#cw aphobia

[fangirl-nadir]

Oh look, another aphobe 🙄

Imagine being so aphobic that you'd use a milestone post on your art blog to bitch about asexuals. What a weirdo.

[cherrypikkins]

after 10+ years of watching unmitigated aphobia in the dragon age fandom it really does feel -chef's kiss- to know that is lucanis confirmed canonically as ace-spec with a demon named spite of all things

its delicious poetry and i am eating it

[would-you-punt-them]

Aphobia

[circlesuponcircles]

Oh Mirabelle, sweet, whimsical Mirabelle.. What happened to you? Aren't you the one who's supposed to keep everybody's spirits high? Aren't you the one meant to save Vaugarde? Aren't you tired of looping? Aren't you tired of killing the same sadness, over.. and over.. and over.. How are you supposed to save Vaugarde when you can't even make a decision on who your partner should be?

[sprinkleonthatcriticism]

So bee making fun of mammon's asexuality and not having bitches is supposed to be funny but if mammon replied to her "ok pan 🍳 fucker" the fanbase would hate him for making fun of her pansexuality

The bias is just.... yuck, The standom isn't really beating their "we hate fat people, asexuals and women" allegations right there. Like, as someone who is Bee's no.1 biggest fan (lmao) even I'm disappointed about how Viv written her, in my head I'm like "Bee would NOT fucking say that". The standom has always had an issue when it comes to respect asexuals/aroaces/aromantics

[aro-ace-chaos]

I used to relate mostly to my asexual identity, and my being aromantic kind of came second.

But, as I've grown older, I've started to realize that was internalized purity culture and amatonormativity and religious trauma. I could be aro ONLY BECAUSE I was ace. Because purity culture insists that sex without marriage is bad. And marriage should come with romantic attraction. Since I'm ace, I was fine with that, and it was important for me to learn I was aro and ace, but the way in which I did was tinted by purity culture and, to an extent, arophobia. (I even had a whole experience of going "well it's fine to be ace because I can still get married even if I don't want sex, I'll just marry someone who doesn't want sex either!" Then I got asked out on a date and wanted to stab someone as a result).

Now, I feel like both are extremely important parts of who I am. I love being aro. I love being ace. I love being aroace.

Fuck amatonormativity. Fuck purity culture. And fuck religious trauma.

[chubbibunni]

idk proshipping feels kinda aroacephobic because not all relationships need to be sexual/romantic :|

[papercranesandpride]

Obviously coming onto an aplatonic post and saying something along the lines of "you can't turn being a friendless loser into an LGBT identity" is bad and people shouldn't do it. But when the post in question is my post? It's also deeply funny. A friendless loser? Oh no. No, you clearly have not met me in real life. Not only do I have friends, I am apparently just dripping with charisma. Everyone who meets me adores me. I don't especially try to be likeable, and in fact I often try to keep to myself, but somehow it just happens. Everyone who meets me decides I'm one of the best person to ever walk the earth for reasons I don't really understand.

Obviously there are plenty of aplatonics who are ""unlikeable"" or socially awkward or who other people find off-putting, whether that's their natural demeanor or they're neurodivergent or they're actively trying to drive people away. Those people are cool as fuck. Shout out to them. However, I am decidedly not one of them. So if you direct aplatonic hate at me? I am going to laugh at you. The person you're calling a loser does in fact have a +5 in charisma and more friends than most of the alloplatonics that it knows. And despite all that, it still has never felt platonic attraction in its life.

[shiutsu]

"We're all so different yet we all want the same thing"

More like "We gaslight everyone into thinking love is the only superior and necessary thing to crave and exist for and we belittle & shame those that don't feel the same,no matter what reason they could have."

[aro-barrel]

i was blissfully ignorant of how much that one poll blew up. all i gotta say is, yikes.

i guess, just a PSA for aspec folks? even if it's tempting, don't get dragged into discourse with aphobes. many of them are set in their beliefs about us. (apparently, they've just been waiting for an opportunity to voice their aphobia.) generally, i see too many aspec people bringing up instances of oppression to prove exclusionists wrong, and honestly? a lot of them don't care. they tend to adhere to some strict definition of queerness that we cannot meet. if we say we face oppression, they'll just move the goalposts.

don't interact with these bad faith actors. you won't change their minds.

on the other hand, it was nice seeing non-aspec people stick up for aspec identities. maybe i saw the poll too late but i saw way more people in the notes supporting aspec identities than not. i genuinely don't think this would've been the case a few years ago. i'd like to believe we're making good progress. crossing my fingers and hoping we don't bring the discourse into 2024.

[greenteaandtattoos]

"Aroace people aren't queer!!" We're more queer than you cuz we're not the ones trying to erase the existence of multiple spectrums of identities. Just like the homophobes and tranphobes do.

[blazing-butterfly]

Speaking as a transfem ace, cis aces acting like JKR's aphobic remarks are worse than her funding anti-trans bills are just plain wrong on every level, but also, trans allos using them as strawmen to silence and belittle aces in general should think long and hard about who they're aligning themselves with.

[nqueso-lies]

now there are haters of the asexual people in the buddie fandom.

Yeah are we fucking shocked??

This makes me sick like seriously

[possumsarenice]

I’m gonna say it bluntly.

FUCK SOLARMOON FUCK SOLARMOON FUCK APHOBES FUCK MFS SENDING GORE FUCK ALL OF YOU WHO HARASS PEOPLE WHO CALL YOU OUT ON YOUR BULLSHIT AND FUCK SOLARMOON

if this pisses you off then block me or I’ll block you myself 🖕❤️

[stiffyck]

would love to see when in history cishet aro men/women were legally discriminated against, prosecuted, burned at the stake, shot in the streets for uuuuh not feeling romantic emotions? what???? huh????? LGBTQ isn't a fun club for anyone to find community in, it's specific purpose was and remains to fight for the legal rights and lives of marginalized sexualities/etc. no cishet person gets an invite as anything other than an ally. signed, someone's who's identified as asexual since 2010 and does not consider herself queer because it'd be wildly ignorant to do so.

If you don't consider yourself as a part of your community then good for you.

But guess what? What did you do just now? What was that??? Aro and ace people aren't discriminated against??? What did you do just now. What do you think you just did.

The world is based around romantic relationships and everyone expects you to find a partner and have sex and just in general it's considered "normal" to NOT be ace and/or aro.

You can be cishet and still queer because the lack of sexual or romantic attraction to others is still inherently queer.

I need you to shut the fuck up okay? If you don't want to consider yourself queer that's fine. But stop telling others who ARE queer that they cannot identify themselves as such.

This is the only ask like this I'll be answering. I'm not gonna argue with people who won't change their minds.

Send another ask and you're getting blocked.

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia” but where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss? When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet? Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be.

I got my laptop out for this, goddamn. Where would i even start?

"You’re pissed that no one took any accountability for their supposed “aphobia/arophobia”" This tells me everything about you, you possibly don't believe in aro/ace identities. You don't believe people can hate on, or be hateful to, aro/ace spec people. And yes I am pissed. Because it was fucked up.

I would try to justify it with "if this was transphobic/homophobia you wouldn't be acting this way" but im guess you don't care about that as you obviously don't see it the same way.

you were also probably someone who sent asks like this (but more hateful) in 2016 and before, you were probably also someone who posted and reblogged aphobic content and said it was "just a joke" later while still sending asks like this to people. Take of that anon and show your face coward.

"where is the accountability for the constant inhumane and disgusting homophobia, biphobia and transphobia STILL spewing out of ace spaces like puss?"

where is the accountability for the homophobia, biphobia and transphobia still spewing out of ALL lgbtqia+ spaces? Where is the accountability in the REAL world? Where is it anon? Where is the accountability for the acephobia, the arophobia and so many other "not real sexualities/gender identities" -phobias?

You saw a post about aphobia, and instead of being like "yeah that was f-ed up" or "i dont care" you went "but what about meeeeee" which is very all lives matter of you. (I am not comparing racism to homophobia, however the "what about me" bs can be summed up very easily using all lives matter as an example) For the fucking record, all spaces have assholes, all of them. On behalf of the "normal" aro/ace spec folks, i apologise for any homophobia, biphobia and/or transphobia you have experienced from us. "When will you all realize you feel that way because you are directly adjacent to the oppressor class and have next to nothing in common with the LGBT community as a whole but nearly everything in common with the average cishet?" This is a main aphobe talking point so thank you for doing this by the text book so i can break it down easier!

Three pages about asexual hate crimes which im sure every average cishet has to deal with (assuming their white and male) 1 2 (a booklet for asexual people to be actually fucking included) 3

An incredible interview is here but im going to quote a few things from it as theres a 99.9% chance aphobes wont click a link

"We know aromantics and asexuals have existed for as long as humans have. However, it’s only through the terminology recently going mainstream"

"Because of Freud’s influence, many of us grew up learning that our sex drive is the primary motivator of human behavior, but that isn’t the case."

"That mindset replicates itself within the community so that when a new identity emerges, or when people try to explain themselves, there is resistance and pushback from within the community with the mindset that “if we let these kinds of people in, then that will dilute the access to power and resources we have.” And it forces the community to maintain adjacency to white supremacy, patriarchy, capitalism, ableism and classism, all while leaving behind entire groups of people."

" Do you think there will be more identities joining the LGBTQIA+ acronym? JP: Yes. The more words we have to describe ourselves, the better we are understood."

"The biggest comparisons are the lack of visibility and exclusion from communities on the basis that they’re weird, different, othered or “don’t belong in this space.” Every queer person has experienced this narrative and as more join under the umbrella, the newbie will experience the same challenges, discrimination and misunderstandings as those who came before." and here is another article that has a quote i just live by

"When did trauma become the mark of queerness?"

but back to the aphobe ->

"Y’all aren’t queer for not wanting to fuck, only fucking sometimes “if you emotionally connect”, or being emotionally unavailable to romantic partnership. "

if you think queer = sex then so help me. queer does not equal sex, queer is sexuality. and guess what that is NOT always sexual. sexuality is who your attracted to, whether it be romantically OR sexually.

and Asexuality is a spectrum, some asexuals never have sex, some don't want to have sex but have had it due to trauma or peer pressure, some don't care for it, some did it for a partner but just dont care about it.

same with aromantic. Its a spectrum. By your process here, so so so so so many people are removed from the lgbtqia+ community but you couldn't possibly mean that-

"And if you aren’t also gay, trans, or bisexual, you never will be."

-oh you did.

So none of these are part of the community either then? Agender, Bigender, Intersex, genderfluid, pansexual, omnisexual, Omnigender, Questioning, transgender and queer?

interesting anon.

Anyways i hope my followers enjoyed that! Let me know what you think if you finished reading all this!

Love;

An aegosexual, pansexual, aromantic, trans guy with to much fucking time on his hands.