each and every time; she always tries to trust them, and then she's hurt all over again when she can't.

Conscientiousness. Jess and Lorelai are both incredibly smart and hard-working, and they both end up thriving in careers they're passionate about. But conscientiousness also includes organization and adherence to social norms. Lorelai believes in systems. She works at the same place for nearly two decades, progressively moving up the hierarchy. She diligently works at her education over many years. In short: Lorelai trusts that taking the 'right steps' in an organized manner will yield results. Jess has no such faith in systems. He obviously doesn't trust formal education. Jess is hard-working, but he's far more spontaneous when it comes to his career; he bounces from one job to the next. His success comes by his own hand: a short novel he wrote alone.

Openness to experience. They're probably more alike on this trait. Lorelai and Jess are both intellectually curious, they both have passionate interests, and they're both great at problem-solving. But there are important differences, too. Lorelai strongly prefers her familiar routine. She is highly intolerant of change, even on a small scale. Jess has never had a routine. He's pretty damn tolerant when his life is repeatedly turned upside down, and seemingly goes wherever the tide takes him. He manages to find something he enjoys and/or feels productive in, no matter where he is.

I think their personalities are very different, and then I think those opposite childhoods shaped them further.

Lorelai's childhood was characterized by hyper-judgmental parents trying to micromanage every facet of her existence. When Lorelai CHOSE to leave, it was a specific rejection of her parents trying to force her into a specific lifestyle. Outside of rejecting that, Lorelai broadly trusts the world at large. Her late adolescence was defined by a world that 'caught' her; Lorelai is surrounded by love, acceptance, and support as she pursues her dreams. The entire town envelops her in this protective bubble. Hence: her belief that the world is good and people are trustworthy.

Jess' childhood was characterized by parents who could not care less about anything he does. When Jess was FORCED to leave, it was another data point to prove that people cannot be trusted. His late adolescence was defined by a world that rejected him. Jess is surrounded by people who are disinterested at best, angrily rejecting at worst. And when he's at his most vulnerable, he is ejected from his last remaining safety net. Hence: his belief that people and systems at large cannot be trusted. You can only rely on yourself. I'd argue that even Adult Jess has boundaries about a mile high.

So no, I don't think Lorelai rejected Jess because she was reminded of herself. I think she fundamentally struggled to understand any part of his worldview. And it was all made perfectly clear that first night: Lorelai, with her abundance of trust in the good will of others, simply wanted Jess to understand how lucky he was to have Luke. And Jess, who had long since learned that nobody can be trusted, looked at her like she was speaking another language. It wasn't their similarities that drove them apart; it was their differences.

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

aita for calling out someone for being manipulative towards a trans friend? Names have been changed for privacy reasons and TLDR at the end because this is long.

I (24f) am cis but have had a lot of trans friends (binary, nonbinary, and neopronoun) throughout the years and am very supportive so i take this very seriously. So I met this girl my first year in college (we were 18 at the time) and we became friends. We're polar opposites, she talks a lot and I don't, she parties a lot and I like to do more sophisticated things, she's a typical extrovert basically, and I'm more introverted. Anne (24f) was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder. I don't know when, she just told me this years ago. I've seen tiktoks about bpd and researched Google about bpd a little so I know all about how they have fave persons and will "mimic" people in the friend group and become clingy, manipulate, etc. I've seen pics of her in high school, noticed that she was a theater kid, she said she was good at acting and even said she thinks her bpd helped with her acting although I'm not sure how, but she said she only joined the theater club because a boy she had a crush on was in theater. That should've been my first red flag but I was naive. She has a degree in something else (not theater) because our second year in college her favorite character in a TV show did a certain job, she got interested in that, and now she also does that as a living. She doesn't talk about her bpd, she's only mentioned it a handful of times. I can count on one hand how many times. And I get it because she said someone once told her people with bpd should be sterilized and not be allowed near children. Which is really messed up and I hate that someone said that.

However on with the situation. One of our friends Mike (25m) is a trans man. We met him four years ago. He's very handsome, broody, introverted, intelligent, great listener, very accepting and understanding, similar to me but opposite to her. Now we didn't know he was trans until two years ago, because I asked him on a date and he turned me down, and when I asked why he told me that he was mostly T4T and only viewed me as a friend. We were like woah you're trans, okay that's cool, etc. He explained that he was lucky enough to get on puberty blockers and transition young etc which is why he passes. I said okay I'm not trans and you're mostly T4T fair enough.

Well last year Anne suddenly tells us that she is trans too. She says she's bigender. She says she is okay with either she her or he him because she feels like a man and a woman at the same time. Some days she's a woman, some days she's a man, and some days she's both, according to her. She says she does not like they them pronouns. Suddenly her and Mike are spending all this extra time together. Last month he confided in me that he thinks he's in love with her, after years of him only seeing her as a friend, and then they started officially dating.

Here's the problem: she has not changed her outward appearance, her name, started any kind of medical stuff, joined any groups, bought a binder etc. We all continue to call her she and her because she fully presents as female and doesn't have a problem with it. Also she's very effeminate in body language, the way she talks, etc. I know technically I could call her a he or a him, too, but she never asks me to or corrects people when they call her she because well technically she is a she too. Mike is the only one who uses he and him pronouns with her as often as she and her, but she has never thanked him. It really feels like she's saying she's trans and then going about her life exactly as a cis woman simply to convince Mike to date her.

First off, Anne and Mike are NOT compatible. She likes to party, smoke weed, talks a lot, I'm not sure how she graduated with such good grades or why she does so well in her job because she is honestly a LOT to handle and I'm saying that as nice as possible. Mike would never touch weed or go to clubs and he says he would be fine staying home while she does those things but how could you trust someone to party while high and not hook up with others? I've seen her make out with five people in one night at a frat party. They also had wildly different childhoods, such as she grew up in a conservative community and doesn't speak to her family, and he grew up in a liberal area and is close with his family. But more importantly she has a history of joining theater because she had a crush on someone in theater (plus she admits she is good at acting, so maybe she is acting now?) and getting a degree and job in a field because a favorite fictional character did that and now this? It feels like she was attracted to him, found out he usually dates other trans people, and found a way to continue being cis but claim to be trans without having to do anything trans related, basically mimicing her favorite person. As soon as they met they hit it off, or should I say she clung to him and pretended to have the same likes and dislikes whenever they were alone I assume.

It sounds terrible I know, which is why I discussed this with a group chat first that neither of them are in, and the group chat not only agreed that she is far too "obnoxious" for him (those were NOT my words!) but that she is faking being trans in an attempt to make him fall in love with her (which seems to be working.) I would NEVER have gone further without making sure with them first. So then a few of the people in my group chat and I held an intervention with Anne alone. The six of us (the others don't live close enough to come) met up with Anne at her place and told her what she was doing was wrong and gross and that she needed to get help for her bpd and to stop catfishing Mike. She didn't take well to what was said, which I anticipated, but she went crazy. She was screaming at us, insulting us, sobbing while yelling etc, literally said if we ever contacted her again she would call the cops, so we left.

I immediately called Mike before she could and asked him to meet me at a restaurant nearby and that it was very important. Since Mike doesn't know anyone in the group chat I went alone and I explained EVERYTHING before she could gaslight and manipulate him even further. He left, did not finish or pay for his food. I messaged him several times, but a few hours later he texted me to never to speak to him again, and then blocked me on everything. I showed up to his house and Anne was there. Mike said if I ever contacted him again he would get a restraining order on me so I left. I've discussed this with the group chat and now suddenly half of them changed their mind and don't want to talk about it anymore. Several of them left the group chat. Not only that but several of my friends who know either Mike or Anne or both have blocked me on everything. When I've tried to contact these friends through other means and explain everything, they either didn't respond or said for me never to contact them again because I was being transphobic. Listen I know under NORMAL circumstances you shouldn't question when someone comes out but this is NOT a normal situation, and now I am concerned Anne is unsafe for Mike but also an unsafe person to know, as she literally is trying to destroy my life because I called her out on some seriously messed up and abusive behavior.

TLDR am I the asshole for trying to protect my trans friend from a potential stalker?

What are these acronyms?

[sevinagreatergood]

Please, Lily fans that treat Snape like the Boogeyman, you just go fuck yourself. Honestly. Lily appears for what? Like a chapter or something and she:

- Watches her friend being bullied for 5 years.

- As a prefect abuses her authority to favor her Gryffindor friends

- As a prefect calls Snape ungrateful from being saved by a murder that one of his bullies orchestrated.

- Compares her Gryffindor friend their problem to her childhood friend his problem that he suffered from since year 1 as a prefect by saying "at least they don't use dark arts"

- Smiles at his sexual assault as a prefect. "As though" and "twitched" means there was still a grin of some sort for a split second. That Harry could recognize it from far means it was very obvious from close

- Left a victim to their abusors as a prefect

- Made friends with people that spoke ill of Snape and their friendship

- Uses those friends as a reason to bury a friendship

- Never bothered to apologize herself for leaving him there hanging with James that litterally asked next if he should remove the underwear next.

- Went to date his bully next a year later

I mean, if she didn't like to fight the marauders in a combat. She could've at least called the teacher. I mean, she's a prefect AND the brightest witch, let her do something, my god. She can't possibly go confront those idiots after knowing them for 5 years that they WONT listen to her, whilst fully aware her authority doesn't work on them, so she relies on luck that they will back off.

I know it's mysoginistic to say that her most useful part was popping out Harry, but please. By god, tell me something else that was so worthy of her that she did? Ending the war? Couldn't have been done without Snape. Be a good friend? Failed horribly at that. Get a good husband? Failed in that too. I mean, her character was written by a mysoginistic woman that hates basically everything outside the normal heterosexual Christian idea of a stability and family.

Lily was bound to fail as a justified character the more we progressed as a society anyway. Believe me when I say, nobody would even stomach Lily. She's just that girl that would drive you insane by giving small jabs at you, be that toxic positivity person in your life, befriend people that hate you and say that everyone deserves a chance.

She would NOT take your feelings into consideration at all, if you're not the same fierce personality as her. So all the introverts out there would be fucked and be treated like her carpet. People with common sense wouldn't even like her. Imagine talking to her about abusive household and child neglect and she would be there "Well, there are worse things in the world than your depression."

Or go "At least you're alive. I know some people who aren't."

She genuinely makes me think of such people and makes my skin crawl. She's toxic positivity. It may look nice and sweet but it does not. All it does is make you feel bad and invalidate your own emotions, trauma and process. So please Lily fan while simultaneously being a snater. Know that you would be swiped left by her if you are not useful to her in any way or have a hard life.

(Remus? Bro, the kid was trying to be as normal as possible and acted normal as possible. He didn't want to talk about his troubles at all, stomaching his secrets and whatnot. So obviously she wouldn't be confronted with "it's a hard knock life for us" theme out there. Aside the once a month occurrence that his friends looked after too, it WAS an easy person to deal with.)

She treated a friend of 7 years like a charity case. Who the fuck do you think you are then? Not a better friend, that's for sure. If your life was tough, miserable and exhausting. You better not lean on her. Because she wants the friends who are fun, extrovert, not that troubled by life, like herself.

She had an amazing life. Clearly well fed and wealthy enough for her sister to look down on Snape's poverty (which Lily didn't). Obviously, she couldn't handle a miserable wreck of a human being by her side whose life existed of neglect and abuse. That's your Lily. That's canon Lily. A girl incapable of understanding deep rooted emotions, unwilling to hear you out even, then dump you when things get too tough or heated.

Because she herself was a privileged girl that got everything (just like her crappy dead husband, James) so her emotion range is that of a rock. It's time for people to wake up from that disgusting Lily slumber they have. Actually, many of the marauders fans should wake up.

You would not be part of their friendship and probably would be their next chew toy. Some maraudersfans at least accept that their characters are trashy. But Lily fans? It's like "if you dare touch her, etc" bro, she's horrible.

Many might argue that she was not as horrible as James and what not. But to me she was. She was worse than James. Because she was the actual one and only friend of Snape. The girl that could basically represent his emotions. And she abused it. You would be an imbecile if you didn't notice how much Snape is dependent on you.

She didn't let him down slowly and softly. But basically ripped his heart out and kicked him to the curb. Who the fuck even breaks up a friendship of 7 years like "Uhm, well you know, right? My friends don't like you so I don't either and my friend did keep telling me about how much they hate you but I was protecting you from them you know? Now I can't. Otherwise I look like a loser."

That's how the conversation sounded to me.

[makeila04]

The ideal woman for Russell Adler

I remember being asked this: “What kind of person would be the perfect lover for a man like Adler?”

And I replied: "Short answer: Me, lol. Jokes aside, I might be guilty of using myself as a reference here, but definitely not just any woman is for Adler—I think we all agree on that. First, I’d say that at 54, age is probably the last thing he’d care about. Whether you’re 20, 30, 40, or whatever age (as long as you’re an adult), I don’t see him caring much. What he would care about is how intelligent you are, whether you can keep up with his pace and lifestyle, because he’s going to expect you to adapt to his life, not the other way around, since he’s a workaholic. I’ve known men similar to Adler—I can even compare him to my dad in many ways, like both being ENTJs—and I can definitely tell you it’s a very complicated personality type in the MBTI. Luckily, I’m an INTJ, and over the years, I’ve learned to understand this type of personality. Someone like Adler wouldn’t want someone incompetent, dependent, or inept by his side. He doesn’t want someone who becomes a burden or someone he constantly has to protect. Adler would want a lover who energizes him, someone who fills him with energy, especially now that age might be weighing on him. He’d also want a girl who isn’t submissive, who doesn’t say yes to everything, who challenges him but also lets herself be dominated.

Adler’s personality is one that solves problems before they start. He won’t order for you at a restaurant, but he’s someone who’ll make decisions for you, believing he knows what’s best for you, often without telling you. So it’ll be a constant push and pull, which can be exhausting for many. Adler isn’t someone who’ll make unnecessary scenes, so he’ll look for someone who doesn’t create drama or scenes. No one insecure or immature. She’d have to be independent, maybe even a loner like him, since she’d need her own life because Adler hardly spends any time at home. He’d probably want a lover willing to learn, especially if you’re much younger than him or your job isn’t being a CIA black ops agent. I know he’d love it if his lover asked him to teach them things like shooting and reloading a gun, boxing, self-defense, and even if you went for a drive, he’d probably explain how to evade a car during a chase—that would be his way of saying “I love you.” The girl would have to be very perceptive because Adler won’t say “I love you,” but you’ll see it in how he cares for you—gifts, advice, shared activities, maybe even related to his work, etc. He’s more demonstrative, so he’d value a girl who doesn’t constantly ask him to say how much he loves her.

That’s why, within the MBTI, one of the best compatibilities is ENTJ and INTJ. They’re basically the same, but Adler being extroverted (ENTJ) and me, for example, being introverted (INTJ), makes it so that in social situations where I don’t feel like interacting, Adler would take over the conversation without me having to say anything, which complements me by taking a weight off my shoulders. But I understand that many people might not like this, and that’s understandable. Especially in the long term, I wonder if someone who meets all the characteristics I mentioned would still stay with someone like Adler.

Being so intelligent, you’d have to ask yourself if you want to be with someone as dangerous and unstable as him, given his life, work, and emotional scars, or if you’d prefer someone more stable and reliable than Adler, since it’s very likely he’d be distrustful even with his lover or worry that something might happen to them because of him. He’d care deeply about his lover’s safety and self-confidence above all else. It’s a bit long, but I wanted to expand as much as I could (and even then, I know I’ve missed things).

As you can see, this point is very extensive because Adler is complex, and a profile like his requires it."

And…the truth is I would like to go a little deeper into the subject. So…

Characteristics of the ideal woman according to Russell Adler

1- Intelligent, sharp, and quick-witted Not just to hold a conversation with him, but because Adler has no patience for mediocrity. He wants someone who understands things quickly, who doesn’t need everything explained in detail. He likes someone who can grasp the situation without needing many words. In other words, she must be intuitive, someone who can anticipate him, just as he anticipates others. Someone who can surprise him.

Not just any woman can be with Adler. He needs someone clever, capable of keeping up with his pace and anticipating his moves. Intelligence isn’t just measured in knowledge but in the ability to read between the lines, interpret nonverbal cues, and understand his way of thinking. It’s not enough to be clever or intelligent in an academic sense. To stand by Adler’s side, you need strategic intelligence—the ability to read people, anticipate moves, and recognize when he’s manipulating or testing boundaries. He doesn’t respect those who are easy to read or predictable; if he perceives weakness in someone’s mind, he’ll exploit it without hesitation. A woman with ironclad self-control, who doesn’t crumble under his tests, who understands his games without reacting impulsively, will earn his respect.

2- Independent, but not distant He’s not looking for someone who depends on him. He doesn’t want burdens. He wants a woman who has her own life, who doesn’t need him to be happy but still chooses him. But—and this is important—he also wouldn’t want someone who makes him feel completely dispensable. Adler is a man who needs to feel that his presence matters, that he’s useful in your life in some way. A woman who never asks for his help or advice might make him feel like he has no role in her life, and that would make him lose interest.

He doesn’t want someone who depends on him for everything. He needs a woman with her own life, capable of handling herself and not demanding his constant presence. Someone emotionally stable, who doesn’t create unnecessary drama and knows how to stay calm in stressful situations.

3- Perceptive with her emotions (and with his) Adler isn’t a man who expresses his feelings directly. He won’t say “I love you” easily, but he’ll show it through actions. His ideal woman must be sharp enough to read those signals. She must be someone who understands his body language, who knows when he’s worried without him saying it, who can read the tension in his jaw, the weight in his gaze, the slight change in his tone of voice. And most importantly: she must know when to push him and when to leave him alone.

Emotional outbursts have no place in Adler’s life. He handles situations with coldness and expects the same from those around him. A woman who confronts him with yelling or dramatics will immediately be pushed out of his circle of trust. What he respects is calculated responsiveness, strategic coldness, calmness in chaos. A woman who knows how to handle him with intelligence, who doesn’t pressure him but also doesn’t disappear, will be the only one capable of holding his interest.

4- Tough, but not impenetrable While Adler doesn’t want someone fragile or dramatic, he also isn’t looking for an emotionally impenetrable wall. His biggest issue is trust, so the woman who is with him must be someone who can be strong without becoming completely inaccessible. She should be someone who can allow herself to be vulnerable at the right moments, someone who can open up to him, even if subtly. If he sees her as completely closed off, he might feel it’s impossible to reach her, which would make him lose interest.

5- Not submissive, but not someone who confronts him all the time Adler wants a woman with character, someone who isn’t afraid of him, who challenges him, who makes him smile with clever responses or sharp remarks.

BUT.

He also wants balance. He’s not looking for a constant power struggle because, deep down, Adler is someone who needs to maintain control of situations. If she’s challenging all the time, she’ll wear him out. But if she never challenges him, she’ll bore him. She needs to know when to yield and when to stand her ground. He wants someone who doesn’t say yes to everything, who pushes him, who questions him. But also someone who knows when to let him take the lead. He’ll make decisions for her without consulting her because he believes he knows what’s best. She must be strong enough to stand up to him when necessary, but also shrewd enough to pick her battles.

While he’ll never fully let his guard down, there are moments when he’ll lower it. But this won’t happen immediately or easily. His love is a war of endurance, where the woman who is with him will have to prove she won’t break under his distance, silence, or calculated coldness. However, patience doesn’t mean submission. A woman who tolerates everything without questioning him will lose his interest. He needs someone with a strong sense of self, who knows when to yield and when to set an unshakable boundary.

6- A youthful spirit, regardless of age Not because he necessarily needs to be with someone in their 20s, but because he wants someone who makes him feel alive. Someone with energy, a desire to learn, a touch of rebellion, someone who isn’t as jaded with life as he is. A woman in her 20s might, without realizing it, remind him of what it feels like to be in motion, to feel adrenaline, to have that inner fire. But it’s also a double-edged sword because if she’s too immature, too naive, or too dependent, he’ll find her unbearable. The key isn’t age, but vitality. At 54, Adler needs a woman who revitalizes him, who challenges him, who makes him feel alive. This doesn’t mean being explosive or hyperactive, but rather someone with character who gives him reasons to keep moving forward.

7- Self-confidence and self-assurance He doesn’t want someone jealous, dependent, or insecure. He wants a woman who trusts herself, who doesn’t need his constant validation. She also needs to trust him. His job puts him in contact with danger and untrustworthy people. If his partner distrusts him or constantly demands explanations, the relationship will quickly deteriorate.

Adler wouldn’t tolerate a fragile or emotionally dependent woman. Someone needy, who seeks constant validation or expects him to open up easily, will simply run into a wall of ice. He’s not a man who comforts with sweet words or offers gratuitous tenderness. The woman by his side must be strong, but not in a naive way; it’s not enough to be independent—she must understand the harshness of the world, grasp the game he’s playing, and accept his shadows without trying to change them.

8- Apprentice and Ally in His World If you don’t belong to his world, the ideal is that you at least have curiosity about it. He enjoys teaching: shooting, self-defense, evasion tactics… His way of saying "I love you" is by sharing his knowledge so his partner can survive on her own.

Adler isn’t looking for salvation or redemption. He doesn’t want someone who tries to heal him or asks too much about his past. In fact, the woman who truly has a chance with him must be able to accept that he will always keep secrets, that there will always be inaccessible parts of him, and that his love will never be completely unconditional. In return, he’ll offer loyalty and protection, but on his own terms.

9- Ability to Read His Love Language He’s not someone who says "I love you" easily, but he shows it through actions: protection, meaningful gifts, advice, subtle gestures. His ideal partner must be perceptive enough to pick up on these gestures and not need constant reassurance of his love.

10- Socially Complementary As an ENTJ, Adler can navigate any environment. His partner doesn’t need to be as extroverted, but she must know how to adapt. An INTJ, for example, fits perfectly because she enjoys her independence and prefers to observe rather than interact, letting Adler take the lead in social situations when necessary.

11- Awareness of the Risks of Their Relationship Loving Adler isn’t easy. His life is dangerous, his mind is a fortress, and his relationship can feel like an endless game of chess where he’s always one step ahead. His ideal partner must be strong enough to handle the uncertainty, occasional distrust, and risks that come with being with someone like him.

In conclusion…

It wouldn’t be a conventional romance. There wouldn’t be effusive declarations of love or overflowing gestures of tenderness. Instead, there would be complicity in the shadows, fleeting moments of vulnerability that only she would see, protection disguised as indifference, and constant tests to measure her resilience. He’s a man of long silences, subtle tests, and constant challenges. His love doesn’t feel like a refuge, but like a trial by fire. But for the woman who can match his energy, who understands his language of war, and who knows when to get closer and when to step back, the bond will be unbreakable. Adler isn’t a man who loves lightly, but if he does, it will be a love that marks him forever.

Recuerdo que me preguntaron esto: “¿Qué tipo de persona sería el amante perfecto para un hombre como Adler?”

Y yo respondí: “Respuesta corta: yo ah XD Nah fuera de broma, quizás peque de usarme de autorreferencia en parte, pero definitivamente no cualquier mujer es para Adler pero creo que eso lo tenemos todos en claro.

Primero diría que a sus 54 años creo que claramente la edad es lo último que le importaría.

Si tienes 20, 30, 40 o la edad que sea (siempre que seas mayor de edad) no veo que le importe demasiado. Lo que sí le importaría es cuán inteligente eres, si puedes seguirle el paso y su ritmo de vida, porque te va a exigir (no literalmente) que tu te adaptes a su vida y no a la inversa ya que es un workaholic. 

He conocido hombres similares a Adler, puedo hasta compararlo con mi padre en varios aspectos, como que por ejemplo ambos son ENTJ y definitivamente puedo decirte que es una personalidad muy complicada en el MBTI, por suerte yo soy INTJ y he aprendido con los años a entender este tipo de personalidad.

Alguien como Adler no querría a alguien incompetente, dependiente o inepto a su lado. No quiere a alguien que se vuelva una carga para él o que te deba estar protegiendo siempre.

Adler querría una amante que lo vitalice seguro, alguien que lo llene de energía, sobre todo ahora si la edad le está pesando. Además querría una chica que no sea sumisa, que no le diga que si a todo, que lo rete, que lo desafíe pero que a la vez se deje dominar. La personalidad de Adler es una que resuelve problemas antes de que empiecen. No pedirá por ti en un restaurante pero si es alguien que tomará decisiones por ti creyendo que sabe lo que es mejor para ti, mayormente sin que te lo diga. Así que será un tira y afloja constante, lo que puede ser desgastante para muchas.Adler no es alguien que hará escenas innecesarias así que buscará a alguien que no haga dramas o escenas. Nadie que sea inseguro o inmaduro.

Debe ser una chica que sea independiente, tal vez solitaria como él, ya que deberá ser una chica con vida propia porque Adler no pasa casi nada de tiempo en casa.Seguramente quiera una amante dispuesta a aprender, sobre todo si eres mucho más joven que él o tu trabajo no consiste en ser un black ops de la CIA. Sé que amaría que su amante le pida o pregunte para que le enseñe cosas como disparar y recargar un arma, boxeo, defensa personal, e incluso si fueran a dar un paseo en auto seguramente te explicaría en medio del camino sobre cómo evadir un auto en una persecución, esa sería la forma de decir “te amo” de Russell Adler.

La chica deberá ser muy perspicaz porque Adler, no te dirá “te amo” pero lo verás en cómo se preocupa por ti, regalos, consejos, actividades compartidas tal vez relacionadas a su trabajo, etc. Es más demostrativo así que valoraría más a una chica que no le esté pidiendo que le diga cuánto la ama cada dos segundos.Por eso dentro del MBTI una de las mejores compatibilidades dentro de las personalidades es ENTJ e INTJ.

Son básicamente lo mismo pero que Adler sea extrovertido (ENTJ) y por ejemplo yo introvertida (INTJ) hace que, por ejemplo, me imagine situaciones sociales donde yo no tuviera ganas de interactuar con alguien y antes de que pase algo Adler ya toma la conversación por sí mismo sin que yo tenga que decir nada, lo que a mi me complementa por sacarme un peso de encima. Pero entiendo que hayan muchas personas que esto no les va a gustar y es comprensible. Sobre todo a largo plazo es cuando más me pregunto si aún alguien reúne todas las características que mencioné… se quedaría con alguien como Adler. Ya que siendo tan inteligente tendrías que replantearte si quieres estar con alguien tan peligroso e inestable, por su vida, trabajo y cicatrices emocionales, como él o prefieres a alguien no solo más estable sino confiable como Adler, ya que es muy probable que hasta pueda ser desconfiado con su amante o tema que algo le pase por su culpa. Le pesara mucho la seguridad y confianza de su amante hacia sí misma antes que otra cosa. Es un poco largo quizás pero quería explayarme lo más que pudiera (y aún así sé que me faltarán cosas). Como verás este punto es muy extenso porque Adler es complejo y así lo requiere un perfil como el suyo.” Y…la verdad me gustaría profundizar un poco más en el tema. Así que… Características de la mujer ideal para Russell Adler

1- Inteligente, aguda y rápida de mente

No solo para mantener una conversación con él, sino porque Adler no tiene paciencia para la mediocridad. Quiere a alguien que entienda las cosas rápido, que no necesite que se lo expliquen todo con detalle. Le gusta alguien que capte la situación sin necesidad de muchas palabras.

Es decir, debe ser intuitiva, alguien que pueda anticiparse a él, tal como él se anticipa a los demás. Alguien que le sorprenda. No cualquier mujer puede estar con Adler. Él necesita a alguien astuta, capaz de seguir su ritmo y anticiparse a sus movimientos. La inteligencia no solo se mide en conocimientos, sino en la capacidad de leer entre líneas, interpretar señales no verbales y comprender su forma de pensar. No basta con ser astuta o inteligente en un sentido académico. Para estar al lado de Adler, se necesita inteligencia estratégica, saber leer a las personas, anticipar movimientos y reconocer cuando él está manipulando o probando los límites. Él no respeta a quienes son fáciles de leer o predecibles; si percibe debilidad en la mente de alguien, la explotará sin dudarlo. Una mujer con autocontrol férreo, que no se desmorone ante sus pruebas, que entienda sus juegos sin reaccionar de forma impulsiva, ganará su respeto. 2- Independiente, pero no distante

No busca a alguien que dependa de él. No quiere cargas. Quiere una mujer que tenga su propia vida, que no lo necesite para ser feliz, pero que aún así lo elija.

Pero—y esto es importante—tampoco querría a alguien que lo haga sentir completamente prescindible. Adler es un hombre que necesita sentir que su presencia importa, que él es útil en tu vida de alguna manera.

Una mujer que jamás le pida ayuda o consejo podría hacerle sentir que no tiene un rol en su vida, y eso lo llevaría a perder interés. No quiere a alguien que dependa de él para todo. Necesita una mujer con una vida propia, capaz de manejarse sola y no exigir su presencia constante.

Alguien emocionalmente estable, que no haga dramas innecesarios y que sepa mantener la calma en situaciones de estrés.

3- Perspicaz con sus emociones (y con las de él)

Adler no es un hombre que exprese lo que siente de manera directa. No dirá "te amo" fácilmente, pero lo demostrará con acciones. Su mujer ideal debe ser lo suficientemente astuta como para leer esas señales.

Debe ser alguien que entienda su lenguaje no verbal, que sepa cuándo está preocupado sin que él lo diga, que pueda leer la tensión en su mandíbula, el peso en su mirada, el ligero cambio en su tono de voz.

Y lo más importante: debe saber cuándo presionarlo y cuándo dejarlo en paz.Las explosiones emocionales no tienen lugar en la vida de Adler. Él maneja las situaciones con frialdad y espera lo mismo de quienes lo rodean. Una mujer que lo confronte con gritos o con dramatismo quedará fuera de su círculo de confianza de inmediato. Lo que él respeta es la capacidad de respuesta calculada, la frialdad estratégica, la calma en el caos. Una mujer que sepa manejarlo con inteligencia, que no lo presione pero que tampoco desaparezca, será la única capaz de mantener su interés.

4- Dura, pero no impenetrable

Si bien Adler no quiere a alguien frágil o dramático, tampoco busca una pared emocional impenetrable. Su mayor problema es la confianza, así que la mujer que esté con él debe ser alguien que pueda ser fuerte, pero sin volverse completamente inaccesible.

Debe ser alguien que pueda permitirse la vulnerabilidad en los momentos adecuados, alguien que pueda abrirse con él, aunque sea de forma sutil. Si ve que ella es completamente hermética, podría sentir que es imposible llegar a ella, lo cual lo haría perder el interés.

5- No una sumisa, pero tampoco alguien que lo enfrente todo el tiempo

Adler quiere una mujer con carácter, alguien que no le tenga miedo, que lo desafíe, que le saque una sonrisa con respuestas inteligentes o con comentarios agudos.

PERO.

También quiere que haya un balance. No busca una lucha constante de poder, porque en el fondo, Adler es alguien que necesita mantener el control de las situaciones.

Si ella es desafiante todo el tiempo, va a cansarlo. Pero si nunca lo desafía, lo aburrirá.

Debe saber cuándo ceder y cuándo plantarse. Quiere a alguien que no le diga que sí a todo, que lo rete, que lo cuestione. Pero también alguien que sepa cuándo dejarse guiar.

Él tomará decisiones por ella sin consultarlo, porque cree que sabe lo que es mejor. Ella debe ser lo suficientemente fuerte para plantarle cara cuando sea necesario, pero también lo suficientemente astuta para elegir sus batallas. Si bien nunca se entregará completamente, hay momentos en los que bajará la guardia. Pero esto no ocurrirá de inmediato ni con facilidad. Su amor es una guerra de resistencia, donde la mujer que esté con él tendrá que demostrar que no se quebrará ante su distancia, su silencio o su frialdad calculada. Sin embargo, paciencia no significa sumisión. Una mujer que le tolere todo sin cuestionarlo perderá su interés. Necesita alguien que tenga un sentido del yo fuerte, que sepa cuándo ceder y cuándo poner un límite inamovible.

6- Un espíritu joven, sin importar la edad No porque necesariamente necesite estar con alguien de 20 años, sino porque quiere a alguien que lo haga sentir vivo. Alguien con energía, con ganas de aprender, con un toque de rebeldía, alguien que no esté hastiado de la vida como él.

Una veinteañera podría ser alguien que, sin darse cuenta, le recuerde lo que se siente estar en movimiento, sentir la adrenalina, tener ese fuego interno.

Pero también es un arma de doble filo, porque si es demasiado inmadura, demasiado ingenua, demasiado dependiente, le resultará insoportable.

La clave no es la edad, sino la vitalidad. A sus 54 años, Adler necesita a una mujer que lo revitalice, que lo desafíe, que lo haga sentir vivo.

Esto no significa ser una persona explosiva o hiperactiva, sino alguien con carácter, que le dé motivos para seguir adelante. 7- Autoconfianza y Seguridad en Sí Misma

No quiere a alguien celosa, dependiente o insegura. Quiere a una mujer que confíe en sí misma, que no necesite su validación constante.

También necesita que confíe en él. Su trabajo lo pone en contacto con el peligro y con personas poco confiables. Si su pareja desconfía de él o le exige explicaciones constantes, la relación se desgastará rápidamente. Adler no toleraría a una mujer frágil o dependiente emocionalmente. Alguien necesitada, que busque validación constante o que espere que él se abra fácilmente, simplemente se encontrará con un muro de hielo. No es un hombre que consuele con palabras bonitas ni que ofrezca dulzura gratuita. La mujer que lo acompañe tiene que ser fuerte, pero no de manera ingenua; no basta con ser independiente, sino que debe comprender la crudeza del mundo, entender el juego en el que él se mueve y aceptar sus sombras sin intentar cambiarlas.

8- Aprendiz y Aliada en su Mundo

Si no perteneces a su mundo, lo ideal es que al menos tengas curiosidad por él.

Él disfruta enseñando: disparar, defensa personal, tácticas de evasión… Su forma de decir "te amo" es compartir su conocimiento para que su pareja pueda sobrevivir por sí misma. Ya que Adler no busca salvación ni redención. No quiere a alguien que intente sanarlo ni que le pregunte demasiado sobre su pasado. De hecho, la mujer que realmente tenga posibilidades con él debe ser capaz de aceptar que él siempre guardará secretos, que siempre tendrá partes inaccesibles y que su amor nunca será completamente incondicional. A cambio, él ofrecerá lealtad y protección, pero bajo sus propios términos.

9- Capacidad de Leer su Lenguaje de Amor

No es alguien que diga "te amo" fácilmente, pero lo demuestra en acciones: protección, regalos con significado, consejos, gestos sutiles.

Su pareja ideal debe ser lo suficientemente perceptiva para captar estos gestos y no necesitar reafirmaciones constantes de su amor.

10- Socialmente Complementaria

Como ENTJ, Adler puede desenvolverse en cualquier entorno. Su pareja no necesita ser igual de extrovertida, pero sí debe saber adaptarse.

Una INTJ, por ejemplo, encaja perfectamente porque disfruta de su independencia y prefiere observar antes que interactuar, dejando que Adler tome el liderazgo en situaciones sociales cuando sea necesario.

11- Consciencia de los Riesgos de su Relación

Amar a Adler no es fácil. Su vida es peligrosa, su mente es una fortaleza, y su relación puede ser un eterno juego de ajedrez donde siempre está un paso adelante.

Su pareja ideal debe ser lo suficientemente fuerte para manejar la incertidumbre, la desconfianza ocasional y los riesgos que vienen con estar con alguien como él.

En conclusión.. No sería un romance convencional. No habría declaraciones de amor efusivas ni gestos de ternura desbordante. En cambio, habría complicidad en las sombras, momentos fugaces de vulnerabilidad que sólo ella vería, protección disfrazada de indiferencia y pruebas constantes para medir su resistencia.

Él es un hombre de silencios largos, de pruebas sutiles, de desafíos constantes. Su amor no se siente como un refugio, sino como una prueba de fuego. Pero para la mujer que logre igualar su energía, que entienda su lenguaje de guerra y que sepa cuándo acercarse y cuándo alejarse, el vínculo será inquebrantable. Adler no es un hombre que ame a la ligera, pero si lo hace, será un amor que lo marcará para siempre.

[exaltior-a]

Personally the amount of people who are either "Jake is a stupid himbo" or "Jake is actively malicious" blow my mind. No, Jake isn't stupid, and he's not evil. He's a sixteen year old who is implied to have a mental disability and/or brain damage (it's not exactly clear, Caliborn claims they have the same developmental disorder and Dirk iirc worries that Jake hit his head too much, I guess you can take either with a grain of salt but I digress), and has not had meaningful real life interactions with other human beings in years. He is in the wrong for his actions, but it feels. Purposefully ignorant to claim he's just stupid or just evil for them.

He's socially stunted. He wants to emulate heroes in movies but lacks self esteem and experience. If the alpha kids had enough time to be more fleshed out (and let's be real, if Hussie cared about Jake) this might have been explored more thoroughly. He'd never had the opportunity to learn how to cope with a relationship, how to communicate his needs, or understand that he can't control how other people perceive him like he can through a computer screen.

He doesn't know healthy boundaries because he's never had to use them, and this goes both ways (allowing his friends to sexualise him and treat him like an object, as well as constantly complaining about his relationship with Dirk to Jane) Like yeah he does run away instead of communicating with Dirk and yeah he does dump all his problems on Jane. I love Jane, but one of her problems is her bottling up her feelings and people pleasing until everything blows up. She should have told him off much sooner, and while he was being a dick, it was partly because she allowed him to feel like it was okay to do, since she never told him it wasn't after the first few times or when she was starting to get aggravated.

His problems with Dirk are a little more complicated because we're never actually shown their relationship or how it broke down, but from what we can gather, Jake felt overwhelmed by Dirk's intensity and decided to ignore him rather than tell him try and avoid confrontation but leading to Dirk being frustrated and breaking up with him. Dirk claims he feels like he bullied Jake into a relationship, and though I personally think that's him making it seem worse than it was, it does mean that Dirk probably was trying to go too fast. I've best heard it is Jake being an introvert pretending to be an extrovert.

This is not to say I don't think people can't dislike or even hate Jake, but it's like. Idk. Misinterpreting a character and disliking that version of them is a little redundant to me.

[eightw]

personally (and this is just personal opinion for funsies) i think shuro is actually very similar to falin, personality wise. from what ive seen of manga extras, that's the vibe he has, anyway. i think he has a similar interest in creatures (hence the reason he's so entranced by her with the caterpillar). and im not sure how to put it into words, but these two panels remind me of falin as well.

except, as you can see in the second one, he had different expectations placed on him than falin did. i think some of his love for falin comes from his desire to be like her, in a similar way to how he's jealous of laios. except with falin, he admires the way she's kind, and compassionate, and cares about her friends (to the point of being self sacrificing), while also not needing to be popular, or loved. the adventurers bible says he's commonly called "drab" and "shy" - i dont think it's a stretch to say the people who don't know falin think that about her as well. yet, she's happy! the people who love her don't care! actually, they love her for it!

we know that shuro is an introverted guy, and he doesn't really have friends. he's not from the island, and when he needs help finding falin he only has his father's retainers, which aren't his friends. he's jealous of laios, so we know he's insecure about the way he is, and how he expresses himself.

we don't know much about falin, but one thing i feel we do know is that she's pretty secure in who she is. and at the same time, she's not loud, or brash, and she seems to understand shuro pretty well, in a way no one else in laios' party does (it's blunt extrovert central in there). im sure he never felt like he had to swallow his problems around falin. as well, they have similar desires - falin wants to be independent, she wants to do things for herself, and not just say yes to everyone. shuro, very similarly, wishes he could express himself more clearly, and be himself the way laios is.

like in chilchuck's little relationship diagram here -

gee, who else do we know has a hard time saying no?

[dreamerinthemoonlight]

Genshin as Boyfriend HCs: Part One (Kaeya, Xiao, Thoma)

Fuck it. I think if I work on my original project any longer I’m going to scream bloody murder. I am realizing that a post apocalyptic (taking the world population down to a couple million level apocalypse) story that doesn’t take place in the chaos/murder/destruction/warlords/shit just hit the fan time period is incredibly difficult. Especially since I’m generally anti-shortcut. How do I solve being overwhelmed? Fluffy Head canons. Because the Genshin guys live rent fee in my brainpan. Let’s see... Kaeya, Xiao, and Thoma. Please be kind on Xiao and Thoma. I don’t know Xiao very well and have only written for each of them once

GN reader

Fluff under the cut

Kaeya

I know we head canon Kaeya as a huge tease--which he is, ain’t gonna lie--but I think he’d be crazy sweet

High up on the level of most observant boyfriends ever. Wait... That’s most every one on my “Genshin character’s I will write for” list hehe

But no, seriously, he pays attention and even though he’s a tease, he’d definitely know where to draw the line

Also as charming as he is, I bet it backfires sometimes

I bet he picked you up for a date early on in your relationship and cuz he’s charming as fuck, he gave you roses

One problem, I don’t think he’s the most experienced with relationships. It’s the whole secrets thing, ya know.

SO I can see him being super excited, but hiding it really, really well

Until he gave you those roses I mentioned. Roses made using his vision. Roses that melted in your hands because he was so excited and wanted to impress you so much he didn’t think it all the way through

Any passerby died laughing. You just give him a look like “really, Kaeya? Really?” 

Though there’s a chance you both start laughing, because Kaeya just isn’t the kind to take that hard. He’s embarrassed, but he laughs.

You like to bring this up every now and then just to get a reaction out of him (It’s fucking hilarious)

After that he’s a bit more successful

Still extremely sweet and supportive despite his charm

PDA is definitely a thing, unless you’re super uncomfortable with it--which he will pick up

In private, he’s always touching you. Tucking a strand of hair behind your ear, brushing shoulders, he just likes the physical contact

Xiao

Xiao and dating

That’s a hard one. I mean, he makes me seem like a successful extrovert which I am not

I think you two would be a very private couple, in large part because he is a very introverted private person

But you respect this and don’t push him too hard

Dates often consist of hanging out on a rooftop or somewhere else quiet

I think the two of you do a lot of hand holding or linking pinkies, things that are subtle, but soft and meaningful all the same. 

The fact that he’s willing to do so, and eventually seeks it out makes you feel all warm and fuzzy inside

Speaking of dates

He definitely went to Zhongli for advice and followed that advice to the T

You two had a very traditional Liyue style date. Which you enjoyed. You appreciated that he put in so much effort and went so far despite his introversion and discomfort around people---it really makes you want to go the extra mile too On a side note, someone please update Zhongli on dating practices. I know he’s aware of what goes on in Liyue, but I can’t see him being totally up to date. 

After that you do a lot of the planning, making sure to take both of your preferences into account, which he appreciates

Despite his introversion and strong boundaries, which take time to get through, he’s always there for you and ever so slowly he starts to let you be there for him

Thoma

This guy is what you call on top of it

Of the three I think he’s the only one who really hits his stride from the get go

He managed to take you on a date even you didn’t think you would want

Flowers, dinner, nice sunsets, it’s no wonder he’s so well regarded by Ayato and Ayaka

On a day to day basis, the guy is busy, but he still makes time for you whenever he can

He’s definitely the kind to randomly sweep, mop, and just take care of extra chores around the house while you’re off on some sort of adventure, not just because he wants to support you but because he really enjoys cleaning. And it’s not like you’re going to complain

On his days off you’re definitely his first choice for company

Definitely take you to see the cats outside of Inazuma City

It’s a very domestic relationship

There’s not a ton of PDA, because he is a figure so strongly associated with the Kamisato Clan, but he really does like to hold hands, ruffle your hair, little stuff like that

At home, after a day of cleaning and serving Ayato and Ayaka, he’s happy to sit and cuddle with you, talking or not talking

And if you fall asleep on him, he’ll definitely let you stay there for a bit, watching the play of dreams on your face he’s smitten before picking you up and tucking you in bed. 

He actually likes it when this happens because it means you trust him enough to completely let your guard down

Actually, he’s done the same to you a few times. After a long day he’ll fall asleep on you, though carrying to bed is more like dragging a rock because he’s tall

After the first time you decided that you’d either wake him up and move him of just leave him and fall asleep too

It’s just all so domestic

[midnight--sadness]

omgggg this is also why i like inhun a lot. we have a super cute high-energy extrovert who loves to talk, very kind, has no problem talking to people he has never met before, loves feeding stray cats, doesn't mind playing with children or even trying to comfort crying babies on public transport (gi-hun definitely can't stand to hear a child cry and not in a ugh why is it crying way but in a more maternal tugging at his heartstring sense oh no a baby is crying :( how can i make it feel better). on the other hand in-ho is an introvert. he prefers his own space, he's not a big fan of large crowds or loudness. he also prefers just listening to someone than yapping all day (*looks at gi-hun*). observing people and reading them are his skills. he is very good company and great at socializing but his social battery does die at some point, and needs to recharge (gi-hun, bring your 🍒 over here).

gi-hun is excited to introduce in-ho to others "this is my hubby!! he is 3 apples tall! (⸝⸝> ω <⸝⸝)" and in-ho silently nods & waves.

(btw in-ho is a short king because the missing inches in his height went somewhere else... 😏🍆)

MY POOKIESSSSS 💖💖💖🙏🙏

they are so similar yet so different, truly two sides of the same coin...

gihun's titties being what inho uses to recharge is so- 😫 whenever he's stressed he gets his hand under gihun's shirt and just massages them like they're stress balls. gihun used to think it was weird but he doesn't question it anymore but it does work!

gihun is very happy abt his boyfriend and he doens't allow anyone to make fun of him just bc he's short! 😤 he's a detective, he has a gun, he's very smart, he doesn't need to be 190cm tall.

inho doesn't care, he's heart it all in his youth, but gihun is so fiery when he defends him, he finds it super hot

(his dick is def big 🥴 gihun will never lack for anything in his life!)

[period-of-nocturne]

My latest catch up on pjsk stories :

- Tsukasa "Wow. This guy spent his childhood at home alone to the point where he started imagining things to cope and that's what helps him play so well. Too bad I can't relate at all" Tenma.

- Local Introvert™ gets adopted by Local Extrovert™ and That One Dude Who Shares A Braincell With Her Except He Speak On It™, and they shield her from the classroom's chaos like the true warriors they are.

A bit more seriously,

I love the parallels between Bakuno and Tsukasa and how those two radically different guy are in fact more similar than they both realised, but somehow ended up with two radically opposite attitudes and perspective on things. Silly of Tsukasa to not relate at all to it, but it also makes sense that because of those radically opposite perspective he needed to approach the problem in other ways.

Also I've always thoughts people playing backgrounds characters were the realest ones because it must be hell to make up something convincing with very little information. You gotta respect that. I've been waiting for Tsukasa to face that hurdle and today I won

Nene is so relatable I could die on the spot. I can't form a single thought on her because I look at her and I see Me but I swear she's one of my fave ever I love Nene Kusanagi.

Akito Shinonome add lib is hilarious. This guy is really reading shonen superhero manga on a daily basis to cook such lines on a whim. I love this idiot so much.

Props to An Shiraishi for looking at him right in the eye and acting as an helpless girl he needs to save because it must require her so much strength. Girl never could have one year ago.

Truly Akito and An in the same class is hilarious to me I can't get over it.

Nene Nene Nene Nene.

The introvert natural instinct to build an imaginary wall around you and people, thinking you can't be part of the group, sometimes being persuaded they would judge you or find you weird if you ever opened up. When in truth They Don't Give A Fuck (Akito just here like "A wall ? What wall ? There's no wall. We're breaking the wall). And in fact you might be the one judging them over nothing. Without necessarily negative intent. But like, whatever Nene expected from that girl full of make-up was definitely not what the girl was. Or when she was shocked Akito and An could get nervous about stuff.

When you're so persuaded people would judge you for how you look/outwardly acts than you become the one doing so. I think it happens to lot of introvert/neurodivergent people/any minority a little too aware of how they're perceived by society overall. We're so used to the subtle message that we don't fit it than we see it everywhere.

And yeah it's true sometimes. For some it's true a lot of time.

But sometimes it isn't. Sometimes we're so expecting to be judged or not fitting that we put it on ourselves. We stuck ourselves out and judge from a distance. Silly us and our coping mechanisms.

The truth is that that girl with a full make-up face is just a girl like any other. With her tastes and hobbies and dreams and fear.

The truth is that An Shiraishi, the seemingly always cheerful one has a lot of sh*t going on that would make most people break down and is only able to keep going thanks to the pure fuel of her dream and a blessing from the gods (namely Hatsune Miku). Also she hears the word 'ghost' and freaks out.

The truth is that the always seemingly laid-back and very serious Shinonome Akito spent years of his life beating himself up and thriving like a madman to reach his dream and was only able to get through it thanks to the pure fuel of his dream and a blessing from the gods (namely Hatsune Miku). Also he sees a dog and freaks out.

People have nuance. People have lives on their own. People aren't all as quick to judge than what we're made to think so. People are more than what you see of them, especially when they're in a highly... Social setting ? Like school or workplace.

As a friend once said : "Each and every person is interesting in their own way." and to this day those are the truest words ever spoken.

[little-worm-grant]

20 Questions

BLORBO ASKS GAME

reblog if you’d like people to send you asks about your Blorbo

was there any specific point / any specific moment that suddenly made them your Blorbo, or did you slowly grow to love them more and more until they became a Blorbo to you?

It was immediate. Watching Steven flounder then discovering the tragedy that is Marc. I started on the show, then began collecting the comics.

what’s the thing you love the most about your Blorbo?

I loved the representation of DID, autism and childhood trauma.

what’s the thing you dislike the most about your Blorbo?

We barely got any Jake in the show, and he’s such a fantastic character in the comics. Comic Jake is the only way I can imagine him. Moustache and all.

if you could talk to your Blorbo, what would you say to them?

Not a thing. He’d get a damn hug.

what’s the one thing the fandom gets wrong about your Blorbo?

I think every adaptation is unique to that person and they’re wonderful for sharing. I’m a hoe for every crumb I’m not even sorry.

is your Blorbo an introvert or extrovert?

Depends who’s fronting. Steven’s an ambivert: extroverted to avoid the feeling of loneliness, introverted in his hobbies and day-to-day. Marc’s a huge introvert and doesn’t like many people, how Frenchie puts up with him I don’t know. Jake is a natural extrovert, it comes easy to him to find a friend in anyone.

describe your Blorbo in 3 words

Damaged hot mess

if your Blorbo were real, would you trust them with your life?

Most likely… kinda. Squinting real hard at you, Khonshu.

do you talk to your family or in-real-life friends about your Blorbo?

My partner can’t get away from my obsession. My brother brought me the same MK action figure Marc's holding in the asylum. It was really unexpected and touching. They let me drag them all over the city stopping in as many comic stores as I could visit.

is there any crime, any wrongdoing your Blorbo could commit that would make you stop loving them and remove them from your hyperfixation entirely?

Mean to animals would make me very sad.

do you like seeing your Blorbo suffer?

Every damn day of the week.

do you ship your Blorbo with any character?

I ship him with anyone and everyone, it’s such a problem. I love all ships in all shapes and sizes. All the new ships coming out of Marvel Rivals has sustained me well lately.

if your Blorbo is from a live-action media, are you also a fan of the actor who plays them?

Oscar Isaac is one of the best humans alive. I love his face, his personality—everything. He made it easy to love the characters he plays.

would you still love your Blorbo if they were real?

Probably. I’d always be rooting for him that’s for sure.

is your Blorbo a victim of badly written script / bad plot / character assassination in the hands of canon?

Kind of. How they handled Jake suucked.

if you could change one canonical thing about your Blorbo, what would it be?

Make comics Jake canon!

when you first discovered your Blorbo, did you realize from that moment that they would become your Blorbo?

I didn’t expect to go down as bad as I did. It wasn’t until I started writing him in 1x1 & group roleplays was where I truly fell down the hole.

do you gatekeep your Blorbo? / would you want more people to know about your Blorbo?

No gatekeeping allowed in this house! I am thrilled anytime more people discover MK by any means. It’s so much fun seeing new people arrive and interact with the fandom.

has a fanfic about your Blorbo ever made you cry?

Not a fanfic, but episode 5 made me ball. Hit close to home. I’m not one to cry easily so have yet to find a fanfic that will.

do you think this character will still be your Blorbo three years from now on?

Probably, I still have a lot more to write and explore.

Questions posted below empty for easy copy paste:

was there any specific point / any specific moment that suddenly made them your Blorbo, or did you slowly grow to love them more and more until they became a Blorbo to you?

what’s the thing you love the most about your Blorbo?

what’s the thing you dislike the most about your Blorbo?

if you could talk to your Blorbo, what would you say to them?

what’s the one thing the fandom gets wrong about your Blorbo?

is your Blorbo an introvert or extrovert?

describe your Blorbo in 3 words

if your Blorbo were real, would you trust them with your life?

do you talk to your family or in-real-life friends about your Blorbo?

is there any crime, any wrongdoing your Blorbo could commit that would make you stop loving them and remove them from your hyperfixation entirely?

do you like seeing your Blorbo suffer?

do you ship your Blorbo with any character?

if your Blorbo is from a live-action media, are you also a fan of the actor who plays them?

would you still love your Blorbo if they were real?

is your Blorbo a victim of badly written script / bad plot / character assassination in the hands of canon?

if you could change one canonical thing about your Blorbo, what would it be?

when you first discovered your Blorbo, did you realize from that moment that they would become your Blorbo?

do you gatekeep your Blorbo? / would you want more people to know about your Blorbo?

has a fanfic about your Blorbo ever made you cry?

do you think this character will still be your Blorbo three years from now on?

Inspired by the wonderful @psycheetamore Hitting a few others I'd love to see do this! @mystra-midnight @my-secret-shame-but-fanfiction @faretheeoscar @moonbeammist @therapardalis @weheartchrisevans @silvermoon343

[elysianologists]

PROLOGUE ꩜ .ᐟ BETTER GET SEARCHING

FALLING, FOR YOU? — DILUC SMAU

now playing! – heartache by hot freaks

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slowly.. you stepped up to the to counselor's office, taking a deep breath before knocking on the door.

"come in." you heard the soft yet stern voice of your beloved counselor who may or may have not nagged you about this same thing before during your first year of high school.

see, you weren't dumb or a different kind of learner— you just got so caught up in your own hobbies and extracurriculars that you might've, just might've, forgotten about the assignments from most of your classes.

hey, at least you were still passing band!

slowly, you stepped inside and took your usual seat in front of her desk across from you sat your counselor, looking up from her computer screen and letting out a soft disappointed huff, that's miss rukkhadevata for you, alright.

"(name), i'm sure you know why we're here, you're on the verge of failing english and your math class." she shook her head, pulling up your grades on her computer.

"if you don't pass this year, you won't graduate, you realize that right? she tilted her head toward you, her face was almost concerned.

"i know.. i get it miss, just need to get caught up–"

"well if you're behind, that calls for a tutor." your counselor interrupted, leaning over on her desk.

"you're not usually behind, this was the same excuse as last time. but if you really are behind, i recommend finding a tutor or someone to keep you in check."

someone to keep you in check... huh, seems familiar. someone who could keep you in check.. like that guy that keeps giving you warnings about your uniform? sure it's a bit messy and sometimes you just forget to tie your hair back, no big deal.

what even was his name? dealer? dollop? diluc! yes! you could beg diluc to tutor you, i mean with the amount of times you've been almost dress-coded, you might as well be friends!

but one problem, he's basically inapproachable, impossible to approach. sure, tons of girls crush on him, he's popular, he's the student council president for christ's sake! but nobody actually approaches him.

but you're the friendly and extroverted? ambiverted? maybe extroverted introvert music club president, no way it's that hard.

but it is; he doesn't even bat an eye to his name.

ᯓᡣ𐭩 extra notes: thank you aura for helping me review this 🙏🙏 love yew omg..

couldn't find a good text message app so we have to use.. twitter dms.. 😬😬

didn't want to put narration first one, but me personally; i struggle so much with understanding the beginning of stories without any context

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[leviandtina]

》 A detailed analysis of the Levihan ship

Okay, let’s start in order, because this deserves a deep analysis.

1. Opposites attract? 

People often think that if two characters are complete opposites, then this is proof that they are in love. But in real life, such relationships are mostly disasters. Levi and Hange are an example of people who function as a team,friends but as a couple? Haha, no..

Levi: Introverted, quiet, withdrawn, obsessively neat, doesn't like to be bothered.

Hange: Extrovert, constantly talking, messy, doesn't care about personal space at all.

Now imagine these two living together. Levi would have a mental breakdown within a week because Hange would leave plates on the table, papers everywhere and talk while he tries to drink tea in peace.☠️

2. Levi has never shown any romantic feelings towards her.

People in the fandom like to take every scene where Levi and Hange talk and make up "hidden looks of love". But the problem is that Levi looks at EVERYONE the same way - the way someone looks when they are tired of life.

Levi does not change his facial expression neither when he looks at Hange, nor when he looks at an ordinary chair. What does that mean? That he fell in love with the chair? 🤡If we take Isayama's explanation that when Levi was in love so

For example:

And not even though he has a poker face most of the time, we saw his little smile in the scene with Isabell and Furlan OVA. and my favorite scene where he smiled season 3. towards Historia and the others when he said Thank you guys..😍

then he would definitely show this kind of reaction towards someone he's in love with..

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- where did we see that in the interactions with Hange? Hmmm...NOWHERE.

If Levi never showed romantic feelings to any person in the whole story, then how can there be an idea that he is in love with Hange?

3. "But Levi didn't say "neither no nor yes" when Hange proposed to him that they live together!"

  That famous silence when Hange said "maybe we should live together." And now the fandom behaves as if Levi said in that way "YES MY LOVE, LET'S GET MARRIED RIGHT NOW".

And the reality?

A look of pain, not love.

Levi is known for not expressing emotion... but one thing is for sure – his gaze here is not romantic but deeply sad and tired.

If this seems like a "lovely gaze" to anyone, then they either don't understand Levi, or they have already decided to believe their theory without actually looking at the scene.

Okay, this is Levihan shipper's favorite argument. When Hange said, "Maybe we should live together, Levi," he didn't answer. What the fandom thinks: “Omg, you see! If he didn't say NO, then he said YES!"

What reality says: Levi is too tired to answer nonsense. The man barely survived, and now he has to respond to Hange random comment? His silence is not proof of love, but proof that he doesn't cares about such a thing, because look at him...💔🤕

He lost his fingers, his eye, how should he look like he's happy that he's hurt???☠️ he's not thinking about love here, but about survival. Because the first thing he say: ungh what happened?

Levi is not even aware of everything around him at that moment. He just woke up, he's in shock, and in pain..It's like you forgot about his leg injury back into season 2 where he was? so he was practically on sick leave because obviously he's just a man who feels pain, he's not made of stone. When you're physically and mentally broken, you don't look at anyone in love, but you're trying to figure out where you are and what's happening..If you look closely, you can see that his eyes aren't focusing completely - which means he's still disoriented.

And now let's remember - when was Levi ever clumsy with Hange? That's right...never, ever caused any of his insecure reactions. Why? Because there was never love, only friendship and the struggle for survival.

4. "But Levi takes care of Hange!"

Of course he takes care of them as he took care of the whole team. Levi led the unit and was always protective of his friends. He cared about everyone Erwin, Mikasa, Eren... Does that mean he's in love with all of them? Levi even has more emotional moments with Erwin than with Hange,.Caring does not mean romantic love. It's like saying that the nurse who gives you medicine in the hospital must be in love with you.

Or lets look at this

Is this love or sadness because what he need to do💔 look at his eyes...is this also romance or i' can't this anymore.

5. "But the original art shows that they are close to each other!"

Here's the dumbest argument ever. 😑 People take every illustration where Levi and Hange are standing next to each other and shout: "See! Canon!” But wait, Levi is standing sitting next to Erwin, standing next to Eren, standing next to Armin... So where are the ships with them? 🤡 so that ship is also canon... What???

if Levi is standing next to Mikasa, then she is his true love? If she's sitting next to Jean, does that mean they got married in secret? No, people, that's called random arrangement of characters in the illustration.

For example: so does it mean if Levi is so close to Eren and Erwin means canon love? Or down there where is next to Hange...? Bro they just standing...omg but it's "lovee" and also most of those arts are for aot merch nothing special.

6. But Levi never said he did NOT like Hange!”

So if you don't say "I don't love you", does that mean you love someone? Umm hello? That's not how the world works. Levi didn't even say he didn't like Historia. Not even that he loves Jean. He doesn't even say that to random civilian from Trost. What does that mean? That Levi is in love with the whole world?? This is the dumbest fan argument there is. When you don't have any real proof, you just say: "But he didn't say no...". COME ON PLEASE. Fans clearly don't understand what true love is and what normal human interactions are.

7. Levi recognize Hange behind door –

(that scene when he knew Hange was behind the door) Because he is extremely perceptive, not because he is in love. And good knows how many time he heard that noise and realized yeah that's Hange...he learned.😌

Levi and Hange had telepathy? - Because they are friends...hasn't that ever happened to you in real life? With someone you've known for a very long time?🧐 seriously people? with who you are friends then?

8. The last goodbye

Levi could never say this before because everyone he loved died before he arrived... actually let's remember the scene with the soldier in season 1. when he touched his bloody hand... does that mean romance or just respect? Hmmm?🤔 yeah definitely love. 😝

Now back to this- This is the scene where he gives someone his blessing to leave for the first time, but alive. It's not a love confession, it's a painful goodbye.💔

And fans: "This is Levi's secret way of confessing love". No, it's Levi's way of finally letting someone go without watching them die in front of him..  How can people ignore the essence of his character and turn everything into "Omg, ship!!!"? 🤦‍♂️

Truth 》》》 Levi has always had deep respect for those who give their lives for a higher cause. Hange chose to sacrifice herself, and Levi understands that. This is the scene where he acknowledges their courage.

Like look he already...know

This is not love – This is respectful goodbye 💔 Levihan is fanfiction, nothing more. Everything the fandom uses as “evidence” for this ship is either taken out of context or completely misinterpreted. Levi and Hange are teammates, comrades in battle, but that’s where the story ends.

…plus, not too long ago, an interview was released where that ship completely sank.

If he ever fell in love, we would see that... Or something like this :

Where did we see that in the anime? Nowhere. So, end of story.

And finally, if someone likes Levihan - let them like it, but don't make things up and insult other ships just because they don't fit into their fantasy.

💔 9. He only cryed because of Hange:

This scene has nothing to do with Levi "crying for Hange because she's his only love" or "looking only at Hange." This is the scene of Levi looking at his fallen comrades and aware of the price they all paid. Levi is damaged physically and mentally. He lost almost everything.

Erwin is dead.

His squad (Squad Levi) is dead.

Most of the scout squad is dead.

Hange died to make their escape possible.

His gaze in this scene is not only focused on Hange. He looks at the whole unit, at their loyalty, at all the lives lost. And the tear? It's not a tear of love, it's a tear of loss

But no - some will take one frame, take it out of context and make a theory that fits their ship. And that's the problem.

Conclusion Levihan is FANON not CANON as much a as 90% ships. There is nothing romance only respect.

The fandom is so obsessed with forcing romance where there never was that it ignores everything Levi is as a character. They want to make him some lovesick husband who falls apart with emotion – and the reality is that Levi never had that part of his character. If you love Levihan, okay, that's your fanon fantasy. But don't impose nonsense as "canon" and attack other ships that are just as fictional as yours.. Face the truth: Levi is a character who doesn't need a romantic story to be legendary.. so now go attack me because I got on your nerves.🥰