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“Allow shame to find no home in your posture, in your dances, in your aura, in your lovemaking, in your lovemaking sounds, in your dreaming spaces, in your every single desire.”

— India Ame’ye, Author

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Hard truth —

Your life won't change just because you bought a new planner, a self-improvement book or an aesthetic productivity app. It changes when you strenghten your boundaries with yourself.

No journal prompt will save you if you refuse to be honest with yourself.

Tracking your habits is pointless if you keep "adjusting" your goals to make it look like you didn't miss a day.

Aesthetic routines look cute on Tiktok, but consistency is built when no one's watching.

Waking up early means nothing if you scroll for an hour instead of starting your day.

Self-boundaries are the unspoken rules you live by:

۶ৎ I will stop negotiating with my own procrastination.

۶ৎ I will not turn "I'm tired" into a free pass for every task I want to avoid.

۶ৎ I will keep the promises I make to myself, even when nobody else knows about them.

۶ৎ I will honor my rest without guilt but also honor my commitments without excuses.

Your glow up isn't about control —it's about trust. No amount of "soft life" aesthetics will outdo quiet power of showing up for yourself.

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She just wants to study and become her best self.

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(some) gentle reminders for when the doubt creeps in

۶ৎ you belong where you are

the door wouldn’t have opened if you weren’t meant to walk through it, you wouldn’t have gotten the opportunity if you weren’t ready to take it

۶ৎ you’re not supposed to know everything

no one has it all figured out, fuck around and find out, learning as you go is part of the magic

۶ৎ you are allowed to take space

you are allowed to exist fully

۶ৎ your worth isn’t up for debate

not by others, not by you, but especially not by others

۶ৎ comparison is a lie

your path is yours only and it WILL differ to those around you, so don’t feel pressured by “being late”, all of us have our own timing and our own pace

۶ৎ you’ve survived every hard day so far

let that be proof that you’re resilient in the ways you don’t even notice

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Doing the task for 20 minutes is better than thinking about it for 20 hours

Overthinking, over-planning, over-preparing won’t get the work done, it never did. Action does. Over time, even the “insignificant” one

Sitting down and starting—no matter how small or messy—is always better than letting fear and doubt hold you hostage

20 minutes of effort is breakthrough. It’s momentum. 20 hours of thinking is just a spiral, keeping you stuck in the same place

So stop waiting for motivation. Put the timer on. Start the task. Even if it’s imperfect, even if it’s just a little—you’re moving forward, and that’s progress.

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Unpopular opinion —

Cute but overpriced skincare products, trendy supplements, and aesthetic workout gear won’t be the key to your glow up.

Taking retinol but not eating your vegetables will not make your skin age less

Hydration isn’t just about serums; it’s about drinking water

Collage production isn’t just about fancy creams, it’s about eating nutrient rich foods like leafy greens and berries

Glow doesn’t come from overpriced skincare, it comes from balanced meals, less sugar, and good sleep

Moving your body consistently, even if it’s walking is better than bying every workout set you’ve seen on instagram

Don’t give in to the trap of consumerism disguised as self-care. Your glow up isn’t for the sale. It’s in the basics.

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The Gentle Art of Starting Over

Starting over isn’t a grand gesture. It’s not burning bridges or packing your bags under the light of the moon. It’s quieter than that.

Starting over is a radical act of kindness. It’s forgiving yourself for every misstep, every abandoned project, every time you couldn’t meet your own expectations. It’s recognizing that you don’t have to be the person you were yesterday.

It’s not about erasing everything. It’s about accepting that failure isn’t the opposite of progress—it’s a part of it. You don’t have to start from scratch; you start from where you are. And sometimes, that’s enough.

۶ৎ Here’s how you can do it:

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How to start over

Starting over doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Here’s how you can do it:

۶ৎ Redefining your “why”

What matters to you now? What have you outgrown? Remember that If you have the idea you’re already capable of it.

۶ৎ Forgive yourself

Reflect, reflect, reflect, then let go of the guilt. Remember that even tho you failed, it was a step towards understanding yourself better.

۶ৎ Focus on one thing

Put your energy on one thing to begin with. Put your energy there instead of spreading yourself too thin.

۶ৎ Focus on today

Ask yourself: “Whats one thing I can do today to move forward?”

۶ৎ Plan, but start smaller

Break an overwhelming goal into micro-goals. Daily, monthly and yearly.

۶ৎ Detach from perfection

Accept that your days or work don’t have to look perfect. Progress thrives in a little chaos.

۶ৎ Celebrate small wins

Progress, no matter how small, deserves recognition.

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Create beyond scars within.

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People talk about discipline and how you need a rigid routine to get your life together, but discipline isn’t about rigid routines or chasing perfection—it’s about showing up for yourself with kindness.

Growth happens in the space between who you are and who you want to be, and if you don’t let yourself rest, celebrate small wins, or enjoy the present, you’ll burn out before you arrive.

Be gentle, take your time, and remember: life is still happening here and now.

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Brainrot is that foggy, restless feeling when your brain is stuck in a loop of scrolling, consuming, or zoning out, never really engaging. It’s not laziness or failure—it’s what happens when we overstimulate ourselves and forget to let our minds rest and wander. Fighting it isn’t about going cold turkey or forcing yourself into endless productivity.

Start small: set your phone down during meals, let yourself be bored, and try creating something messy or pointless. It’s about carving out moments where your brain can breathe, little spaces to remember you’re more than just a consumer.

Be patient cuz your mind is just asking for a little room to heal.

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let me love you like i’ve loved no other, our souls intertwined forever in soft lace, and the extent of our love bearing to the brim of death

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When I say "connect with nature" I don't just mean the aesthetic forests with deer and beautiful flowers.

I mean the weeds growing through concrete, the fungus that grows on the rotten shed, the nettles that always seem to return and the scary, spindly cellar spider in the corner of the bathroom.

Nature is not always pretty or magical - the pigeons and seagulls you swat at are nature too, the wasps and flies that hover by your meals are animals too, store-bought strawberries and the leaves that fall from your neighbour's tree are not all that different from the Giant Sequoias and it's seeds.

If you want to connect and understand nature, I mean *really* connect to it, in it's entirety, you have to seek out and learn about the ugly, scary and mundane things as well. You don't have to like it, just don't forget that it's there.

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