ACTIVE LISTENING
Active Listening helps us comprehend the person's message and makes them feel heard, as well as:
Connect genuinely with others
Handle difficult situations
Create opportunities
Strengthen relationships
Also requires you to identify and put your negative thoughts aside in order to genuinely listen to others
Active Listening is a combination of Critical, Reflective, and Passive listening
Critical Listening
- Takes the most effort
- Involves processing a message while using judgment to determine facts from opinions
-- Aka: creating an analysis and opinions of the person's message (i.e., listening to news or analyzing a political speech)
Reflective Listening
- Using your own words to repeat what you heard the person say
- Don't have to analyze or judge
- You let the person know you have received, and comprehended, their message
Passive Listening
-Lending your attention to the person's voice without any intention of responding to their message
- Most common - not healthy if this is your main communication style
2 Most common techniques to develop the ability to manage emotions:
Paraphrasing
Clarify that you understood the individual correctly
If not, the individual then has the opportunity to correct you
Non-Verbal Language (Paralanguage)
When the listener uses non-verbal cues (body movements, gestures, eye contact), it can make the person speaking feel important
Reasons for difficulties with listening
Identify barriers and get rid of them
Richard West and Lynn Turner
Grouped hearing barriers into 4 types of noise:
Physical noise - caused by external sounds
Physiological noise - caused by illness, biological impairments, or articulation problems
Semantic noise - caused by difficulties with comprehending an individual's words due to jargon/bad grammar
Psychological noise - caused by mental and emotional factors
How to sharpen Communication Skills
Challenge distortions
Look at your negative automatic beliefs and decide their alignment with reality
Manage expectations
Practice Mindfulness
The awareness of physiological and semantic noises and refusing to be affected by them
Practice emotional self-regulation
Practice Persuasion
Powerful communication tool
Helps get through to people easily
Motivational Interviewing
Allow interviewers and interviewees to focus on possible solutions rather than problems
Non-verbal cues
Make people feel like they have your permission to talk about their emotions with ease
How to practice becoming a great listener
Know triggers
Get familiar with tolerance levels for various emotionally charged situations
Identify types of noise(s) that impede your ability to listen well
6 notes
·
View notes
Things I like to do to make my friends feel loved pt. 1
We all want our friends to know how much we care about them and we all have different ways of showing it. These are a few things that I personally find great joy in doing! These things require very different amounts of energy or time to do, but most really just boil down to “remember or write down the stuff your loved ones like”, so you don’t forget lol.
1. Baking! Or any kind of “making” really: I keep a little list of cakes and baked goods that I know my loved ones love. One friend really loves brownies, so I like to try out new brownie recipes once in a while, to find his favorite. Another friend likes chocolate chip cookies and I’m still trying to figure out how to make them right haha. But I’m getting pretty good at making my mom’s favorite cake!
2. Planning ahead for birthdays: I keep close track of birthdays! Last year I started planning ahead for all birthdays and even though I didn’t always succeed in getting things done in time or at all, I’m trying again this year! It gives me time to order things with a long shipping time or make things myself. And remembering that birthdays are happening all the time, makes it easier for me to remember to jot down ideas when I think of them. I even keep a document with gift ideas for all my friends and family members!
3. Listen, like really listen: It’s so easy to zone out a bit, when your loved one is rambling on about something you really couldn’t care less about. And while we all have very different attention spans, even an attempt to keep up goes a long way! My brother recently told me how nice it was that I actually listened to him talk about farming and big machines, since our parents are often too busy or tired to really take it all in. You don’t have to ask follow-up questions or add commentary, just giving your full attention for a little while is really all it takes!
And these are all things I’m still practicing and trying to get better at. But that’s the whole point. When you put in effort to show love, it will be noticed, even if you feel like you are fumbling. Everything in life is a skill of some kind and we all grow in little ways every day, as long as we put a lil effort into it <3
7 notes
·
View notes
Active Listening 101
from MindTools.com
1. Pay Attention. Give your undivided attention to the speaker, & acknowledge the message. Pay attention to body language. Look at the speaker directly and avoid distraction. Don't mentally prepare a defense or disagreement!
2. Show that you're listening. Use body language and gestures to show that you're interested. Try occasional nodding and smiling combined with spoken encouragement like "yeah, uh-huh"
3. Give feedback–as a listener, it is our job to understand what is being said. Ask questions to clarify points. Reflect out loud with what you're hearing by saying things like "What it sounds like you're saying is..." or "What I'm hearing is..."
4. Defer judgment. Don't interrupt to disagree. Don't interrupt at all!
5. Respond appropriately using the information you understood from the speaker. Be candid, open, and honest in a respectful way. Respond how you would want someone to talk to you.
25 notes
·
View notes
The power of active listening,
but also the power of writing,
of storytelling
such that others might
find solace in your words -
that is the first bud of growth.
https://medium.com/age-of-empathy/how-to-grow-through-powerful-storytelling-16a321a85174 / #poetry
2 notes
·
View notes
Active listening is listening attentively without interrupting and restating what was heard
There are two skills that will help shape a positive environment for communication in your relationship: assertiveness and active listening.
If assertiveness is about one partner sharing how they feel and asking clearly and directly for what they want, then the process of active listening is for the receiver of that message, to let the speaker know their message was accurately received. It’s…
View On WordPress
2 notes
·
View notes
The escape room
In my ideal escape room, the door lock would be on the inside, and it would have single occupancy.
I share my listening space as a family room.
View On WordPress
4 notes
·
View notes
Charlie Haden / Liberation Music Orchestra - Ballad of the Fallen
Charlie Haden / Liberation Music Orchestra – Ballad of the Fallen
LP, ECM Records, 1983
Style: Experimental Big Band, Avant-Garde Jazz, Flamenco
Vibe: Mournful, Communal, Political, Anthemic, Conceptual, Conscious, Liberation, Sombre, Traditional
Musical Qualities: Polyphonic, Suite, Acoustic, Complex, Dynamic, Thematic Improvisation, Instrumental, Orchestral, political, Technical
Personnel
Charlie Haden – double bassCarla Bley ��� piano, glockenspiel,…
View On WordPress
2 notes
·
View notes