#codependent

[guiltyidealist]

"I'm sorry I vented and took up your time with my bullshit" ❌

feeds abandonment fears, implies having needs and being helped with them are wrong, makes it all about you

"Thank you for being patient with me through that, I appreciate that you took the time" ✅

shows your gratitude, affirms your affinity, no "using up" anybody's effort, makes it about you both as equals

"I'm sorry I dumped without checking consent first. I need to act respectfully and ask for your permission before I vent" ✅

"I'm sorry I said x, that was inappropriate of me to put on you" ✅

"Was it okay when I said x the way I did?" ✅

"Would you like to place a boundary around that?" ✅

"What could I do/say instead that's healthier for us both?" ✅

correct an actual wrong, seize due accountability, consider their rights as much as yours, make amends, work to correct missteps going forward

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[sadieshavingsex]

I’m tired of healing I’m tired of waiting to heal I’m tired of researching what’s wrong with me I’m tired of feeling pathologized im tired of pathologizing myself im tired of not feeling safe im tired of overanalyzing everything im tired of not being able to make a decision im

[neurotypicalabusesurvivor]

In our society it only counts as emotional abuse if it fits within neuronormativity.

Telling a autistic person who is in a middle of a melt down to be claim is emotional abuse.

Telling people who have anger issues because of trauma to be claim is emotional abuse.

Expecting people with RSD to not have strong emotions over rejection is emotional abuse.

Saying people with BPD are abusive because of extreme emotions is emotional abuse.

You motherfuckers will say all emotions are valid up in tell the point it does not fit within neuronormativity. In which case the person is a "evil abuser" because you feel like there should be zero consequences for Neuronormative privilege. Yet when you trigger these feelings in neurodivergent people with neuronormative privilege are "innocent victim".

You ableist are codependent on neurodivergent acting, feeling and thinking like Neurotypicals and unlike actual codependents people who are acting that way because of mental illness you don't have an excuse.

[timtwylan]

There’s just something about codependent queerplatonic jasico…

[the-gray-ghosty]

sam laying in the bathtub and dean sitting in the bathroom with him, both of them watching a movie on the laptop or eating snacks, just being close (as if they don't spend 24/7 together anyways

[gwnsgwen]

I like it when the man deteriorates after the break up.

[mrsdallowayszoloft]

anyone else….feeling very “cartwheel” by lucy dacus lately…🫠 (find more of my weird memes on my ig)

[hilsonrecsmd]

Oblivious 

by alivehawk1701

gen | comp. | 5k ; pre-slash

Summary: Wilson might not be as aware of how his relationship with House looks like to others, but he might be starting to . . . a day in the life fic from Wilson's POV.

“Wilson,” House said from over Wilson’s right shoulder, “It doesn’t matter what people think, it only matters what you think, what you feel. I don’t want to force you to do anything. I just—” he stopped, jaw clamping shut. By the time House spoke again Wilson was about ready to storm out of the kitchen but he did, eventually saying, “I was waiting for you.” Wilson looked over his shoulder at House. “I’d already eaten,” House continued, “I was waiting for you anyway. Okay?” he shifted his leg under him, “When you’re here–it’s just us. When you’re here it’s better,” he looked up hesitantly, “For me anyway.”

reccer's note: wilson is such a pushover (affectionate) for house and i love it. an interesting take on how others view hilson's friendship and how they view it themselves

[stucktomyshoe]

Dean had to die, okay?

*dramatic pause*

Dean sacrificed so much for Sam. 

Dean was like Sam’s mother, father, and brother. He was there for Sam when no one else was and he became attached to Sam like a parent would to their child.

While a child can grow apart from their parent and spread their wings and become independent, most parents have a hard time letting their kids go and letting them flourish independently. 

Sam, while he still loved Dean dearly, it was easier for him to branch out and leave Dean behind as we see in many episodes. For example, when Sam left for college, purgatory, etc… (also an adding bonus is that Sam did not want to hunt and he was only doing it for Dean. And that’s why he quit whenever Dean was gone.) 

So, while we see Sam leaving Dean (or in a more gentle manner, branching out from his “parent.”) and leaving hunting on many occasions, it becomes apparent that Sam is willing to give up Dean and the family business when the time is right. 

For Dean, it’s the opposite. Dean doesn’t care if it’s the right time or if it’s the wrong time for Sam to leave him. He just can’t give up Sam for anything. Dean sold his soul and was willing to get ripped up by a hellhound and get tortured for, (I think it was) 50-something years for Sam for him to come back to life. (Sam didn’t leave him, he left Sam so it doesn’t count.) 

So in conclusion, it had to be Dean who died if we wanted at least one of the brothers to be happy. 

[guiltyidealist]

BPD & codependent Samarie edits! Feel free to use with credit (just a namedrop is fine)

Both flags are BPD awareness flags. I PNG'ed the Samarie overworld sprites myself but snagged the other three from her page on the wiki. The codependent emblems are a symbol of CoDependents Anonymous, extracted from their website (coda.org) and edited

[lousydrawingsforgoodpeople]

[sadieshavingsex]

Revolutionary idea: forgive your past self for her decisions!

[howifeltabouthim]

He doesn't love me anymore, she mourned, and she became filled with a gut-wrenching terror. For she had grown to depend on his love, and she was firmly convinced that without it she would vaporize, and nothing would be left of her at all.

Anna Biller, from Bluebeard's Castle

[kennysaysthings]

It’s driving me crazy that they ZOOMED IN on this moment

They made sure we saw it in all its glory, but why? If not to pin point how far Dennis has come? Is not to show that SOMETHING has shifted here and they aren’t going to outright say it. This is everything I’ve been saying, Mac is pulling away- has been pulling away since last season, and Dennis is forced to push back.

He has to be the one to really want this, no matter how much Mac “gets over” this, I truly believe all Dennis would have to do is say the word and Mac would come back to him. Dennis will always be the one person Mac will wait for, even with other partners, even if he’s in a committed relationship. The magic of falling in love with someone where your relationship is already that strong is, you never really say goodbye to those feelings, you can put them on hold and you can distance yourself but there they are, sitting in the corner still beaming with light.

The problem is, If Dennis does want this, he wouldn’t say anything. It would be actions, actions that put him BACKWARDS. Because what is loving someone, he’s going to want the best for Mac, and with the way things are going- he’s going to step back and help Mac find someone else. Because Dennis doesn’t deserve Mac in his mind. (Though he would outwardly say Mac didn’t deserve him)

They seem normal enough again but somehow closer. I feel like they’ve been making so much eye contact already it’s absurd.

[kimchicuddles]

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