#Narcissistic Behavior

[femmefatalevibe]

Hi I was wondering how do you deal with a toxic family member? How do you handle situations in which they are manipulative and gaslighting you?

Validate your own emotions and experiences

Practice emotional differentiation. Prioritize your own feelings and goals

Learn the psychology behind guilt-tripping, shaming, and people-pleasing & how it's used to manipulate/gaslight children of narcissistic & other types of emotionally immature parents

Implement the "grey rocking" technique during conversations (be "boring' and emotionally flat; don't give them the emotional reaction they crave)

Go as low contact as humanely possible (no contact is the best option). Never initiate a conversation unless its absolutely necessary (logistical issue, emergency, etc. if needed)

Keep them on an information diet. Don't tell them anything about your life that is not vital for them to know

Don't try to change their minds. Just say "You're right," and disengage

Set boundaries on conversation topics/them criticizing your character. Say "I'm not engaging in this conversation." Stop replying, hang up the phone, or walk away

Live your life with them out of sight, out of mind as much as possible. You deserve to live in peace and be happy, no matter what these toxic family members say

Hope this helps xx

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

Poor Behavior & Toxic Personality Traits Of A Narcissist

*Please note that individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are complex and multifaceted, and not all individuals with NPD will exhibit all of the traits listed below. Additionally, it's essential to approach this topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment or criticism.*

[ariesintheshire]

A narcissist doesn’t love you. They love your loyalty. Your empathy. Your silence. The parts of you they can use. They don’t want healing. They want an audience for their damage, and someone to blame for the mess they won’t clean up. Love shouldn’t feel like survival.

[mojo-yous]

WHY IS HE SAYING 1% OF HIS AUDIENCE ON YOUTUBE IS FROM DSMP.

[manasv1]

Narcissistic

All the emotional scars I gave myself thinking you gave All the pettylies in my mind saying they deserve me I made myself the victim god knows mwhy but I don't even believe in him so he would deny

Deny knowing anything about me anyway cause even he doesn't know all my shades I act like the victim, the one who got hurt my whole life is portrayed as a hyperbole

I may be the one hurting you again and again but I'll never accept it even if it came to my face I'll deny and deny until you give up I'll tell myself to keep my chin up

But I'll say sorry for all the miscellaneous things be it seeing your phone or a mistaken touching ill not speak up when you're absolutely wrong and just agree to everything like a broken song

[nothing0fnothing]

“narcissist” is not a mental health diagnosis, NPD is. you dont get diagnosed as a narcissist, you get diagnosed with NPD and can choose to call yourself a narcissist or just a pwNPD.

Someone with NPD can be abusive and it can have nothing to do with their NPD, someone without NPD can be abusive and it can have everything to do with narcissism. “narc abuse” is just a description of how the survivor was abused, not an attack on people with NPD.

No survivors of this particularly incidious type of abuse are not ableists for calling it what it is. No the sub reddit Raisedbynarcissists is not a cesspool of bigotry and ableism because the people within in recognise their own horrible experience and know what to call it. No you are not the victim in a total strangers abuse simply because you have a cluster b disorder. Get your head out of your ass.

[mysoulsecrets-blog]

Narcissist play nice when it's convenient, Someone who runs hot and cold acting like your best friend one day and ignoring you the next, but we as injf's are looking for consistency,

The relationship between a narcissist and an empath is one sided as Empaths are attuned to others’ emotions and are sensitive to feelings of other people. We tend to prioritize the needs of others ahead of our own and give without being asked. We feel deeply and feel good about helping others so much so that we absorb others’ emotions. Empaths tend to be overflowing with compassion for other people.Given our great amount of compassion, we as empath are prone to absorbing the emotions and energy of others. When we meet a narcissist, the energy we sense triggers something in us that ignites our need to comfort the narcissist, it’s likely that we empaths have formed a trauma bond with the narcissist, which can be hard to break out of or even recognize. the narcissists will discard the empath instantaneously—adding insult to injury for us empaths. The narcissist will be quick to find another victim so they can continue to get their narcissistic supply.

Because Everything for them is surface depth.

[omegaphilosophia]

Exploring the Relationship Between Egotism and Narcissism

Egotism and narcissism share a focus on the self, but they differ in intensity, behavioral manifestations, and underlying motivations.

1. Definitions and Core Focus

Egotism is characterized by an excessive preoccupation with one’s self-importance, talents, or achievements. Egotists generally seek recognition or praise but may still have some degree of self-awareness and social adaptability.

Narcissism, in contrast, involves a more intense and ingrained need for admiration, often tied to an inflated sense of superiority and entitlement. Narcissists have a deeper psychological investment in maintaining their self-image and may exhibit manipulative or exploitative behaviors to validate their sense of self.

2. Motivation and Validation

Egotists are motivated by self-centeredness and a desire for acknowledgment but can still function within social norms. They may talk excessively about themselves or embellish their achievements but do not necessarily lack empathy or disregard others’ needs.

Narcissists, however, seek validation as a psychological necessity, often stemming from deep-seated insecurities. Their need for admiration can lead to exploiting or diminishing others, as they crave constant affirmation of their perceived superiority.

3. Impact on Relationships

Egotism can strain relationships, as egotists may dominate conversations or dismiss others’ contributions, often appearing arrogant. However, egotists generally do not need to control others or establish dominance as intensely as narcissists.

Narcissism, on the other hand, often results in toxic relationship patterns. Narcissists may manipulate or exploit partners, friends, or colleagues to sustain their self-worth, which can damage relationships more deeply than typical egotism.

4. Self-Perception and Adaptability

Egotists may be self-centered but are usually still capable of adjusting their behavior when necessary and maintaining some level of social empathy. Egotism can be situational rather than an all-encompassing aspect of one’s personality.

Narcissists have an impaired sense of self that often leads them to ignore criticism, blame others, and maintain a rigid self-image. This inability to adapt makes narcissism more pervasive and detrimental to personal growth and social connections.

Egotism is generally more socially tolerable, often seen as an inflated self-image or self-centeredness without the harmful relational impacts of narcissism. Narcissism, however, is more pathological, driven by a need for validation that often leads to exploitative or manipulative behavior, ultimately harming both the narcissist and those around them.

[femmefatalevibe]

How to get over ghosting after being love bombed and future faking? He told me that he feels like knowing me for ages, surprised me with roses, asked me to go on a trip with him in December. Two days ago he already planned another date and yesterday he stopped texting me, I double texted him (normally I don’t do this) asked him if everything is alright because I couldn’t believe that he’s just going to ghost me. He told me that he doesn’t have time to getting to know me and to build a „friendship“ with me. I’m confused and sad…

Oh, I'm so sorry. Future faking is the most mind-bending type of gaslighting until you recognize the behavior for what it is – a way for someone to overcompensate for their own low self-esteem and confidence.

First, let yourself grieve the potential you saw with this person. Even if the potential for follow-through was a fantasy, the emotions these dynamics provoke are most certainly real (and sometimes deep).

Next, I would try to remember that his actions have nothing to do with you. Honestly, you're probably not even close to the first or last person he will do this to. Separate his mental health issues/cognitive distortions from your sense of self-worth or ability to show up maturely/sensibly in a relationship.

Finally, I would be relieved that you dodged a bullet so quickly! It's better to know/recognize this evil quality in a person after a few days vs. a few months or even years.

Allow yourself to heal and move on. You deserve better.

Hope this helps xx

[pumpkin-the-girlie-girl-vixen]

The Positives & The Negatives Of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

*Please note that individuals with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) are complex and multifaceted, and not all individuals with NPD will exhibit all of the qualities listed below. Additionally, it's essential to approach this topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment or criticism.*

*Positive qualities:*

1. *Confidence*: Individuals with NPD often exude confidence and self-assurance, which can be attractive and inspiring to others.

2. *Charisma*: People with NPD can be charismatic and charming, with a strong ability to connect with others and build relationships.

3. *Intelligence*: Many individuals with NPD are highly intelligent and possess a strong ability to think critically and strategically.

4. *Creativity*: NPD individuals can be highly creative and innovative, with a talent for finding new solutions to problems.

5. *Ambition*: People with NPD are often highly ambitious and driven, with a strong desire to succeed and achieve their goals.

6. *Leadership skills*: Individuals with NPD can be natural leaders, with a strong ability to inspire and motivate others.

7. *Resilience*: People with NPD can be highly resilient and able to bounce back from setbacks and failures.

*Negative qualities:*

1. *Grandiosity*: Individuals with NPD often have an exaggerated sense of self-importance and a tendency to overestimate their abilities and achievements.

2. *Self-centeredness*: People with NPD can be extremely self-centered, with a lack of empathy and understanding for others' feelings and needs.

3. *Manipulation*: Individuals with NPD may use manipulation and coercion to get what they want from others.

4. *Lack of empathy*: People with NPD often struggle to understand and relate to others' emotions and needs.

5. *Entitlement*: Individuals with NPD may feel entitled to special treatment and become angry or resentful if they don't receive it.

6. *Arrogance*: People with NPD can be extremely arrogant and haughty, with a tendency to belittle or mock others.

7. *Envy*: Individuals with NPD may feel envious of others' success or achievements and become resentful or bitter as a result.

8. *Lack of accountability*: People with NPD may refuse to take responsibility for their actions and blame others for their mistakes.

9. *Impulsivity*: Individuals with NPD may act impulsively, without considering the consequences of their actions.

10. *Exploitation*: People with NPD may exploit others for their own gain, using manipulation or coercion to get what they want.

*Additional characteristics:*

1. *Emotional dysregulation*: Individuals with NPD may struggle to regulate their emotions, leading to mood swings and intense emotional outbursts.

2. *Sensitivity to criticism*: People with NPD can be extremely sensitive to criticism or feedback, becoming defensive or angry when confronted with negative comments.

3. *Need for admiration*: Individuals with NPD often have a strong need for admiration and praise from others, which can lead to attention-seeking behavior.

4. *Fear of abandonment*: People with NPD may have a deep-seated fear of abandonment or rejection, which can lead to clingy or possessive behavior.

5. *Lack of intimacy*: Individuals with NPD may struggle to form and maintain intimate relationships, due to their lack of empathy and emotional dysregulation.

Again, it's essential to remember that individuals with NPD are complex and multifaceted, and not all individuals with NPD will exhibit all of these qualities. Additionally, it's crucial to approach this topic with empathy and understanding, rather than judgment or criticism.

[markanderson2]

[contentment-of-cats]

Understanding the narcissist's war dance

Humans are social animals, and we socialize happily for the most part. Narcissists are predatory humans who view other humans either as prey or competition, sometimes both, For instance, in 2009 my then-employer went under and I needed some gigs to keep things afloat until I could find another job. I picked up a writing gig, which leg to other gigs, and I am still writing to this day.

In the shock of becoming unemployed after 12 years, I made a horrible mistake. I told my mother who saw this not as a chance to support and encourage her daughter, but a chance to get things her way.

Now, mind, I had worked for my mother - I created her website from scratch in 2006 (for free) and maintained it (for free) until she lost interest in something that wasn't giving her the adulation she wanted. It was a popular site, just not popular enough. Her vitriol against those in the same silo was considerable. She didn't want to be part of a community, she wanted to show up with a pedestal, stand on it, and be given her due. She was a shitty boss, and ultimately I told her to find someone else to handle it, as I was working full-time and wanted my time off to be just that.

She started one of many campaigns to get me to move in with her. It was waged in typical narc fashion. I'd be talking to her normally, and the next thing she'd be screaming, accusing, fake-crying. The next tactic was a barrage of emails and mailed letters. She'd have people call and email me for her, people I didn't even freaking KNOW.

All of this was what I came to call my mother's war dance. In nature, a stoat or other weasel will do a war dance to frighten and confuse it's prey. Say, a rabbit. It will do this:

Small, short, frequent attacks to wear down the prey.

And strange, crazy dances.

We social animals freeze in confusion and fear. This is not normal behavior. The narcissist is counting on this. Frozen animals are easy prey, and the ones that run or freeze will do nothing to help. It's a survival mechanism - as long as it's not you. Overcoming those deep ancient brain emotions is like an arm-wrestling match with yourself.

It's hard to get away from a narc, harder still to stay away. I resisted, found a new job, and kept up with the writing. Extra income was good, and I could crank it out. Well, she found out in 2012. I was doing something she had always prided herself on, been well-paid to do and facilitate. And she could not stand it. She demanded to know who I wrote for, she wanted to talk to them. I refused to say. When I came to visit, I caught her trying to crack my password on my laptop, and she unloaded on me - I walked out.

Narcissists want the prey to freeze. When you don't, when you push back, won't give them what they want, refuse to be a rabbit, refuse to run, then they will go to full attack. The people around you will run, hunker down, become flying monkeys, and fighting back is hard. They use people against you, and we social animals can give in. It's easier to become prey or run.

My technique:

So, think about the level of Cluster B that you can live with. Think about whether you need to run (no shame in that, Narcs can be terrifying). Think about how much of yourself you are willing to give up in order not to be torn to pieces, and then get ready to give up one piece at a time until all that's left is bones. Or hope that the narc will be satisfied after a few mouthfuls and let you limp away - bleeding, wounded, and living with the scars for the rest of your life.

Coming soon, more Narc 101.

[ninepentz]

The best revenge you can get on a narcissist

...Is to heal, work on yourself, fix all those little insecurities you have or whatever it is about you that attracts these narcs. The thing about narcissist is they are "successful" in a delusional sense, whether it's their entitlement, control issues, insecurities, hunger for power. This is the only reason they are doing well but if you dig deeper, you'll see they have so much work to do. Their narcissism is their crutch, their means to get to an end. Like a homeless person who digs in trash to get their needs met or a drug addict looking to get their fix. It's their way of accumulating the resources they lack, whether it's confidence, someone to feel better than, someone who boosts their ego, someone who makes them feel superior. That's what it's all about, making them feel special bc they desperately want to reflect that idealistic version of themselves in their head. They always think they're better then what they actually are. They use other people to feel better about themselves, they will use your insecurities to extract your resources. Their victims act as a mirror to reflect to them their "perceived greatness". So when you take away the fact that you are falling victim to their traps/needs, they can no longer pull your strings.

Working on yourself is the best thing to do, ask yourself why you keep attracting them and what is it about you they are latching onto? What are they using you for? In what way have you been feeding their ego and enabling them? So you can take back your power and away from them. A narc whether it's a parent, partner, relationship, friends, bosses will HATE to see you doing better than them, esp when they've underestimated and belittled you for so long. You may have become predictable, small, easy to control in their eyes . Which will only make your glow up that much more powerful💥 that's how you humble them bc I promise nothing else works, you can't change them.. so they'll have to just see you change and outgrow them instead.

[thebloomingsoulss]

How to get revenge on a Narcissist

You can get revenge on a narcissist, but not the way you think. Heal, live well, move forward, accomplish your goals, live your best life. Narcissists hate when you are doing better than them, or better without them. As crazy as it sounds its insulting to them. It drives them crazy. Even if they are the ones that left you, they can not handle if you are doing great without them. Some will literally try to find out how you are doing to reassure themselves that you still want them.

-Maria Consiglio

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[omegaphilosophia]

Understanding the Relationship Between Egoism and Narcissism

The relationship between egoism and narcissism lies in their shared focus on the self, but they differ in motivation, behavior, and ethical implications.

1. Core Definitions and Motivations

Egoism is a philosophical or ethical position where individuals prioritize their own interests, often with the belief that personal well-being and happiness are the primary goals in life. Egoism can be rational and measured, where actions benefit oneself without necessarily causing harm to others.

Narcissism, on the other hand, is a personality trait or psychological condition where individuals have an inflated sense of self-importance and a need for admiration. Narcissistic individuals are often motivated by an intense need for validation, control, or superiority over others, which can lead to harmful behavior.

2. Self-Centeredness vs. Self-Enhancement

Egoism focuses on acting in one’s own best interest, which can sometimes involve self-improvement and healthy self-care. Egoistic behavior does not inherently imply disregard for others; rather, it prioritizes one's own well-being.

Narcissism goes beyond self-interest into self-enhancement and self-centeredness. Narcissists often disregard or devalue others to maintain their self-image, leading to manipulative or exploitative behavior that damages relationships and disregards the well-being of others.

3. Ethical and Social Implications

Ethical Egoism holds that acting in one’s self-interest can be morally acceptable, and sometimes, it can even encourage socially beneficial behavior. An ethical egoist might cooperate with others or engage in fair exchanges, believing that mutual benefit serves everyone’s interests.

Narcissism, however, lacks this ethical grounding. Narcissists are more likely to engage in actions that are self-serving and lack empathy, often resulting in strained relationships. Their actions are typically not motivated by ethical considerations but rather by the need for personal validation or superiority.

4. Interpersonal Relationships

Egoism can foster healthy boundaries and independence. Egoists may prioritize self-respect and autonomy while maintaining respectful relationships with others.

Narcissism often leads to dysfunctional relationships due to its inherent lack of empathy, excessive need for admiration, and frequent manipulation. Narcissists may exploit relationships to feed their self-image, creating a cycle of dependency and control that ultimately damages both parties.

While both egoism and narcissism involve a focus on the self, egoism is generally an ethical stance that prioritizes self-interest in a potentially balanced and constructive way, whereas narcissism is a psychological pattern often characterized by unhealthy self-centeredness, lack of empathy, and exploitative tendencies.