#quoix

[the-delta-quadrant]

ace, aro, aroace & quoi IPA lockscreen for my fellow language needs

[ryanyflags]

Genderquoi orientationgender flags :) (not to be confused with quoigender)

Definition:

genderquoi: when your quoi- identity is so intrinsically tied to your gender that you absolutely cannot separate the two.

(quoi here means things like quoisexual, quoiromantic, quoirose, etc.)

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Both flags follow the 5 stripe style of orientationgender flags.

The first uses the colours of this quoi flag, and the second uses this other quoi flag. I've heard of the distinction that the white stripe one is for quoisexual, while the grey stripe one is for quoiromantic, so these can also be thought of as genderquoix (quoix is short for quoisexual) (left side), and genderquoiro (quoiro is short for quoiromantic) (right side) flags.

[sunkern-plus]

hey uh. any gray asexuals on here feel sexual desire to an allosexual degree but aren’t sexually attracted to things that “typically” sexually attract a person (i.e. small perky breasts or big round but perky breasts, thin waists, and wide hips for cis or cis-passing women, and skinny and feminine but prototypically attractive or muscular and slim cis or cis passing men), tend to have sexual attraction when they do experience sexual attraction to people who fall outside of attractive norms or beauty standards (not as like a purposeful thing, but as like a general pattern) or uh. don’t understand the point of sex. like when i say that i mean like. when people say sex is essential to a relationship and literally everyone, from what my mom says to what people online say, says that but like. i don’t see why people would be unhappy if they DIDN’T have sex in a relationship because uhhhhhhhh it’s not a prudish thing it’s more. people don’t need to have sex to feel romantic attraction or intimacy or whatever. and i don’t think i necessarily NEED that sexual attraction factor to feel intimacy or romantic attraction unlike francis george. hm it’s more. i don’t understand why people have to constantly be having sex in a relationship every night to be happy when people can be talking about their interests or their hobbies equally as passionately. or is what i’m describing a different thing and i’m labeling too much. because i feel like my sexuality would fall into some sort of gray-pansexual or quoi-pansexual area but i don’t know if what i’m describing is actually gray or quoi. thank you

[quoisitively-queer]

Two things: I’m quoiromantic and imo there should be a term like gay panic but for quoi when stressing out if you like someone platonically or romantically. like quoi panic. but not enough people know that we exist :(((((

second thing is a question actually, is there a difference between quoiromantic and quoisexual and if so what is it? or is it just used interchangibly

thanks in advance and have a great day or night wherever you are :D

Yeah, there may not be much visibility but at least within the community we can all complain about it together! Not sure if it's still a thing but the word "squish" was always used for platonic crushes so there were a few attempts to combine the two into things like "squash" and "scrunch". Maybe it would be worth doing a poll at some point so people could submit words they like to describe "??? Attraction??? For this person??? Maybe???"

Secondly, that's a great question! "Quoiromantic" is usually used for confusion around romantic attraction vs other attractions, while "Quoisexual" is usually used for confusion around sexual attraction vs others. For some people there's just confusion all round so they might use both or just "quoi" or some combination of quoi and aroace terminology. Hopefully that makes some sense though?

We mainly share quoiro stuff but there's others on tumblr that focus on quoix stuff instead, so feel free to bounce around the blogs and see how they differ!

Hope you have a good day/night/indistinguishable time as well! Thanks for the ask!

[aroworlds]

[image description: three sets of two lockscreens featuring a design of repeated arrows banded in the colours of various aromantic spectrum pride flags. The left lockscreen features the arrows set against a gradient background matching its respective flag colours; the right features the arrows set against a plain white background. Flags included are: allo-aro agender (green/light green/white/mint green/white/yellow/gold), ay (grey/black/navy blue) and quoiro-quoix (black/grey/lime/cyan/white/black).]

Aro Arrow Lockscreens

Flags: Allo-Aro Agender, Ay, Quoiromantic Quoisexual.

I’ve turned my aro arrows into lockscreens! All backgrounds/wallpapers are available for free personal or non-commercial use. For flag creator credits, please see @aroflagarchive​.

[sawdust-emperor]

The creator says this is unfinished/abandoned but TBH I think the quality sinking every time the camera moves adds a certain je ne se quoix

[epiceneandroid]

you know what? i’ve done some thinking, and i might circle back around to pan simply because it’s comfortable but...i think my sexuality is none of the above. not applicable. i’m not straight, gay, lesbian, bi, pan, ply, omni, abro, asexual, aromantic, really any of the main orientations people talk about. the closest actual fits are gray asexuality, quoisexuality, and pomosexuality/being labeln’t. so yeah. i think i guess i should embrace pomosexuality as a thing because i LIKE being none of the above, indefinable, not able to be contained in one box. (now to find information on pomosexuality lmao). i still might use acespec and arospec microlabels though. so yeah. gray ace quoix pomosexual gray (and gray as a singular orientation, as opposed to with any modifier aside from pomo).

that actually feels comfortable

[soong-type-notinuse]

quoirose flags

@quoictopus

[junietuesday]

Me, coming out: I’m quoisexual

Someone: You’re what sexual?

Me, relieved: Yes exactly

[some-quoi]

[Image: typography art. A bunch of the words 'sensual' (in blue) and 'sexual' (in green) overlap each other until you can't tell them apart. Around this are the same words except colored black and with question marks. End description.]

Quoisexual Typography Art!

Don't repost. Like/reblog to save and use. Credit appreciated.

[aroallo-culture-is]

Excuse me, can I still make post if I'm aro and demi/greyace? It's not technically alloaro, but i'm just wondering

Sure thing! If the label of aroallo describes you in any way, even if it's not as a personal identifier and is more of a general relation to the community/experience/etc, you can feel free to submit here!

[the-delta-quadrant]

i keep getting comments from people who thought quoi was pronounced koi? like i get not knowing it's french but where did you all put the u? before i knew how to say it i thought it was kwoi. because you know it's spelled quoi and qu is pronounced like kw? where did you all put the w sound? how do you read quoi and say koi i'm so confused

[quoictopus]

At this point I think I might just use quoiro quoix and quoiro allo. A reason for being quoi is simply not wanting to define your orientation, and, frankly, most of the time being allosexual is irrelvant to my orientation.

At the same time, amatonormativity and sex shaming/negativity still have negative impacts on me, and I think in those conversations it would definitely be useful to mention I am allosexual while lacking interest in being with someone romantically.

So, quoiro quoix or quoiro allo, situation dependent.

[sunkern-plus]

btw what i mean by quoive, it's not necessarily a new term it's just something i made up for me that others can use if they want but i just use it to describe ambiguous, unlabeled relationships that aren't necessarily romantic, platonic, sexual, alterous, whatever. it's more...traditional definitions of love aren't applicable, all these categories of love kinda fit but don't completely fit all the way, it's kind of an -nos category of love. quoispec love. quoive. <3

[unproduciblesmackdown]

kinda a funny shtick of mine that i’m aro and have such strong takes about Romance(tm) but also like, it’s also kind of a funny shtick that the stuff that i’m always most inherently opposed to tends to be like, the most truly (tm) of ~romantic~ concepts aka the Magical-y stuff and whatnot so it’s like i’m coldhearted for being like “uhh i hate that” and yet imo like, the way i prefer to think of things strikes me as the warmer perspective on it

for example whenever it’s the ol “romance is isolating!” which like, usually goes along with “romance means caring less about other ppl who aren’t your partner b/c you don’t need them anymore!” like. well usually it feels like the bass-boosted DIE FOR EACH OTHER vine lmao but also like. yeah where it’s like “okay now that we have each other we don’t need anything else from Life, let’s shut ourselves away and be happy about that, if it’s in a mausoleum that’s fine b/c why would i care about anything besides Being Together” or how like, wow being with you is so great that i don’t need to think about my dumbass friends anymore like.........here i come in with my “zero / fun!” knuckle tats to be like “what if loving someone didn’t need to be defined by if you love everyone else Less” and “what if loving someone wasn’t measured by how fine you’d be with isolating yourself and still being happy b/c they’re with you? that’s very convenient for capitalism btw and its Nuclear Family Unit Is All You Need agenda” b/c [that post abt the guy throwing down the capitalismo card]

and in general i just don’t think there’s any “good” isolating forces in any kind of relationship. and that means me stomping on the magical glowing embers of a lot of magical romance concepts but, like i said, i don’t find those kinds of ideas Warm and Idealistic and Romantic in the first place

that “romance = not isolating maybe? let’s consider that??” actually covers a lot of grievances i have lol but furthermore maybe it’s shocking to hear that i don’t go for much of anything that leans too far into the It’s Magical direction like that love transcends the Everyday and us being human like. actually i strongly take the perspective that love is a super ordinary and deeply human experience and like, isn’t that a Nicer idea than that Feeling Love is us glitching out of how we usually are.........like love doesn’t Have to upend your wholeass existence Constantly And Forever and that’s not lesser than if it does for someone else ig.......it doesn’t have to transform every aspect of life into wonderment.........quality time with a significant figure doesn’t need to be like, the most spectacular unspeakably beautiful stuff only and always......not that getting Swept Up In E-Mo-Tion or doing activities with your partner which are Not everyday and which are fairly special / spectacular or finding a relationship to be somewhat dramatic / transformative etc etc whatever is bad just that like. it doesn’t have to be Constant and it’s not going to be and that doesn’t mean that real life is just failing to live up to the Ideal or something......more that sharing the Ordinary Stuff isn’t at all inferior or whatevs

anyways i went off and started talking and lost track of whatever i’m saying here so first of all I Hate The Idea Of Romance Being Isolating and I Prefer To Think Of Romance As Ordinary Rather Than Transcendent and are these not the more “romantic” perspectives honestly and it’s all in line with my would-be “i hate fun” qualities like when i don’t like when something’s trying too hard to be funny-cute all the time or something. hard to describe but i know it when i see it. Anyways it is my demand for things that are Genuine which leads me to respond to stuff with bitterness and opinionated-rant-time and the like. though also i’m like that basically all the time, so plenty of other things lead me to that response too. oh wait no yeah and when things like, are trying to Evoke being Genuine but it’s obviously this non-genuine performance of it and trying too hard and i Know It When I See It and it annoys me sm like don’t insult me. get away with that stuff. pandering to the cute & quirky angle like you know what. i hate this. weirdly enough i don’t find stuff that makes its brand to be like, never being “negative” or “bitter” to Seem Genuine in the first place, so, obviously.........i will Not stop being opinionated as hell about everything, it is just part of my charm at this point. or at least a characteristic of mine that i don’t feel the need to sand down because it’s like, not every difficult trait is a flaw!!! i’m already restricted enough by Being Accommodating And Convenient As Possible for everyone and over-self-critiquing any ~difficult~ or uh-oh Imperfect traits. it’s fine.........anyways and tldr what is romantic about someone’s presence in your life like, diminishing everything else that isn’t Them?? why shouldn’t it be expansive and open someone’s life and their capacity to love rather than narrow the focus of it??? catch my rants about “i hate this trope in fiction or attitude in real life towards Romance” airing basically every day in my head, b/c honestly tf is this

[arovaricious]

A post: have a quoiromantic edit!

The flag: the quoisexual flag

Me the first few times: ah it's cool let me just clarify-

Me now: I just. Am so tired.