#prioritize yourself

[free-my-mindd]

This is how you move on

[goldcoasthoney]

[feminineenergylife]

[inmyperfectworld]

Protect your peace. 🤍🌱

[enii]

Slowly, learning to love myself💕

[girl-that-writes]

Missing that one person that you feel like you shouldn't miss is okay too. Even if it has been way too long since the end. Doesn't mean you haven't moved on. Its just human nature to miss what was. Don't be too hard on yourself for merely being human.

More importantly, there were so many times that you could have reached out to them in a moment of weakness. But each time you didn't, each time you stopped, you resisted the strong pull of nostalgia and prioritized yourself above all else, and I am so proud of you for doing that.

[safe-haven-safe-place]

[thebloomingsoulss]

never beg for a friendship or a relationship with anyone. if you don't receive the same effort you give, cut them off.

[cherryslife]

self care ideas!

Self-care is important to both a person’s physical and mental health. For many people, it works as a way to cope with a situation or to assist people in keeping a solid grip on their mental health. Overall, self-care is something that is a good thing to employ, and I’m sharing my favorite methods or things to do as “self-care”.

౨ৎ Working out: it’s one of my favorite methods of self-care! Not only does it help me by giving me an adrenaline rush, but it positively affects my physical health and helps me achieve the body that I want. There are also so many ways to be able to work out. Some workout methods like pilates, yoga, and walking are really low effort. On the other hand, there are also high-intensity workouts like cardio, weights, kickboxing, and running. I do all of them, but I can tailor it to how I feel at the time and how much effort I want to put into things. 

౨ৎ Journalling: this one is personal to me because it helped me overcome a tough time in my life. Journaling helps me to be able to put my feelings down on a page and process them. There’s something so therapeutic about having all your emotions on a page (or doc) in front of you. It helps to get your head around your emotions about a matter and come up with a solution. Also, decorating and doodling in a journal is so fun! I would recommend keeping a copy physically, so you have a physical result when you’re done.

౨ৎ Baking/Cooking: i like to bake or cook when I’m stressed. I feel like this might be a hit or miss for some people because not everyone has the privilege of being able to choose whether or not they want to cook or bake. But for me personally, listening to relaxing music while I bake or cook calms me down and it gives my hands something to do. It’s also not as physically taxing as working out but still gives you some movement. You also get a tasty treat at the end of it!

౨ৎ Reading: to me, reading is a relaxing thing to do because it allows you to follow a story without much personal strain (depending on the book you’re reading). Romance and slice-of-life novels are my current favorites to read because they’re easy to finish in a day and a lot of them are really wholesome. Not only does it give your brain something to do, it also can help improve your reading skills, comprehension, and vocabulary. 

౨ৎ A Nice Shower: this one is a pretty normal thing to do, but it makes a big difference. Showers might be a chore to do (depending on your mental state), but in the end, forcing yourself to do it might be worth it. A nice warm shower helps to relax your muscles, clean you off after a long day, and can be soothing. 

౨ৎ Naps: Sometimes when we’re tired, we get stressed out and that leads to us overthinking. It’s hard, and usually it’s because our bodies are just tired. Putting on some rain sounds or white noise (there are really good ones on YouTube), closing your blinds, and having a quick nap can help improve your mood and your concentration. Sometimes a quick nap is all you need!

I hope you find this useful, I can make a pt 2 of this is anyone finds this helpful. Remember to drink lots of water and thank yourself for being amazing today, lovelies!

[oumas-fuckery]

I wanted to wait with you until your waters become still and clear but when I realised that there’s a high chance that it might drown me in the process, I preferred not to wait.

[foreverfitnesspositivity]

[trinitycove]

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[vanalex]

[femmefatalevibe]

Hi! Any tips to stop over exerting yourself? I tend to normalize stress and I shouldn’t. I have lots of things going on in my life, and due to surgery I’ve slowed down a lot physically but I still have a lot of work to do. I have classes and a job and other things. I’ve been fatigued and so exhausted so easily just from lifting things and light headed. How can I prioritize self care and not normalizing stress as a not so normal thing: I get headaches, nausea, etc and that’s the only thing that causes me to stop working so much.

But I’m independent, and do things myself because I am not in a relationship (so no extra help) and I’m an only child and I take care of a family member. Sorry for rumbling! 

Hi love! This sounds dreadful and not sustainable. It sounds like you're dealing with way too much, so I'm validating how difficult this situation must be for you both physically and mentally.

While we can't control our circumstances and, often, the amount of obligations we have during a given time, reframe the importance of self-care as a preventative "medication" for burnout and any resulting long-term health issues.

Think of your breaks and self-care activities as burnout prevention "vitamins" and as "medications" for any stress-related health concerns or synonyms (like those you've described above). Once you perceive self-care as a part of your preventative care plan for your overall health, it's (usually) easier to see rest, breaks, and self-care activities as priorities in their own right instead of optional indulgences that we can put off until one day in the future or before it's too late.

If it's possible to have friends or neighbors help you out, don't be afraid to ask for some help. When doable, most people want to help others when they can, especially when they see those around them overwhelmed with too many non-negotiable responsibilities.

Hope this helps! Sending love xx

[inmyperfectworld]

Self-Love is the BEST love. 🩷

[enii]

Surround yourself with things that make you happy💕