#lost lesbians in space

[anghraine]

jenndoesnotcare replied to this post:

Every time LDS kids come to my neighborhood I am so so nice to them. I hope they remember the blue haired lady who was kind, when people try to convince them the outside world is bad and scary. (Also they are always so young! I want to feed them cookies and give them Diana Wynne Jones books or something)

Thank you! Honestly, this sort of kindness can go a really long way, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.

LDS children and missionaries (and the majority of the latter are barely of age) are often the people who interact the most with non-Mormons on a daily basis, and thus are kind of the "face" of the Church to non-Mormons a lot of the time. As a result, they're frequently the ones who actually experience the brunt of antagonism towards the Church, which only reinforces the distrust they've already been taught to feel towards the rest of the world.

It's not that the Church doesn't deserve this antagonism, but a lot of people seem to take this enormous pride in showing up Mormon teenagers who have spent most of their lives under intense social pressure, instruction, expectation, and close observation from both their peers and from older authorities in the Church (it largely operates on seniority, so young unmarried people in particular tend to have very little power within its hierarchies). Being "owned" for clout by non-Mormons doesn't prove anything to most of them except that their leaders and parents are right and they can't trust people outside the Church.

The fact that the Church usually does provide a tightly-knit community, a distinct and familiar culture, and a well-developed infrastructure for supporting its members' needs as long as they do [xyz] means that there can be very concrete benefits to staying in the Church, staying closeted, whatever. So if, additionally, a Mormon kid has every reason to think that nobody outside the Church is going to extend compassion or kindness towards them, that the rest of the world really is as hostile and dangerous as they've been told, the stakes for leaving are all the higher, despite the costs of staying.

So people from "outside" who disrupt this narrative of a hostile, threatening world that cannot conceivably understand their experiences or perspectives can be really important. It's important for them to know that there are communities and reliable support systems outside the Church, that leaving the Church does not have to mean being a pariah in every context, that there are concrete resources outside the Church, that compassion and decency in ordinary day-to-day life is not the province of any particular religion or sect and can be found anywhere. This kind of information can be really important evidence for people to have when they are deciding how much they're willing to risk losing.

So yeah, all of this is to say that you're doing a good thing that may well provide a lifeline for very vulnerable people, even if you don't personally see results at the time.

[chronic-cynic]

Watching the AO3 top ship finals go down (here it is), and the amount of people talking about how the mlm ship (not naming it, in case I get dragged for having an opinion) deserves to win because it’s a part of Tumblr history is just… ridiculous.

Like, that is absolutely correct, but why exactly did it become a part of Tumblr history? Why has Tumblr had an obsession with non-canon (this particular ship is canon, though, but it seemed like a last minute decision from the writers) mlm ships, whilst ignoring any potential wlw ones?

Think just a little, guys. I promise you that you’ll get there.

(Dropping my favourite video ever because I can)

[mokeonn]

Gonna be 100% honest here it is REALLY bugging me that it is (rightfully) considered wrong to ask Palestinians if they condone Hamas any time they talk about Palastine, but I often see people question pretty much every Jewish person on this website if they condone Isreal or if they don't post about Palastine on their blog enough or "correctly" they're automatically considered a zionist? How is that okay?

Before the "piss on the poor" website gets to this, I'm gonna make it explicitly clear: this website has an antisemitism problem and it is blatantly clear that a concerning amount of you hate a perceived idea of zionism, that happens just so to include every and all Jewish people, more than you care about helping Palestinians. I'm not Jewish myself, but I shouldn't have to be to call out the antisemitism absolutely swarming in leftist spaces.

If vocal proud antisemites and actual nazis use the Free Palastine movement as an outlet to be antisemitic, maybe we should take some time to address that? Make the movement safe for Jewish people?? Think about why they are using a left leaning cause to be hostile to Jewish people?

[uncanny-tranny]

The idea that trans people "take away" from other queer identities is just transphobia.

The narrative, for instance, that the lesbian community is "losing lesbians" to transition is not based on anything but transphobia; we do not own people, and other people don't owe it to us to be members of our communities. If a person transitions and distances themself from the communities they were once a part of, they are free to do so. Trans people don't owe it to you to live what would, essentially, be a lie to placate to you.

You cannot own other peoples identities.

[tinystepsforward]

like a lot of articulate autists who aren't conflict-averse, i have had many a one-sided nemesis in my life. 99% of those situations were clown car level convoluted drama that revolved around a white queer person getting mad at the uppity brown bitch who dared to speak authoritatively in a space that now is ~unsafe~ bc someone brought up race (and was right to do so tyvm) and decided to devote way too much time to ruining my life, sometimes without me noticing for years

[subbydream]

If one more lesbian content creator turns out to be a terf I'll fucking become a hermit, wtf????

[dykeogenes]

older butch lesbians, living happily as butch women, who say “if I were a kid now I would have been a trans man instead of a lesbian” are a whole lot closer to being trans— not ‘potentially’ trans, not ‘might have been’ trans, but really, actually, literally, trans, in their present lived experience, she/her and all— than they are to being transphobic. but I don’t think any of you are really ready for that conversation.

[alchemiclee]

I think doing shipping through and aroace lens makes things complicated but also interesting. I think one reason I don't enjoy straight ships as much is because it's very rare for people write/talk about them with a queerplatonic dynamic. straight romance is so "normalized" in society, it's hard to get any other dynamic out of those ships from other people in conversation or writing. it's mostly always romantic. (especially when "guys and girls can't be *just* friends" is extremely common and has ruined mamy of my own friendships) but I enjoy a handful of a straight ship with that dynamic. it's just way more rare to see talked about than gay ones from my observation. anyway point is, more queerplatonic type ships and stuff please! those aren't explored enough!

[ohno-myfeefees]

Bisexual is not a dirty word. There are no “male lesbians”, no “organic girl dick”, no “lesboys”, no lesbians who like femboys. Stop shaming lesbians for not being into “girl dick” and framing it as transphobia. Men cannot be attracted to women “in a lesbian kind of way”. There is no “which one is the male” in a lesbian relationship, they are both female, that is the point. The word lesbian does not have to be inclusive. The lesbian community does not have to include everyone so that people who are not lesbian don’t feel “left out”. The word lesbian means something and we need to stop allowing people to redefine this word because it’s “trendy” and they suddenly want to also be called lesbian without actually being lesbian.

[imjustexistingtbh]

GUYS!! IM NOT THE ONLY GAY COUSIN!!

[is-this-really--life]

Bisexuals definitely have experiences that overlap with both homo and heterosexuals, but personally I'm tired of being referred to as "kinda like this group, but different" "half gay, half straight". Bisexual *is* its own thing, we are our own group and I want my own defined category that isn't a derivative of someone else's.

Ok. I dont. Because like what does that mean in the real world. When you like actually go to date women or even find a community of women attracted to women? If you want to actively pursue that?

Because no one fucking cares about our relationship to our straight attraction and straight world, that never comes into question because it's the default and it's so easy to find men attracted to women. But people are sooo abnormal about what words we use to describe our attraction to women and lesbian community. No, I actually would very much like people to see me as at least partially gay again. To see bisexuality as *both* homosexual and heterosexual.

[scaen-con-alevosia]

“Si alguna vez dejamos de hablar, y no sabes cómo regresar, mándame una canción”.

[mejomonster]

As I get older and older I more tangibly realize why queer individuals in older generations than mine might prefer words I wouldn't use for myself, and likewise why younger generations preferences would be different too. Like it was always clear you know, a person knows their identity best and what labels they prefer best and even if you don't get it you should respect it. But I guess the older I get the more I realize I really don't know and never can know the background another person has for their perceptions and meaning for labels and why something in particular helps them to use or not

[wrong-planet-boy]

I'm honestly not sure what to think about this season of the mandalorian yet. I mean on the one hand there is Din 'can't fight' Djarin with really good/funny scenes where he just gets beaten up or teaches his son some cool space stuff. But on the other hand not one episode left me with a mental breakdown afterwards like the previous seasons. Last episode was so boring I couldn't even bring me to watch the screen. I really hope the season gets better soon.

[yellowfog4]

The Envy of Cosmic Goddesses

with a crown atop her head,

she couldn't be more radiant.

looking at her

is cataclysmic and lovely.

my heart shines and flickers

like a dying star in my chest and

flashes of awe and despair

give way to stardust.

she is saturn, for even without her rings

she would be a gleaming gold entity.

she brings

a sense of serenity.

cosmic goddesses couldn't feign

a lack of envy if they tried.

to look upon her is to

burst into flames and stardust.

[amiryllisthorn]

many clothing folds later...

im not completely happy with my linework, I am still trying to work on just being cleaner with my lines but im pretty rusty and learning these specific styles is a bit of a challenge when I have spent so long just doing pixel art >_>

but! I did have a bunch of fun working on this and I want to do moreeeeee

but this is Ezarae Yr’dris, like Alfhyrth she is an Aventari that is a  part of House Irlvanstaulen. Unlike Alfhyrth however she wears more traditional robes and armor rather than a uniform mostly due to her rank and position.

Her main weapon(besides her magic) is a spear, and prefers thin and nimble swords for close quarters. She is also know to have an excessive amount of knives hidden on her person at any given time.

She is also infatuated with Alfhyrth for several reasons and they are in fact, exes .///.