could it not also be considered androphobia that trans men don’t actually “count” as men when it comes to lesbians…???
What?
Policing the way you self-identify is inherently oppressive and queerphobic, and the particular way it's levelled at trans mascs is transandrophobic. Insisting that trans men can't be lesbians and that lesbians can't be attracted to trans men denies the fact that you can't pick most trans men out of a lesbian lineup, that being assigned female informs a lot of trans mascs' experiences, that they experience most of the same oppressions as women, and rejects the belonging they found in the lesbian identity while sussing out their gender (which may not even be a fixed thing). Like, fucking hell, you're attracted to what someone looks and behaves like, their aesthetic, their energy, their vibes. NOT whether they check the right gender box on a questionnaire. Male is an internal identity that can mean a lot of things. It has nothing to do with who's attracted to you or how you experience attraction.
Also like...the gender binary isn't real lol. Y'all think women and men occupy oppositional sides like a tennis court, and that all other genders fall into one or the other and never the twain shall meet. So that when a Man™ falls into the orbit of a sexuality that predominantly centers fems/women, or when that sexuality doesn't completely exclude all attraction to mascs/men, y'all have an entire cow about it.
Edited to clarify: I meant that the majority of trans mascs are pre-transition, not that no trans masc in any state of transition can look like anything but a woman. Begging y'all to remember that the vast majority of trans people are not medically transitioned because of socio-economic reasons, most are closeted to some extent and (can't find the stats on dysphoric vs. non-dysphoric trans people) some trans mascs don't/ can't even wear binders. And even cis gays mix up femme twinks and butch lesbians. Being able to be shielded among the cis gay community and its allies is one of trans folks's most important protections.
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For all who want or need it - here is all the terms A-Z I’ve come across as a queer woman in my community :)
THE RAINBOW SPECTRUM
By: C. Valmai
Agender: to be without gender
Ally: supporter of equal civil rights, gender equality, and LGBT social movements
Androgynous (Andro): appearance of inter-determinate sex
Androphilia (Minsexual): the attraction to men and masculinity
Aporanger: form of non-binary; to feel seperate from any gender whilst still having a strong and specific gendered feeling.
Aromantic: little to no feeling of romantic attraction
Asexual (Ace): little to no sexual feeling or desire
Autosexual: to be sexually attracted to themselves
Bear: a hairy and heavyset queer man
Bigender: individual that experiences two gender identities; male and female
Bisexual: to be sexually attracted to both males and females
Butch: traditionally masculine appearing queer woman
Cisgender: person who’s gender identity matches their assigned gender at birth
Closeted: person who hasn’t publicly disclosed their sexual orientation
Coming-out: the self disclosure of ones sexual orientation
Cross-dressing: the act of wearing clothes commonly associated with the opposite sex
Demiromantic: person who experiences romantic attraction only after forming a strong emotional connection
Demisexual: person who experiences sexual attraction only after forming a strong emotional connection
Drag queen: males who ostentatiously dress in women’s clothes
Dyke: a lesbian with masculine mannerisms
Equality: the state of equal treatment without regard to differentiating characteristic
Femme (Feminine): queer person who presents in a feminine manner
Fraysexual: sexual attraction to others that they’re less familiar with
Futch: the midway point for lesbians on the scale between femme and butch
FTM/F2M: transition terminology for female to male
Gay: a homosexual male
Gender Dysphoria: discomfort and distress due to the mismatch between ones biological sex and gender identity
Gender fluid/queer: a gender identity not exclusively masculine or feminine
Gender neutral: a word/phrase that doesn’t refer to just one gender; they/them
Gender variant: behaviour or gender expression that doesn’t match masculine or feminine gender norms
Graysexual: A form of Asexuality, with very rare occurrences of sexual attraction
Gynephilia (Finsexual): the attraction to women and femininity
Hermaphrodite: having both sex organs/characteristics, either abnormally or naturally
Heterosexual: a person who is attracted to the opposite sex
Homosexual: a person who is attracted to the same sex
Intersex: individuals born with variations in sex characteristics that don’t fit typical definitions for male or female e.g. chromosomes, gonads, sex hormones, genitals etc.
Justified: to be understood and accepted for who you identify as without judgement
Kinks: bizarre or unconventional sexual preferences and behaviours
Lesbian: a homosexual woman
Lithosexual: an individual who experiences sexual attraction but doesn’t want it reciprocated
Lithromantic: an individual who experiences romantic attraction but doesn’t want it reciprocated
Mardi Gras: the annual parade/festival that celebrates the queer community (translates in French to Fat Tuesday)
Masc (Masculine): queer person who presents in a masculine manner
MTF/M2F: transition terminology for male to female
Neutrois: to have no gender or an absence of gender
Non-binary: identifying as without gender or gender identity
Omnisexual (Omni): sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards others with acknowledgement of sexual orientation and gender identity
Outing: revealing the sexual orientation of someone else without their consent
Pansexual (Pan/Gender Blind): sexual, romantic or emotional attraction towards others regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity
Polyamorous: to have intimate relationships with more than one partner, with the consent of all involved
Polysexual (Poly): sexually attracted to more than one gender
Pride: the positive stance against discrimination and violence towards all queer people
Queer: an umbrella term for sexual and gender minorities that aren’t heterosexual or cisgender
Questioning: the process of discovering ones own gender, sexual identity, and/or sexual orientation
Quoisexual: unable to distinguish the differences between sexual and other forms of attraction
Rainbow flag: established in 1979, the rainbow flag of pride symbolises: red for life, orange for healing, yellow for sunlight, green for nature, blue for harmony, and purple for spirit, for the queer community.
Skoliosexual: individuals attracted to gender queer, transgender and/or non-binary people
Stonewall: initially a mafia owned Inn, catered to the poorest and most marginalised people in the queer community
Straight: individual who is attracted to the opposite gender
Transsexual (Trans+): the desire to physically transition to the sex that corresponds with the gender they identify as
Transgender: individual that doesn’t identify as the sex they were assigned at birth
Trigender: individual that experiences three gender identities; male, female and non-binary
Twink: a small frames, young looking queer man, with little to no body hair
Unisex: designed to be suitable for both sexes
Visibility: the accurate representation of the diversity of the queer community
Wigstock: 1980’s annual outdoor drag festival in Manhattan’s East Village on Labour Day
XX/XY Chromosomes: the pair of DNA that determine the biological sex of an individual; XX for female, XY for male
You: the journey of understanding your own gender, orientation, personal preferences, and representation
Ze/Zir: third person pronouns describing individuals without gender assumption
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