#And this is coming from a trans bi/gay guy so there ok

[eggy-the-boy]

I can’t decide in what way Noel Gruber is trans but they definitely got some transgender in them. 

[weirdthoughtsandideas]

PRIDE MONTH PROMPTS 2024

They are here!!

Last year I released them in May, and I asked you when I should release it this year. You agreed I should release it early/mid april. And I think the perfect time is now! You have plenty of time to prepare your things for June!

So, here are 30 prompts, 1 prompt per day, for all of June! Use them for writing, or for art, or why not for something else creative you can come up with?

I will now write all the prompts in the list if it's hard to read, plus some explanations/suggestion what you can do for them.

Day 1. Actually, I'm not straight. Someone kicking off pride month by telling their nearest and dearest that they aren't straight, like everyone seems to think!

Day 2. Surprise! We're dating! A couple comes out to their friends ;)

Day 3. Early signs. Early signs someone was not straight, or not cis. Or both!

Day 4. Gender euphoria. Euphoooooriaaaaa forever to end of time /j Ok no but yeah, someone experiencing gender euphoria :) It's great :)

Day 5. Surprise! We're engaged! Surprise engagement! Did people even know they were dating?

Day 6. Proposal. You can choose to show the proposal for the couple at day 5... or a brand new couple! :D

Day 7. Pride flags. Are they making pride flags? Buying pride flags? Identifying pride flags? So much you can do! :)

Day 8. Prideful baking. A return from last year! Who's baking? Are they doing it with pride? Are they making rainbow cakes? This is also a way to make some ships be cute together as they bake.

Day 9. Wedding. To quote Sam from Glee: "YEAH! COME ON GUYS! GAY MARRIAGE GOOD!"

Day 10. Shenanigans at the Pride Parade. Time to let those characters run wild at the pride parade!

Day 11. Coming out as trans. Pretty self explanatory I think ;)

Day 12. Planning for a child. Two women, two men, maybe a trans couple... any not-cishet couple are planning for a child <3 Are they adopting? IVF? However they're doing it, they're gonna get that child :)

Day 13. Two moms. Two mommies thriving with their kiddos!

Day 14. Are they dating or not? People are speculating the relationship of some people.

Day 15. First crush. Aww, someone's first crush! Have they ever felt this before?

Day 16. Alternate universe. Go crazy with this! This could mean anything from "a universe in which this ship is canon" to "they live in a fantasy world". Do whatever!

Day 17. Realizing they're ace. Self explanatory ;)

Day 18. Two dads. Two daddies on request (Sorry I've watched too much of Papás por encargo (Daddies on request) to not make that joke). They'll do anything for the kids!

Day 19. I thought everyone liked both? What??? They don't?????

Day 20. Fruity sleepover. Anything and everything can happen at a sleepover!

Day 21. Pining. They pine so hard and yet... will their crush ever notice?

Day 22. Secret dating. Or are they as they secret as they think? How much chaos do they end up in to keep this?

Day 23. Dinner. Maybe just a normal dinner in a queer friendgroup. Or maybe someone coming out at dinner. Maybe the first dinner at their partner's house. Or maybe someone's making dinner for their loved one.

Day 24. Confession. Coming out confession? Confession to your crush? Just a confession about your favorite food in the middle of a pride parade? Yeah, you decide!

Day 25. Date. THEY'RE ON A DATE THE BABIES!!! Is it a good date? I hope so!

Day 26. Gender is a construct. Not everything is binary.

Day 27. Queer group meeting. You can toy around with this a lot. A group meeting with closeted gays? A group meeting with every character from your different fandoms that you headcanon as bi that you want to interact in the group meeting for disaster bi's? A group meeting for aces just vibing? Maybe we'll meet a lot of different groups!

Day 28. Accidental coming out. Oops!

Day 29. Alternate time period. You want to play out a little love story but instead they live in the 1950s? Or maybe they live in the future! Maybe they live in the medieval times! Woah!

Day 30. Growing old together. Look at them now. Who knew they'd find each other in the world and now they're here?

I hope I'm gonna see some of you in pride month! It's always a pleasure! Also, when the time comes in June, and you want to use one of these prompts, don't forget to tag me ;)

[fernlessbastard]

Opinions on transfem/Trans woman c!Wilbur? If you havent already, since its a slightly popular Hc w c!W

honestly I'm mostly indifferent ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

it's not for me, but like I've got no particularly strong feelings either way. I can absolutely see a lot of reasons for that reading - it all does fit, so it's not a matter of there being no justification, but more so just personally I just don't hold that headcanon

the thing with either of them being trans is that like, I am for some reason oddly attached to Quackity being specifically and strictly a man who's into men, or at the very least masc individuals - maybe it's cause I just started off with that "hc" (I mean it is kinda pretty heavily canon - I don't recall him ever flirting with a woman). Wil being mtf would obviously make all of that very complicated - each time I start to think about it I can't help but think if 1. is there any way for Q to still be into Wil without that invalidating Wil's gender identity 2. is there any way for Q - a gay man - to have feelings for a woman that doesn't invalidate his sexual identity Like, exceptions happen, but mm idk It's obvioulsy completely different if you hc Q as pan/bi/homoflexible/whatever else, but yeah personally I'm just really attached to the idea of Q being strictly homosexual

When it comes to the nonbinary umbrella it's kinda similar (with both being amab) - with Wil it works i'd say, there isn't as much of a conflict with Quackity's sexuality, but again, I'm mostly indifferent and you do you; with Q it just kinda doesn't quite fit for me - idk he just has relatively binary man vibes imo

in regards to other combinations of one/both of them being trans: > Wil's ftm - yeah sure I'm down with that, good for him, I don't actively hc that but like yeah no conflict there, plus I guess it'd explain how he had Fundy - though fantasy mpreg makes it so much funnier > Q's mtf - idk personally i just don't feel it in the slightest. He doesn't really give me any of those vibes. Especially considering things like the fact that he's short, has longer hair, is/used to be a sex worker (with presumably male clients), is heavily (and at the very least primarily, if not exclusively) into men, canonically has a big ass, etc, so it just really doesn't sit right with me to then have him be mtf - I just want some more representation of those characteristics in men for once, y'know? It's just feels like it's perpetuating stereotypes. Of course there is no wrong way to be trans - if you're trans, you're trans, and that is valid and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. But we're talking about a fictional character, so if we have a character that's amab, likes men, is a sex worker, is short, has long hair, isn't trying to be this stereotypical "perfect big strong alpha male", is emotionally invested in their romantic life (which additionally is messy), then turning around and saying "woman" just feels like we're just going off stereotypes, and ignoring an example of a great, rare, pretty subversive representation of a man who might come off as feminine at times, but is still fully a man, and all those things that are stereotypically assigned to women and a fem gender identity don't make him any less of a man. Especially the fact that he's into men - it does personally just immediately remind me of all the "a gay man is just a woman" talk (and maybe it's cause I'm from Poland and in my 20s now so i really did grow up hearing those sentiments quite a lot). And obviously i'm not saying that that's what you're doing when you hc Q as mtf, but i am explaining my personal headcanons and reasonings for them, as well as reasoning for why I don't headcanon other things. > Q's ftm - ok so, it fits. And I really really hate that it fits. It would make so much sense but holy fuck guys I cannot handle that ok - I'm ftm, and if he's cis then I can like at least partially remove myself from all of that... but if he's ftm then holy fucking shit everything just hits so much harder like guys I'm not strong enough to handle the pain of seeing this much of myself in him ok I will simply collapse, like him being seen as an object and sexualised and put down and belittled and pressured to be all submissive and shit just hits so completely different if you see it through the lenses of him being ftm and let me fucking tell you I am NOT ready for the breakdown thinking about it and how similar and in some cases identical to my own experiences it all is would cause m > ANYWAY with them both being trans it's just a combination of my previous thoughts as they apply ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

hope that answers your question UwU anyway ha ha bye--/lh

[sophiamcdougall]

I saw a post earlier about "women's spaces" and how the writer had often experienced them as hostile rather than inherently safe and welcoming and therefore precious. Now, I could relate to that to some degree, as I still tend to start off pretty tense at events for, say, queer women even though I now go quite a lot of them: "hello I'm bi! If anyone's going to have a problem with that it would be nice to get it out of the way immediately!" But I do value some women's spaces. I would be sad if gendered loos, for instance, went away completely. I've had mad, intense conversations in women's loos that I do not think would have happened in an evenly mixed setting. I have experienced the Drunk Girl Oracle who exists nowhere but in the queue for the ladies: I want her habitat to continue to exist. But the thing is: no "women's space" I've ever been in has ever been this inviolate grove of Artemis where no man may set foot without getting turned into a fucking stag.

Trans women are women. Trans women belong in women's spaces. Trans women make me feel not less but more safe in women's spaces, for reasons that will become clear. When transphobes are screaming that the sky will and does fall in whenever a trans woman walks into a women's bathroom, of course I argue from that starting point.

But also I think it's worth examining the entire premise that spaces FOR [this type of person] are inherently spaces from which [that type of person] is banned.

So like, where are these women's spaces that don't come with the common-sense understanding that while usually, mostly you won't see men in there, if you do he's probably got reasons and its fine?

Is no one else seeing those signs that say "these premises are cleaned by male and female staff"? What about dads with small daughters? Is it really that bad if a man just plain gets lost or has one shot to avoid an emergency from time to time?

There was this meetup for bi people I used to go to. But of course there were never only bi people there. People brought along friends and partners who might be straight or gay. And oh-shit-it-turns-out-I'm-bi people who were still identifying as gay in the rest of their lives came on the quiet. And there was this one lesbian who -- ironically given a certain slur the GC crowd like to throw at bi women -- came quite unapologetically as a tourist, to observe our strange ways and, as she put it, to "encourage us."

These people were explicitly welcome. It was not a space from which not-bi people were barred. It was still a bi meetup. It was still a "bi space." I was at a sapphics' club night last Friday. And there were some men there. I mean, apparently cis, entirely male-presenting, gender-conforming men in the Women's Space™ . Some of them were bar staff, for starters. Is that OK with the GCs? Does all the terror and horror and loss at the thought of a man in your precious Women's Space go away if the man's being paid? If so, it seems oddly ... conditional. But also some of them some seemed not to be working but just sort of ... there. Maybe they were somebody's friends? They certainly didn't bother anyone. I didn't see where they ended up. You see, I was mainly focused on the hot chicks.

There's another wlw event I go to, to which a guy regularly shows up and we've chatted a few times. He usually wears what you'd conventionally call "women's clothes" but does not present as a woman. I know he uses he/him pronouns at present, (I asked) though he implied there was some possibility that might change. I don't know if he's a regular because he's a friend of the host or if he's a friend of the host because he's a regular. I don't know if something about the wlw label speaks to him on some personal level or if it's about queer solidarity, or if he's like the encouraging lesbian at the bi meetups. Whatever the reason, he's just there.

And aside from the fact that we have similar taste in hats, his presence in ye olde sapphic space also makes me feel more safe, for much the same reason the presence of a woman I know is trans does. I'm afraid it's selfish. Because if everyone's being cool about him, or about her, I can be pretty confident no one who finds out that I, too, disrupt binaries just by existing, is going to decide to ruin the evening over it. Because, you know, that has happened to me.

Now like I say, Actual Men in women's spaces aren't the reason trans women belong in women's spaces. But Actual Men entering women's spaces and not thereby ruining them forever do illustrate the utter pointlessness of thinking of women's spaces as these high-walled fortresses to begin with. Spaces for [a type of person] can exist, and still be porous. In fact, to be healthy and functional, they have to be.

[sea-saur]

gender rant under the cut

ok here's the thing i've been on t for a little over a year now and i had top surgery back in september of '22 so like i'm cooking right im a little guy in an incubator and my voice has changed for sure and my bottom growth is growing and im getting more hair in places etc etc so like things are happening right. but i'm also 5'2" and have a big ole ass and while my voice has changed it isn't changed enough to pass and while yes i have more body hair plenty of cis girls have more body hair than me and like basically i'm getting on and off dysphoria for not passing. i don't even WANT to pass as a cis man, i just want to NOT be read immediately as a girl. you know? and frankly i'm happy with the body hair and bottom growth and it'd be nice if my fat redistribution kicked in a little more but i'm comfortable with my weight etc etc like....frankly i think it's mostly the voice. the voice and the face. like if my face looked more boyish and my voice sounded more boyish i think the rest of my body would coast cause i've seen enough chubby guys of various shapes to not really feel that self conscious about my body. it's the face and voice that sell it.

and the other thing is like....i have this thing where it's like 'i don't pass as a boy therefore i'm not one' when i don't put that requirement on any other queer person but for ME living it mentally? it's hard to put together the 'i walk around and am read as a girl, and i was raised as a girl, and hell i frankly WAS a girl up until my 20's like that's a part of who i am and im not ashamed of that, i love child me she is important to who i am as a person and frankly i'm grateful to be trans in that way, i think growing up a girl can make me a better guy" (and yeah there's a lot of privilege to be able to say i love being trans, i'm in a large city and work in an industry where queerness is accepted and often celebrated so like. i know. i'm really very very lucky and im extremely grateful for that) but mentally, it's hard for me to even see myself as a transmasc person when i don't SEE it physically, AND because my insides are still me. like i'm still me. and i didn't grow up as feeling like a boy in a girls body. i'm still some kind of nonbinary, still very queer in general, like being bi puts an interesting spin on this too since i have never been and don't associate my personal self with lesbian spaces, or gay men spaces, i sort of float in any queer generalities that people are into. but yeah, never really clicked with lesbian specific environments. i love lesbians but im just not one.

BUT i was raised a girl, so i feel COMFORTABLE around women, often times more than men. queer people in general of any gender are number 1, but ya know. the gist is coming off of a gig the last month that was very queer coded in the musical we were doing, and being surrounded by queer women making lesbian jokes, i felt...simultaneously left out (no one was leaving me out, to be clear, i mean within my own personal identity crisis lol) and also too included. i don't know. a lot of it is in my head, people are often good about my pronouns and frankly i don't KNOW how my usual colleagues see me as a person, if they have to work harder to reframe their interpretation of me away from "girl" and into "transmasc person" since i worked with a number of them before i started medically transitioning. thankfully i always read as a queer person haha. i have that going for me, which does feel very affirming.

idk. even my own apartment decor gives me dysphoria sometimes, which drives me crazy!! i like my apartment decor! I keep trying to do little things to "masc" it up, neutralize it a little, even tho i love all the things i've put in my home. i need new curtains.

there's nothing more to do about it right now i guess, besides try and take more active steps toward my legal name change, and potentially switching from t gel to injections, but that scares me because i'm afraid of doing it wrong and hurting myself. the gel is safer that way. and the dose is daily so i think it gives are more consistent level throughout the week. i also don't know exactly how much i want to pass as "just some guy" even tho this entire rant is literally about that. i think that my fear is that i look cis/straight, which frankly idk that i ever even would based on how i am as a person, so idk why i'm worried about it. basically, i want to stop feeling like i'm 'pretending' to be transmasc. cause sometimes it feels like it's all a lie and im actually just a girl who doesn't want to be a girl but is stuck as one. especially since i don't want to be a cis guy either. i also don't want to lose my ties to my past - i don't connect with womanhood, but i don't want to lose the "sisterhood" for lack of a better term? But also really want to be part of the queer "brotherhood" that i feel like i can't be based on where i am as a person? idk i feel a lot of the time that when im in my own home, im just a little goosey guy. the second i leave my apartment and im percieved, i'm a masculine woman to the world. and even tho masculine women are the fucking shit, im just not that!! and so. dysphoria.

[linklog]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH

And since it's pride month now so i feel like I should share my lgbt headcannons

My list of Lgbt headcannons

This will be about botw and totk specifically

If you don't agree that's fine once again these are just my headcannons

⚠️⚠️WARNING⚠️⚠️ TOTK SPOLIER ON THE LAST CHARACTER, DON'T LOOK AFTER 5TH IF NOT WANTING SPOILERS

Enjoy

You can not tell me this man is completely straight, he has got to be some form of queer.

Link

Possibly Pan, maybe even poly romantic. I could see him being ok with being in a relationship with just about anyone, of course if they are an ass hole than he wouldn't but you get it.

Revali

With the way that Link rocks every outfit out there, masculine, feminine, and in between I like to think he is either a trans guy (ftm) or is like non binary. Not really caring, finding comfort being seen as a vai or voe or neither at all.

Ok first off he is too sassy for his own good. I have a love hate relationship with this bird. Which brings me to my first point.

Zelda

He's gay, mlm a sassy little gay man. I will take no criticism on this actually.

She is bi, she understands beauty on a scientific level. She could explain the science behind a brains attraction to just about anyone.

Urbosa

She'd also probably be ok with being a u'haul gay. Having a cute library built into the walls with a loft bed sitting area where she could sit and read, or write in her journal, or cuddle with a partner as she tells them about her most recent research

That is a strong lesbian if ever I saw one. She is as proud as she is strong. Anyone ever try to discriminate against her or someone else around her she'd happily put them in their place.

Bolson

With a catchphrase such as "SHA-DING" there is no one this is a fully straight man.

Not to mention his odd construction sayings.

He's gay, maybe bi but mostly mlm

(I just had to mention him because I found his photo lol)

Last but certainly not least

SIDON

Now for starts this is my favorite character (he may or may not have been the reason I got into botw lol)

I have always seen him as pan, part of his color pallet looked like the flag pretty clearly.

I felt like he might’ve been leaning towards masculine folks more, but was open to other relationships.

In tears of the kingdom he has a wife, but that doesn't stop my brain from imagining him (and his wife) either being in a poly relationship or Sidon having a mlm relation while his wife has a wlw one. (My dream relation may or may not be Sidon and Link, and Yona and Zelda. It'd just be so cute, and could lead for some intresting areanged marrige fanfics)

That's all for now, I might come back later in the month with more. Be proud of who you are, its pride month after all. Happy pride🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[artinvain]

hii! i was wondering what you believe being a lesbian means? i’ve heard a lot of people say women loving women, afab loving afab, nonmen loving nonmen, etc. i only realized that i was a lesbian recently and im trying to understand more about the community beyond typical femme and masc standards.

congratulations on your beautiful realisation. coming out as a lesbian saved my life!! I hope you’re doing fab💖

whew this is a rough one just because there’s so much to be said. I know I don’t speak for the entirety of the lesbian community but from what I’ve seen irl, in my university studies and on the internet this is what I personally believe. and I think this may help as I this is how I went on my journey and have seen this for many other lesbians :)) 🥰🥰

so I’ve always known I was a lesbian. from like 5-10 when we first interact with romantic interests (I know it started young for me - long story), I was wanted to be around girls, hold them, touch them, when I saw women on tv I wanted to kiss them - be the guy they kissed (this is all known retrospectively).

when my mom started to ask me about who I would marry one day (of course she inserted a man bc I grew up in a religious house hold), I told her I wanted a man who was as handsome as an actor, as rich as bill gates (I had no concept of money ok) and spent time travelling (so we wouldn’t have to be together).

when she asked me if I wouldn’t be lonely I told her “of course not” because I would be with my best friends (all women) 24/7.

I then went on to push this narrative, told boys I couldn’t date them because I was Sabin myself for jesus and my unattainable husband. I touched my best friends “too much”, I knew I wanted to kiss them but kept praying the feeling would go away.

when I got to university I moved in with my older gay sibling (thank god) who has many queer friends, pan women, trans men, bi men! they were all soft and gentle and welcoming. I realised there was nothing scary or unholy about such a loving community.

so when the romantic feelings for women started to seep though again. I didn’t stop it. and then it was overwhelming and I realised I never wanted to be around or with men anyway, I had always been hiding this love inside me.

so I started getting into queer basics by dating and what I learnt in my gender studies courses.

for me lesbians understand me inherently without having to say a word (black lesbians specifically) but this goes for general sapphics as well (sometimes).

Because lesbians are socialised as women and or black and poc people, we don’t have to rediscover the systematic dynamics of oppression and patriarchy in our relationship because we both have grappled with that and it’s so easy to speak about and we understand that those ideas don’t pertain to us. we share the same special love for each other, something deeper than what can be explained with words.

“I know you,” is how it feels. the energy, time and love to learn and keep learning about your partner. growing in the same parallel lanes. I know her body, the lesbian body because it is also mine in a way.

so yeah as you can tell I love a good les4les and I looove a good deeply sapphic woman!!!

Lesbians have carved out our own slice of identity by creating a culture and partaking in a gender and sexuality that has been made outside of the patriarchy and the male gaze.

I do know a lot of trans masculine people identify with the lesbian community because some of these lesbians who are more butch and masc leaning sometimes decide to take t, have top surgery for example.

I know a lot of the transmasc people in my life who used to be lesbian are in a transitional space out of the community and into one that better suits them and where they are understood by other queer transmen. but they’ll never completely have no connection to the lesbian community, because that’s where they were socialised for most of their lives, it’s the community they’ll helped build. So they’ll always be a loving ally. A part of the family.

however many lesbians do not like to be with people who identify as men especially if they socially transition because it can cause a shift in dynamics, when one partner is now benefitting from the patriarchy on the basis of passing for example. Others believe it is disrespectful to date transmen and call themselves lesbians because for them lesbian is a specifically feminine aligned word and that feels invalidating to the trans man’s identity (and many trans men feel the same).

So yeah — there are too many nuances to count. But if you want to make it easy for yourself!? Think about what you want, what you are attracted to and what you like. really hone in on that and be comfortable with yourself in your lesbian identity, read some books on it, hell read some lesbian smut to get comfortable in the pleasure that is lesbianism. It’s about what you like and go about it kindly xx (and be smart and safe please)

Also often people will say that trans women can’t be lesbians but if you know that gender expression and sexuality are different things then you know that isn’t true :))

Ummm yeah that’s what I think at least 👁️👄👁️

[gonnacrackaribbb]

i just drove 5 hours back to school alone and thought of this stupid au while listening to all of my liked songs on shuffle. here's my style gen z celebrity au:

-Stan Marsh: 23, cis man, bi

-Kyle Broflovski: 24, trans man, gay

-Stan's music has the same vibe as the neighbourhood, tv girl, alex g, and some front bottoms sprinkled in. his style is super inconsistent and he can never decide what he wants his "sound" to be

-Kyle's music has the same vibe as phoebe bridgers, boygenius, taylor swift's more acoustic stuff, and some gracie abrams. he has a really soft pretty voice but he low-key whisper sings sometimes which causes some people to discredit his vocal talent

-they are the messiest couple. no one can ever tell if they're together or not. there's a twitter account "are stan and kyle broken up rn?" and half of the daily updates are "we have no idea."

-stan hears kyle's voice for the first time when he's featured on some mainstream rapper's song (think lovin me by kid cudi ft phoebe bridgers) and he decides he needs him to sing backup vocals on one of his songs immediately right now

-but stan is a super pretentious and kind of dickish guy and wants him to feature on the track with no credit. kyle is also pretentious but in a different way and values his art too much and he says no

-stan has an ego but is not above begging. kyle comes storming into the studio when he's mixing one day and tells him to please leave he and his manager the fuck alone. stan falls in love right there and asks him to go to dinner with him

-kyle tells him he has a bf, and stan says "ok he can come too." kyle for some reason is super into that, and agrees only if stan will give him credit on the song

-kyle has kind of a taylor swift arc early in his career where people much older than him take advantage of him romantically. he's dating a 36 year old movie star when he first meets stan

-stan is the first one to tell kyle that men in their thirties preying on him when he was 19 was super gross and wrong

-after they hang out for the first time kyle breaks up with said movie star immediately 

-they are so enamored with each other so quick it gives everyone whiplash

-stan fell first but kyle def fell harder

-kyle keeps pretty private on social media but stan loves posting pics of him on his instagram

-stan is sort of grungy (dresses like kurt cobain, pete davidson, kind of looks stupid all the time) and kyle dresses more indie and put together (he also has a septum piercing)

-both of their fanbases hate the fact that they're dating. a lot of stan's fans think kyle is too stuck up for him and kyle's fans think stan is just gross (he is)

-its also this huge debate between the fandoms on who made who famous (it was low-key kyle boosting stan's career)

-they release a lot of duets together. they're all under stan's label and every time they fight and break up stan takes them off of streaming services

-they are both so petty and melodramatic and it makes everything so much more entertaining for the rest of the world

-they will help each other write break up songs about the other

-stan comes from a really broken family and has a lot of mommy AND daddy issues. becoming famous was really a sort of right place at the right time thing. kyle is a nepo baby and stan resents that so much even though he never admits it

-everyone has lost count, but for the record they have broken up and gotten back together 27 times

-they're both just unstable and fucked up people who refuse to go to therapy and when they're together they bond over that, but when they get into a fight they use it against each other

-one of the times they "break up" kyle sleeps with bo burnham. pics come out of bo leaving his apartment. its sort of a ross and rachel debate of whether or not they were actually broken up and single

-stan famously punches bo burnham in the face at a party. kyle takes him back immediately 

-but not before stan drops a song calling kyle a cheater (pretty much this). when he's asked about it in an interview kyle is petty af and says "it's obvious he wrote that one all by himself! :)"

-one time the paparazzi find randy outside of a liquor store and ask what he thinks of kyle. his reply is "who?" and people think he's being petty, but he genuinely forgets who he is. the video goes viral

-kyle thinks this is super funny and posts the video on his instagram feed

-stan isnt that close with either of his parents but he sends them both a check every month so he knows that they're financially stable

-he and his sister grew up in low-income housing (with their mom) and their grandparents house (with their dad)

-because of this stan gets really anxious about money even though he has plenty now. kyle grew up in Beverly Hills and was super wealthy and privileged. he and stan fight about money a lot

-kyle gets stans name tatted on his ass cheek. stan posts a super zoomed-in picture on his instagram story (they break up again 2 days later)

[axilarycobra]

Dragonets of Destiny LGTBQ+ Headcanons

I need to get going on posting these because I'm so behind (my school literally doesn't get out until THURSDAY). I'm just going to do the 1st arc protagonists right now because I like to make lots of headcanons about this stuff specifically (screw canon relationships) so it's probably long (*added note, it is long sry).

I already posted some of these on Insta and someone already commented on how it's hard to not debate me about these so please don't. They're just headcanons, they're mine, you don't have to believe them at all.

Clay

trans demiboy (he/they), gay, aromantic, polyamorous

quick note I want to make, I use trans demiboy to mean that Clay was afab. The distinction isn't that important, he'd still be a demiboy either way, it's just a little more specific to my hcs. For Glory, later on here who is a demigirl, hers just says demigirl because she was also afab.

This one evolved a lot over the *time frame (idk what it is)* that I've been making headcanons. Originally, Clay was just pan and that was it. Then, I was making a joke AU with my friend and Clay was trans in it but then I realized that I actually liked that so I decided to hc him as trans. The aromantic hc came with that just being a popular one with him, however, I don't hc him as aroace, I still like to think he has sexual attraction. Also, a lot of these come along with the polyamorous hc, that's because I ship them in relationships where they are with multiple dragons. I'll save those for another time since some get complicated.

Tsunami

genderfluid (she/her/they/them), lesbian, graysexual

Just like Clay (and all of these tbh), Tsunami has changed quite a bit. I originally hced her as just bi but I saw someone else hcing her as genderfluid and I liked that. There was a big spur in genderfluid hcs after I started to identify as genderfluid and that's visible throughout this. I also saw another person hcing her as lesbian which I think fit. The graysexual is a newer one, I didn't start hcing characters that until recently because I didn't even know what it was until recently, but I think it's a label that fits a lot of characters in my hcs.

Glory

demigirl (she/they), lesbian, asexual

Going to keep this one shorter. I always hced Glory as demigirl, that has never changed, but I used to hc her as bi. It wasn't until recently that I liked the lesbian hc. I'm actually not sure where the asexual hc came from but I like it, I think it fits well with the Glory that's portrayed in this hc AU I have.

Starflight

transmasc (he/him), gay, demiromantic, asexual

Starflight has probably changed the most. He originally was just a cishet guy, like, the only one of all the main characters. Then I started to like the Starflight x Flame ship and I was like, "ok, that has to change now" so it did. Then I started to like the popular transmasc Starflight hc and I added that. A while ago, I started to experiment more with aromantic and asexual spectrum hcs because I didn't have a lot of them and believed that they are definitely more common than I had them portrayed throughout these hcs.

Sunny

genderfluid/nonbinary (they/he/sun/sol), pan, aroflux, polyamorous

Sunny is the first character I had using neopronouns. I originally had them identifying as nonbinary but I also liked the genderfluid hc, ultimately, I decided that they could use both since that's kind of what I do. I know the aroace hc for Sunny is popular, but I like to think they still experience attraction, but it isn't always clear, hence aroflux. Sometimes sun feels attraction but it fluctuates. Also, the polyamorous hc comes along with the fact that I ship him in a relationship with multiple dragons, again, I'll save those for another day.

[fvedyetor]

Fyodor and Chuuya for the character ask game

oooh ty for the ask! sorry for how long and messy it is i have lots of thoughts just not very coherent

ok fedya first:

Sexuality Headcanon: bi but denies it. lowkey just anyone with white hair huh. actually yk what?? aroallo. hes soooo aro omg (projecting). fyodor himself would be very no-label tho.

Gender Headcanon: um usually just cis actually. cis guy or cis woman. but valleykey's fics are so so good and xir fyodor gender fuckery is so fun. again i think fyodor is pretty no-label. could have queer vibes, but would never tell you. OMG ESPECIALLY IF FEDYA TAKES OVER OTHER PEOPLE'S BODIES wait i wanna see him take over a woman. genderfluid fyodor?

A ship I have with said character: fyosig :3 theyre my toxic yuri. i ship fedya with so many people but him and sigma's relationship is so interesting and brain itching omg. in canon itd be so toxic and bad and fucked up and in my aus its also that but sometimes its fluffy.

A BROTP I have with said character: um. yk what? agatha and fyodor. i want to see what their relationship is like... but for now im just imagining them drinking tea and talking shit abt fitzgerald and stuff.

A NOTP I have with said character: ummm i rarely have notp's. i am super non-judgmental when it comes to stuff like this in fandom. fyodors one of those characters that pretty much every ship i see is super cool

A random headcanon: strawberries. he likes strawberries. idk just thinking abt fyodor and bloody fruit hehe (pomegranates!! he'd struggle opening pomegranates he'd need help from kolya or other)

General Opinion over said character: very cool!! asagiri is hurting my brain with all the lore drops abt him that actually isnt enough explanation of lore. i love fyodor and his religious symbolism omgggg

chuuya!:

Sexuality Headcanon: um gay or bi w/ very masc preference. hes the guy who'd think he's gay and then realize hes bisexual, not the other way around. theres a fave fic of mine with transfem dazai? chuuya is sure hes into men and then after dazais two year defection he comes to the basement and sees the most gorgeous woman ever and is like "oh wait nevermind" also i think he'd be into yosano. but thats it for the women he's attracted to.

Gender Headcanon: trans masc loser :) love him

A ship I have with said character: sigchuu. i have a legend of zelda au with them and omg <3 <3 chuuya would fix sigma. but not really. anyways sigchuu my beloved <3 they have similar pasts if you look close enough... theyre so silly!!

A BROTP I have with said character: tachihara and chuuya!! i mean obviously the flags ofc but i was just reading some fics and omg tachihara and chuuya are besties. they need to hang out more

A NOTP I have with said character: again... i dont think theres anyone here... tho maybe i'll say romantic skk. platonic and queerplatonic skk is so cool and more fitting i think. i'll still read romantic skk fics tho

A random headcanon: ummm hmm i dont think about chuuya enough for this huh. i think he'd be into theatre but it'd be a guilty pleasure. in the privacy of his own home, he's jamming out to rock musicals, but in public he'd never squeak a word about theatre bc hes so embarrassed.

General Opinion over said character: so cool!! hes so awesome. i like him. i like how hes so powerful but then also just so chill. as much as people are sad about how little we see him in canon, i really like how he'll only pop in once a while. good for him for skipping out on the canon's bullshit all the time hehe

haha sorry for how long this is!! i dont have any solid headcanons really, theres so many ideas out there i cant pick lol

ask game

[genderqueerdykes]

Is it ok to just talk about my gender journey in your asks? I don't have anything very profound or helpful to say I just feel like I need to tell someone what it's like .?

I was amab and raised by my mom along with my sister, I enjoyed lots of 'girly' things as a kid until they were socialized out of me. In middle school I thought I was gay because we didn't know bi was a thing yet, but then someone called me a lesbian and it just rang around my head for years. I've always played the 'straight guy' role as an adult because it's easy and I have vivid memories of the homophobia I experienced throughout childhood, but I feel like a trans man. Clumsy term here and not intended to take from anyone else. I mean I feel like I was a girl at one point who had been acting like a boy for about 30 years even though I still don't 'feel' like a man and I get self conscious that I'm performing manhood

I don't think anyone's gender is wrong but for some reason I keep asking if I'm wrong to think or feel this

yeah, of course that's okay!

i feel like a lot of people could potentially relate to this experience- there are afab women who often times relate to transfem experiences because of how aggressively robbed of femininity they were as children, or even continuing into adulthood- i have actually heard from several other amab people who also feel like trans men! there are folks who have coined the term amab trans man- if you feel as though you've had to fight for manhood or transition into manhood for safety, that title can fit you if you choose to adopt it

there can also be the situation of an amab kid being born into a family of predominantly afab women who take it upon themselves to make the amab child extra feminine, or treat them like "one of the girls" and that can make the amab child's journey with gender very confusing if they are not allowed to be masculine at all whatsoever from a young age.

it sounds like you've had a very hard and confusing journey and i'm sorry other people have been so invasive and rude to you- i feel you, often times trans and genderqueer people feel that they're gay before they find out what transness is, and sometimes it can lead you to feel extra confused. if you don't feel like a straight guy, and you feel like you're playing a straight guy as a role, that's a good sign that that's not your real identity, and i'm glad you're questioning things!

i'm glad you took the time to write things out, that must be very hard to deal with and a lot to unravel. it'll take time for those things to begin to make sense. it's clear that you're not trying to take any terms from anyone, you're just trying to sort things out, and that's okay! i can't tell you exactly what's going on, but i hope you're able to sort out how you feel with regards to your gender, it's not easy, especially when other people are very prying

take care of yourself! good luck with everything, feel free to come back and let us know if you have any updates or further questions, take care of yourself, you are apprecaited

[spacelazarwolf]

Hey, I've seen you've been getting a lot of stupid anons lately, so I just wanna say thanks for a second here.

I'm an asian trans guy in high school, and the world has made me feel like people like me don't exist; can't exist (because I guess some people are so uncreative and isolated that they can't fathom people in multiple minority groups). I think you're really brave for having this blog, not in a backhanded "you're so brave to exist" way, but because on the internet it's very easy to hide your identity to avoid harassment from idiots, (that's what I do) and you don't. Your blog has helped me come to terms with the fact that it's ok for me to like guys sometimes and it's not proof I'm cis or something. You're a very intelligent and well-spoken person, and your blog makes me feel less alone in the world. It's helped me begin to accept myself by separating my own identity from the dog shit stereotypes that I've been surrounded by since birth. Plus you have great taste in memes and I've learned some pretty neat things about Jewish culture. Asian/Jewish solidarity, bi/gay solidarity, STAY WINNING KING!

Also if you have any tips on getting over internalized transphobia/biphobia/homophobia, I'd love to hear em :P

thank you so much!! this made me tear up, which is difficult considering t makes it harder for me to cry lmao.

i think the biggest tip i can give you is to meet as many other queer people as you can, especially older queer people. i dealt with a lot of internalized transphobia this summer when i was deciding whether or not to come out, and something that really changed my outlook was coming out to my choir director who is an older cis gay man (married with kids and grandkids, survived the aids crisis) who was immediately so lovely and supportive. he and his husband came with me to my first suit fitting and bought me a couple of shirts as a coming out present. i also made more trans masc and otherwise non femme trans friends who i could talk to about what i was going through, and having people who saw me for who i was, even when i couldn’t, was invaluable.

[crazyalien87]

Fuuuck i hate everything sometimes

I have stuff to do e.g. drink wtaer but im stucking staringbat this website til i post what i wanna post.

Anyway here it is

Idk if im fucking trans or not bc i kinda want ti transition but i dont need to and i wont bc im a fucking coward. Also in 2020-2023 time frame there was other shit goin on basically i hated mysekf and therefore my face and voice and name but convinced myself it was gender dysphoria instead but it wasnt.

Also i uses to have fucking dysphoria of no dick but only after i started wesring fake dick?!?!? after i got straight bf i stopped wearing it and decided i was not trans. But something is off?? But like i still wanna call myself a woman bc that is my experience u know i am female. i havent transitioned or come out publicly or anything ok evetyone knows im a woman. but i cant call myself a fucking cis woman. idk man i just wanna be a buff woman with facial hair and a dick or better yet i wanna be a shapeshifter so if i date het guy or lesbian i will not have dick but if im with a bi person maybe i can have a dick. it is weird bc like i mainly want a dick for fucking women not for gender reasons. Before tho i felt i needed it to be seen as cool or something (sexism). (despite not wanting others to know about it, i just wanted like big dick energy but just dick energy).

So now idk. Bc Im a woman and im fine with most aspects of it. But there still be 2 male things i want: facial hair and a dick. But women can have facial hair. I just want it for style purposes. Not even for gender (?). Also the dick it is for sex so really i should just get a strapon. So like ???. I cant be like a year ago or something when i say my gender identiy is mix of male and female when i just wanna be female but with masculine style and (having) sex? Right??? Idkk bruhhh. Im just a woman who wants facial hair and a strrapon. So im cis? But why it doesnt feel right?! I mean i even have facial hair but barely any so i want more. Like if i used minoxidil to get more is that a transition? Am i an admasculine cis woman?!😭bruh.

Why cant i just be female/woman (sex) and then my gender identiy is like genderqueer woman or some shit. Bc i have fem and masc interests and traits and etc. Idk dude. But then i feel im bending to patriarchy if i have to give myself a separate kinda woman identity bc i want a mustache and i wear jeans. Like damn. But facial hair is male, right? it makes no fucking sense like why does testosterine even affect hair like why does beards and baldness help ur sperm or ur caveman hunting or some shit😭. Why cant we all just be mammals with hair and style it how we want?😭 Why is beard connected to balls😭Evolution is fucking stupid sometimes because damn😭

Idk feel like genderqueer woman is best maybe and just not state if im cis?!?!?! wtf idk man maybe i am cis. But then i cant relate to other women as much as i think i should sometiems and i get confused again😭I had a while friend grouo of sevral men from my computer science classes in uni is that not normal😭(sorry im just ranting rn this is so random)

Like genderqueer doesnt just mean nonbinary it can also mean gnc but like is me wanting to eff a woman with a dicklike strapon queer? straight in a gay way or gay in a straight way? But really i wanna be shapeshifter and only have dick when i have sexy gf who would like it and only when we gonna fuck so it is not gender thing but like??😭 Can a cis woman want that?! But i dont have woman gender identity tho, i dont have brain that needd to be female i just am. Like if i was born male would i still wanna be female??? Maybe?? But i wouldnt remove my dick and I'd be a trans woman with no bottom dysphoria but then ppl would say im not a real trans woman if i like my beard and dick so i would be nonbinary...Idk wtf is happening here😭. Unless i do want a dick all the time not in shapeshifter way but i know i dont need it and i dont want to ruin my chances of a relationship with a gynesexual person like how i almost ruined my relationship with my ex bf But if i want a dick in general (not just for sex) but I dont need it then im not trans right? But if i had it i wouldnt remove it so like...I wouldnt be a 100% binary trans woman if i was born male so i cant be a 100% binary cis woman?!😭

It sucks bc like some ppl say trans is only if u need to transition but some say want is enough. Some say it is only if u transition or not. I'd never get s fake dick surgery if I don't need it...But I would totally use minoxidil to grow facial hair if it werent for: 1. it is toxic to cats 2. What if ppl hate me for it (like those who affect me like family, friends, coworkers, or boss...) 3. What if it is hard to shave or there are pimples in the way or something (much lesser issue than the others but I might as well mention it). But purposefully giving myself more facial is not trans bc some women can grow full beard naturallly...right?! Is my gender 98% woman, 1% beard, and 1% dick?!?!?! or maybe 100% woman but also 1% mustache and 1% dick

But this is all assuming i should define my identity on what i want but that changes😭 ~3 years ago i wanted a somewhat maler face and voice like androgynohs at least but now i dont even care. But i was so sure of it when my mom asked me about it😭ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

What if one day i grow a mustache but then realize i dont like it and shave it off??!?!?! That is normal for men and i wish i had that goddamn😡😭

Maybe im just a woman with hella masculine and feminine energy. Androgynous personality and vibes. What the hell am I on about?😭.

tl,dr: Im female and I like it but I want a mustache and a dick but I don't need those things so idm if it makes me not cis or not😭. Fuck why cant i just be a woman who wants some stuff?

[transsexual-dandelions]

Do you think it's weird that mickey makes me feel like gender envy to a point? I've always gone back and forth on gender identity. The majority of my life I've been fine and felt like myself as my birth gender (female) I went through a period of time for a few years where I identified as non-binary, and then that didn't feel right anymore and I just kinda fell back into presenting as female, and I've been okay with that. But ever since finding shameless I have realized how much I am like mickey, and I find myself picking up mannerisms from him and when I dress more like masculine or androgynous, I am incredibly happy. But I'm also still happy presenting as female like 98% of the time???? I'm so very confused lol I use she/her pronouns, but I wouldn't be offended is I was referred to with they/them either. Does any of this even make sense? Wah sorry to ramble in your messages lol.

First, thank you for trusting me with this <3 I’m very honored, exploring your gender and presentation can be a very vulnerable thing

Second, I don’t think it’s weird! And it does make sense!

Something I think that everyone should know is that gender and sexuality can be very fluid, and sometimes you might just have the wrong label for the same feeling or have that feeling change over time. For example, there was a time I was a lesbian. I didn’t think I was one and was confused, there was a point in time where I was a woman who liked other woman! And somehow I reached the opposite end of the spectrum, a gay guy who likes other guys! On the other hand, I thought I was bi when I later realized I was ace, because “oh equal attraction” but zero attraction is not the same as equal, for me, anyway. I do hope that makes sense.

You gender presentation and expression are not the same as your gender itself, which both makes it easier and infinitely more confusing. Sometimes it’s an indicator of who you are, and sometimes you’re just gender nonconforming and enjoy different presentations, and both are valid! And your presentation doesn’t have to match your gender itself! You can present extremely feminine, pass as a woman, and use they/them or he/him! Or as masculine as you want and pass as a male and use she/her!

Also! You can be several things! You can be both! Or multiple! Sometimes it’s complicated! You can be a guy who’s a lesbian! Or a girl who’s a gay guy! Or some other infinitely nuanced thing! Gender and sexuality contain multitudes! You can be two “contradictory” things!

If that’s something that appeals to you, I’d suggest reading about drag queens and butch lesbians more! And drag kings! I can find some things for you, if you’d like

To me, pronouns were the easiest but most time consuming thing to figure out. I just, switched between some amount for a few months and took note of how what made me feel. It’s ok when people casually refer to me with they/them or she/her, if they don’t know me it doesn’t really bother me, but well I’ve been out for five or so years and I still get super excited when someone calls me “he” or uses my name. And well, no experience is universal.

Also!! Perhaps look into pronouns behind the trinary! Have fun! You can make whatever pronouns you want! I love and will support neopronouns until the day I die! And nounself pronouns! Once you stop looking for cishet approval, you’ll feel a lot better! I love xe/xem! It’s comfortable! You’re also allowed to have only certain people use certain things for you! I love using it/it’s! But well, only when queer people do it! Especially trans! Because there’s that knowledge of knowing they understand to some degree, shared experiences and a deeper understanding of gender.

Gender euphoria might feel different for everyone, for me it’s very giddy and excited and generally !!! For others, I could imagine it as coming home after a long day or something comforting, your favorite sweater.

There’s the age old problem of not knowing if it’s gender envy or attraction, I’ve decided to ignore that for me because my gender and sexuality are so tied together? Like my gender IS gay guy and faggot yk? It’s just infinitely Queer, and my queerness is very radical to me

I don’t know the right words to explain it, besides it’ll just feel right and you’ll just know it eventually. It just Feels Right in my bones to be a trans masc genderqueer gay guy, and not a masculine straight girl.

Please please please don’t forget you can change it however much you want, forever. There is no limit!! I’m giving you permission to play fuck around and find out as much you want or feel the need to!

I hope this was helpful!! I just rambled a lot, reading about other people’s experiences and perspectives helped me figure out mine, especially diverse ones. There’s no rush or deadline to have this figured out by, take your time and I think it’ll hit you when it’s supposed to. Feel free to ask me any questions, I’m always willing to talk more !! I also might have book and reading recs tucked away if that’s something you’d be interested in!

[b-is-for-borderline]

Ok, I might really regret this but I believe in hearing those I disagree with so I can at least try to understand where they are coming from. After all, how can I be comfortable saying I disagree if I don’t at least try to understand what they are saying

So, TERFs.

I am a gay man. 100% I like men. Have yet to be attracted to a woman. Even the��“trans women are still men”, yeah have yet to have my dick rise for a transwomen. 

Yet

My first crush, that made me know I was gay and not Bi or curious, was Sam Collins, the Transman Youtuber. 

Now I have no idea what his genitals are, nor did my attraction change for him  based on the possibility he didn’t have bottom surgery. 

Like, might be TMI but I think its the perfect amount here, I am a power bottom. Without a dick I will not be satisfied, and realistically if I’m not sexually satisfied then the relationship might not be viable. 

But to me, that is secondary on inital attraction. As far as I’m concerned, he is a man, and I was really attracted. 

And I am 100% okay with a phalloplasty. I’ve been with men who have had that before (FYI, most phallos are on Cis men for medical reasons) and from my experience as long as they’ve had implants they are golden. 

My issue is, why is it every time I talk to a rad fem they try to gatekeep my sexuality. 

Like, look, I’m gay and a man not having either a penis or a neo-penis is an issue for me. But realistically, there are cis men who don’t have penises. Them not having workable penises for me does not impact on me being attracted to them as a gay guy.

Nor would I question someone being gay if they liked men but were cool with men with fannys. them being gay is up to them. It doesn’t affect me

Like I never thought I would defend Arielle Scarcella, But at least she understands that me being attracted to men that might not have a penis does not make me less gay. Her exact words were that a woman having a vagina was key for her sexuality, but she wouldn’t deny another women her lesbianism because she’s with a transwoman who still has her penis. 

Like, could actual rad fems please explain to me why they either 1. disagree with the gatekeeping on me being gay

or 2.  why they know more about my sexuality than me. 

Also, I’m tagging LGBT things cause I want this to be civil. I want people like me to read and at least try to see the other side. 

[karmautistic]

Hell yeah give us some team awesome hcs

[SLAPS MY HANDS ON TABLE EXCITEDLY] OH MY GOD OK HERE WE GO

SOSO TEAM AWESOME ARE 100% FOUND FAMILY BROTHERS AND ALSO The dynamic of caring siblings and annoying siblings at the same time. Like they could be sobbing into one another bc the other almost died and then be like "Fuck you." the next day when they pass by each other in the hall for no reason. Like. Eugene could go "Damn, Varian is a loser. He sucks. Stinky." but then some random villager goes "That alchemist kid is such a waste." And Eugene just instantly runs up to them and is like "What the fuck did u just say abt my bro??????"

Also love the idea of Varian coming out as bi or gay to Eugene like "I like guys..." and Eugene, who is bisexual, goes "Uhm yeah ok? Me too? ur not special??" and Varian's like "I'M BEING SERIOUS YOU ASS???????"

Bonus points if Flynn Rider was his trans awakening bc he was like "omg wow this guy is so cool I wanna be just like him." (which is funny cause as they get closer Varian just makes fun of him bc. He has a very brotherly urge to be as annoying as possible)

ALSO ALSO VARIGO BONUS: Eugene telling Hugo embarrassing stories abt Varian at the two's wedding whiel Varian is like "THAT IS NOT TRUE YOU FUCKING LIAR STOP POISINGIN MY HUSBAND AGAINST ME STOPPPPPPPPP"

The idea of Hugo having to go through hell and back to get Eugene's approval to marry Varian only for him to finally do it and Eugene to be like "lol I just wanted to fuck with you and see how far you'd go" instantly followed by him being tackled by the blond as he screams at Varian for help. Varian's urge to help Eugene not be beat up by his fiance is strong but the urge to be an annoying little brother is stronger. (Got some of this idea from Glace!! <3)

OK THATS ALL I HAVE FOR NOW AND MOST OF THEM AREN'T CONNECTED AT ALL BUT <33