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❀ This is a blog dedicated to spreading the information of women’s health in a simple, easily conveyed way

❀ The goal is to blog weekly

❀ I am not a doctor <3

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❀ Topics that will be explored include:

- Self-care

- Dieting

- Fitness

- Mental Health

- Navigating the changing body

- Menstrual Health

- Hormones

- Reproductive Health

- Illness

- Sexual Health

- Pregnancy

- Abortion

- STDs

- Gynecology/ists

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[lesorus]

having PCOS is some special kind of hell only a biological woman will ever have to deal with. you'll basically be told that you're at risk for cancer, diabetes, you're infertile, you'll get hirsutism, your hair is thin, your periods painful and irregular, you're constantly tired, constantly hungry, you're always in some kind of pain or discomfort, you might eat less than you need and still gain weight.

you'll be told the only thing you can do about it is diet and exercise, which is fair, it works, but you literally are at risk for high insulin resistance and fatigue as symptoms. you can only swim against the current. now, you can also take birth control pills but they don't solve any of your real problems, they just hide them and if anything the second you stop taking them your health will get worse.

And did I talk about mental health? well, you're at high risk for depression, anxiety, insomnia, and eating disorders. fun right? and it's not some obscure disorder, 10% of women have PCOS. It's a common ailment, you'd think it's well-researched, that OB-GYNS are experienced in treating it, or at least empathetic. Right?

No, literally no. Nobody cares, you have to be your own doctor, go to Reddit for information, and look up research papers. You trust tiktokers more than your medical providers because the best they're gonna do is tell you to take a pill that won't be that effective, diet, and come back when you're pregnant. Oh, your pain is unbearable? Just take some paracetamol. You can't seem to lose weight? Get a grip, you just need to eat 0 carbs and exercise every day, and lift weights. Get some laser treatment for your facial hair while you're at it. You're tired all the time? Doesn't seem that serious, everybody is.

Or worse. Oh, your labs come out fine, you're fine. You have a healthy BMI, what are you worried about? You get a period every 40-ish days so it's not that bad. Not that you're barely eating, exhausted all the time, in severe physical pain, and emotionally distressed. You'll be able to have kids! Cheer up!

And all this? Because the medical industry doesn't care about women.

[hmsindecision]

Ladies I know we talk a lot about female specific disorders and having to be your own doctor so let me share some things about PCOS that you may not know.

If your doctor suggests that you have PCOS, they should be doing a blood panel. They need to check your hormone levels and your blood sugar. This should be enough to diagnose. They don’t need an ultrasound to diagnose and you can absolutely ask them to start with the blood panel at the very least.

Get the cervical cancer vaccine. Just do it. Your risk is higher. Don’t play with that shit, my friend.

There are three medications that PCOS specific and competent can help you with. One is birth control (this is to control your uterine lining and lower your cancer risk). Doesn’t have to be traditional BC pills/patch/ring. There are three month injections, implants, and IUDs. Have mental health concerns or BC gives bad side effects? Ask your doctor if a low or no hormone IUD will work for your situation (usually the copper doesn’t help often. Skyla is a new IUD with a very, VERY low hormone dose).

Spironolactone. This can adjust testosterone levels and level out hormonal acne, hair loss, and other symptoms. It also is a diuretic and blood pressure med so avoid if you have low blood pressure. This stuff clears up cystic hornal acne from PCOS.

Metformin. This is super controversial. PCOS increases insulin resistance and can cause prediabetes or contribute to diabetes. Some doctors consider this a preventative, some only when this is a current concern. This is a blood sugar medication that affects insulin production so really discuss this with any doctor who suggests it. That being said, it can help some women.

Advice about diets to fit beauty culture are bogus. This is not about that. You gotta eat healthier. It is theorized by some researchers (and some is a lot in this area; understudied, remember?) that PCOS is an autoimmune disorder. Cutting inflammation will leave you in less pain and feeling less tired and foggy. I’m not being bougie—simple is fine here—but eat some vegetables. Eat some grains and beans. Switch out some of that alcohol for weed if you need to. This doesn’t have to mean you eat less or even truly different things—I promise that you can add or substitute like one thing a meal and not have a huge issue. Add some zucchini to your pasta sauce. Have some farro instead of white rice. Eat home cooked food if you can!! Just be nicer to your body, don’t judge it. Treat your body how you would treat a lover who is recovering from an injury. Validate, support, and heal.

PCOS has a higher than average correlation with bipolar disorder. Work on yourself, what’s wrong that looks like. If your mind is a temple why are you not sweeping the floors? Care for yourself.

If you do start any of these changes, you may have a resulting stabilization of libido—some women with PCOS have extremely high sex drives and feel that they are on an even keel once they do some harm reduction methods like these. Some who have low libido feel that it goes higher!

Doctors want to talk to you about fertility. That is not my speciality, and it isn’t something that is my personal concern at all. This is just some information I wish I had known back when I started my journey to get my PCOS under control.

[idlespright]

They said MS (Multiple Sclerosis) was psychosomatic because they couldn't find a biomarker. The patients, they hypothetisized, had trauma from not being cared enough in their childhood and now subconsciously paralyzed themselves with their unmet needs even to death (see e.g. Münch J. Psychosomatische Aspekte der multiplen Sklerose [Psychosomatic aspects of multiple sclerosis]. Ther Umsch. 1995 Feb;52(2):142-5. German. PMID: 7892676.). Then they invented a way to measure the demyelinisation and -boom- MS was no longer psychosomatic.

At least one Psychoanalyst (Casper G. Schmidt, 1984) insisted, that AIDS was psychosomatic. Patients, he said, became depressed because they internalized the homophobia of the society they lived in. That made them die in a "mass hysteria" event. He later died of AIDS himself (in 1994).

PCOS was considered a mental health issue of women.

Other diagnoses show, that you don't even need a lab test or medical imaging to accept, and treat, a physical illness without inventing psychological factors:

Asthma and Parkinson are two well known chronic illnesses without a biomarker. In both cases the clinical diagnosis (e.g. going by symptoms and excluding other probable health issues) is well established.

Doctors aren't gods. They are specialists with a quite narrow field of expertise. Sometimes they forget that fact. Especially when confronted with systemic illnesses like ME/CFS.

There is a plethora of physical abnormalities in ME/CFS that can be measured. Reduced anaerobic threshold, impaired oxygen uptake, mitochondrial damage, higher counts of GPCR autoantibodies, and much more.

Don't let doctors guilt trip and gaslight you.

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Researching Intersex conditions after being diagnosed with one at age 30 has been an absolutely WILD ride. (This post is absurdly long and niche)

First of all there's no 100% agreed upon definition of Intersex. Doctors and scientific researchers use the term in a very different way than the intersex community does. And the popular definition most cis people think of only refers to people with ambiguous genitalia or both sets of genitalia.

Even in the medical community there's not a set standard for what is Intersex. Some define it as specifically the chromosomal abnormalities like XY androgen insensitivity, XXY, and other specifically chromosomal variations. Others add in other genetic conditions. Some include any disorder of sexual development. Some consider any kind of condition which results in an AFAB person being masculine and vice versa to be an intersex condition, including PCOS which causes AFAB people to have traits like extra body hair, infertility, and high testosterone levels, and hypogonadism in AMAB people which can result in a micropenis.

The Intersex community and experts in intersex conditions consider what I have to be an intersex condition but general practice doctors don't necessarily see it that way. Some doctors do consider it an intersex condition in AMAB people but not AFAB people, despite AFAB people also experiencing sexual dysfunction and infertility but because untreated it makes our bodies resemble the current beauty standards (hairless and child-like), it's very rarely seen that way by regular doctors.

Doctors are also very unwilling to prescribe Testosterone as a treatment for the symptoms despite a growing body of evidence that it alleviates a lot of the worst symptoms much better than an estrogen-progesterone regiment (fatigue, sexual dysfunction, low bone density).

Because I have a hypogonadism condition, only a small segment of the medical community consider me to be Intersex, but the Intersex community considers me Intersex. And judging by how the way I feel about my body, my mental health, and my actual health improved when I started taking "cross-sex HRT" (that's what my chart says), I am 100% on board with it being called an Intersex condition. I was on Estrogen-Progesterone for years because I thought pregnancy was a risk (HAHAHAHA it was NOT) and it made my mental health worse, it made me grow boobs which I HATE, and it didn't actually improve any of the problems the condition causes. The treatment that worked the best was literally transitioning.

I also found out there is no good medical literature on how much testosterone a cis woman should have. Doctors have decided that AFAB people with hypogonadism conditions need ZERO testosterone despite the levels considered healthy in cis women being 15-70, but the studies on how much cis women should have are heavily skewed because they eliminated basically any woman they considered too hairy or manly from the studies, even if she was perfectly healthy. So we literally don't even know what the actual average range or healthy range of testosterone is in cis women. We just don't know.

Finding out how much the medical community doesn't know and doesn't care about intersex conditions/dsds is so concerning. Like AFAB people who have what I do experience all kinds of horrible things and doctors are like "Nah testosterone will make you ugly so you have to suffer and keep having fatigue and sexual dysfunction but I can offer you pills that make you grow tits and increase your risk of stroke."

It's so so frustrating. Like we're literally not strictly female, we don't have entire female or male reproductive systems we just have like non-functional stuff in there and for some reason doctors are like no you absolutely can't become an ugly man you have to be an attractive, suffering girl. Even though you literally aren't one. Since you're naturally hairless and small and cute you have to stay that way even if it means you can't have pain-free sex.

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hi everyone! my name is zuri and welcome to my blog!! here i’m going to share pretty random things to be honest, i’ll list a few below:

About my blog:

Random thoughts - it’ll probably end up being mostly these if i’m honest, i can’t stop talking sometimes no matter what the subject is about 😭

Shifting/Spiritual Stuff - i’d like to think i’m a pretty spiritual person; i’m into witchcraft (specifically crystals), runes + tarot, and i’m also a shifter! (i’ll write more later about my personal stuff with that, and be aware i’ll likely talk about it on multiple occasions)

Spreading Awareness! - i’m hoping for this to be one of the things i talk frequently about. i’ll likely speak a lot on disabilities, mental health, lgbtqia+ & women’s rights as those are what i have personal experience with, but it’s not a limited list! i will try my best to use this platform to advocate for people in any ways i can, so know i’ve got your back, friend <3

Also: just wanna note that my blog is here for everyone! other than the icky ppl listed in the DNI criteria below, you are welcome to be yourselves here, no judgement 🫶

DNI List:

1) NSFW/Kink Accounts:

-> I’m a minor & I want my blog to be an SFW safe space for everyone, so please do not interact or bring your content anywhere near mine

2) Antis (e.g. agere antis, shifting antis, etc.)

-> You don’t have to partake in it to approve of it, and again this is supposed to be a safe space for everyone, so haters should stay away pls and ty <3

3) Anti-LGBTQ+, Racists, Ableists, etc:

-> Pretty self-explanatory to be honest. I do not want these types of people interacting with me or my blog, respectfully please go away 🤗

About me:

i’m a 16 year old kid from england, also a november sagittarius

currently i am studying for my GCSEs! i am taking biology, english lang+lit, psychology and sociology! i am homeschooled too <3

i’m genderfluid + bisexual! my pronouns do change from day to day and i appreciate people who ask for my pronouns at the time, but if you don’t feel like doing that then they/them is fine :)

i have the best boyfriend ever! he’s so cool and he also has his own blog - @agere-tomndavid-imagines everyone should totally go check it out!! :D

i’m a shifter - i haven’t shifted yet but i’ve been attempting on and off for the last couple of years. my main dr is in the marvel cinematic universe!

i’m also an age regressor - this isn’t going to be an agere-specific blog, but i may talk about it here n there so just be aware of that (also if you are a regressor, pls be aware that i may swear in my posts! other than that though, this blog is SFW ^^)

i’m autistic and my special interests are: marvel (specifically loki ), sharks, fnaf and psychology

music is my life - my fav artists are: harry styles, taylor swift, james marriott & good kid

Additional note: i am disabled so please be aware and be patient with me! i’ve got CRS, POTS, PCOS & suspected hEDS - i know it looks like i just splurted out half the alphabet so if anyone wants me to explain these i am happy to do so LOL - and my healthcare isn’t the greatest either so i’m often having flareups, therefore if this blog isn’t the most consistent i apologise but i will still try my best :) ❤️

if anyone wants to message me, feel free- im always happy to meet new people!

have an awesome day/night, take care of yourself, and i hope to see you around! <33

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[teuf-el]

So I will write this ridiculously long post about my mental state right now and I’ll be damned if anyone I know in real life will find this post. But they can honestly go fuck themselves because it is not like I have asked for help repeatedly without receiving help. Germans be Germans, only results matter, your mental health can go fuck itself. But do not dare to rest. Anyone who lives in a country like Germany will maybe understand where I am coming from. I will not bother to explain certain institutions or laws, just take my word for it. I wouldn’t lie about stupid shit like this.

I will give one single trigger warning now, because I do not really now where this post will go. Maybe I will give you two. I will write about really triggering shit, that is for sure. So if you experienced abuse or mental illnesses, please do not read this unless you are strong enough. I do not want you to go spiraling like I am doing since four weeks. I will have opinions that are controversial, but not anything racist, nazi like bullshit. The second trigger warning is, that my first language is not English and I will not read this post again. If there are weird sentences I probably just used a German grammatical structure and frankly, as a Linguist, go fuck yourself if you have an issue with that.

So here goes this cringe fest of post that I need to write or else I explode in real life. And for anyone having Schadenfreude about my suffering: I hope it comes back to you threefold. And it will, because you are a horrible human being if you enjoy my suffering. And since you do not know me, nor my name, nor where I live, this information means nothing to you. I have experienced being betrayed by people after I told them what happened to me. They can go fuck themselves too.

So here it goes, as for I do not really care anymore:

1. I was born without a thyroid. I feel like a fucking alien. I live because of modern medicine. And I will be forever grateful for that. Because without it, I wouldn’t be able to walk, speak nor be conscious. Frankly, I would be dead. But because that is not enough, I have two Blood disorders: Faktor V Leiden and a Lipoporotein a Increasment. These Illnesses have been directly translated from German into English. Google them if you are curious. Basically, I am at a higher risk for strokes and heart attacks and whatever the fuck comes with it. Also, because it was not enough: I have PCOS that is being treated with Metformin. Metformin works great on me, I don’t have side effects and for once, I am able to think clearly. That’s probably also why I write this post. Because I finally realize what kind of bullshit is going on in my life. Back to the health topic: I probably will not be able to carry my biological children. The risks are too high. But it still fucking hurts to realize that, even though I knew from a young age that I do not want children. But there is a part in my heart that aches. Because, and now please follow my train of thoughts that will be difficult to explain, there maybe was a part of me that desired to have a child and grow it inside of me. Some part, however, deep inside of me, always knew that the traditional family will not be part of my biography.

It is that difficult. It is difficult to accept that your body will reject a child. Which should be great news because if shit hits the fan my body has a self integrated abortion system. So maybe it knew that women’s rights to abortion in the 21st century will be taken away. (Cynicism is my jam, back off.) I can get pregnant, but the child and I will just not really make it. And birth control is not an option, because I get blood clots. And I also do not want to sterilize myself. I do not want to explain why, just accept that. I am also at a higher risk for addiction and cancer. My mother died because of cancer and eight different people also had cancer. Three other people in my family died because of it. Basically: I am playing Russian roulette with death. The options are: Cancer, my illnesses, strokes, heart attacks, suicide or femicide. Now, since i already talked about it: my mother died. That’s the glorious introduction to point 2.

2. My mother died of cancer when I was three. And that fucked me up for good. I remember seeing her in the casket. People pitying me but also not taking me to a psychologist that specializes in children’s grief. I was left with my father, that is emotionally constipated, even though I love him dearly, he just is. My grandfather was the only one that dealt healthily with the death of his child (my mother). Everyone else just did not cope with her death. Ironically, it was the people that treated her the worst that could not cope. And they were the people that just targeted me because I had no mother that would defend me. It’s a long story, but I resent most of family members. Quite frankly, my heart aches. Because her death caused a chain reaction that still affects my life today. I miss her very much. I always get compared to her. To the point I get addressed with her first name. I thank God that I have brown eyes, because if I had sapphire eyes like she had I may really believe that I am just like her and damned to live her life as a replacement for her. I am glad these people live in another country and I do not have to see them. I cut off my aunt (my mother’s sister) because she tried to steal my inheritance. She is, and will always remain a bitch. My grandfather also died of cancer, 15 years after my mother died. And since then these family members are on a different kind of level of being disrespectful towards me. Because he shielded me as much as possible from their vile egocentric behavior. But the dead cannot defend. My grandmother is an alcoholic. Like most women are in Italy. Just no one wants to talk about female alcoholism, that is caused by the rampant misogyny in the 50s/60s and the memories of the war. I pity her. I really do, I just feel a deep pain when I think about it. Even though she caused me great pain sometimes.

3. My step mother crawled out of hell and since she is in my life, I got emotionally abused almost every day. My father, having witnessed a great deal of pain and losses in his life, just can’t defend me. I forgive him. But I will not forgive her. I cannot. I can’t even open up about the 15 years of living with her. It was a life sentencing (in Germany a life sentence is 15 years). I wanted to kill myself many times and I didn’t. I do not know how. The negligence I experienced was cruel. I could never speak to a child in that way. It is now up to me to get up again. To get strong, to power through my plans. I will be damned if I do not achieve what I want to achieve because of her. I already lost a lot of time. I seriously do not know how I got through school living at her place. I guess my body is just incredibly resilient. I just refuse to die and wither.

4. I hate my high school classmates. in Germany, the Gymnasium, is eight years. Sometimes nine years. In my case I did 8 years of high school after 4 years of elementary school. I got my diploma at 18 and it was the happiest day in my life. Even though it was 2020 and I just lost my Grandfather. Now, four years later, my body is recovering from the stress that school caused. Especially by those idiots. Close minded, racist little Nazis. In hindsight they were jealous I was able to go to Italy to visit my family. And I was a pretty girl. I was just chubby and had loaaaaaads of acne. Still did till I was 20, now Metformin is clearing my skin. Anyway, I had few friends, many of them betrayed me. I keep in touch with only one classmate that got the same treatment. I am proud of how she is doing what she wants in life. She is tough and smart. The rest? Little gremlins with no empathy, moral, sympathy, niceness, humanity. I fear for this world if everyone is like them. I know my flaws, I have a lot. But one thing is for sure: I never treated anyone like they treated me. And I cannot understand how you can bully someone for their looks. Some of those idiots I still see at University. They want to become teachers. I beg Gen Alpha to give them what they deserve. As I said, I still have to recover from the shitshow. I want to forget them and move on.

5. The sexual abuse I endured as a child (13). It’s all coming up again. And it stops me from being sexually active today. I am 22, and I want to be touched. But I fear touch. I cannot trust men. And I am “lucky” because many times I saved myself from worse situations. I almost got kidnapped at 13. And. I escaped because a voice in my head told me to run. And I did. I am just grateful nothing worse happened except for the trauma. I unfortunately cannot speak about human trafficking, maybe one day, when I am older, I can. I would love to support these organizations, that take care of abuse victims. It’s just to much right now and I can’t even hear about the topic. It makes me sick. I also got abused my someone. I will never say who, except if he dies. It wasn’t one of my relatives. All these things, the sexual harassment on the streets (I dress conservatively, see, fashion doesn’t protect you from harassment) and micro aggression from men just make it impossible for me to get with a man. I am heterosexual, I cannot help finding men incredibly attractive and wish to be kissed with consent. I will stop at this point with Nr. 5.

6. My body issues. Metformin helps me lose weight and acne. I was suffering because of these issues. I go to the gym regularly, because of all the benefits. I also want to look good, ngl. If I get intimate at least without thinking about my body. You do you, I do no one. How I want to look is directly irrelevant for you.

7. Law school. I regret quitting law school. I still love German, History and Pedagogy (Except school pedagogy. This faculty can go fuck itself). But I regret quitting it. Because I wasn’t even that bad. I will think about law school. Let’s see where God brings me.

8. I like men that are way too old for me. I will crush on that 44 year old but never make a move (do not worry). But damn, why. Why can’t he be 22? (Because he was born before me, duh). But frankly, he checks all the boxes of my requirements in a man. There is hope apparently. I also like a 37 year old that smokes way too much, so yuh, he is old and a smoker. But to be fair! They look younger! I didn’t know their age when I saw them.

9. I feel burnt out. I want to study more, I know I have the brain cell. But My mind just shuts down and I cannot concentrate. I have shit ton to do. As I said: Germany is Germany-ing. I want that fucking degree. So I have to study. But my brain just says nope right now.

10. I do not know how to get out of that spiral of thoughts and self loathing. I work, go to University, I am doing fine (maybe, I think, Probably…), I go to the Gym. But there is this deep sense of solitude and despair which will not let me go. My memory is very good, too good almost. Because my thoughts just throw memories at me like: “Remember that time you were really cringe? Yeah, go cry you little bitch”. These demons need to drown, I just need my holy water and I don’t know where to get it (the physical water I can get at the local church). If I go to therapy I can forget ever working for the German Government which means life security for as long as the state exists. Less taxes and more retirement money (at the cost for your right to protest). And they cover your medical bills if you are sick. Luckily, my illnesses are not on the list of exclusion reasons. Because they are so incredibly rare (except PCOS) and still make me able to go to work. So if the only thing that fucks me will be the German laws, I will fuck them back and find loopholes.

11. I am currently getting rid of social media. It’s a process I started in November 2023. So I have more time to work, study and work out. I also hate influencers and boycotting them by not being online is efficient. I only have Tumbrl and Pinterest. Social media kept me distracted. Now every single thought is coming back. And I have to sit with that. Because finding friends while having a tight schedule is tough. I am grateful for the people I can call my friends. They are nice to me and I am not used to that. The only thing that keeps me distracted is a Podcast called “Fest und Flauschig”….which is cringe. But at least I hear some human voices.

I really needed to rant. I had to get it out, because I somehow cannot cry. It’s just a lot right now. And sometimes, it’s just painful. But since it’s anonymous and on my personal blog without hashtags, my personal complaint cannot harm anyone. You are NOT ALLOWED to repost. Nor publish it on another platform.

[elbridgertons]

Just out of interest do you have a problem with the Britney Spears circus album / tour

(It happened before the issues with her mental health / legal limitations I think)

I never engaged with it positively or negatively. She honestly wasn't as in-your-face omnipresent as TS (I was alive then and I didn't see ads about her every 2 min) and there wasn't as much of a meta culture of analyzing social justice implications in that era so it would have been surprising if it WAS something I thought much about then.

Now that I consider it, the nuances are different IMO even given that the conservatorship started the same year the "Circus" album came out. The effects of the conservatorship weren't felt immediately but would amount to exploitative forced labor so the circus reference is so retroactively fitting. Addressing this without that in mind as you asked, her period of highly publicized erratic behavior started before that (2006-2008 per the internet) and generated unprecedented public interest in her perceived behavioral dysfunctionality and public suffering. She and TS do share being papped relentlessly which I agree is a level of scrutiny most people can't take (look at Princess Di who was literally killed by it). But it's just a bit different when the source of the scrutiny is your public manifestation of what would be diagnosed as bipolar later vs it being about your work's intentional specific references to your personal life in a culture you created of easter eggs and puzzles. I am not stating it has inherent political consequences but the pattern of dissecting clues in an ongoing and consuming way is what QAnon is. I'm referring to the process, not the morals or the message. People like feeling like they have deep insider knowledge of an opaque situation based on their own intelligent analysis of a symbol system with hidden meaning. Even us antis do it because it's pretty irresistible in a culture based on meta, but we were kinda trained to do it by TS.

Please keep in mind as an old person I recall the music world as an industry where women like Britney had very little control over their image, marketing strategies, probably even wardrobe and styling. Britney grew up singing gospel music as a kid but commercial relevance required a Marilyn Monroe-eque image of a teen halfway between sensual womanhood and childlike innocence. She could sign huge contracts based on that image but I don't think her decision-making powers matched TS'. And I give TS credit for gaining control over her image, label, creative output and brand to a large extent as it IS a step forward for women. Like Liz Taylor signing a million dollar contract for Cleopatra and crafting her own contract stipulations.

But in Brit's case the public scrutiny circus about her progressive bipolar-influenced behavior is not one she created and ultimately it put her into slavery. If she were brand and brand manager at that time, designing and booking and adding dates to tours on her terms, speaking cogently about her marketing strategies, gaining control over every aspect of her business and seeming to do it with as much savvy influence as TS does, no, I doubt I'd love the circus imagery. I don't really care for it as a baseline narrative or metaphor for fame by itself. But if used I would like it to be in the hands of those who are marginalized. "The Greatest Showman" the film is a massive rewriting of history but there was something massively cathartic for me in seeing a pacific islander woman who is not just "Hollywood heavy" (like Renee Zelleweger as Bridget Jones playing 'fat' at a size 12) but actually plus size and also playing someone with genetic excess hair. PCOS gang (me!) found a bigger woman who falls under at least 3 categories of minority being the vocal backbone of the movie and the heart and soul of the diversity message undeniably compelling even when much of the historical rewriting was a hot mess and ick.

Taylor has been a victim of misogyny and I didn't mind when she spoke about it and it was truly the source of the criticism. But outside of that and in her billionaire era she is losing credibility with many when she goes for underdog status. Fame is a cage, I get that. Her parents are culpable for overly emphasizing her career and brand management from childhood. But when you set the tour dates, have unprecedented financial returns for them, etc it's hard to see the circus and public interest as not also being the source of much of your gain.

Britney's bipolar diagnosis apparently came at 2008 as well, same year as the Circus album. I am bipolar gang gang and I can't imagine having a sense of control of your life that would render the circus metaphor wholly offensive. She's beautiful and gained riches but everyone could see it cost her more than privacy and we were all worried. Taylor's control of her brand is the thing that separates them. In general, circus metaphors are a bit derivative tho.

[heathersdesk]

https://exponentii.org/blog/the-hypocrisy-of-our-missionary-work-and-how-to-fix-it/

As a convert from a poor family full of mental illness and addiction, I say with my entire chest that the Church and its members are an essential part of why I didn't end up being a statistic of poverty, addiction, abuse, and incarceration.

I left my hometown on the East Coast (and by extension, my family) to go to school in Utah and later ended up moving to Idaho. I've spent more of my adult life away from my family than I've spent near them.

Let me poke a giant hole in the assertions that the Church is somehow solely responsible for destroying my relationships with my family. Because when two family members who desire to maintain contact across physical distance, they will do so. If they don't, there are other reasons for that which membership in the Church doesn't create.

Baptism and temple marriage weren't the reasons my relationships with my family were strained. All my church membership did was reveal the preexisting fractures that were already there, and would've existed regardless of whether I'd ever been baptized or not. I would've still moved away. I would've maintained the same separations from family members with whom I'm zero contact at this point. All the Church did was give me the options and resources to build that life for myself. The Church gave me what I needed to start over in a totally new place without family support. Which is great, because there was absolutely no reality in which my relationship with my family was ever going to be any different.

There was no version of my life with a happy extended family OP is describing, with enough mutual respect and restraint to have that kind of closeness. For that kind of closeness to exist, people on both ends of a relationship have to be willing to put in that work. If they wanted to, they would. If they didn't, it's because they didn't want to. And I can tell y'all from personal experience: if it's been decades and a family hasn't moved on from you're in a cult/you have a coffee pot, the fractures go deeper than that, no matter what anybody says.

I don't have children who can misinterpret and blame my personal and religious choices on missionaries. It wouldn't matter if I did because my branch didn't have missionaries. I joined the Church with the support of church members who found me, taught me the discussions, and baptized me because it was what I wanted and they were the only ones available. The idea that missionaries walk around bumping into walls and causing generational trauma? That's attributing way too much of what a family's dynamic already is on innocent bystanders who don't have the power or support necessary to force anyone to do anything.

AND FOR THE LOVE OF GOD—no, not God. Women. For the love of women and their bodily autonomy, can we stop advocating for the Church to get involved in the US's broken healthcare system by forming their own hospitals and medical clinics? Any unmarried woman who has had BYU's insurance and health care can tell you why that's a bad idea. Enough women already have their access to medication and treatment curtailed in the name of "religious freedom." The doctors at BYU's student health center already don't bother diagnosing or treating conditions like PCOS because hormone therapy (i.e. birth control) is part of the treatment for it. Nobody needs more of the same, which is exactly what would happen if they took church-sponsored health care on the road.

[thefairylights]

just something kind of serious and not needing to be out for everyone to see if they don’t want to but I also need to talk about it somewhere.

I have to post this somewhere and I don't want it on my Instagram or my Facebook because people are really judge mental. And ignorant. I have PCOS so my periods are very insane. The last months from July until now have been really awful for me. From July to November I was having multiple periods every ten to 11 days.

Eventually I went to the hospital because I was afraid I had cancer. I didn't. They tested me and scanned me and everything and all tests came back fine. 

I went to an amazing new gyno and she was incredible. She made me feel okay and not like I was crazy. And she gave me progesterone to try for three months because we talked and I don't want to be on birth control. If I am sexually active it's going to be with women. I don't have interest in men at this point in my life. And she was just so respectful. 

So I started the course and had to take ten pills every first ten days of the month for three months. It stopped the multiple periods but it also brought on insanely heavy periods to the point I had to stay home for a day every month because I was bleeding so badly. And it was scary. There was a point where I passed a blood clot so large I momentarily thought I was having a miscarriage and panicked until remembering you had to have sex with a cis man to get pregnant lol. But the panic was real and very frightening. It took a while to be all right about it and I definitely googled more than I should. I am always googling medical issues and I must have died a hundred thousand times according to WEBMD. 

I hated how I felt on the pills. How I was always dizzy and sick from his badly I was bleeding. I went through it for two months and this month I decided to not take the progesterone. Somehow, I was able to have my period at the right time and it was still awful and heavy but not as bad. And it didn't last that way for long.

It's just still scary to me because i don't know why it's happened. I have to now also find a new gyno because mine has decided to leave her practice to do community health instead and while I respect her and love that for her I am so sad that I won't have her because she made me feel comfortable for the first time.

My prior gyno was an older Russian woman and she screamed and yelled at me because I didn’t want to be on birth control. She literally screamed “SO YOU WANT TO HAVE BABIES INSTEAD?!” And I said no, no I don’t. And then she continued yelling at me about not being on a birth control and how I was being irresponsible. I wasn’t. I just didn’t feel comfortable letting her know that I was bisexual and didn’t have much interest in sexual relations with men because I feel more comfortable with women. 

Back to the matter at hand. It’s hard feeling out of control. It's hard not knowing why something is happening and how to fix it and avoid it. It is  hard because this is my body and I know when it’s okay and when it’s not and although I do not feel physically sick I know my periods shouldn’t be this way. Despite having PCOS mine were regular and I knew when they were coming. Yes I did develop cysts here and there on my ovaries but I was still regular.  It's also hard to deal with things like this especially as an adult with a full time job and responsibilities. It's hard to take care of myself and try to calm down and relax.

It’s so hard. I hate it.

I just had to let this out somewhere so it isn’t all inside me. Because I feel like I’ll burst from it soon. 

[lostandfem]

This is a copy of the letter I mailed to the surgeon who performed my double mastectomy or “top surgery” when I was 20 years old. This letter, addressed as a “Notification of Detransition” was mailed to the cosmetic surgeon.  I wrote this letter to inform the doctor and his staff that a former patient of his 100% regrets the operation performed on her, and has detransitioned and is now living as a biological female with no functioning breasts.

I kept the letter short and emotionally detached and, despite my traumatic feelings around this loss of self and body parts in my private life, knew it was crucial to maintain a rational composure in stating the facts of my situation. I described how my gender dysphoria was not cured by surgery or medical transition, but instead was fully resolved within 2 years through cognitive behavioral therapy, because the “gender dysphoria” was in reality, complex post-traumatic stress disorder. I described how I realized, only 2 years later at age 22, that the surgery had been a mistake, and that I didn’t receive proper mental health treatment when I was obtaining the surgery, the supposedly necessary gatekeeping he required to perform the operation.

This was important to include because, although I doubt as a cosmetic surgeon who has made his career entirely dedicated to performing double mastectomies on young women and girls as young as 16, that he cares about the mental wellbeing of his cliental, he advertises his practice as being a legitimate medical service by insisting that he follows the “WPATH Standards of Care”, the leading organization of trans medicine which requires at least 2 letters of referral from mental health providers for a patient to receive medical transition. The Standards of Care advocate for thorough screening for mental wellness, and selecting only appropriate patients who would truly benefit from transition.

It was crucial to inform the doctor that, in my case, the Standards were not met, as the mental health care I was receiving, and the subsequent referral letters, were negligent in providing assessment of my mental health situation, and therefore, his practice was not actually following the WPATH Standards of Care. Furthermore, what I did not include in the letter due to a desire to preserve my anonymity, was the fact that I openly discussed being suicidal with the doctor during our consultation, and feeling suicidal on the day of the actual surgery. Regardless of the recommendation letters, I presented to my doctor as not of sound mind to make a major elective surgical decision, but he performed the operation anyway.

After relaying my personal beliefs that this treatment was unethical in my case, I made it known to my doctor that I am far from the only former FTM patient who regrets medical transition, and cited Dr. Lisa Littman’s study of detransitioners showing how high the comorbidity rates are of various mental disorders in the FTM population, and how this issue is not just a personal error, but a growingly widespread phenomenon. I closed the letter with a call to action for the doctor to reconsider what his practice views as ‘medical treatment’ to treat mental disorders. I plainly asked him to confront the reality that he removes young women’s and even minor children’s breasts to treat problems inside their minds, and if he truly believes that is following the medical oath to “Do No Harm.”

My story is similar to many detransitioners who share why they felt they needed to transition. I grew up on the autism spectrum, experienced verbal, emotional, and psychosocial abuse from family resulting in PTSD, depression, and anxiety, had severe depression from attachment issues and hormonal dysregulation from PCOS, felt chronically othered and different as a girl, young woman, and person, suffered with relationship difficulties with romance, sex, and friendship due to undiagnosed trauma, and latched onto “gender dysphoria” as the cause of most of my difficulties.

I sought treatment for my gender related distress and learned online that the only solution was to accept being transgender and transition to live as a gay man. I followed the usual coaching of the process to “healing”, first, to socially transition and come out as nonbinary and transgender, second, to receive hormones from an informed-consent clinic, with no mental health evaluation or gatekeeping, and finally to have top surgery, the greatest rite of passage for the FTM cult. Throughout this process I saw multiple doctors, a psychiatrist, and therapists, none of whom questioned my identity, traumas, or provided help for my complex mental health issues. I had just turned 20 and was fresh out of an inpatient psychiatric ward for suicidal ideation when I desperately made my appointment to try and heal my depression through altering my body with surgery.

There is no need for further explanation. I was 20, developmentally immature, mentally ill, suicidal, had PTSD, and not in a rational state of consciousness, yet the mental health system failed to provide its due service, and my doctor and other cosmetic surgeons hungrily leapt at the opportunity for fresh meat to profit from operating on, in this unchecked, wild west market for “gender medicine.”

I share this letter with you to showcase real-life consequences of trans medical propaganda, and the repercussions our young people and children are facing. The last I checked; my doctor operates on girls as young as 16. I’ve done my soul-searching, grieving, extensive therapy, and self-punishment for the mistakes of my childhood self, but am healed enough to have progressed into self-forgiveness, acceptance, and upholding unrelenting boundaries around my peace, sanity, and healing process. I did not provide a return address on the letter I mailed, as I did not want to endure excuses or shaming correspondences.

The letter remains a rallying cry from the young women of the detrans movement to advocate for better medical treatment, no placation or bullshit apologies desired. I don’t claim to speak on behalf of anyone else, but unfortunately appreciate that my story is identical to countless other girls, and I hope that sharing this will somehow help them heal, or better yet, prevent the need for their healing in the first place.

—

Dear Dr. XXXX and Top Surgery Clinicians,

I am a former patient who you performed a double incision mastectomy on in 2017 while I was 20 years old. I am writing to inform you and your office that I have detransitioned and no longer identify as male/transgender and have returned to living fully as my biological female sex. I want to inform you that I fully regret having the surgery to have my breasts removed. My symptoms of gender dysphoria were the result of CPTSD from childhood abuse and my transgender identity was a maladaptive coping mechanism to deal with the reality of the trauma.

I have fully resolved my feelings of gender dysphoria through cognitive behavioral therapy and view the surgery and transition as a placebo that gave me only false hope of feeling better about myself. I 100% regret the surgical outcome of my body and miss having my healthy breasts. I was 20 when I had my identity crisis and detransitioned 2 years later at 22. I believe I did not receive proper mental health screening by my psychiatrists who wrote my surgery recommendation letters because they said I was mentally stable while I was actually suicidal and exhibiting symptoms of undiagnosed PTSD.

I have found healing and community within the online population of other detransitioned women with similar experiences of trauma, and I want to inform you that I do not believe removing the breasts of young women, especially minors, is medically ethical given the severe rates of comorbid mental health issues in the FTM population. I do not believe I was stable or mature at 20 to transition and I don’t think a minor child under 18 in any circumstance is stable or mature to consent to having her breasts removed.

There is a rising number of detransition cases just like mine as evidenced by the rapid increase of detrans stories on Youtube, and the Subreddit r/detrans. There has also been a recent study by Lisa Littman at littmanresearch.com on detransition which shows that 60% of the detrans study participants transitioned due to underlying mental health and trauma reasons, and 25% due to being lesbian or gay.

I ask you to consider my story and the stories of others as your ethical duty as a clinician to first do no harm, and rethink if removing healthy breasts of women and children so they can pretend to be men is physically or mentally doing no harm.

Your patient, Laura

[homeo-care-clinic]

How Does Homeopathy Helps in PCOD/PCOS ?

WHAT IS PCOD/PCOS?

PCOD (Polycystic ovarian disease) or PCOS (Polycystic ovarian syndrome) is a hormonal disorder that affects approximately10- 15% of all women, which are very commonly found in day-to-day practice and increasing nowadays. It interferes with their fertility during the reproductive years. There are multiple (‘poly’) cysts (small sacs filled with fluid) in the ovaries, on either side or both sides.

WHAT CAUSES PCOD?

PCOD is caused by hormonal imbalance i.e. altered hormones.

1) Raised level of Testosterone:

A higher level of male hormone (Androgen Hormone). Normally androgen hormone is present in small amounts, but if the level increases then it leads to restricting the ovaries from releasing an egg (ovulation) during each menstrual cycle.

2) A higher level of LH Hormone: –

A higher level of Luteinizing Hormone disturbs the ovulation during the menstrual cycle.

3) Raised level of Prolactin:-

Prolactin levels of between 30 ng/mL and 200 ng/mL are considered moderately high. This level of prolactin in the blood can have many causes. Conditions related to raised levels of prolactin include pituitary disorders.

4) A higher level of Insulin: –

The excess level of insulin affects the ovaries by increasing androgen hormone thus affecting ovulation.

SYMPTOMS :

SymptomsOther signs includeIrregular menses or No mensesHair fallExcess hair on face, Chest, Stomach.DepressionHair ThinningAnxietyWeight GainDifficulty in getting pregnantAcneMood swings

HOMEOPATHY TREATMENT FOR PCOD/PCOS :

Homeopathy works on regulating hormonal imbalance, regularizing ovulation as well as maintaining a normal menstrual cycle. Homeopathy helps to treat other signs and symptoms also.

Homeopathy treatment varies from patient to patient. Homeopathic treatment is based on the extent of the problem, physiological and mental health of the patient. Homeopathic treatment is a holistic treatment. Dr. Vaseem Choudhary studies both the mental and physical condition of patients before giving any medicine. In PCOS there is careful observation of symptoms and regular follow up.

WHY HOMEO CARE CLINIC ??

Dr. Vaseem Choudhary has been treating PCOS with homeopathy treatment for many years. Dr. Vaseem Choudhary is a well-known homeopathy doctor in Pune. His treatment is safe and doesn’t have any adverse effects on the patient. Homeopathy treatment for PCOS varies from patient to patient. Patients with PCOD may experience some complications like Difficulty in getting pregnant (Infertility) and another bleeding from the uterus can be successfully treated with Homeopathy.

A complete approach at Homeo Care Clinic is harmless. So, it’s very easy to completely get rid of the side effects of conventional medication, as homeopathy treats the root cause and thereby regulate hormonal imbalance and treats PCOS.

[not-your-cautionary-tale]

Spoilt Milk

If there is one thing that I have learnt throughout my 20s, it's that there is no use to cry over spilt milk. But I do it all time. Longing for a clean slate where I don't have to make avoidable mistakes associated with the pain of growing up.

At almost 30, I am experience many ambivalent feelings about the past decade.

My best friend is getting married and I sit with this uncomfortable feeling. It's not envy. I am happy for her. Yet I still feel sad. Being so involved in a planning a wedding is a reminder that life goes on for everyone else but me.

After years of suffering through life, trying to "persevere", I finally got to a point where I could not go on anymore. I then realised that I was autistic, an answer to a question that I had been searching for years: "What is wrong with my head and why cannot I not fix it despite my best efforts through therapy, self-help and religion?"

My diagnosis got confirmed by a professional last year.

I had been failing at life. It took me 7 years to finish a diploma that was supposed to take two years and failed half of my classes at an expensive college I decided to attend. I couldn't last as a resident of a monastery. I cannot seem to find a job. I am a total failure.

I also got a pcos diagnosis confirmed. Though I was on the fence about children, I still felt grief. I know pcos does not mean that I will never have children but I don't deal with loss well and I don't think that I would survive a miscarriage. I do not think that I need the extra trauma plus it doesn't feel worth risking my life.

Getting married young was something that I wanted badly. After multiple failed relationships, I felt broken. I know that happiness is not found in another but when you spend your life alone and feeling misunderstood, you desire someone who will understand you, care and share with. Yes, companionship can be found in female friendships but what happens when your female friends get into relationships themselves? Also, you cannot cannot get physical intimacy (not necessarily sex) from your female friends. I know none of this is a need but it is a want.

I guess the feeling that I feel at the pit of my stomach is grief and mourning of the life that I thought I wanted, that is increasingly feeling like it will never happen.

As a black, fat and autistic woman who is also infertile and has nothing material to offer either, the world constantly reminds me that I am not welcomed.

From childhood, every choice I made would lead me to be questioned by my ability to please a hypothetical man.

When I turned vegetarian I was asked what I would cook for my future husband.

When I changed religions, I would be questioned about whether I converted because of my non-existant husband.

When my PCOS was confirmed my doctor's first thought was how am I going to give a hypothetical man children. Despite, at that moment, I had a bad headache, palpating heart from anemia because I had been bleeding for three months.

As a child, another told me that my body weight meant that I was only good enough for sex and to be left.

When men speak about "women", I know that they are not talking about me. I am perfectly content with that. I would never want to be with someone who considers me lowered standards. I know that adds a layer of complication in a world that heavily relies on the externals.

With the tides changing in dating and mysogyny being on the rise, I know feel even more cautious. It's hard enough that as a black woman, we are already trained for a hard life or to protect ourselves from men. I never wanted that. I am not so desperate enough to submit to someone who thinks of me as their enemy or posession.

I am also tired of constantly looking over my back. I also too autistic for mindgames.

Society doesn't expect men to be carers, especially African men. I need someone who will be gentle with me as I navigate life on the spectrum. It is even feels more frustrating that mental health is not recognized in African communities. I already fall short of what is required for "wife material".

Fertility issues feels like as set up for disaster as an African woman.

My best friend is not black, she is thinner, shorter and her neurodivergency is one that allows her to be magnetic. She knows everyone and everyone loves her. She has barely experienced long periods of time single, there is always a backup. She is independent, has a child, has a good job, owns her own car and house.

While feel like I keep leaving silent tornados in places thaf I've lived. I don't get along with everyone, unless I fawn. I often play the mother role, stay silent, stay agreeable. The moment I step out of that role is when I get discarded. Still it's not enough.

Nobody understands, who has never experienced this, understands. So I'll get "comforting" statements such as:

"You'll find someone."

"You need to choose better."

"You need to choose yourself"

"You need love your own company."

All I have is my company. I have full life on my own. I visit galleries, museums, restaurants, film screenings and more, alone.

I have female friends who I adore but even they have boyfriends and husbands.

With my life falling apart, I know that I definitely cannot bring anyone in my life. Who would want a jobless 29 year old?

I know it doesn't mean that I will definitely never have someone in my life, I just wish that it was life not this hard. I wish it was gauranteed.

I often wonder if I was married earlier, if this period of my life would have been easier. Like I've noticed some women around me experience.

One day, I was being rejected by a guy I thought liked me. I felt so bad that the word husband was triggering.

I know that sounds stupid and in hindsight, I am cringing. However, with my new understanding of the feelings of grief and mourning, I can feel them then let them pass, instead of trying to hold them in like sour milk that I refuse to throw away.

Evantually, when you open the milk, it explodes. That layer of shame that came with the feelings was like bacteria in milk. That bacteria produces gas, which causes pressure in the container. The toxic emotions that I was trying to push down, the years of trauma and rejection, built up to a specific moment when something insignificant brings out seemingly unnecessary emotions in a apparently inappropriate

I let these feelings of grief, of some envy, of pain to be felt and then gently released.

I forgive myself for time wasting, lamenting over what was or should have been. Over spilt milk.

Above all, I am content.

[wrotelovelytears]

This issue with this conversation

CW

abortions, intersexism, transphobia, roe v wade, endo mention, pcos mention, eugenics mention

Its the fact people surprised especially after hearing about that leak for me.

Like y'all thought they were going to change their minds, they wasn't.

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Also let's talk about the health ramifications outside of lack of abortions....

Mental health struggles gonna skyrocket

People who got endometriosis, pcos and other reproductive issues are also heavily effected by this.

People who worked in certain fields might lose their jobs (some doctors, people who make birth control pills, factory workers, s3x workers etc etc)

Intersex individuals being further marginalized (as if it wasn't already bad)

Shit eugenics might start skyrocketing again because they only want certain types of babies born

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Let's also talk about the veiled intersexism and transphobia around this conversation:

"Not a woman, no opinion/No uterus no opinion"-

fun fact there are people who got a uterus who are infertile/sterile. Just because someone has a part doesn't mean it does something.

Another fun fact, women (or if we really being dense females) aren't the only people who can give birth. Its 2022, I can't believe y'all reverting back to cave man speak in terms of reproductive talks.

Fun fact again,even that phrasing can trigger dysphoria in folks. Some don't want to be reminded about something they have/had. Some might have issues around those parts and the constant talk about it isn't doing wonders for them. All in all, just say its a health issue and go. No need for all them words that really don't change shit on an individual level

Last fun fact, there are people born with uterus and penises and testes all that jazz, they are also part of this conversation regardless if you can understand that or not.

The moment y'all start being transphobic (and/or) intersexist with the conversation is the moment y'all completely tunnel in the wrong direction.

Also there are women who support this, I for one don't think they get any opinion for shit. Why the hell would someone who clearly got rocks for brains be entitled to same some shit. You see the issue with the phrase now

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This is a HEALTH issue. I already said that birth control (or for some people just hormones) impacts their health a lot. That's also being hurt. This is an ECONOMIC issue, people who work in certain jobs will be heavily impacted. Might even lose them.

This is a LGBT+ issue as trans folks are going to have a harder time getting access to hormones and even health assistance. (For some it might led to dysphoria)

This is a SOCIAL issue as people who try to get services might be attacked. Might get hurt.

This is a MENTAL HEALTH issue people won't be able to handle various stressors that arise out of this.

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Most of all this isn't a gendered issue and the language needs to be adjusted to remember its not just women impacted.

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If y'all actually knew the reason its because not enough babies are being born to "help the economy". They don't care about no religion, they care about their money and it being impacted. Its not religion (like most are saying it is, best believe this would've happened years ago). Its not even full sexism/misogyny (not only women can have babies. Nor can all women have babies), loads of people are being hurt.

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Unveiling the Role of Homeopathy in Managing PCOD/PCOS

Introduction:

Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), also known as Polycystic Ovary Disorder (PCOD), is a complex endocrine disorder affecting millions of women worldwide. Characterized by hormonal imbalances, irregular menstrual cycles, ovarian cysts, and metabolic disturbances, PCOS can significantly impact a woman's quality of life. While conventional treatments like medications and lifestyle changes are commonly prescribed, an alternative approach gaining attention is homeopathy. In this article, we'll delve into the principles of homeopathy and explore how it can aid in the management of PCOD/PCOS.

Understanding Homeopathy:

Homeopathy is a holistic system of medicine founded on the principle of "like cures like" and the concept of individualized treatment. Developed by Samuel Hahnemann in the late 18th century, homeopathy operates on the belief that a substance that causes symptoms in a healthy person can cure similar symptoms in a sick person when administered in highly diluted amounts. This principle, along with the holistic approach that considers the physical, mental, and emotional aspects of an individual, forms the basis of homeopathic treatment.

Homeopathy and PCOD/PCOS:

In the context of PCOD/PCOS, homeopathy aims to address the underlying hormonal imbalances and associated symptoms through personalized treatment plans. Here's how homeopathy can help:

1. Hormonal Regulation:

Homeopathic remedies are chosen based on the individual's specific symptoms, constitution, and hormonal profile. Remedies like Pulsatilla, Sepia, Lachesis, and Natrum Mur are commonly prescribed to regulate menstrual cycles, balance hormones, and alleviate associated symptoms such as irregular periods, acne, and hirsutism (excessive hair growth).

2. Ovarian Function:

Homeopathic medicines target the ovarian dysfunction observed in PCOD/PCOS. Remedies like Apis Mellifica, Thuja Occidentalis, and Calcarea Carbonica are believed to support ovarian function, reduce ovarian cysts, and promote regular ovulation, thus aiding in fertility enhancement.

3. Metabolic Support:

PCOS often coexists with metabolic disturbances like insulin resistance and obesity. Homeopathic remedies such as Syzygium Jambolanum, Phosphorus, and Uranium Nitricum are thought to address metabolic concerns by improving insulin sensitivity, managing weight, and reducing associated symptoms like excessive thirst and hunger.

4. Symptom Management:

Homeopathy offers personalized treatment for the myriad symptoms associated with PCOD/PCOS, including mood swings, anxiety, depression, and fatigue. Remedies are selected based on the individual's emotional and mental state, aiming to restore balance and well-being.

5. Long-term Benefits:

One of the strengths of homeopathy lies in its ability to provide long-term benefits by addressing the root cause of the condition rather than just alleviating symptoms temporarily. By stimulating the body's self-healing mechanisms and restoring harmony at the constitutional level, homeopathic treatment aims for sustained improvement in overall health and well-being.

Conclusion:

While homeopathy's efficacy in treating PCOD/PCOS is a subject of ongoing debate and research, many women report positive outcomes and improvements in symptoms with homeopathic treatment. However, it's essential to approach homeopathy as part of a comprehensive treatment plan, in consultation with qualified homeopathic practitioners and in conjunction with conventional medical care. By harnessing the principles of individualized treatment and holistic healing, homeopathy offers a promising avenue for women seeking natural and personalized approaches to manage PCOD/PCOS and reclaim their health and vitality.