#transfemasc

[worms-in-my-brain]

It’s actually awful how hostile the trans community is specifically to people who are both trans and intersex.

If you’re trans people still want to force you into their stupid little AMAB/AFAB binary. You have to be either a trans woman (or at least transfem) or a trans man (or at least transmasc). Even ignoring how exorsexist this is, it leaves no room for intersex people who are between cis and trans, no room for intersex people who are trans in nonormative ways (ex. AMAB* trans men, AFAB* trans women, intergender trans people), no room for intersex people who are trans in more than one way (ex. transfemasc/transmascfem people).

Gender and sex isn’t either/or, guys, and experiences are varied.

* I normally don’t like the widespread usage of AGABs because they (or at least the way people use them) erase intersex experiences but I’m using them here to demonstrate my point on how other people discuss trans and intersex people.

[faggy--butch]

I feel like bigender transfemasc really gets me. I'm a woman and a man, I'm a trans man and a trans woman. All the love to the cis-non binary multigender folks out there too. But when I say I'm a woman also, it's never in the cis way, and it never was.

[intersexfairy]

im transfeminine and transmasculine and there is nothing anyone can do about it. as a nonbinary intersex person, i have to transition towards both femininity and masculinity. it's trans. it just is. you can pry my identity from my warm living hands.

[mangedog]

i honestly really relate to you wishing you were transfem. I do too, so much that it hurts. But I never say anything because I don't think anyone in the community would accept it. I constantly wish I was born male and transitioned in a non-binary way. I tell myself I can be a male non-binary. I just have to take extra steps (taking T first). That's how I survive this feeling. But honestly being born the way I am feels like such a prison in terms of gender. sorry about this little vent

no i agree 100%... there is a small transmascfem / transfemasc / ftmtf / mtftm community but i feel like even within that, it's more of a...presentation focused thing rather than this feeling? obviously not for everyone, that's just the vibe i get.

i guess its just hard because theres this idea that if (binary) trans people could've been born their actual gender, they would choose that. but as a transfem, i was born that gender, except it was still wrong. i can never transition in a way that soothes all aspects of my dysphoria.

i guess part of the cure is to de-binarise society... but that's a task thats bigger than you or i.

[entropy-sea-system]

Happy Pride to AMAB transmascs, AFAB transfems, intersex trans people, transneutral people, transandrogynous people, transxenine people, agabless people, transfemasc people, transsexuals, and other trans people whose identities are not always acknowledged!

[sapphic-boy]

y'all transfemmasc/transmascfem is not intersex exclusive, it literally just was not coined as an intersex-exclusive term, some people just decided to claim it for intersex people only and those people are dickholes. anybody can be transfemasc/transmascfem if they feel like they are transitioning in both a masc and fem way. thats all it means. you do not have to be intersex to transition in both directions.

[transfemasc-culture-is]

Transfemmasc culture is having that classic trans experience of feeling like you were born in the wrong body, but in a "I should've been trans in the other direction" way, not a "I should've been cis" way

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[transfemasc-shapeshifter]

My experience as a genderfluid/agender transfemasc intersex person is that I’ve never really been ‘allowed’ a gender, and that it is impossible for me to make the ‘correct’ choice regarding gender.

As a kid I managed to dodge surgery but was aware that I ‘should’ feel ashamed for my variation. I never liked being naked around people who weren’t my parents. I didn’t feel very comfortable around boys or girls when gender was involved, while also feeling very comfortable around both when I was able to forget about it.

As I teen I was too ‘masculine,’ I needed to ‘act more feminine,’ my shoulders were wide and ‘ugly,’ my jaw was prominent and square, I should really have been taking better care of the hair on my face (that being a few dark hairs in between my eyebrows and on my chin), I was ‘too strong.’ Of course I wasn’t a real girl.

I’m a man right now, and it’s reversed: my ribcage and waist are ‘too’ small, I’m ‘too’ short (note that I’m right between the average heights for men and women in my country), I’m ‘too delicate’ to be a real man.

Too delicate to be a real man, too strong to be a real girl.

I’ve been nonbinary, too. Wasn’t allowed that, either. There’s only two genders, you have to pick, one person says I’m obviously a girl another says I’m obviously a guy. Both say that I just need to decide.

I’m not even allowed to be agender because I’m ‘too’ gendered. I have body hair and thick thighs.

This is why I’m genderfuck, why I have embraced being transfemasc, and why I absolutely reject AGAB labels.

And I dunno, but people who try to force me into any one box because someone ‘can’t’ be transfemasc or ‘everyone has an AGAB’ never seem to be all that different than the people who tell me I can’t be a woman or I can’t be a man.

[worms-in-my-brain]

Btw if you guys were curious about the rampant hypocrisy and intersexism in the trans community the person in the last reblog proceeded to respond to my post by telling me to fuck off because I, “wasn’t transmasc,” despite me explicitly saying I was transfemasc due to being intersex and genderfluid, then said that I was assuming they were cis and calling them a “TERF meanie,” two things I never did or even said anything remotely close to.

And then continued, on their blog, in three separate posts, to rant about how “transmasc/tme people/people who purposefully obfuscate are their relationship to transmisogyny” are “the worlds biggest crybullies,” how people “on this site romanticise being oppressed,” that “some people seem to pride themselves on being borderline sociopathic,” and how we are “mra clowns.”

So I guess I’m transfem and not transmasc when it’s convenient to ignore my perspective on transandrophobia, but transmasc and not transfem when they want to delegitimise my experience with oppression and imply I’m whiny for talking about it. Then I’m a “mra clown” when it’s convenient to see me as a man.

Then they went in for the triple whammy and were lowkey ableist, I’m sorry but I’m not “priding myself on being borderline sociopathic” by… having ASPD, I guess? I’m just being open and trying to spread awareness.

I normally would just leave it alone, I mean they blocked me so obviously they don’t want to interact and the feeling is mutual. But I feel like this is a really good example of bigotry (i.e., intersexism, ableism) from within the community, as well as a good example of how a transfemasc person might experience lateral violence by being painted as whichever is most negative at the time while simultaneously being denied their status as someone who is both.

[lgbtq-aestheticss]

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[intersexfairy]

Is it just me or is being intersex in trans spaces deeply alienating?? Even trans people who supposedly have similar experiences to me seem to be nothing like me at all.

It is alienating... I do find things in common with other trans people but, there's still an air of separation... I don't talk about being intersex much because I'm nervous it's too personal to share - as if there's something inherently NSFW about my existence. And when I do talk about it, I feel alone, because I'm usually the only (openly/knowingly) intersex person in the room. I also really hate the amount of intersexism in online trans discourse.

Like I have a lot in common with dyadic trans people who've been on T for a while, but that commonality usually just ends up meaning my intersexuality is erased, because people think I'm a dyadic transmasc. It sucks, and transmasculinity is already invisible. I feel double invisible as a transmasc intersex person... especially one who's also transfem. So yeah. I relate, anon.

[isobug]

Intersex autistic Transfem, Intersex autistic Transmasc

Intersex autistic Transandrogynous, and Intersex autistic Transfemasc / Transmascfem

Combining these Trans- flags, the Autism Pride flag by Wikipedia user Neurodivergent Elephant (overlaying the two to mix colors) and the Carpenter Intersex flag

Anon requested just the first two but l had a lot of fun and wanted to make some more combos with the colors. Help with ALT text is appreciated!

Taglist - @revenant-coining, @radiomogai

[clem-mp3]

happy trans day of visibility !! i love being transfemasc and ive never felt more like myself than i did when i first discovered the label. it was enlightening to find out there are more people like me, and so many that there’s actually a label for it!! i’m not alone!! i love my trans family and i especially love my transfemasc family !! thank you to everyone who has been so incredibly welcoming towards me and i love you all!!!

[sapphic-boy]

Thinking abt identifying as transfemmasc again. Dysphoria made me so repulsed towards anything feminine growing up, but I didn't know I could be masculine bc I was yknow, a child with no concept of transgender people, so I just tried to make myself.... genderless, I wasn't allowed to be masc and I didn't want to be fem, but now that I've gotten top surgery and I'm on testosterone and I have a deep voice and facial hair I'm so much more comfortable being feminine, I want to paint my nails and grow my hair out and try out eyeliner, I carry a purse with me. I legitimately feel like I was born as a genderless being and when I realized I was bigender I could transition in both directions. Being masc has made me more fem, they are intertwined. Idk.