#psychology of loyalty

[thezodiacmagic-blog]

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[therealmoonknight5]

"If only one could tell true love from false love as one can tell mushrooms from toadstools." -Katherine Mansfield

[abaddown]

[maybe-an-aspd-angel]

Don’t talk to me about loyalty, I’m still holding secrets for people who threw dirt on my name.

[rosequartzforyou]

just think about it. have you ever rejected or grown distant from friends who advise against some of your decisions or caution you against doing something idiotic? have you ever relied more on friends who always agree with you or tend to join you in whatever foolish things you do? this is common and normal but not advisable always. let me tell you why.

in psychology, we call this confirmation bias. this is the phenomenon of actively looking for evidence or validation that will support your belief. you will turn blind to the possible counterarguments you may receive. here, you call upon friends who you know will support your wishes and not the friends who will try to put things into perspective for you.

i just wanted to say, please stop villainizing the people who care enough to tell you you are being stupid because they are the ones who really care for your growth. if you can't wrap your head around it, ask them to explain where they think you've gone wrong. talk to them. as soon as you see them shake their head don't dismiss them or regret asking for their opinion. hear them out. lets face it, you're not always right.

loyalty doesn't lie in how much you agree with one another, it lies in how much you care.

so know who to hold onto.

[outstanding-quotes]

If I were to define it, I would define love as enhancement. If you and I are in a loving relationship, we enhance each other. We are more than we would be if we were not involved.

Janet Geringer Woititz, Adult Children of Alcoholics

[xylophonetangerine]

I wasn't even kidding about the Pepsi Max. There's this grocery store loyalty card app that had a Groceries Wrapped! last year and my most bought item was 2 × 1.5L Pepsi Max.

[tenth-sentence]

Psychological studies show that specific gaming designs such as badges, leaderboards and performance graphs can be powerful tools to maximise customer participation and brand loyalty.

"Going Dark: The Secret Social Lives of Extremists" - Julia Ebner

[ap-ka-arora-writes]

The importance of relationships may be many but nobody talks about the formation of the bare minimum. The more the relationships, the better your idea of a bare minimum. The father of a daughter shows her how a man loves and so does the mother of a son. With every friend you make, you learn what you want from them. Whom to talk to while doing an assignment or whom to talk to after a heartbreak. And so does the idea of relationships shape the view of the bare minimum. It can be in any part of the relationship (respect, acceptance, loyalty). This does not mean going for flings regularly but focusing on the quality of what you have.

[omegaphilosophia]

The Philosophy of the Soldier

The philosophy of the soldier encompasses a range of ethical, moral, and existential considerations related to the role, responsibilities, and experiences of individuals serving in military organizations. It delves into the complex interplay between duty, honor, morality, and the harsh realities of armed conflict. Here are some key aspects of the philosophy of the soldier:

Duty and Service: Central to the philosophy of the soldier is the concept of duty—the obligation to fulfill one's responsibilities and obligations to the military, nation, and fellow soldiers. Soldiers often grapple with conflicting duties, such as loyalty to superiors versus adherence to moral principles, and must navigate these ethical dilemmas in challenging situations.

Honor and Integrity: Soldiers are often guided by principles of honor and integrity, striving to uphold ethical standards and moral values even in the face of adversity. The philosophy of the soldier emphasizes the importance of maintaining personal integrity, honesty, and accountability in all actions, regardless of the circumstances.

Morality and Just War Theory: Soldiers confront ethical questions related to the justification and conduct of warfare, drawing upon principles of just war theory to assess the morality of military actions. They contemplate the principles of jus ad bellum (justification for war) and jus in bello (justice in war), considering factors such as proportionality, discrimination, and the protection of non-combatants.

Loyalty and Brotherhood: Soldiers often develop strong bonds of loyalty and camaraderie with their fellow servicemembers, forming tight-knit communities characterized by mutual trust, support, and solidarity. The philosophy of the soldier explores the nature of these interpersonal relationships and the moral obligations they entail.

Sacrifice and Selflessness: Soldiers are willing to make profound sacrifices, including risking their lives, for the greater good and the defense of their nation. The philosophy of the soldier contemplates the nature of sacrifice and the moral dimensions of selflessness, recognizing the inherent dangers and hardships of military service.

Post-Traumatic Growth: Soldiers may experience profound psychological and existential challenges as a result of their military experiences, including trauma, loss, and moral injury. The philosophy of the soldier considers how individuals cope with these challenges and strive for personal growth, resilience, and meaning-making in the aftermath of war.

Moral Injury and Healing: Soldiers may grapple with moral injury—the psychological distress resulting from actions that violate deeply held moral beliefs or values. The philosophy of the soldier addresses the complex process of moral repair and reconciliation, exploring avenues for healing, forgiveness, and moral resilience.

Civil-Military Relations: The philosophy of the soldier also encompasses broader societal and political considerations, including the relationship between the military and civilian institutions, the role of the military in democratic governance, and the ethical responsibilities of military leaders and policymakers.

Overall, the philosophy of the soldier engages with profound questions of duty, honor, morality, and humanity in the context of military service, offering insights into the moral complexities and existential challenges faced by those who serve in uniform.

[simplythelittlethings]

Identifying and Dealing with Friendships

Friendships can be different. Some are based on helpfulness or fun, while others are deep and meaningful. But not everyone who acts friendly is a real friend. Some people pretend to be your friend but actually do things that hurt you. These people are called frenemies.

Frenemies can be hard to spot because they act nice to your face but may say bad things about you behind your back. They might also try to control you or compete with you.

Spotting frenemies can be tough since they often mask their behavior with friendliness, causing stress and conflict.

1. Competitive Behavior: Frenemies may compete with you, trying to outdo or take credit for your achievements.

2. Two-Faced Nature: They appear friendly but gossip or speak negatively about you behind your back.

3. Manipulative Tactics: Frenemies use manipulation, like emotional manipulation or undermining your confidence, to control you.

4. Mixed Signals: They send mixed signals, acting friendly but not in your best interest.

5. Inconsistency: Their behavior is inconsistent, being kind one moment and hostile the next, leaving you unsure where you stand.

6. Jealousy and Resentment: Frenemies may show jealousy or resentment, especially if they see you as more successful.

7. Lack of Trustworthiness: They may betray your trust by gossiping or betraying secrets.

8. Self-Centeredness: Frenemies are self-centered, prioritizing their needs over yours, and may only be interested in the friendship for their benefit.

9. Negative Impact: Frenemies have a negative impact on your life, causing stress and unhappiness.

Evaluating relationships based on dimensions of true friendship can help determine if someone is a frenemy. Recognizing and distancing oneself from frenemies can lead to healthier relationships.

https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2024/01/frenemy-machiavellianism-friendship-happiness/677159/

[lisablack000]

Resilience is accepting your current reality, even if it's not as good as the one you had before. You can fight it, cry about what you've lost, or you can accept what is & create something good.

[joncronshawauthor]

The Human Experience in The Fall of Wolfsbane: Exploring Core Themes

Today I want to share some of themes in my latest novel, The Fall of Wolfsbane. In writing this novel, my intention was not just to tell a story, but to create a narrative that resonates with the universal truths and struggles we all face. In this post, I aim to unravel these themes, offering a glimpse into the world I’ve constructed through the lives of Ragnar, Maja, and the myriad characters…

[jadenvargen]

free online james baldwin stories, essays, videos, and other resources

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James baldwin online archive with his articles and photo archives.

---NOVELS---

Giovanni's room"When David meets the sensual Giovanni in a bohemian bar, he is swept into a passionate love affair. But his girlfriend's return to Paris destroys everything. Unable to admit to the truth, David pretends the liaison never happened - while Giovanni's life descends into tragedy. This book introduces love's fascinating possibilities and extremities."

Go Tell It On The Mountain"(...)Baldwin's first major work, a semi-autobiographical novel that has established itself as an American classic. With lyrical precision, psychological directness, resonating symbolic power, and a rage that is at once unrelenting and compassionate, Baldwin chronicles a fourteen-year-old boy's discovery of the terms of his identity as the stepson of the minister of a storefront Pentecostal church in Harlem one Saturday in March of 1935. Baldwin's rendering of his protagonist's spiritual, sexual, and moral struggle of self-invention opened new possibilities in the American language and in the way Americans understand themselves."

+bonus: film adaptation on youtube. (if you’re a giancarlo esposito fan, you’ll be delighted to see him in an early preacher role)

Another Country and Going to Meet the Man Another country: "James Baldwin's masterly story of desire, hatred and violence opens with the unforgettable character of Rufus Scott, a scavenging Harlem jazz musician adrift in New York. Self-destructive, bad and brilliant, he draws us into a Bohemian underworld pulsing with heat, music and sex, where desperate and dangerous characters betray, love and test each other to the limit." Going to meet the Man: " collection of eight short stories by American writer James Baldwin. The book, dedicated "for Beauford Delaney", covers many topics related to anti-Black racism in American society, as well as African-American–Jewish relations, childhood, the creative process, criminal justice, drug addiction, family relationships, jazz, lynching, sexuality, and white supremacy."

Just Above My Head"Here, in a monumental saga of love and rage, Baldwin goes back to Harlem, to the church of his groundbreaking novel Go Tell It on the Mountain, to the homosexual passion of Giovanni's Room, and to the political fire that enflames his nonfiction work. Here, too, the story of gospel singer Arthur Hall and his family becomes both a journey into another country of the soul and senses--and a living contemporary history of black struggle in this land."

If Beale Street Could Talk"Told through the eyes of Tish, a nineteen-year-old girl, in love with Fonny, a young sculptor who is the father of her child, Baldwin's story mixes the sweet and the sad. Tish and Fonny have pledged to get married, but Fonny is falsely accused of a terrible crime and imprisoned. Their families set out to clear his name, and as they face an uncertain future, the young lovers experience a kaleidoscope of emotions-affection, despair, and hope. In a love story that evokes the blues, where passion and sadness are inevitably intertwined, Baldwin has created two characters so alive and profoundly realized that they are unforgettably ingrained in the American psyche."

also has a film adaptation by moonlight's barry jenkins

Tell Me How Long the Train's been gone At the height of his theatrical career, the actor Leo Proudhammer is nearly felled by a heart attack. As he hovers between life and death, Baldwin shows the choices that have made him enviably famous and terrifyingly vulnerable. For between Leo's childhood on the streets of Harlem and his arrival into the intoxicating world of the theater lies a wilderness of desire and loss, shame and rage. An adored older brother vanishes into prison. There are love affairs with a white woman and a younger black man, each of whom will make irresistible claims on Leo's loyalty. 

---ESSAYS---

Baldwin essay collection. Including most famously: notes of a native son, nobody knows my name, the fire next time, no name in the street, the devil finds work- baldwin on film

--DOCUMENTARIES--

Take this hammer, a tour of san Francisco.

Meeting the man

--DEBATES:--

Debate with Malcolm x, 1963 ( on integration, the nation of islam, and other topics. )

Debate with William Buckley, 1965. ( historic debate in america. )

Heavily moderated debate with Malcolm x, Charles Eric Lincoln, and Samuel Schyle 1961. (Primarily Malcolm X's debate on behalf of the nation of islam, with Baldwin giving occassional inputs.)

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apart from themes obvious in the book's descriptions, a general heads up for themes of incest and sexual assault throughout his works.

[cryptotheism]

Tell us about the wellness to fash pipeline tho

Here's a recent piece from the guardian on wellness communities and Qanon, so don't take my word for it.

"Wellness" is not just alternative medicine, it is essentially a theory of the body which posits if something makes you feel better, you are better in some meaningful way. I would argue it one of the most commonly held nonreligious magical beliefs in the modern world.

Wellness as a concept has its genesis in the 1950s with "workplace wellness" programs, a sort of budget alternative to offering employee healthcare benefits. This was an era soaked in itinerant business preachers offering classes on things like "hypnosis at a management level" and "yoga to improve leadership abilities". I am exaggerating for effect, but not by much.

The capitalist medical system regularly abandons people. We've all heard stories of profit driven pharmaceudical companies holding the ill hostage for extreme markup on life-saving medicines. People have real, legitimate, reasons to mistrust medical professionals.

Let's say you have chronic pain, and everything your doctor offers you is either ineffective, expensive, or addictive. You are desperate for literally any release, so you start looking into other solutions. You will find an OCEAN of snake-oil salesmen willing to sell you "the secrets doctors don't want you to know."

What is frustrating, is that pain is actually partially psychological. Some wellness techniques may have an actual, medical, benefit on some patients. The worst thing a conspiracy theorist can have is a point. So now you actually do kinda feel better, and you have a sense of loyalty to the grifter selling you 300$ Sumerian Cock Oil Pills. These people are the core of the wellness industry. They are the examples that everyone else points to and says "Well it worked for them!"

Reactionary thought blooms in environments like this. If the medical industry can't be trusted, what else can't be trusted? At any given time, you are two clicks away from "vaccines cause autism." Three clicks away from "Cavemen were 15 feet tall because they only ate meat." And four clicks away from "The medical industry is controlled by The Jews to drain our wallets and keep us sick." Echoes of Nazi attitudes towards German-Jewish doctors are a common backbeat.

Wellness itself is relatively harmless, (compared to the things it is adjacent to) but it acts as a sort of idealogical airport that exposes the curious to a deluge of potentially radicalizing communities. The longer you spend in communities like this, the higher the chance you'll come across something that meshes perfectly with your own biases.

If y'all wanna learn more about wellness and pseudomedicine grifters, I highly recommend the podcast Maintenance Phase.

[feralupa]

Schnappschüsse von heute.

Nichts besonderes (fotografisch).

Ich werde die Tage fotografieren gehen wenn es nicht aus Strömen regnet. Mich hat heute die Motivation gepackt.

Ich hab ewig keine Tour gemacht. Nur meine Kamera und ich. War ich mir selbst nicht wert. Es ist so hart, diese Erkenntnis.

Aber irgendwas hat sich verändert. Lange hat es sich für mich wie Stillstand angefühlt und nun mache ich plötzlich riesige Sprünge. Fühlt sich grad gut an, die Zeit mit mir allein wieder genießen zu können.

Genug zu sein.

E. 🌻