#afab transfem

[isabellascarlett1]

Your Intersex Awareness Day reminders that:

- Micropenis jokes are intersexist and not funny

- Intersex genital mutilation (IGM) is still allowed in nearly every country

- AFAB TransFem, AMAB TransMasc, Cis Trans, and Cis Non-binary are important terms for many Intersex folks

Include Intersex folks in your activism.

[worms-in-my-brain]

It’s actually awful how hostile the trans community is specifically to people who are both trans and intersex.

If you’re trans people still want to force you into their stupid little AMAB/AFAB binary. You have to be either a trans woman (or at least transfem) or a trans man (or at least transmasc). Even ignoring how exorsexist this is, it leaves no room for intersex people who are between cis and trans, no room for intersex people who are trans in nonormative ways (ex. AMAB* trans men, AFAB* trans women, intergender trans people), no room for intersex people who are trans in more than one way (ex. transfemasc/transmascfem people).

Gender and sex isn’t either/or, guys, and experiences are varied.

* I normally don’t like the widespread usage of AGABs because they (or at least the way people use them) erase intersex experiences but I’m using them here to demonstrate my point on how other people discuss trans and intersex people.

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

”amab transmascs and afab transfems are all cis invaders” quick what’s your opinion on intersex people

[multigenderswag]

Intersex and multigender solidarity is defending tf out of dyadic multigender people’s ability to be transfemmasc, AFAB transfem/trans women, AMAB transmasc/trans men, boygirl, etc. none of these labels are intersex exclusive and Im tired of people treating as such.

-Anintersex multigender

I actually really appreciate that! I recently started identifying as transfemmasc and there seems to be a lot of backlash and people claiming that it's intersex exclusive (which there is no source for), so it's very nice to see some intersex/multigender solidarity :)

[bloodyscott]

the person making these posts barely conceals their hate for intersex people and genderweird people.

sorry to tell you, but this “gender” you’re talking about is sex, which does include hormonal makeup, genitals, gonads, and chromosomes.

saying even intersex afabs cant be transfem is not only ahistorical, but also just intersexist

even if perisex though let afab trans people identify however they want, even if transfem

[noahizslay]

mspec lesbians, mspec gays, lesboys, turigirls, straightbians, straightcians and other mspec monos, as well as, afab transfems, amab transmasc and other "controversial" labels are valid as fuck!

y'all should understand that genderfluid, multigender, varioriented and intersex people exist and their experiences towards their sexuality/romantic orientation and their gender is unique and should be celebrated not hated.

if you don't understand any of these labels, educate yourself and please be kind to people. in the end of the day we are all human beings and we all deserve to be respected.

bye my dear humans :)

[meowtismz]

LEAVE INTERSEX PEOPLE ALONE.

we can and WILL identify as ANY identity.

Kiki is SO tired of be shamed for identify as aphroflux/transfem/transfemmasc.

WE ARE ALLOWED TO RECLAIM THOSE IDENTITIES...

And for fuck sake PERISEX PEOPLE STOP USING SHI/HIR PRONOUNS.

[sirenium]

If you're against perisex people using labels like AFAB transfem and AMAB transmasc, please kindly shut the fuck up. If you're against perisex people using pronoun sets such as shi/hir please kindly shut the fuck up.

I, myself, am intersex. I do not *care* if Sally sees her womanhood through a trans lens while being perisex AFAB. I am an avid believer that enforcing the notion that such labels are 'exclusive' to intersex people is harmful. 'Oh but shi/hir has been used against us!!!' That is not the fault of Billy, who just vibes with the pronoun set.

The sooner we as a community can realize that these 'progressive' boxes aren't much better than the ones made by our oppressors, the better.

[freakofthelitter]

AFAB transfem / FtMtF / female-to-male-to-female transsexual & AMAB transmasc / MtFtM / male-to-female-to-male transsexual pride flags ⚧️

[isabellascarlett1]

If your account isn’t a safe space for Mspec Lesbians, Lesboys, Mspec Gays, Turigirls, Straight Lesbians, Straight Gays, Cis Trans folks, AFAB TransFems, AMAB TransMascs, Mspec Straights, etc. then don’t call it a “LGBTQIA+ safe space”.

[genderkoolaid]

i've seen you mention amab transmascs/afab transfems a few times, would you mind explaining that? i've been thinking about the label but it seems like it might be intersex exclusive and when i tried to look into it i mostly just found discourse.

I know both terms get used a lot by intersex people to describe their experiences, but its used by perisex people (like myself) for a variety of reasons too. I think exclusionary-minded people tend to be more "well you CAN do transness wrong if you're intersex i GUESS but only then!" but I know of a few other amab transmascs/afab transfems who use the terms for other reasons. They're pretty generic terms to describe anyone whos transmasc/fem but not the "opposite" agab.

I call myself transfem for a few reasons, namely:

Coming out as queer (and soon after, trans) at a pretty young age and having my experience with gender being heavily shaped by that & the distance it created between me and all my cis peers (especially as one of few out trans kids at my school/s) (seriously being The GNC Queer Kid surrounded by mostly cishet gc kids for virtually all of my life was a trip and I hate that thats never considered in gender socialization discourse. I was assigned female at birth but assigned queer at 5th grade)

Being autistic and being alienated from girl/womanhood for similar reasons

Being multigender & having a really complicated relationship with womanhood that cannot be divorced from my other genders and is inherently trans + being transsexual and feeling that I am unable to be myself as a woman if I do not have a testosterone-dominant body and a penis- thats not to say that having those things is what makes someone a trans woman/transfem, which I think is harmful & something afab transfems/amab transmascs should avoid saying when we talk about our genders. Rather that being my experience transes my womanhood on a core level to me. I could never consider or call my womanhood "cis" for these reasons.

As a result of these things, I feel that I am actively choosing womanhood and taken steps to transition into an inherently trans woman.

[omniaspec-rat]

Good night to the AFAB girls who got to know the genderqueer community and felt freer to identify as cis.

Good night to the AFAB girls who got to know the genderqueer community and realized that their feminine identity is inherently trans.

Good evening to the AFAB girls who got to know the genderqueer community and simply realized that their identity/experiences/feelings about their gender could never neatly be classified into the "cis-trans" binary.

Good evening to the AFAB girls who have come into the genderqueer community and realized that their feminine gender identity/experiences/feelings are both trans and cis, and therefore identify as both.

Good night AFAB girls who never felt like they were "biological girls" or that they "always were girls" or, much less, felt like they were girls simply because someone told them so and, with that experience, have mixed feelings about their gender.

Good night AFAB girls who are part of the genderqueer community and enrich it with their feelings, experiences AND confused identities.

I love you girls.

And even more, goodnight to the AFAB girls who are neoagab/agabpunk/anc and self-identified as AFAB, I love you so much, you are wonderful and the genderqueer community needs you and your wonderful experiences and identities.

[entropy-sea-system]

Happy Pride to AMAB transmascs, AFAB transfems, intersex trans people, transneutral people, transandrogynous people, transxenine people, agabless people, transfemasc people, transsexuals, and other trans people whose identities are not always acknowledged!

[our-trans-youth-experience]

hi! I'm very confused now bc I'm newer to exploding my gender. I want to start with I'm afab and until now I believed I was cis. But recently I've been thinking I'm a genderfluid demi girl(because sometimes I feel like I might be enby or a boy), and i Believe that's under the trans umbrella, but because I'm afab, does that not make me trans? I'm really just curious and have no bad intent, I'm just confused.

Hey my beautiful-gendered individual!

First of all, welcome to the trans community. Being trans just means that you don't identify as the gender you were assigned at birth, so for example a demigirl who was assigned female at birth can still call themself trans. Although, some nonbinary people prefer not to use the label trans for themselves, so it is completely up to you.

Take your time with working things out, but I am here to support you. If you ever want more advice, just ask :)

[our-afab-transfem-experience]

Hi! Cis person here with a genuine question - how can someone be both AFAB and transfem? The way I’ve learned it all my life is that “trans” means someone whose gender differs from their sex, so it sounds impossible for someone to be both transfem and AFAB. Please do explain though, I’d like to learn!

there are a lot of ways to be afab transfem but here are the ones that i can think of

being intersex and afab and transitioning into a woman (theres a lot of different ways for this)

transitioning into a different type of femininity (neogirl, antegirl, demigirl, etc)

being multigender and considering all of your genders trans

being a headmate in a system that is an introject of a transfem (this is why most of us id as afab transfem)

being a brainmade headmate in a system that is transfem

detransitioning

[sapphic-boy]

Thinking abt identifying as transfemmasc again. Dysphoria made me so repulsed towards anything feminine growing up, but I didn't know I could be masculine bc I was yknow, a child with no concept of transgender people, so I just tried to make myself.... genderless, I wasn't allowed to be masc and I didn't want to be fem, but now that I've gotten top surgery and I'm on testosterone and I have a deep voice and facial hair I'm so much more comfortable being feminine, I want to paint my nails and grow my hair out and try out eyeliner, I carry a purse with me. I legitimately feel like I was born as a genderless being and when I realized I was bigender I could transition in both directions. Being masc has made me more fem, they are intertwined. Idk.