#aspectrum

[genderqueerdykes]

now that my post about breaking down one's idea of what a woman looks like has circulated for a while (thank you all), i'm now going to make this post, as i do not want people to derail that specific conversation, nor this one.

we also must break down our idea of what a man looks, acts, sounds, behaves, and presents like.

men are not cis, het, allosexual or highly sexual beings, tall, muscular, strong, hairy, deep voiced, broad chested/shouldered, emotionless, mean, aggressive, unemotional, uncaring, distant, cold, stoic, heartless, standoffish, bread winners, bad/absent fathers, macho, obligated to work despite disabilities, or obligated to be "the man of the house."

men are people. first and foremost.

men are allowed to express just like anyone else. men do not have to be pillars of their communities. no obligation. men are allowed to be disabled, tired, weak, emotional, caring, compassionate, asexual, aromantic, friendly, warm, in need of support, neurodivergent, mentally ill, chronically ill,and have personality disorders. men have their own struggles and we have to stop telling them to "suck it up" and "move on" and "pull yourself up by your boot straps".

we are forcing men to do this: this is a cage of our own design.

once we dismantle this idea of how a man "should" be, once more: we will move past radfeminism, patriarchy, trans/androphobia, and fostering a culture where this is an acceptable way to treat men. it's not. we must allow men to be diverse. we must allow men to be who they are on the inside

[theaceofarrows]

Since Pride Month is almost upon us, I just want to make sure that ANYONE who identifies as aspec knows that this is your month, too!

Whether you identify as ace, aro, demi, grey, or any micro label, or combination that's well known or hardly know at all. You are valid, and YOU ARE part of the LGBTQA+ community. Never forget that!!

[thegirlsarethriving]

imagine holding the hand of ur platonic soulmate. and feeling safe and at home and loved and cared for and warm inside. might faint

[pierrethesillyclown]

if people don't support ALL LGBTQIA+ they're a shame to the community

[mylavellan]

Okay let me talk about it.

Like everytime a character is canonized aroace people started to get annoying about it, shouting that aroace people can have relationships and if you are uncomfortable with them being shipped with another character you’re aro/ace-phobic.

Don’t get me wrong, they (we) can have relationships but I don’t think this is what people are uncomfortable about.

I personally think the problem is that you (generic person, not you reader) don’t really care that they are aroace. You don’t try to understand aromanticism or asexuality, you only use them to defend your ship.

What I’m saying is sure you can ship them, there’s no problem, but please at least try to understand it, try to talk to aroace people to know better the subject, most of all if you’re a fanfiction writer.

Sure, there’s aspec people too whose ship aroace characters, I’m not saying they don’t or that they shouldn’t, but I’m not talking about them now.

Not use the aroace spectrum just when it’s convenient to you, remember that it’s an important trait of the character.

Let’s not erase a sexual/romantic orientation that it’s so under represented and let’s use this “opportunity” to learn something more about aspectrum.

so, ship anyone you want, but try to contextualize it.

[locklylemybeloved]

FRIENDLY REMINDER THAT WHILE VALENTINES DAY ITSELF IS LOWKEY A CORPORATE CASH GRAB TODAY IS STILL ABOUT CELEBRATING LOVE BUT THAT MEANS ALL LOVE NOT JUST ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL LOVE YES I MEAN PLATONIC AND FAMILIAL LOVE PLEASE REMEMBER THAT ROMANTIC AND SEXUAL LOVE ARE NOT THE ONLY TYPES OF LOVE WORTH CELEBRATING ON THIS LOVELY WEDNESDAY

(Caps ID below the cut)

[Caps ID: friendly reminder that while valentines day itself is lowkey a corporate cash grab today is still about celebrating love but that means all love not just romantic and sexual love. yes i mean platonic and familial love. please remember that romantic and sexual love are not the only types of love worth celebrating on this lovely wednesday]

[neptune-scythe]

the older I get the more a-spec I get and tbh that's super slay for me

[morgaine-la-reveuse]

I don't know who needs to hear this, but:

It is absolutely fine to use a label, only to realise it doesn't suit you anymore. Labels aren't there to bind you to them. They serve as a way to better describe how one feels and what ones lived experience can be like.

I had two pipelines of relabeling myself simultaneously.

From bi to lesbian, and back to bi.

From asexual to demisexual (because I thought, that one day, maybe I feel this kind of attraction, as sex-ambivalent and oscillating were terms I related with, and still do), and back to being asexual.

Does that make me less sapphic or a-spec? Absolutely not.

And to be honest: I still haven't figured out if I'm demiromantic or aromantic. And that is perfectly fine. We don't own anyone an explanation, but ourselves.

If the label felt good at that time, but doesn't anymore, let it go and take the one that feels more fitting. ♡ We are human beings. We are allowed to grow. You are valid, no matter which label you choose.

[the-stars-were-his]

"he's asexual? ohhh that's why he's so weird-" haha no. my weirdness and my asexuality are two completely different entities. they have nothing to do with each other. i am weird because yes and i am asexual because duh. you hear me?

[sterekshipper-writer]

Thank you to everyone who voted, liked reblogging, and commented on my previous post. I wanted to ask another question in hopes of making my YA novel relatable and true to the struggles and realities experienced. If you feel comfortable answering, I'd love to hear from you. No pressure at all.

[3scapethevoid]

A dose of validation for a-spec identities!

You're valid if you're aplatonic and don't have friends!

You're valid if you're aplatonic and do have friends!

You're valid if you're afamilial and aren't close with your family and/or familial figures OR don't have any!

You're valid if you're afamilial and are close with your family and/or familial figures if you have any!

You're valid if you're aqueerplatonic and don't engage in queerplatonic relationships!

You're valid if you're aqueerplatonic and do engage in queerplatonic relationships!

You're valid if you're aromantic and don't engage in romantic relationships!

You're valid if you're aromantic and do engage in romantic relationships!

You're valid if you're asexual and don't engage in sexual relationships/intercourse!

You're valid if you're asexual and do engage in sexual relationships/intercourse!

You're valid if you're the 'stereotype' of your label!

You're valid if you have any label that 'contradicts' with your actions/feelings!

You're valid if you aren't a-spec or don't consider yourself a-spec or don't use labels but are still attraction-repulsed, ambivalent, or whatever!

You can't control what you do and don't feel and no one else should either, be proud of who you are, no matter how 'absurd' or 'unnatural' it is to others. You are all valid! <3

[genderqueerdykes]

And on that aro and ace note, Aroallos aren't sex-crazed predatory freaks and aceallos aren't smol beans who don't know what a wee wee is

precisely, it's so shitty how people demonize aroallos and infantilize aceallos. it goes to show you what people actually think of aro and ace experiences when this is their knee jerk reaction

[vlada-slavik]

LGBTQIA+ CAT PROFILE PICTURES [ pt 21 ]

Free to use, just credit if you can!

Don't see yours? Check the #lgbtcatpfp !

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[thegirlsarethriving]

sorry i can’t hang out tonight I’ve gotta reblog 50 posts for the asexuals that live in my screen. on tumblr yeah

[charlie-lottie]

Demiaroaceflux | Демиароэйсфлюкс

[Created by me ; Can be used]

(Demiaroace + Aroaceflux)

– orientation for those who do not experience romantic and sexual attraction until an emotional connection/attachment is formed with a certain person. But their romantic and sexual attraction will fluctuate from 0% to 100%

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(Демиароэйс + Ароэйсфлюск)

– ориентация для тех, которые не испытывают романтическое и сексуальное влечения до тех пор, пока с определенным человеком не сформируется эмоциональная связь/привязанность. Но их романтическое и сексуальное влечение будет колебаться от 0% до 100%

Mentions / Tags: @radiomogai @acronym-chaos @kiruliom @rwuffles @flutteringwings-coining

[mylavellan]

Respect aspec people or else.