#autism and rsd

[jesterkilljoy]

being autistic while dealing with rejection sensitive dysphoria is so fun sometimes cause like. i simultaneously understand just typing/receiving "k" as a response and am absolutely fucking terrified of it

[theteleportingtransfem]

Reblog if you’re a transfem who is shy and you fear abandonment, even when you know that your friends are amazing and would never leave you.

Or if you like pizza.

[deiim]

rejection sensitivity is so fucking lame. like boo hoo look at me i felt mildly ignored for 30 seconds and already started planning my own funeral liKE BITCH CHILL it was never that serious

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria in ADHD and Autistic People

The Autistic Teacher

[beautyinthediss0nance]

[magentasnail]

new creature just dropped: RSD CREATURE I wasn't planning on making more creature art but I am also insane and feral so I had no choice

also transparent version if you'd like:

[twelfth-dykector]

AuDHD decided to be really funny when it made me really annoying (adhd), absolutely terrified of being perceived as annoying (rsd) and having no idea what people find annoying (autism)

[forever-positive]

the autistic urge to end every interaction with one of these bad boys

[desultory-suggestions]

Sending love to those with RSD who struggle with criticism at work/in school. It took me a long time to understand why it felt like a gut punch when my boss told me to tweak a design I made or a professor left critiques (even on an A+ paper.) I automatically felt I had failed if there was something to critique. If I didn't fail everything would be perfect, right? Well no! Everything can be changed or improved. It takes practice to start seeing these critiques as rewards that help make you stronger, but once you do a whole new world of confidence opens up.

[neurotypicalabusesurvivor]

In our society it only counts as emotional abuse if it fits within neuronormativity.

Telling a autistic person who is in a middle of a melt down to be claim is emotional abuse.

Telling people who have anger issues because of trauma to be claim is emotional abuse.

Expecting people with RSD to not have strong emotions over rejection is emotional abuse.

Saying people with BPD are abusive because of extreme emotions is emotional abuse.

You motherfuckers will say all emotions are valid up in tell the point it does not fit within neuronormativity. In which case the person is a "evil abuser" because you feel like there should be zero consequences for Neuronormative privilege. Yet when you trigger these feelings in neurodivergent people with neuronormative privilege are "innocent victim".

You ableist are codependent on neurodivergent acting, feeling and thinking like Neurotypicals and unlike actual codependents people who are acting that way because of mental illness you don't have an excuse.

[maxgicalgirl]

No but for real have we found a solution for rejection sensitive dysphoria yet ? Like does anyone else who has this have coping mechanisms that work ? I am genuinely asking please help

[wowa-bublord]

Do either Zack or Cloud have their traumas manifest in a fear of physical touch? Or a fear of anything that the other may trigger by accident? Sorry My Whump Is Kicking In Today

NO NEED 2 APOLOGIZE FOR ANY ASKS i am eating them all the time

Zack and cloud I think are both very touchy and clingy, it's definitely one of Zacks main love languages. He bites he wrestles he messes up everyones hair. if you have talked 2 him for 4 seconds he will give you a hug and explode all of your bones

But their fears definitely do pop up from time to time. Cloud has days where he doesn't want contact from anyone, I imagine him as already pretty touch averse (he has autism 2 me) so when things get tough and he can't deal with it that day, I imagine him as pretty good at shutting it down. Cloud in general I imagine as really good at setting boundaries, and doesn't usually think about how the way he expresses his dislike for things might bother the other person. It doesn't even cross his mind. Like in this comic!!

zack is. not as good on that front.

the strugglers

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) in ADHD and Autistic People

The Autistic Teacher

[autism-affirmations]

i love criticism. i do not cry uncontrollably /s

[autisticallyadhd]

Being neurodivergent and messaging (my perspective. Please feel free to add your own in comments/reblogs)

1. Anxiety (GAD)

2. Studying what people like so I have a conversation starter

3. Not being able to start/continue conversations (hi how are you? Good, you? Good…)

4. Always starting the conversations.

5. Feeling like no one actually wants to talk to me or cares.

6. Talking about myself most of the time because there’s only so much small talk that can be done.

7. OR never talking about myself in case I’m boring/annoying and only asking the other person stuff.

8. Being ghosted (HURTS a lot, cause of RSD)

9. Or accidentally ghosting others and realising too much time has passed so now it would be embarrassing.

10. Trying hard to keep in touch and realising that the other person is uninterested.

11. Missing social cues EVEN when people aren’t there/face to face/irl.

12. Feeling like a failure

13. Realising that if you don’t message people, literally no one would message you at all.

[aggressive-positivity-network]

When someone gives the advice of “don’t be afraid to disappoint your parents” they don’t just mean taking music theory in college or starting a YouTube channel.

It also means wearing things they might not approve of. Using accommodations that they might not think you need. Not falling for their guilt trips. Eating when you’re hungry, not when it suits them and their idea of your weight or health. Making your own friends instead of seeking the stamp of approval from them.

Of course, some parents are stricter than others, and some use abuse to keep you from expressing yourself. But do what you can, even if it seems small.

Otherwise, when your parents are no longer in the picture, you’ll try to find it somewhere else to get validation. A strict boss, an abusive partner, a selfish friend.

Going against your parent’s wishes is developmentally healthy. Not doing so stunts your independence and self-regulation. You shouldn’t be living to constantly please others, even the people who love you.