#diagnosed autistic

[aithusiel]

A yes, the three kinds of Autism:

(RE: was found on video referencing Autism)

[soft-dollie]

"Disorder" and "Disability" are NOT dirty words!!

A frustrated rant

I saw a video today and I can't get it out of my head, so I'll write about it instead. Excuse me and apologies if this sounds incoherent or if anything is incorrect.

The video was of a mom telling her followers about why she wouldn't tell her daughter that she has ASD (her daughter has autism) because she's "not disordered". It's frustrating to constantly hear this going around because it's false. If your daily functioning is not being disordered because of your traits/symptoms, you don't have autism. Autism is a disability, not a "superpower" like people in the comments were saying. I WISH that my autism didn't disable and disorder me, and that I "didn't know I was different", but that's what autism does. Yes, autism is a spectrum, but even Level 1 autistics are disabled because they have autism.

"Disorder" and "disability" are not dirty words, and by pushing the narrative that we should find a different name for the diagnosis, we are contributing to the stigma that disabled people get. Having a disorder doesn't mean you're fucked for life, it just means you have trouble functioning in a world that isn't accommodating for you, and that's not your fault or any disabled persons fault.

These "autism moms" also want to start replacing the diagnosis "Autism Spectrum Disorder" with "Autism Spectrum Condition". As an autistic person, the word "condition" sounds so much more demeaning and degrading than "disorder".

Autism is a Neurodevelopmental disability and disorder. AND there's nothing wrong with having autism. Both statements can be true at the same time. Being autistic isn't something to feel ashamed about, neither is being disabled or having another disorder.

I might be grasping straws here, but claiming that autism isn’t a disorder because your child “isn’t disordered” is excluding and silencing the hundreds of thousands of autistics who ARE disabled and disordered (like myself). It’s tone deaf, and seems to come from a place of privilege that might not be recognized in some situations.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but trying to change an entire diagnosis because you “dont agree with the wording” is counterproductive. ASD is autism, no matter how you put it. You don’t have to use “ASD” to refer to yourself, but don’t act as if the words disabled, disorder, and ASD are malignant.

Words have meaning, and ASD was called a disorder for a reason. This "ASC, non-disordered autism, autism is a superpower, autism mom" movement feels like it is pushing the autistic community back, and its frustrating to see.

[meowtismz]

Kiki see people say self diagnose people is bad! Well kiki not think that :( actually make kiki as prof dx autistic bery very upset!

Self diagnosis not bad, is about self discovery and self adapting!

For kiki be diagnosed kiki was have make huuuuuuge self diagnosing research...

And stop say doctors know everything because kiki know first hand that no, don't!! Kiki was have doctor tell kiki that not autistic because female???? Kiki not even female???? So frustrating!!

[tbhcareguide]

How to take care of a TBH creature!

[dxndxrxvxbe]

i know my autism and adhd is "normal" and "nothing to be ashamed of" because theres literally nothing i can do about it but recently ive been feeling so ashamed of myself.

i get frustrated so easily with noise / talking and i have to quickly leave the room. it makes me wonder what people who dont know me think.

i cant focus on homework i never do it. ever. and you would expect me to get expelled but no they just give me a sympathetic look and a pat on the head like im a dog. why do i get Bs when i do NOTHING?.

and what about my hyper fixations? do people think its annoying when i wanna talk about the same episodes of a show that came out in 2016?.

do peoole wonder why i cant look them in the eye? or why im always on my phone?.

these are questions that are literally haunting me. i cant be stuck in this brain for the rest of my life. its torture.

im trying so hard to be normal but i think the stress is making it worse. i lock myself in my bathroom so i can jump up and down and talk to the mirror because thats how my embarrassing self stims

[deepermadness]

I still think back to earlier this year when I was at work and one of the third party contractors who does the warehouse accuracy checks stopped me to ask me a personal question.

He'd noticed that I was pretty particular about how I picked trays and boxes. Very neat, always with the label facing outwards so it could be scanned. He said I seemed quite book smart as well. I was always full of facts on highly specialised interests. He said he'd worked out what I was.

I could already feel the dread coming.

"Yeah, I reckon you're one of *those* guys. Don't worry, there's nothing wrong with it. You can't help being born an aquarius."

A starsign. I got diagnosed as aquarius.

[mybrainsrottingwithmcd]

Minecraft Diaries is mentioned 4 separate times on my autism assessment report :)

[luckygrlsyndrome]

hi guys, i've never coined anything so lmk if i do anything wrong !

i wanted to coin a new term related to nonscribal and verbalflux because i haven't seen a term that describes some of my own and my friend's experiences

SCRIBALFLUX: a term for when your ability to produce written or typed language fluctuates between different states, such as having no, some, or full ability to produce written language

[xx-keilakreepz-xx]

AWESUM SAUCE AUTISTIC!!!!!!!

4 autisticz who r awesum sauce!!!!!!!

Pinkish red: awesomeness

Purple ish blue: amazingness

Pale blue: coolness

White: understanding nd acceptance of autism

Red: autism

[astro-the-catastrophe]

PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) FLAG!

Yellow is for social manipulation; appearing social, but is then contrasted by the inner blue which represents actually having no idea on sociability. Many people with PDA appear to be very social but have absolutely no clue what they’re doing in terms of social interaction.

Orange is for lack of self preservation

Red is for obsessive behaviours, mood swings and impulsivity

Purple is for comfort in playing pretend

The dull blue is for language delay

The black represents the fact that PDA is definitely on the autism spectrum, many people just don’t know where

The infinity symbol once again represents being on the autism spectrum

The therianthropy symbol represents how a very very large group of PDAers are therians/otherkin

The white is to represent the children who were lost due to undiagnosed and incorrectly treated PDA and bringing them justice

The lines are intentionally curved to represent going against the demand of flags being straight stripes and coordinated symbols. PLEASE DO NOT STRAIGHTEN THEM.

[meowtismz]

what happens when ur getting diagnosed with autism?? i'm getting tested hopefully by next year (the wait list is SO LONG) but i'm a bit stressed- also what age is considered a late diagnosis?

HAIIII sorry i forgor about this ask but letsgo then,,

Basically here are four thing you might have to consider before going after a diagnosis... it is stressful, time consuming, money consuming and DOCTORS MAKE MISTAKES. Just cuz a single doctor said you're not autistic it doesn't me you are definetly NOT,,

"So, how did it go?" you may be asking. Well, basically, when i did it, it was a bunch of cognitive tests, lots of talking and one giant "quiz" about social factors. Don't be scared by that it's not that big of a deal but i do encourage you NOT overthink on you answers on both the tests and the quiz if it happens to you the same it did to me.

I'm sure whatever it is you have to find, you're gonna find !

[tbhcareguide]

Bop :) (I forget if it’s actually called physical stimming, I’m not very good at remembering these kinds of things :,) )

[jackthecrimekangaroo]

Ok, how is the ghost of a headless girl who grieves the lost memories of her life and identity so relatable to me?!

I have none of those traits nor qualities and yet I look at this girl and go "omg she's just like me fr"

[felixdragonheartofficial]

Symptoms are kicking my ass all the time

Thank Jesu's pies idht serve in el military

I got surgery on my toe when I was six, cuz I ramme my foot into a metal door and it was bleeding SO much omg

[higheverweave]

Also like seriously consider if Diagnosis is safe or right for you Diagnosed between 4-5 years old Self Dx is valid and most folks who are Dxed legit dont have anything against self dx for the above reason But Bigger issue Why is Diagnosis required to access autistic social spaces?? ^^^^ Thats the real question. Like grew up autistic have no problem with you folks joining us. (So long as you don’t like use your privilege to speak over issues that are specific to diagnosis (legal shit like not being able to marry due to insurance,mental competency tests etc. (Also no you cant be like yep Im going to reclaim the RwordNo Nope No even folks who are diagnosed shouldn’t use that word as like our elders who are still alive who survived Asylums and Being called the Rword to force sterilization which is still very much happening.)

But I will Say this as well Consider being diagnosed Carefully as Diagnosis comes with a different Ball game of Legal oppression. (Not to shame. Just to let you know what most folks don’t beforehand If any of us has a choice to be and live without barriers …. None of us are going to judge you for being like I am autistic but I recognize official Dx would add stigma I don’t deserve.) We genuinely want you all to live your best lives.

•If you are diagnosed with a disability under the age of 22 Insurance dictates wether or not you will be allowed to marry.

•People if they know you are Asd or disabled will use that as a weapon to invalidate things you know and celebrate about your own identity… (Many Autistics are Lgbtq+ and or Trans people use Asd to be like “well they cant actually know they are _____ .”)

•Forced poverty is very real. If you choose not to dx thats ok! Barriers are real and we get if you weigh the options and decide against it

If you are self diagnosed there are things its 200% chill to advocate on Things

Like sensory overload

Medical comorbidities

But Autistic culture is starting to get a reputation of canceling people too

Which Autism Parents for example

Many Autism Parents are also Autistic alot of the harm they do is thier own internalized Abelism and oppression fighting isnt always the best way to help them understand themselves and their autistic family members better.

Also alot of folks who are the most anti autistic can be folks with internalized abelism. Its super real.

Sometimes not being diagnosed is a privilege to to forced or unconsentual ABA done without parent or individual permission.

But also like If you want to advocate come to some autistic social spaces or start some.

Theres exposure that is hard to get without a diagnosis (So there are some informal groups and ways of getting exposure. And most of us love You all!

Genuinely we are excited to have you join us we are excited to share and guide you. We know late dx and self dx happens and in diagnosed spaces a lot of us are super cool swapping tips.

Just know that IDD can make some accessibility hard for folks. So you have to be patient even with social issues as a-lot of you all have an access to privilege you don’t realize you have in terms of educational material being accessible.

Lastly

If you do get diagnosed

We are anti Eugenics so not pro like Intelligence shaming, non-speakers exist I for one alternate I can only speak sometimes…. When i cant speak it hurts too…

Lastly Anti Eugenics means dont make fun of IDD and Engage in Intellectual ellitism

However this doesn’t mean don’t check your assigned intelligence score as there is different barriers if you are 2E as well and ways you can use that privilege to make things more accessible for everyone. Including translating into comfortable language for folks with IDD who need that.

Part of the beauty of the spectrum is we fill in one another’s blanks we help lift one another up.

But note also if you go for an asd test and end up with something similar but not the same you are still Neurodivergent.

Neurodivergent is a large community but some common neurodiversity’s that are not discussed as often (At least positively.)

Are Schizophrenia. (Which also are kin to Autistic folks we survive together. Even if its not the same we can still support one another.)

Personality disorders aren’t Autism but are Neurodiverse and stigmatized and deserve love and respect as well.

Borderline personality, Narcissistic personality,

Etc.

If you don’t end up As autistic it doesn’t mean you aren’t a part of our community (Neurodiverse.)

also know like (Autism groups centers etc advocates in there are not against having you join us for hangout sessions or social group activities. Its ok to ask a diagnosed friend how to learn more or join our spaces if you aren’t dxed!

Also some of you might be able to help us fight ABA in medical spaces as we aren’t listened to directly as a lot of places get funded for that shit….

Thats all sorry its long love you all keep advocating just know you aren’t imposters and can advocate on things you experience like sensory and comorbidities just engage with other autistics about more complex/nuanced issues.

Also Please if you are self DX late DX the reputation we are getting for Cancel culture (And not like canceling people who did stuff thats unforgivable. But if someone doesn’t know or have privilege to access information please please don’t harp on folks who are learning. As that is not restorative justice.)

Restorative justice being how we deal with issues in disabled autistic spaces. Just because there are conflicting respect needs and social, emotional ,educational access needs.

Tone is not mad just infodump

Genuinely like talking to yall about asd (Have a ton of cool ND cultural research I’m doing that im trying to figure out how to share without being seen as elitist… when the goal is to use privilege to dismantle privilege especially eugenic. Thinking about talking about twice exceptionality more and what growing up 2E-Asd is like in disabled spaces and why Disability Autism is my main identity not Eugenic assignments.)

Lmk if any of this is helpful or something y’all have an interest in. 😎🖤

[mariyntine]

My little sister just said to me "If you started dating someone I would threaten them!" because I'm autistic and she is afraid they won't treat me right.