#SlowLiving

[daisylambs]

[mistyhollowcottage]

so much of taking care of yourself as an adult is just learning to eat at home and going on walks

[some-peace]

🧚🏻‍♂️🌿✨.

[glowettee]

your dream life is jealous of how much time you spend doomscrolling.

hey sweethearts!! mindy hereeeee, so i've realized something… like how we're all literally addicted to our phones?? and how our dream lives are sitting somewhere in the corner of our minds, pouting and wondering why we never hang out anymore??

i had this moment last week where i realized i'd spent THREE HOURS scrolling through videos of people organizing their fridges (which like… is satisfying but also?? what am i doing with my life). and then i had this thought that actually shook me: what if my future self could see how i'm spending my time right now? would she be proud or would she be like "girl… what are you DOING?"

the truth is that our phones are literally engineered to be more interesting than our real lives. they're designed by actual geniuses who understand our brain chemistry better than we do. it's not a fair fight!! and yet we blame ourselves for not having "enough willpower" which is honestly just mean??

✧ why we're all trapped in the doom-scroll cycle:

our phones deliver perfectly timed dopamine hits (the happy brain chemical!!) that make us feel momentarily good but leave us wanting more

the algorithm knows exactly what will keep us scrolling (it's literally studying us)

our brains are wired to seek novelty and our phones offer infinite novelty

real life has friction and requires effort; scrolling requires zero effort

we use our phones to escape uncomfortable emotions that actually need processing

the comparison trap makes us feel like we're "researching" our dream life rather than building it

i realized something that changed everything for me: the time i spend consuming other people's lives is time i'm not creating my own. and like… that's the whole game??

✧ how to break free (in ways that actually work):

identify your "scroll triggers" - for me it's when i feel anxious about my work, when i first wake up, and weirdly when i'm hungry?? once you know your triggers you can create little alternate pathways

create "phone-free zones" in your home - i have a little basket by my front door where my phone goes when i come home, and my bedroom is completely phone-free (i bought an actual alarm clock like it's 2005 and honestly?? life-changing)

practice the "dopamine pause" - when you feel the urge to reach for your phone, pause for 60 seconds. just sit with the discomfort. often the urge will pass, and if it doesn't, at least you're making a conscious choice

redesign your home screen to be boring af - delete all social apps from your home screen, make everything grayscale, turn off all notifications except calls/texts from actual humans who matter

schedule specific "input" and "output" times - block 30 minutes for consumption and 90 minutes for creation. your ratio should always favor creation over consumption

try "analog hour" before bed - read physical books, write with pen and paper, stare at the ceiling and let your mind wander (this is where all my best ideas come from tbh)

use the "future self" visualization - whenever you're about to fall into a scroll hole, close your eyes and visualize your future self. what would she want you to do with this precious hour of your life?

create ✧ focus-core ✧ routines - these are deeply satisfying rituals that give your brain the same dopamine hit as scrolling but actually build toward your dreams (for me it's making fancy coffee while listening to a specific playlist, then writing for 45 minutes)

practice "productive procrastination" - if you absolutely must avoid your main task, have a secondary important task ready (like if i don't want to write, i'll organize my study materials instead)

implement the "touch it once" rule - when you pick up your phone, have a specific purpose and do ONLY that thing, then put it down

the hardest truth i've had to accept is that there's no magic hack that makes this easy. creating a life that's more interesting than your phone requires actually building that life brick by brick, day by day. and the beginning is SO HARD because your brain is literally withdrawing from its favorite drug.

but i promise you something magical happens after about two weeks - you start to feel… different?? more present? more alive? and you realize that all along, the life you were searching for in your phone was waiting for you to look up.

your dream life is waiting for you to stop watching other people live theirs and start building your own. it's jealous of your phone, yes, but it's also patient. it knows that eventually, you'll come home to yourself.

xoxo, mindy 🤍

p.s. if you catch yourself scrolling after reading this, please don't feel bad!! just gently put your phone down, take a deep breath, and remember that you're breaking a literal addiction. be kind to yourself through the process, okay? tiny steps in the right direction are still steps. 💗

[belovedapollo]

slow Sunday made for revisiting notes and thoughts 📝 reblog is ok, don’t repost/use

[nels-mama]

The life I aspire to have.

I just want a haunted homestead to raise my kid(s) on.

[browngirl9diary]

Maybe in another life, I’d be your pastoral daydream wife. Maybe in another life, I’m your windowsill sourdough and handwritten letters kind of wife. For now, meet me at first light in Stardew Valley. We’ll go mining for ore and fall in love between levels

[cozydaysathome]

Sunday mornings 🍳🥓🍞

Instagram- brittany.morian

[curiousfancy]

Backyard container garden, year 2 (Summer ‘23)

[theantiquefairy]

Day and Night 💮

[lokababy]

Slowing down and shutting off.

[daisylambs]

[mistyhollowcottage]

How to move to a low tech lifestyle

I've gone back and forth for years on switching to a more low tech lifestyle. This is what I've done to ease the transition.

delete any social media with an algorithm. this is broad and can be case by case as to what effects you. for me this was fb and instagram. basically, get rid of any social media that's keeping you in the rat race. if social media isn't your job, you don't need to be in it.

get rid of the cell phone. I know. tough one. but if you were addicted to drugs you wouldn't carry them around in your pocket and just will yourself not to use it. you'd throw it away, distance yourself. we've been lied to about the necessity of constant connection. I promise you don't need. throw. it. away. (or sell it, whatever).

find other hobbies. WOW there is a lot of time when you're not wasting the average seven hours a day on a screen anymore. now you get to create again and remember how wonderful that feels when there's not something constantly pulling you away. I'm reading, writing, and have joined several local classes from soap making to pottery.

get a landline. you should probably still be reachable. your job and family will appreciate it lol. US mobile has a super cheap plan.

in case of emergencies: keep a flip phone in your glove box. I'm a sahm with two little kids. If I get stranded on the side of the road, more than likely, in my small town, someone would have me fixed up and headed home in basically no time at all, but the ability to call 911 or my husband is still a comfort to have.

digital camera!! they are so cheap nowadays, you don’t have to miss out on those memories.

read Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport and The Opt-Out Family by Erin Loechner

I really hope this helps some of you looking to make the jump and take your life back. We used to be human beings. You can be a human being again.

[artnew8]

A ribbon decorated with colorful flowers to add an aesthetic touch of roses to your sewing project

[glowettee]

⋆⭒˚｡⋆ how to reset your life in 1 hour (the micro-reset guide) ⋆⭒˚｡⋆

hi lovelies, mindy from @glowettee here !!

sometimes i feel overwhelmed and stuck, so i specifically created this routine whenever i just need to reset my life quickly. here's how i do it in one short post <3 - mindy

key points:

step 1: declutter one space (10 minutes): clear your desk, purse, or phone notifications. a small, clean space = a fresh mindset.

step 2: move your body (15 minutes): stretch, dance, or go for a walk to shake off mental cobwebs.

step 3: hydrate and snack (10 minutes): grab water and a nourishing snack to refuel.

step 4: brain dump (15 minutes): write down everything on your mind (to-dos, worries, ideas) and organize it into priorities.

step 5: do one productive task (10 minutes): pick a small, achievable task and get it done. finishing something boosts confidence and momentum.

[belovedapollo]

first of May under the sunlight with fruits and my friends, the pen and paper 📖 reblog is okay, don’t repost/use