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sararosies · 6 months ago

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2024 Reflection (2025 Prep

I pretty much started 2024 by crashing and burning everything. I had to get up on my own, struggling and ignoring the signs that the society tried telling me. Entering a new year was like a “whatever” thing to me, as if life was just life. However, I had to literally “wake up”. It might be a surprise to reflect that social media woke me up. Although social media contained a lot of garbage content and bad dopamine, I was lucky enough to encounter motivational and disciplined contents. I went from scrolling hours on social media everyday to learning something new. When I was encountered undesire challenges in 2024, my friends and family members would tell me to change. But how? Changing was like getting a rebirth. They asked for me to change but never told me how. I did not have the intention to change, yet I was yearning to SEE change. It was during the summer break had I realized that my inner self was lacking discipline. I hated the way I look. I hated the way people treated me like an option. I hated my schedule. I hated how I woke up everyday not knowing what to do. It felt as if I put myself in a worse-care era. I brought those bad habits from 2023 into 2024, and I cannot let it repeat. I have no excuse to lack discipline in 2025 when I already came to my sense in June. In June 2024, I thought I had everything planned out. Planned out? As if being consistent was an easy chore, I flopped. Got lazy. I thought maybe I should wait for the perfect time. Truth to be told, I missed them all. Summer glow up? Gone. Winter Arc? Missed. Sometimes I lie to myself that missing those opportunities was okay because I never started clean anyways. My room and closet was a mess, my posture was unacceptable, and I was never much self-assured. This time, I cannot crash and burn.

What went well in 2024? Coming to my senses in June. It felt late by then since half a year was finished, but I was glad to had something kept in mind. I was able to stay a little bit on trend going back to school in September. Yes, I tried fixing myself at the near end of 2024 but I still came to multiple trial and errors. Starting on October, I stopped procrastinating with my extracurriculars and homework. I finally managed to get around 7 hours of sleep, set my alarm, woke up early without feeling rushed, and taking the time to prepare my own meals. It was a tiny accomplishment to start the new school year, but that was only the start. Now, coming to an end, I really need to get my act together.

What Lessons Did I learn?

I can make a long list of what I learned from finally realizing the reality of life. Financially, mentally, physically, etc:

Screw popularity

You don’t need a lot of friends to occupy your surroundings. You can gain recognition and mini fame to your contribution, but I’d pass for excessive popularity and parties. I do not want to gossip, and I would rather not know any tea or drama. I only need a few very good friends that could benefit me throughout my journey. I am excluding myself from hanging out with the people I don’t even like.

You either become a consumer or a producer of social media

I am not going to use social media to distract myself from reality. I will not scroll through endless reels to escape chores, my studies, or my goals. I no longer need motivation from social media to live. Unfollow all those garbage content that induces dopamine, and start following the correct content that supports self growth. Do not delete social media. Social media is not bad. You’re just not using it correctly. Remember, social media knocked me back into reality. There are many contents are social media. Bad contents and good contents. I was lucky enough to come across motivational ones, like I said. Hence, you need to use social media wisely. Don’t use it to effortlessly scroll, but use it for your own benefit. You need to get your purpose clear. And instead of effortlessly scrolling, you can be creating content. You can learn a high-income skill from social media that will eventually become a reasonable side hustle. You can use social media as a marketing strategy, seek for advice, listen to podcast, and learn tutorials. Use it for self growth. Not as a distraction. I used to scroll on social media as a distraction when I’m “bored.” Now, I use it to learn high-income skills, listen to podcasts, learn different beauty hacks, exercising ideas, and inquiring inspiration. Sometimes, just limit your screen time.

Instead of dreaming your ideal self, make it happen

Nothing changes if nothing changes. I honestly don’t know who quoted that, but I saw it on pinterest. You can’t just let time pass and hope that your future self will be successful and great. What you do now affects your future. So instead of waiting, chase your dreams. Create a schedule, attainable goals, and a plan to help you achieve. Get better each day little by little. In the end, the only thing you will regret is not starting earlier. Why am I even saying this? I know I should start, but I’m literally believing that the New Years would be a better time to start. Yes, it is actually. I am currently working towards it by reflecting on 2024. I am technically completing a little checklist that Chat GPT wrote me.

Mindset determines everything. Weak mindset? Consistency fails

I practically ignored the whole state of maintaining a mindset. A mindset allows you to think and judge your purposes for a better outcome. A weak mindset wouldn’t get you anywhere towards success. You wouldn’t even get distracted again. I start developing a good mindset by listening to influential podcasts from WizardLiz, Tam Kaur, Song Jia, and Simone Simon. Also learn to be more open-minded. You will never know what kind of circumstances society will put you in. If you’re ever struggling, you’ll be prepared.

Discipline>Motivation

Seriously? Why are you relying on motivation? Discipline yourself and question whether you want the success or not. If you are wanting to achieve your goals (long term or short term), then screw motivation. You can seek a tiny bit of motivation through Pinterest or tiktok if you’re starting to fall apart. However, you need to realize that lacking discipline won’t get you anywhere. Push yourself.

Invest in your health, studies, selfcare, and outside activities

These are my top priorities in life. As you age, you’ll realize that these important aspects are what shapes your future the most (To me). So instead of partying with your temporary friends, find some time to focus on yourself. Distance yourself from any sort of distraction that will keep you off track. Wake up early, work out, shower, touch up on your skincare, and munch a healthy breakfast. Spend some time on your extracurriculars, study for a couple of hours, read books, and ensure your body is getting enough time to recharge. This is the healthy lifestyle that I am aiming for as 2025 approaches. I do not want to stay up until 3am drinking, coming home late and not waking up until 11am. A little bit of fun is okay, but that a little bit of fun can be a huge sacrifice. You just don’t realize it. Procrastinating can be just as bad, if not worse.

Realize the two different types of strict parents: Protective or Posessive

If you have strict parents, you might be wondering whether you’re lucky or unlucky. Strict parents would say “we’re just protecting you,” “we don’t want you to fail in life.” That is something both possessive and protective parents would say. Young teenagers, rebellious or not, would say “we developed trust issues because of them,” “I can’t open up because of them,” “I want to move out so badly.” We need to differentiate the difference between the two types of strict parents.

Possessive parents creates rules above boundaries, does not necessarily justify their own actions, does not want to hear their children’s voice, and sometimes only cares about themself. Most possessive parents would not want to hear any protesting or feedback from their children. They would think they are better than everyone else by limiting their kids’ basic freedom. A few examples include tracking every single internet use, forbidding your child to close their doors, or really abusing them as a way of punishment. Most innocent children who were raised by possessive parents would find a hard time opening up. Rebellious children would most likely fall into mental illnesses. Through the children’s perspectives, it is You vs parents vs society.

Protective parents creates rules that aligns best with your safety and goals. Through the children’s perspectives it should be You & parents vs society. Protective parents wants best for their child, promoting self growth, a healthy environment and a brighter future. Yes, protective parents have their own stupid flaws. However, they are simply just wanting to protect you from weird influences. They allow freedom, encourages their kids to speak, finds a good way to deliver morals and lessons, and can be perceived as their best friends. My parents never allowed me to go out alone at night, but they never took my phone without a reason. There, I knew the difference between protective and possessive.

What Lessons In 2024 did not go as planned?

Truth to be told, I did not set up goals in December 2023. I did not set up any goals until June. That, however, did not go so well. I am working towards it by starting small and writing down my thoughts.

Gratitude List:

I am gratefull to wake up everyday and find myself in a cozy shelter. What a privilege it is to be bothered by your siblings. What a privilege it is to possess too many clothes. What a privilege it is to have to get up for school every morning. I am grateful for having supportive family members who encourages me to become the best version of myself. I am grateful to have access to various opportunities either digitally or physically. Although 2024 was probably one of my worst year, I still lived a life full of privileges.

Habits for 2025:

I feel like I am lying to myself when I list down my goals. In 2025, there is no excuse as to why I procrastinate or work on my goals. I need to disconnect myself from those toxic people and know my own intentions. I really need to follow my schedule. I need to be productive, and I will.

To those readers who have really read this far, I don’t even know if I should apologize for this cringe personal blog. It is personal after all, and I’m really just reflecting.

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