#Post-traumatic growth

[bleedingseeds]

I texted this exact sentence to my counselor in between sessions, and he thought it was so funny, he made me memes for it.

I feel so SEEN.

[pwrn51]

Transforming Your Life Without Changing

  Betsy’s guest is Dr. Beth Kurland, a clinical psychologist with three decades of experience. She is also a TEDx speaker, public speaker, mind-body coach, and an award-winning author of three books. Additionally, Dr. Kurland is the creator of the Well-Being Toolkit online program. Dr. Beth Kurland discusses her new book, “You Don’t Have to Change to Change Everything: Six Ways to Shift Your…

[omegaphilosophia]

The Philosophy of the Soldier

The philosophy of the soldier encompasses a range of ethical, moral, and existential considerations related to the role, responsibilities, and experiences of individuals serving in military organizations. It delves into the complex interplay between duty, honor, morality, and the harsh realities of armed conflict. Here are some key aspects of the philosophy of the soldier:

Duty and Service: Central to the philosophy of the soldier is the concept of duty—the obligation to fulfill one's responsibilities and obligations to the military, nation, and fellow soldiers. Soldiers often grapple with conflicting duties, such as loyalty to superiors versus adherence to moral principles, and must navigate these ethical dilemmas in challenging situations.

Honor and Integrity: Soldiers are often guided by principles of honor and integrity, striving to uphold ethical standards and moral values even in the face of adversity. The philosophy of the soldier emphasizes the importance of maintaining personal integrity, honesty, and accountability in all actions, regardless of the circumstances.

Morality and Just War Theory: Soldiers confront ethical questions related to the justification and conduct of warfare, drawing upon principles of just war theory to assess the morality of military actions. They contemplate the principles of jus ad bellum (justification for war) and jus in bello (justice in war), considering factors such as proportionality, discrimination, and the protection of non-combatants.

Loyalty and Brotherhood: Soldiers often develop strong bonds of loyalty and camaraderie with their fellow servicemembers, forming tight-knit communities characterized by mutual trust, support, and solidarity. The philosophy of the soldier explores the nature of these interpersonal relationships and the moral obligations they entail.

Sacrifice and Selflessness: Soldiers are willing to make profound sacrifices, including risking their lives, for the greater good and the defense of their nation. The philosophy of the soldier contemplates the nature of sacrifice and the moral dimensions of selflessness, recognizing the inherent dangers and hardships of military service.

Post-Traumatic Growth: Soldiers may experience profound psychological and existential challenges as a result of their military experiences, including trauma, loss, and moral injury. The philosophy of the soldier considers how individuals cope with these challenges and strive for personal growth, resilience, and meaning-making in the aftermath of war.

Moral Injury and Healing: Soldiers may grapple with moral injury—the psychological distress resulting from actions that violate deeply held moral beliefs or values. The philosophy of the soldier addresses the complex process of moral repair and reconciliation, exploring avenues for healing, forgiveness, and moral resilience.

Civil-Military Relations: The philosophy of the soldier also encompasses broader societal and political considerations, including the relationship between the military and civilian institutions, the role of the military in democratic governance, and the ethical responsibilities of military leaders and policymakers.

Overall, the philosophy of the soldier engages with profound questions of duty, honor, morality, and humanity in the context of military service, offering insights into the moral complexities and existential challenges faced by those who serve in uniform.

[lilianade-comics]

[Post AGIT] Dan gets his first job at a Nasty Burger

[rabbimicahstreiffer]

The Seeds of Our Redemption

The Seeds of Our Redemption

This is the sermon I delivered at Kol Ami on Rosh Hashanah morning 5783/2022. In what might be the most famous scene in all of English literature, a young man stands before God to contend with the agony of living in an imperfect and sometimes painful world: “To be or not to be” he muses aloud.” That is the question.” What Hamlet is pondering in this very well-known scene is a very human…

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

Wishing that I could be softer and sweeter and more loving and affectionate but simultaneously being absolutely disgusted and repulsed and enraged by the very notion is kind of exhausting actually

[ontheoutside-lookingin]

“She’s so sweet she’s always going out of her way to help others” quick someone give that girl all the love and safe space she deserves before being “sweet” (pathological people pleasing as a trauma response) destroys her and leaves behind a bitter empty shell of a person

[betweenthenotes]

Its gonna be okay just remember that no matter what your trauma is, someone’s made a spotify playlist for it

[yourhealingjournal]

we have suffered enough; we’re allowed to be happy

[vincentpriceofficial]

I like that when Louis and Armand find lestat in the torture dungeon he’s like “I came here to engage in self reflection” and then 70 years later he’s still just like completely going through it dying and moldering in the same hole. like okay I’m still working on it. I had a lot of reflecting to do

[4spooniesupport]

"One reason trauma survivors bond with each other so profoundly---which is different than a trauma bond---is because people who have been through certain things "speak" a different emotional "language" than the rest of humanity and we recognize that "language" when we hear it." (Dr. Glen Patrick Doyle)

[marcoles]

Scream Filimimde Katilin Bu Maskeli Adamın Olduğunu Öğrendiğinde Kaç Yaşındaydın

[nightbunnysong]

SPAM COMING 💖

Was there a certain moment or realization that made you want to work hard on yourself and become a That Girl, or have you always aspired to do things like this?

That’s such an important question.

I’ve always tried to work hard on myself, but it wasn’t until 2021, after going through some of the worst experiences life can throw at you—truly traumatic events—that I began to focus on self-improvement as a way to cope.

March of that year was especially challenging—it could have left me feeling completely broken, snuffing out any spark I had. But instead, to my own surprise, I found myself pushing to be the best version of myself. By the end of that year, I had achieved top grades, adopted a really healthy diet, and developed a much stronger character.

At the time, it was about surviving, but it ended up guiding me to the path I’m still on today. When I think back to that period, I feel a deep sense of tenderness and admiration for the person I was, and for how she managed to find light in such a dark time.

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[only1lorrie]

[system-of-a-feather]

Man is it insane how far we've come honestly. For context, we are working on an inpatient crisis unit as a "bachelors level clinician" with like a total of like 20-30 staff members (depending on if you count the admissions team as part of our unit) and save for the admissions team, all of my peers are people who have had at least 3 years in the behavioral health field, a lot of them having leadership positions in their roles before getting the job I have, and a lot of them having several years of experience in post-masters work and like... everyone is honest to god AMAZING individuals - like I have never been MORE confident in a group of people / coworkers / peers in a workspace than I have now.

The only issue is, the manager of the entire unit really uses toxic management tactics and frequently treats a lot of the staff like they are people filling slots rather than these amazing and experienced people who have dedicated years of work to specifically working with children with behavioral issues who are just trying to understand exactly how things will be done and are going to be done when we open up. And combining the general stress of being a brand new program with a lot of staff having literally just been onboarded within the past month or two and a lot of things still being up in the air with the toxic leadership, there is a LARGE atmosphere of tension, frustration, dissatisfaction and just anxiety / burn out despite almost everyone I've talked to very much agreeing that the overall company's work culture and policy is amazing and that basically every OTHER coworker is amazing and one of the main reasons they are staying despite each individual's mental health going down lately

Honestly, until recently, I've been doing okay, arguably really good cause I guess I'm just incredibly hard to stress out and I've really mastered a lot of the ACT DBT concepts that just allow me to really acknowledge whats in my circle of control and also feel confident in my ability to navigate situations as they come up with people that I feel confident and trust and all that. Recently though, a LOT of my peers are kind of boiling over with how poorly managed we are and how a lot of toxicity is thrown our way by our manager and it actually kind of managed to get me off my very calm and regulated pedestal a bit and I honestly had to reign my focus back in

But I've realized in a group of therapists, I'm kind of being the calming and recentering / reframing force to just kind of remind people that despite the person with most power being the most toxic and bringing the entire unit down, we have a work place that is like 95% made up of LITERALLY the best coworkers we've ever had and we all have a good working relationship with one another and we have a really good sense of supporting one another, so as far as things go, we can really decide what we want to make the atmosphere be and we all have a SHIT ton of experience in acknowledging and managing our emotional responses from our SHIT ton of experience previously.

Because at a certain point, venting our frustrations over and over and feeding one another's anxieties and angers is not going to really make us feel better even if it makes us feel not alone. We can acknowledge the frustration, issue, and stress of the emotional mind while also bringing in the problem solving and awareness of what the next steps are from the logical mind and progress forward in our wise mind to make decisions that best address the situation without causing as much riot around us. We can make a plan to properly, formally, and professionally air our grievances to the appropriate channels and work on that - in the meanwhile, we can just accept the feelings, accept what we cannot control, and commit to making the unit and work atmosphere what we want it to be with what we CAN control; ie the energy and support we bring to one another

Things will be fine and since I see we are all heated and stressed, lets go outside and UNIRONICALLY sit in the grass and engage in some mindfulness and remember that things are okay. Then when we come back from our days off, we can come back with a recentered and renewed intent and dedication to the reason we are here while the issues are sorted out over time.

And I'm honestly just like... kind of proud of the ability to de-escalate a group and get at least the majority of the people who were riling one another up back into a productive and forward facing mental place after I honestly noticed it was just stressing me out and disengaging for a moment.

But like, yesterday night, today and some of tomorrow are solely going to be for self care and listening to my body / mind, the next day will be dedicated to having fun and relaxing (not that the two are mutually exclusive as there is a lot of overlap, but those are the themes of the day).

But like man, I literally went from being 16 and having daily crisises and melting down and having DID / C-PTSD flaring out of control to being in my early 20s and being one of the people in a group of literal amazing and experienced therapists kind of reminding people of their resources, coping skills, and providing a really calming and productive energy to the group and I'm just.... like DAMN son.

It's also kind of wild because historically the Riku-brain has always been more of the toxic positivity end than not and its been known and memed about, but genuinely lately my peers have been complimenting me on my ability to both be really calm and positive and helping counterbalance a lot of stress and its just wild seeing the often-unhealthily positive energy redirected back into being this like... sustainable positive and helpful energy.

I'm honestly just like, I guess really happy to be able to do my part among a group of such fucking AMAZING, skilled and experienced people because honestly, I'm probably one of the "least" qualified people in this group - at least in formal experience and what not - so its just really nice to be able to use a lot of my personal lived experience and see that it absolutely has its aid in a group of people with a lot more professional experience.

Either way, I'm extremely proud and happy to have the peers I do and to be able to help as something of a calming stone

And yeah I know its not my job / responsibility to manage it, which is why I'm explicitly taking time to relax and turn my brain off and not think about work after I finish this post, but with the current stressors in the environment and a lot of people taking on roles they shouldnt due to poor management, I absolutely am fine filing in some of the lack of ironically mental health and emotional support in the environment while a more long term and appropriate solution is being navigated.

[chronicsymptomsyndrome]

I hope you heal so much that taking care of yourself is one of your favorite things to do and I hope you can forgive yourself for everything you did before you got there