#Bi Lesbian

[noahizslay]

happy lesbian visibility day to ALL lesbians! ❤️🧡🤍🩷💜

[lesbianpolls]

Aesthetically (irregardless of how problematic) what is your favourite lesbian flag?

Labrys

Lipstick lesbian

Lesbian pride (lipstick minus lipstick mark)

Warm butch

Dark/cool butch

Emily gwen’s, 7 stripe

Emily gwen’s, 5 stripe

Double venus on rainbow

Sappho lesbian

Sappho lesbian + white stripe

Other

See results

//another poll for the one people like to use wld be cool. But t.b.h. I can’t be assed. Love this blog!!! Thanks for the good time.

[lesboyofdeath]

Just saw a post that was like,,, Luz Noceda hates mspec lesbians,,, and like did we watch the same show?? Her whole thing is being a weirdo?? Lmao she loves mspec gays.

[silly-media-enjoyer]

Image Description: The "I bring a sort of X vibe to X that X don't really like" edited to say "I bring a sort of all these rules are made up vibe to sexuality and gender that exclusionists don't really like"

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

what happened

[genderqueerdykes]

Dykes to Watch Out For #323 "I.D. fixe?" by Alison Bechdel

Illustrated in 1999, this strip features character Sparrow discussing being a bisexual lesbian, how she is not suddenly straight because she is dating a man, and the struggles she faces because of this. This strip also discusses the validity of gay trans men and transmasculinity, a very powerful comic for its time.

[icarusxxrising]

[fixing-bad-posts]

My favourite is bi trans lesbians !!!!! We support!!!!

[everyponie]

2 transgender children have been MURDERED this month and yall are worried about??? labels?? Queer children are being killed, DO SOMETHING!!

[saffigon]

reminder that mspec lesbians and male lesbians and he/him lesbians and trans(masc/neu/fem) lesbians have existed for decades and are fucking amazing lesbians that deserve space in the lesbian community

[old-acc-discourseisdumb]

stop assuming you can deconstruct gender without deconstructing sexuality when its all just people trying to communicate complex identities with limited vocabulary

aka if you can accept gender is a social construct of labels so bigender girlboys make sense, you should be able to accept lesboys

[lesbianpolls]

*I didn't include the Labyrs or Lipstick Lesbian variants on this poll bc I know they're commonly used by TERFs and don't want to attract them to a post about which flags most liked to be used. That being said, using them doesn't make someone a TERF and feel free to include them under other.

[elysianmadness]

"Lesbian means exclusive attraction to women!"

"No, it means non-men exclusively attracted to non-men!"

"It actually means queer attraction to women!"

"Lesbian means women and nonbinary people being exclusively attracted to other women and nonbinary people!"

Lesbian is a multifaceted label that can describe many different experiences. There is no one perfect definition of lesbian that will encompass the entire diverse experiences that lesbians can have.

I'm personally a genderqueer woman who's exclusively attracted to other women, but the lesbian next to me might be a transmasc lesbian who loves all genders except for men. And the lesbian next to them might be a bigender lesbian who's both a girl and a boy, who's exclusively attracted to women. Our experiences can all be described by the term lesbian if that's how we wish to describe it, but we might define it differently based on our own experiences. And guess what?

None of our definitions are wrong, but none of our definitions will encompass every other lesbian's experiences. A word can have multiple definitions without any of the definitions being wrong. And those definitions can be very vague or very specific. Labels are made to fit us- we aren't made to fit labels.

People who may have a different experience with the lesbian label are not your enemies. People in lesbian spaces who aren't exactly like you are not your enemies. The problem comes when you try to force one singular definition on every single lesbian. THAT is harmful. Sending death threats to other lesbians because they don't have the same experience as you is harmful. Not another lesbian having a different experience from you.

[tgirlmouse]

i don't feel nearly as ashamed or hesitant to talk about my queer tgirl attraction to men as my tguy brothers would feel talking about their attraction to women

obligatory "if you're a trans guy and your attraction to women is het, that's real and okay! your trans experience isn't a monolith and other trans people being different doesn't make you different or wrong"

like, think about it: hardly anyone bats an eye when a tgirl uses grindr or calls herself a faggot, but as soon as a man calls himself a lesbian, everyone gets on his ass. anything for an excuse to shit on lesbians, i guess. it makes me angry that nobody sees this hypocrisy or these ties back to the lesbian separatism that infected the community post-70s. it's not gone, it never went away

this isn't exactly profound news to anyone who gives a shit about lesbian history. just something i find interesting

[groovyfags]

Bisexuality by Trisha Miller in Lavender Woman Vol. 2 Iss. 5 (1973)

[genderqueerdykes]

honestly as a butch, i just gotta say it: that "chivalrous knight in shining armor" crap is objectifying as hell and it's not fun, cute, or validating to apply to us, it provides a burden for us to bear, it makes us paranoid, tired, weary and feel like we're being reduced to a stereotype, or like we're being forced into a mold.

i'm not a knight just because i'm a transmasculine person who looks tough and can theoretically protect femme queers. i'm literally just standing here, being transsexual. i'm not inherently "chilvarous," i don't have any obligation to protect people just because i adopted the label "butch". what if i'm weak? what if the butch needs to be protected? what if the butch is disabled, traumatized, or just scared? i'm a wheelchair user.

why can't femmes protect their butches? why does it always have to be the butch being the chivalrous knight in our yearning posts and poems? why do we have to weave a performative ass narrative of the masculine partner swooping in to protect their defenseless feminine partner? how the HELL is this progressive or subversive at all? this is literally reinventing the binary.

the way the (white) cis lesbian community treats its butches is alienating as all hell. we are not here just to protect other people. we are not inherently protectors. we are not all strong. we are allowed to be weak. we are allowed to be scared. we are allowed to be hurt. we don't HAVE to protect our femmes, if we like femmes at all. not every butch is attracted to femme people in the first place.

butch isn't a lifestyle, it's not a set personality type. it's not a specific set of actions; it's just queer masculinity, that can be expressed by a multitude of queers for a multitude of reasons. it's not one specific set of traits. masculinity is not just found in protecting others and acting tough, it's also in being soft, vulnerable, weak and tender.

just let butches be people, don't turn us into objects before we even get out of the gates. all of this removes the human element of being butch. if the queer community can't afford that, we can't get it from anywhere, because we sure as hell aren't seen as humans by cisheteronormative society.

don't force me to see myself as a knight when i'm the one who needs help just because i'm masculine, or just because i'm a man.

butches need help, too.