#ADHD things

[therapeutic007]

✨ When Criticism Feels Like a Knife to the Heart: An ADHD RSD Workbook ✨

If you: • Melt down over tiny feedback (even when it’s kindly given) • Dread checking emails/texts in case someone’s upset with you • Remember rejections from 10 years ago like they happened yesterday ...you might be struggling with Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD)—the emotional earthquake many with ADHD know too well.

This isn’t "being too sensitive"—it’s your nervous system sounding a false alarm that rejection = survival threat.

The RSD & ADHD Workbook helps you:

✔ Spot RSD’s lies ("They hate me" → "I’m interpreting tone") ✔ Short-circuit shame spirals with emergency coping scripts ✔ Respond (not react) to perceived criticism ✔ Rebuild self-trust after social mishaps

📖 Inside you’ll get: → Body-based exercises to calm the RSD adrenaline crash → "Feedback Decoder" prompts to reality-check perceived slights → RSD-proof communication hacks (for work/relationships)

You deserve to feel safe in your own mind—even when others disapprove.

🔗 Find it here

[rattusrattusdoomed]

Real like "I miss the old you" I'm going to put you in a blender

My doctor and therapist: now with this autism + ADHD diagnosis you need to learn to unmask because masking all the time will make you burn out again and feel like shit

Other people: well it's just interesting how after getting the diagnosis you suddenly start behaving like that I mean I'm not saying you're faking it's just funny how you suddenly cannot be normal like you were before

[countessravengrey]

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[sammsays]

a critical inner voice is the cause of perfectionism, and a very frequent reason that those with ADHD and/or gifted kid syndrome (not a literal medical diagnosis) struggle very hard to form and maintain new habits.

when you consistently face the struggle of being unable to do things in the same way as your peers, you develop a means of self-perception that is polarizing, in a literal sense.

everything is black and white, so you not only need to do things perfectly, but the tasks you need to do become "perfect" in a structural sense.

if you try to do the dishes consistently, you must either do all of the dishes or it is a failure.

even further, you subconsciously remove things that would make tasks easier, because you separate a task mentally from others.

shaving is not within the umbrella of a "wake up routine" or "bathroom tasks", each individual task, including shaving, is treated as conceptually different and whole, which makes each of them more daunting and less approachable.

the means of doing said tasks also must be held up to what is perceived as the ideal societal standard.

it's never thought "maybe I can shave a different way?" because the way that shaving is always shown in media and television, where people almost exclusively see it, is with shaving cream, a hand razor and in front of the bathroom mirror.

i've been able to brush my teeth and shave my face consistently ever since I've started to do it in the shower. i bought a little suction cup mirror and have done it there.

both tasks being contained within the larger task of "shower" in a tangible way makes it much simpler.

if you were to talk to neurotypical people, they have an incredible amount of imperfections in their routines. my mother stops exercising entirely during the winter, my brother uses an electric razor with a specific head and shaves it "well enough" to not be spotted by most people, my sister does the dishes until she feels like stopping.

the difference is that they automatically asssume that the way they do these things is not just okay, but normal and expected.

half-assing is in human nature and it gets pounded out by trauma. we are expected to and often should do things in awkward, tailored ways imperfectly and half-heartedly, for the sake of our basic mental health.

don't let perfectionism make it so you never achieve "good".

"good" is all it takes to have a healthy routine.

[silkieluv]

a lot of people complain when Jay's headcanoned with adhd and I honestly think it's because they don't realize that they don't headcanon it because of his child-like personality in later seasons (at least, that's not why I hc it), but because thoughts are formed through complex electrochemical interactions between billions of neurons in the brain.

The lightning inside of Jay 'upgrades' that process and in order words, creates the adhd.

Less scientific, but also because of 'lightning always living', causing the hyperactivity

[itsbestifidoweirdthings]

I'd finish a crochet tie in 3 days, or start multiple crochet projects and not touch it for 3 years. There's no inbetween

having adhd and being a creator is like being on a timer. oh sorry you have this art idea? well you have approximately 12 hours to start it and 6 hours to finish the task or else you will lose interest and inevitably move on. oh you have an idea for a one-shot? well you’d better finish it in a day unless you want to banish it to your wips forever. ding dong bitch

[just-tryina-live]

Listen, LISTEN. I LOVE my ADHD. Trust me. It’s a superpower. It’s so cool having a brain that never stops moving and having hyper fixations and being able to do seven things at once and being calm in a crisis. BUT I would like to fold the laundry.

[aurora-alice]

At this point in my life, I don’t really care about masking anymore. 🤷🏼‍♀️

I’m smart. I’m cute. I’m successful.

And I also love myself way too much to entertain what somebody else wants me to be.

[theadhdgoblin]

[thetetra]

Hey friend So all of this is your brain's inability to properly regulate dopamine. Food being a reliable source of dopamine is a VERY common ADHD thing. The body quickly learns that when other tasks are frustrating, (you can't reliably get a reward from tasks) that food is very reliable and a good way to get a fix of dopamine is... treats and snacks whatever is fastest. I find that having an ease of access reward I can substitute also helps, like a Gameboy game or an audiobook I can pick up and get at for 5 minutes then get back to the task makes it so snacking isn't the ONLY option.

Mind you I'm still fat but it is nice to diversify for when I am full or I have no snacks in the house. Better discipline (read above) might help with this but frankly it ain't worth it.

Being in a hurry is trying to quickly get to the reward part of a task. The inability to properly gove out dopamine means that you likely need a full success or you don't even feel like you have done anything right at all. Perfectionism. This likely means that your ADHD is from your brain giving out dopamine properly but it gobbles it ALL up IMMEDIATELY. So only a great success! Even really registers. So you either rush into it 90 times or you get WAY too careful and try for perfection under a white knuckle control attempt.

Bad coordination/clumsy/accident prone/ya bump into things. This is dopamine disregulation to a T. You don't properly get rewarded for doing it right, even a little bit right only when you can intellectually tell "yup that's right" almost nothing comes naturally and beginner's luck is a myth. You work 10x as hard to get half as much practical practice and every day is a Sisyphian nightmare where you are distracted for even a moment and the stone tolls ALL THE WAY back down hill before you can even look back and enjoy it crushing things... Ask me how I know?!

Yeah btw your average person 's life isn't like this and you actually are sorta alone in it. I have good news though... I take a "dopamine reuptake inhibitor" There are several out there but I take Amoxitine. It took a solid month to start working but OMG when it did. I have been medicated for most of my life, standard stims, like Adderall and Ritalin mostly, sorta worked but the patterns in my life were still there... and the rock to push was also there. Then... one day I picked up the rock and put it in my pocket and learned a new skill and had fun? I went out and really enjoyed my day. My life didn't feel like sand slipping through my fingers and like I actually had resources to just live my life.

I would suggest this for you based upon ~55 words I read... in the tags of a Tumblr post? But yeah I'm pretty confident that I nailed it and that will help you.

Good luck out there.

"I should be posting this on Patreon."

[altruapparel]

ADHD Dyslexics of the World UNTIE!!! ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

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[turns-out-its-adhd]

living with ADHD is being stuck in a Matrix of your own making, and forgetting you made it

[angelsonthesideline]

[retrogradefordummies]

Okay, but have you considered I don't fucking know who I want to become? Hmmmm? Have you considered I have the emotional object permanence of a small child and I will meet one cool person and immediately change all of my life's goals? If I act like every person I pray to become then I would bargain to be the best replacement for Mystique on X men

Thoughts aren't enough. You gotta start acting like the person you pray to become.

[animentality]