#aro options

[knifearo]

i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a binary i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a sliding scale of "less" to "more" i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the only two options i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as significantly different things i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as all encompassing i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the two halves of a shallow concept of love that doesn't actually encompass anything at all i think we need to overhaul every popular conception about "types" of love so we can talk about things that are real and true for once

[chaotic-carnifex]

No hold on I'm gonna make an extra post about this:

I wouldn't choose to be alloromantic

If I were given the choice to either remain aro or become alloro again, I would choose aromanticism.

And I think a lot of people need to hear that.

[redysetdare]

Shout out to the non-partnering people out there who want to spend their lives with a friend and live with them without it being a QPR or partnership of any kind.

[starredwrites]

i'm having thoughts about amatonormativity and why it sucks and they're long-winded and hard to properly express bc it's late at night but i wanted to share them so i summarized them with a meme

this realization brought to you by the realization that a lot of people who say acephobic shit without actively denying asexuality exists just mentally swapped "virgin" for "asexual" and carried on with their lives. this best evidenced by people being "accepting" of asexual women but ignoring/erasing asexual men.

[a-matter-of-yeet]

“They’re canonically x you can’t ship them with characters they’re not attracted to”

Vs

“I know they’re canonically aroace but I like the ship and x character is hot”

Shit like this brings the movement down.

Everyone validates queer representation until the character is aroace.

[shmaroace]

now that i have polls, i just want to see. please reblog this!

(alloace/alloaro includes any acespec/arospec identities and allosexual/romantic)

[that-disabled-princess]

Making a poll that caters to one of my overly-specific niches. Had to redo it because I accidentally put "aromantic" instead of "alloromantic" on the first one 😂🤦‍♀️

[subsequentibis]

it's actually just hit me that there's like... not really romance plots in dungeon meshi. they don't pair the cast off arbitrarily at the end. basically any character could be read as aroace/aspec really easily. that's honestly super cool!! it's refreshing to have a mainstream piece of media with the kind of approach to character relationships that emphasizes how important everyone's connections to each other are without making them explicitly romantic.

[idkaguyorsomething]

Smeyer can’t stop you from smuggling in a one-time f bomb pass to one of her characters. ¿Who do you give it to, when, and why?

¡Please reblog and explain your choice in the tags!

[anistarrose]

anyways one thing that I continue to think about regarding Gravity Falls is that Dipper wanted to find the Author of the Journals, and Mabel wanted an epic summer romance — and Dipper got what he wanted, but it was nothing like what he expected it to be, while Mabel didn't get what she wanted, but learned that she could still love herself and be happy regardless — without either of them being shamed for wanting those things in the first place.

[infiniteorangethethird]

less "this story has no romance in it" and "this story has aspec characters in it", more "this story is about aromantic people and aromanticism" please and thank you

[lovelessrage]

The way so many aro people see other aro people talk about aro loneliness and their solution isn't to support them, or lend an ear or a shoulder, but instead to say "have you tried getting more friends?" "you still can have friends though!" "QPRs are out there! Try one of those!" "Hey have you heard of a QPR yet?" You are not better than people who treat getting a romantic relationship as a cure-all. You are doing the exact same "a relationship will fix you!" routine and I'm kinda tired of aros treating it as different because it's platonic.

[lightros]

reminder you don’t need to engage with aphobia

“But there is a genuine need to provide proof of asexual / aromantic discrimination.”

You can block the aphobe and still make a post saying “Here’s a list of ways that…”

Don’t waste your time arguing with bigots. This is tumblr, not a debate stage.