#exclusionists can fuck off

[luaminesce]

It's nearly 2024; can we not do ace discourse this year.

[phoenixonwheels]

Idk how to explain to MERDs that physical disabilities lead to mental health problems and mental disabilities lead to physical health problems. Your brain is in your body. It’s all connected. You can’t divide the two out.

I swear y’all would chop your left arm off as long as you could throw another disabled person under the damn bus in the process.

[knifearo]

"asexual discourse" is so funny cause dude that's not discourse and it's never been discourse. it's not an argument and it's not a conversation bitches are just yelling at us unprompted and then making up people to get mad at 😭

[kalmeria]

idk

[hasattory689]

Kinda ironic how the ace attorney fandom, who has the word "ace" in it, is packed full of aphobic lgbt+ exclusionists.

Headcanoning a character as asexual, aromantic or as aroace is as valid as any other queer headcanon. Even if some here have the IQ of a rock and cannot comprehend that.

[sirenium]

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[possibly-pasta]

it’s my sworn duty as a femme to provide my butch with a hearty Hasn’t Been Hungover In Months And Fucked Like A God Last Night brekky sandwich before work 😌🥰

💖@sapphicslut777 💖

[cpunkhobie]

Honestly it's so weird whenever I see people talking shit about or having mspec lesbians in their dni because I just feel so disconnected from that label. Like technically I'm an mspec lesbian, but I'm also an ace bisexual, and a non-binary boy. I'm not an mspec lesbian I'm just a lesbian. I'm just a dyke. If someone on the street saw me they wouldn't question "I wonder if that kid is actually non-binary. I wonder if that kid is just a gnc bisexual." If they saw me and my partner holding hands they wouldn't think "what a lovely pair of gnc transmascs." No they'd think "oh look at those butch lesbians." And if they're not as nice they'd think "look at those fucking dykes." Because it doesn't matter if my partner is also my boyfriend, or if I think men are hot. I still love women. I still have to stop myself from glancing or staring too long whenever I see a pretty girl in public. I still look at girls and think about how hot they are. Before I was a dude or bisexual or queer first and foremost I was a lesbian thinking looking at girls and loving girls and being attracted to girls and wondering why. Why was I the only one doing this. Why did I feel like this. I'm not an mspec lesbian, I'm just a lesbian

It's also so weird because just a few years ago a lot of my lesbian friends were bi, but they're still fucking lesbians. That wasn't something that got questioned, you just liked women and you were a lesbian. The only people who ever questioned us about it were fucking straight people and that also annoyed the hell out of us. But now I'm seeing people in my own community saying I can't use a label I've been using since before their egg even started cracking because im "mspec." Suddenly that label doesn't belong to me? I've seen people online talk shit and know, logically they're talking about me. But there's no connection there because i'm not an mspec lesbian im just a fucking lesbian !!!! I'm a dyke !!!!

I'm not even angry because again I just feel SO disconnected from this conversation, even though I'm the group that exclusionists are targeting. Like, I've said like 3 times but im not an mspec lesbian I'm just a fucking lesbian

[theyhitthepentagon]

i know i think i talked about this before but the concept of "basic dni criteria" PISSES ME OFF SOOOO BAD. are we talking twitter dni or tumblrina dni. who the fuck do you not want to interact. if ur writing a dni at least write the whole fucking thing im begging youuuu "basic dni" helps nobody

[awkward-aro-ace-princess-76]

Thought about exclusionists and got sick to my stomach. They are such fucking losers oh my god. Just let people be queer in peace god damn get a life

[arcadequeerz]

I just do not give a single shit about lg-bt-q disc-ourse anymore.

[demonic-shadowlucifer]

welp this is probably the weirdest thing i've asked but uh... send me some of the worst stuff you've ever seen (or received) from TERFs. I'll compile it into a single post (and maybe a Google Doc too if I have enough lol)

[phoenixonwheels]

Actual comment I received on a post:

“I’m both mentally and physically disabled. Here’s how both have affected me in the same ways. Here’s how I’ve been discriminated against due to both in the same ways… and that’s why physically disabled people need their own community that excludes mentally disabled people! Cripple Punk is only for physically disabled people! Stop punching down!”

[a-nana-petite]

like i can't express how much i hate TERFs and radfems in general. y'all can fuck off and we'd all be much happier for it.

signed, the queer trans man that runs this blog

[bisexualseraphim]

Do queer people who gatekeep sexualities and gender identities have nothing better to do like genuinely what is your problem. The whole point of the community is that gender and sexuality are more fuckity wuckity than man or woman, gay or straight and in almost 2024 we STILL have mfs going “nah that’s not a thing :/ you don’t belong in the community” unless they’re causing harm to others I seriously urge you to shut the fuck up. It is the easiest thing in the world to just say “hmm I don’t really understand that. But it’s their life and none of my business” and just move on with your life and let people live theirs. I do not give one iota of a fuck if someone identifies as a wolfgender they/them/bun/bunself AMAB transmasc who is only attracted to butches with curly hair and brown eyes IT DOES NOT AFFECT ME. I’m happy that they’ve found a way to express their identity that feels true to them and then I think about it no further. Like it takes active mental energy and emotion to get pressed over how someone expresses themselves and I don’t understand why you’d put yourself through that stress and then decide to be bitchy and make people feel like shit for being themselves. I’m seriously getting so tired of people in the community acting like it’s a fucking competition or you can only join if you meet X Y and Z criteria as if it’s some college mean girls sorority club. People are actively trying to take our rights away all the time and while this is happening we’re helping them by tearing our teeth into our own. Great

[bloodsbane]

the thing about being genderweird and indulging in gender fuckery is that you really, really DO get to a point where a lot of preconceptions and weird hangups start dissolving away and then hearing or seeing certain stuff feels more wack than anything from before. like. this is my boyfriend and she's gonna kick your ass. yeah im a cute lil boy in the way a dog across the street is a cute lil boy. my gender is whatever the fuck angels and/or frogs have going on. like?? all of this 100% makes sense to me

sometimes i remember that some people see trans men or trans women or nobiney folks in ns*w or even just tastefully nude art and it doesn't just immediately click in their minds. oh wow that's a cute girl dick. that's a nice pic of two dudes fucking (one has a strap on and the other has no top op). like ?? ? ? some people look at bodies and Assume based on the Parts or how they Look or where they're Placed. some people aren't deep enough in queer spaces where your mind sorta starts defaulting to neutral until proven gendered.

idk i feel like im not wording myself right but it's hitting me hard lately. bc yeah i used to be like that but i've been so lost in the sauce of being in deeply queer/trans spaces, the last couple years especially, that it's just like. what do you mean a lesbian with he/him pronouns is weird or a problem? what do you mean people still double-take when they see someone masculine wearing a skirt or with makeup on. waht the fuck. get with the fukgcking program besties