#autism and communication

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

In Conversation, What Can Trip Up an Autistic Person?

Pete Wharmby, Autistic Author

[autism-resources]

I have a question, I'm not sure if it makes sense. Is it normal for autistic people to want to stop talking (in general, outside of shutdowns or whatnot)?

Hey, first of all I want to say that is you don’t need to worry if a question makes sense. If I don’t understand it I’ll message for clarification or you can let me know I misunderstood if my answer doesn’t address your question.

Not wanting to speak or being tired of expressing yourself or communicating verbally at all is totally common in autistic people at any time. Personally I usually find I get angry and irritated when I want to stop talking during a general time that doesn’t involve upset or anything. Many autistic people experience fatigue from communication, or just simply want a break from talking without a specific “cause”. It’s not something unusual in autistic people, or people with other speech and communication related disabilities such as mixed type dyslexia, ADHD, or a brain injury and actually occurs for neurotypical people as well.

If you want to know more about yourself or limit how much it happens I’d recommend that you keep a record of when you have felt this way and not known the cause to see if maybe there is an underlying trigger.

If it’s causing you anxiety or fear, I totally understand because that is one of my struggles with this happening. One tactic I used to limit my stress about that happening to me was come up with a way to let people close to me know I was done, and explain to them what was happening when I had the energy. I also downloaded 2 apps for communication on my phone (emergency chat and AACBestie) and use hand signals such as thumbs down/up and “baby” sign language.

Disclaimer- Every autistic individual is well, an individual, so this doesn’t necessarily apply to everyone or look the same across the entire group, so don’t stress about what you do or don’t relate to.

[aimlesspoet]

a bottom-tier autistic experience is being told throughout your entire childhood that you are just an overthinker when it comes to social situations and later finding out that your friends did, in fact, hate being around you and tried to communicate that through weird little hints

[cafeblossomss]

the most helpful thing i have ever seen from neurodivergent internet spaces is “THERE ARE OTHER TIMES OF DAY TO BRUSH YOUR TEETH”. this has genuinely saved me from executive dysfunction spirals so many times.

[bli-o]

hey autistic people who get overwhelmed by large groups or noise or conversation or etc etc etc you’re not evil for wanting to leave a family gathering. just so you know.

[autismwithoutpremium]

Just a thought

[fallenstarcat]

sometimes i feel like people forget autism is a disability. and that’s not a bad thing! i’m all for disability acceptance, im proud of my disabilities. but i feel like we forget autism can hurt.

it hurts that i have to put more time and energy into socializing than others.

it hurts when i need to move so bad, usually cause im overwhelmed by either my surroundings or emotions, that i thrash and hurt myself.

it hurts that i cant be in places that are too loud or too bright, which on bad days can be as simple as a small, quiet noise or dim lights.

it hurts that i struggle to tell when im hungry, thirsty, tired, etc. so i can’t properly take care of myself. it doesn’t help my insomnia and i get very nauseas and get UTIs.

i 100% believe in autism acceptance. i don’t want a cure. but i also want us the acknowledge that it can hurt. it doesn’t mean my entire life will hurt, but some parts will. and i want a community where we can see both sides, see the hurt, and celebrate it anyway.

[simplymisty]

do you guys ever get annoyed that like. we have bodily needs.

like, sure, I don't mind eating a lil snack or drinking something tasty, BUT it annoys me that I have to do that in order to live.

like, I can't have little treats all the time, no, I have to eat regular meals, because otherwise the body will get upset. and most of the times, the body will also get upset if you eat something in particular, because it's dramatic like that

I like sweet fizzy drinks, but I gotta drink way more than I would like to in order to stay hydrated. and best way to do so is to drink water & that does NOT spark joy, the flavor usually is off, boring and annoying. not to mention if you drink enough, you gotta go to the bathroom so often, such an annoyance

like. do you guys get me.

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

I wish that it was seen as more socially acceptable to ask for clarification in communication

Neurodivergent_lou

[z4g-3us]

i think ppl will enjoy these so im sharing the experience of studying a tbh creature in the wild.... fascinating creatur.......

[flamboyantinsomniac]

Weighted blankets aren't enough I need to be crushed in a hydraulic press

[canenotabeltofunction]

Autistic People: There are multiple things making common, low volume noises at one time. It is too much noise at once and if I don’t cover my ears I’m going to have a meltdown.

Also Autistic People: If I can’t feel my music vibrating my sinuses then it’s NOT LOUD ENOUGH

[autisticdreamdrop]

hyperverbal autistic ✅️ valid

fully verbal autistic ✅️ valid

verbal autsitic with verbal loss ✅️ valid

semiverbal autistic ✅️ valid

nonverbal autistic ✅️ valid

[crayonurchin]

First art of the new year is all about re-structuring your internal monologue.

In my early 20s I was working full time in London with many social commitments and a variety of hustles and side projects.

In my later mid 20s I cater to many sensory and social drain needs I have and indulge in special interests while respecting my lower energy reserves and celebrating my different way of processing the world.

Did I get more autistic? Nah. I got less fake.

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[Art description: Three panels showing figures on a black background. Long descriptions follow.

1. A drawing of OP as a person with hip-length hair and a dress standing sadly with her hands clapsed together in front of her. She is coloured a muted rainbow gradient. Behind her, two pairs of nondescript figures chat while smiling. White text says, ‘I’m getting more and more autistic the older I get.’ 2. OP’s colours are brighter, and her expression looks happier. Crayon-like scribbles have crossed out the text from the previous panel. 3. OP’s colours are vibrant, and she balances on one leg and throws her arms out as she dances. The text above has changed to say, ‘I’m becoming more and more myself the older I get.’ \End descriptions]

[pennycutenice]

Unattended children will be given hair dye and pronouns.

[aromanticduck]

If neurotypicals are so good at picking up hints, why do they never seem to notice you leaning away when they try to touch you?

[Edit: From now on, anyone who wants to reply with some variation of 'they just don't care' must first donate £10 to a respected autism charity.

It's not even that you're wrong exactly, I'm just sick of seeing the same response regurgitated like it's something I can't possibly have thought of myself.]

[Edit 2: No more reblogs actually. If you screenshot this to reupload it I will break into your house and clean your toilet with your toothbrush.

Retyping it in your own words and making your own post is fine.]