#ace experiences

[acexualien]

What is platonic attraction? Read to find out more!

This is part 5 of a multiple parts series where we are exploring a multitude of different types of attractions! I hope you’ll enjoy ☺️

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[brasskingfisher]

Moments I should have realised I'm Ace

Back before I realised I was asexual I was on tindr and a couple of dating sites (because anxiety and I default to being a social hermit). And I ended up chatting to a woman I'd matched with on tindr who sent me a message saying in essence "Here's my address of you want to come round and shag me." And I was like WTF?!

When I expressed my surprise to some friends online their response was: you do know people use tindr to arrange casual sex right? Why would you be surprised by an offer of casual sex?

[aego-culture-is]

Not aego-culture, I just wanted to leave a message :,]

Potential warning for religious trauma or repression? Not sure but I’m still tagging it

Honestly, it took me a while to find out and accept that I’m aegosexual. For a long time, I’ve portrayed myself as someone sex-repulsed even though that couldn’t be further from the truth. I fantasize, I masturbate, I look up sexual stuff once in a while, but I’d always try to repress it or pretend I don’t do those kind of things. It didn’t help that because I didn’t experience sexual attraction, I thought my asexuality clashed with my sexual habits.

Religion made it worse. This isn’t exclusive to aegosexuals, but yeah, I fell victim to religious people (and even my own mother) drilling into me that feeling sexual is wrong, and “if you act on those sexual urges, you will go to hell and you’re a dirty sinner!! God is always watching!!” which caused further repression. Yippee.

It’s only finding out the label aegosexual and going through other aegosexuals’ posts did I finally admit to myself that yes, I have sexual fantasies. Do I want to enact those in real life? Hell no!! But,, y’know 👀

And going through this blog, reading all the posts, all I could think was “God, that’s me! I relate to this!!” I’m really grateful for blogs like this and also for the aegosexual community as a whole. I’m still very new here, and I’m still researching, but I’m more than happy to learn and to find more people like me.

So thank you for that :]

Thank you for sharing! I’m going to tag @aegosexual-moments and use their tag of aego experiences so others can see this

[solarishashernoseinabook]

LOOL, your tags on my kissing posts, LITERALLY me with my first kiss in high school. I was so confused as to why it felt like nothing, and I kept asking my friends, "How do you know you will like kissing a guy?" and they kept saying, "You just have to find someone you think is cute!" and I was SO confused because I DID think he was handsome, so what was I MISSING? Spoiler alert, it also took me 4+ years of deep impostor syndrome before I came out as ace.

LMAO solidarity :"D

I still don't know how kissing actually works. What does it mean to kiss someone back? How do you actually initiate a kiss? Aren't there different types of kisses? How do people learn this stuff? and the more I try and figure out it out the more confused I get 😅

[notbrucewayne48]

"aphobia doesn't exist"

bitch literally not that long ago an aroace youtuber animator was insulted by almost half of its community for being it

[redysetdare]

The response to "ace people are just virgins who can't get laid!" Shouldn't be "ace people can still have sex!" but instead " being a virgin isn't a bad thing."

The response to "aro people are just heartless freaks!" Shouldn't be "aro people can still feel love!" And instead be "not feeling love or other emotions doesn't make you a bad person."

Instead of pushing the idea that aspec people can be "normal like allos" we should instead be trying to normalize aspec experiences. Yes aspec people can be normal because aspec identities are normal. Some aros fall in love. some aces have sex. but they should not be the only valid aspec experiences. We should not use these experiences to make the aspec identity more palatable to amatonormativity and allos.

[our-aroace-experience]

based on the stories you’ve all been sending, this seemed appropriate lol

[39raccoons]

it’s ace week apparently so here’s my two cents contribution in the form of this short old personal comic

[desperatecheesecubes]

Growing up asexual is actually so funny because all of a sudden people all around are like ‘oh my god what if I don’t know how to kiss??? I have to practice!’ And start doing unhinged things and the whole time you’re like

[ryllen]

x ❤️ ace is at it again ❤️ x 

[acexualien]

Aesthetic attraction is wild!!

You could just stare at that person for hours and admire their beauty, their facial structures, the way their hair looks and you could get lost gazing into those beautiful eyes.

It’s like, “Damn!!! You’re so gorgeous there should be a picture of you in an art museum”.

Tell me I’m not the only one who feels this way 🥹

[miss-americanbi]

Token Straight Friend™️ strikes again

[aego-culture-is]

realized I'm aego sexual for christmas. Do I need champagne

Have to answer this one today: yeah sure if you want it. I think that sounds like a good idea!

[demi-romantics]

Truly experiencing the opposite of a gay panic, the aro/ace dread, when I think somebody has a crush on me

[atomicraft]

i love you non sexual physical intimacy i love you touching someone because you want to feel the warmth of their body and the texture of their skin i love you tracing body lines soft and sharp i love you shoulder to shoulder hand on your knee reassuringly i love you hands under their shirt on a cold day i love you head leaning against someone’s chest i love you nude cuddling i love you tracing sharp back muscles i love you tracing fat rolls i love you touching someone’s whole body to commit the little details to memory in case you were to ever loose them i love you touch as a love language

[redysetdare]

You can help an aroace this Valentine's day for the low low price of 1 billion dollars sent to me.