#radinclu

[sirenium]

ID: some random Sonic card with Shadow The Hedgehog on it. There is a text box, and the text inside is two different colors. In black Obra Letra font: 'Shadow says:' and in red Obra Letra font: 'Pissing yourself about mspec les/gays is, in fact, exclusionism. You are not an uwu inclusionist if you refuse to get your head out of your ass and realize that the way someone else identifies is none of your fucking business.' End ID

The card without the text:

Thank you, Shadow

[caeliangel]

FLAG MAKING RESSOURCES !!

tagging: @cocajimmycola @puriette @neopronouns @genderstarbucks @genderselkies @estrogenism @haunted-thing @mogai-sunflowers

If you want to be untagged, pls lmk!

note: I do not use most of these, but I digged on the internet in order to find stuff that could very much help to make flags!

★╷﹕INSPO PALETTES

sites that will help you get inspiration with colours and generate colour palettes from nothing or even from words.

coolors.co

colorhunt.co

colormind.io

mycolor.space

colormagic.app

picular.co

perchance.org

hexcolor.co

pinterest

★╷﹕FLAG MAKING

apps and sites to make flags.

any drawing app

flag-creator.com

tennessine.co.uk

teamultima.org

★╷﹕PRIDE FLAGS

collection of flags.

pride-flags on deviantart

lgbtqia fandom

★╷﹕TEMPLATES

templates to make flags for simple or more complicated terms.

neopronouns on deviantart

flag templates by crowdsourcedgender

pride-flags in deviantart

★╷﹕NAMING

sites and information to help naming certain terms.

thewordmixer.com

namecombiner.info

unique-names.com

study.com: latin roots

latin and greek roots pdf

thoughtco.com (latin & greek roots 1)

en.m.wikipedia.org (latin & greek roots 2)

google translate

using the languages you speak (ie I often use irish or french when naming my stuff!)

★╷﹕SYMBOLS

Bunch of links where symbols, templates and such are in order to make symbols on your flags.

ask-pride-color-schemes

logodesign.ai

logomakr.com

pride-flags gallery : (01) (02) (03) (04) (05)

apps: canva, picsart, etc

★╷﹕TERMS

suffixes card: (here)

suffixes vs systems: (here)

In-nature: (here)

[batpoisonz]

twitter users be like

"lesbians can't like men. but we aren't bisexual even tho we are attracted to women and a spectrum of nonbinary people"

but also be like

"yeah a man who likes women and a spectrum of nonbinary people isn't straight, that's actually bisexual."

the double standards are insane.

[isopod-chan]

Hourly reminder that mspecs are real, valid, and not confused.

Mspec lesbians. Mspec gays. Mspec straights. Every other mspec.

We're real. We're valid. We've existed forever. And we don't GAF what you think.

[autopsyishere]

I NEED MORE RQ MOOTS

[inuette]

Information on Consent

[PT: information on consent. end PT]

　🎠 — proofread by ⛪ — unedited

as someone who lurks in kink communities a lot it's safe to say Ive seen a lot of kink terminology get used within radqueer communities, but never in the way kink is intented, which is safe, sane, consensual, and risk aware. radqueers seem to throw the word "consent" around willy nilly without bothering to actually understand it's meaning. and this goes for WAY more than just sexual stuff within the community. so I thought a little education would be nice, so it is what I will be covering with this post.

what is consent?

[pt: what is consent? end pt]

consent, as described by the oxford dictionary, is permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.

consent applies to many stuff, not just sexual advances, from letting someone borrow your pen, to drinking tea, to, according to radqueers, abuse. I will be using the tea euphemism for this essay, as it has, from personal experience, helped people grasp the consent fastest.

it does not simply mean "both parties love eachother", they are not the same, they are not comparable. one can love someone but not consent to certain stuff, or may consent to stuff with those they dont particularly care for on an emotional level.

everything I will talk about here can be found here (youtube link), if you digest information more easily via sound than via text.

if you ask someone if they want tea, then they say "hell yeah, I love tea!" then great, that is active consent. they do indeed want tea.

if they respond with "Im not sure, maybe?", then you can still make that cup of tea if you really want to, but dont be mad if they dont drink it when you offer it to them. and if they dont drink it, dont MAKE them drink it, just because you made it doesnt mean you are entitled to have them drink it. that is not consent

if they respond "no, I dont want tea." then dont make them tea at all. dont be mad at them for not wanting tea, dont annoy them until they give you until they tell you "fine they want tea". that is coercion and it doesnt change their actual mind about whether they want tea or not. it is not consent.

if they say "yes, sure! thank you." but when the tea arrives they don't actually want the tea, dont make them drink it. they may have changed their mind. sure it can be annoying because you went through all that effort to make them tea, but they still have no obligation to drink the tea just because of that. they did want tea, now they dont. it's okay for people to change their minds, dont make them feel guilty of that.

if they decide while drinking that they actually dont want tea, then dont make them drink the rest of it. again, it's okay for people to change their minds, do not make them feel guilty of that.

and if they're unconscious, then don't make them tea at all. unconscious people dont want tea. and they cant answer the question "do you want tea" because theyre unconscious.

you may have asked them when they were conscious and they may have agreed, but now they're unconscious. make sure they're safe, and, this is important, dont make them drink the tea. they may have agreed then, sure, but unconscious people dont want tea.

if they were conscious when they started drinking it but then passed out, dont make them drink the rest of the tea. unconscious. people. dont. want. tea.

if they're not in the right mind, say, intoxicated, or mentally unwell, then dont offer them tea at all, even if they say they want it or deserve it. they are not in the right mind and dont know what they want or need. they need safety, and comfort, not tea. you can offer later when they feel better.

if they said yes to tea once, dont expect tea time always forever whenever you want. dont come up to them unexpectedly and make them drink tea saying "but wanted tea once!". just because they wanted tea one day doesnt mean they want it forever.

do you have a basic understanding of consent now? I hope so!

what falls under consent and what does not?

[pt: what falls under consent and what does not? end pt]

for both parties involed:

are they actively saying "yes, I want it"?

do they know to the fullest extent what they're in for? what they're agreeing to?

are they allowed to change their mind at any given time and have it be respected by the other party?

is there safety precautions? (safe words, some other signal)

are they on an equal level with no power imbalance that could put either party in jeopardy should they change their minds or say no?

if the answer is yes to all of these, great! that falls under consent. if the answer to any of these is "no" or "maybe" then that is not consensual, or safe, for that matter.

keeping that in mind, here is things that dont, or cannot, fall under consent that radqueers believe can.

bodily minor x bodily adult relationships

sibling relationships

physical non-human animal x bodily human relationships

other dynamics with an obvious power imbalance, like student x teacher relationships, boss/manager x lower employee relationships.

abuser x abused relationships

about roleplays

[PT: about roleplays. end PT]

"but Carnie, what abt roleplay! roleplay exists! "

there is nothing here that doesnt apply to roleplay. roleplay is just that, role playing, playing pretend. there is a very obvious boundary between what is roleplay and what isnt.

age play, for example, can be consensual because both parties involved are still bodily adults, and there is no power dynamic besides the one made up FOR the roleplay, that ceases existing when the safe word is said or the signal is alerted, or when they've decided that is enough for that day.

[foxyyips]

Gift i made for @everyponie !!

I meant to post it here yesterday like i did with twt but i forgot lolz (^o^;)

[trans-male]

did you know: trans men are the men of the trans community

[chunni-rosie]

🌸 What does Chūnibyō mean?

Wikipedia: Chūnibyō (中二病 - chunnibyou) is a Japanese colloquial term typically used to describe early teens who have grandiose delusions, who desperately want to stand out, and who have convinced themselves that they have hidden knowledge or secret powers. It translates to "middle-second syndrome" (i.e., middle-school second-year). It is sometimes called "eighth-grader syndrome" in the United States, usually in the context of localizations of anime which feature the concept as a significant plot element.

It could also mean adults who haven’t mentally matured past 8th grade.

🌸 My Mission!

My name is Rosie and I want to try to build a Chūnibyō community where we can all be ourselves without judgement! There’s no reason to feel ashamed to act out what you feel you are on the inside, and your desires!

This blog is for those who feel they can take back the term and identify as it for whatever reason; be you an age regressor, a younger system member, or want to take it back because you’re always called a “kid” as an insult for any reason.

🌸 The Community!

The Chūnibyō community is intended to be a branch off of the radqueer community due to the core tenant being that self-expression and freedom of such is paramount. You may also consider it a transID if you wish to be Chūnibyō, but are not currently. This is different from transage/etc because we are and identify as adults/older teens, but prefer to act much younger.

We encourage the use of typing quirks, kaomoji, chunni OCs, roleplaying, and cosplay!

🌸 Disclaimer ._.

I feel the need to put this disclaimer for those who will take this in bad-faith: This identity is not an excuse for pro-c paraphiles. If you use “chūnibyō” as an excuse to offend and/or be pro-c, you will be shunned from the community as well as put on blast and reported to proper authorities. You may use the term even if you are a paraphile, but only if you’re anti-c. Absolutely no c-neutral or pro-c allowed in this community.

[slugpatient]

I honestly can't understand the mind of antis/exclus...like? Why do you care so much about the way SOMEONE ELSE explores their own identity and experience different factors in the LGBT community? Have they ever found themselves in this same situation?

I hope they are aware that saying "you are invalid" or trying to present labels other than what the person says they identify with will not help them and will not make them disappear. on the contrary, this could generate an even worse crisis than the ones they already has.

So please grow up, there is something much more important happening NOW to worry about than fighting with 12/14 year olds on the internet just because they identifies as a lesbian demiboy, mspec-mono, xenoID, trans-x, etc.

— 🎀

[mogai-angel]

something i never liked that i find commonly in the mogai community, and generally more radically leftist queer spaces, (though thankfully less often now) is the pressure to disclose whether or not you're "tme", or in other words, transmisogyny exempt.

it's extremely regressive to expect people to indirectly expose their agab in the name of "intersectionality". it's part of a larger trend of even those who hold more radical views on gender subconsciously upholding a gender binary. it's just a slightly more veiled way of asking someone for their agab, or as all trans people can attest to being inappropriate, asking someone what's in their pants.

is there something to be said for the unique experience of those who are both transfeminine and affected by misogyny? absolutely. however, under true intersectionality, there's something to be said about every overlapping point of an individuals identity. they're all relevant in the appropriate conversations, however trying to list every intersection you personally fall under in a social media bio is futile.

it also completely undermines the unique experience of those who don't fall into the binary of being affected by or exempt from transmisogyny. gender isn't binary, sex isn't binary, transitioning isn't binary. for example, i consider myself both transfeminine and transmasculine. am i supposed to disregard one part of my identity in favor of the other? am i supposed to disregard the ways in which ive been perceived through different stages of my life?

the tldr: you can't progress past a binary by enforcing it under other labels, and there are ways to hold conversations about transmisogyny without expecting everyone by default to disclose their relationship towards it

[sirenium]

Just because you don't support certain queer identities, doesn't mean they'll stop existing. Close your eyes and plug your ears all you want, but lesbian men and mspec lesbians have always existed. Turian women and mspec gays have always existed. We will always exist, and there's no amount of history erasure, putting us on your DNIs, and harassment that will change that.

Also reminder that trying to erase queer people from society is a very queerphobic thing to do and exclusion only harms us all as a community. :3

[caeliangel]

No spoon for id😿

⌒⌒✦﹒cionláidic [kyon-leh-dic] ⨟ A gender that relates to strong feelings of love, passion and romance. Feelings so strong they're soffucating.

PT. cionláidic [kyon-leh-dic]. A gender that relates to strong feelings of love, passion and romance. Feelings so strong they're soffucating. END OF PT.

[isopod-chan]

Fictosexual positivity for those who need it!

I posted this on r/fictosexual already but wanted to share it here too.

You're seen, you're loved, you're valid, and your f/o loves you so much.

[transfemasc-culture-is]

Transfemmasc culture is having that classic trans experience of feeling like you were born in the wrong body, but in a "I should've been trans in the other direction" way, not a "I should've been cis" way

!

[inuette]

Radinclus does NOT mean Radqueer

[PT: Radinclus does not mean Radqueer. END PT.]

　🦴🎀 — proof read by the boyfie & ⛪️ — unedited

essay under the cut due to length

Well, to start with, what do either of these terms even mean? We have an explanation of radqueers (and why the community is flawed) here! If the post is too long for you to read, a basis is: They steal terms from others, support transitioning for terms that never supported it in the first place or that are impossible to transition to (i.e. transracial and/or transage) and their community is full of entirely pro-contact beings (people who support paraphiles, all of them, acting on their paraphilias) and groomers whether a "good radqueer" or not.

But then, what's a radinclus? It's a term that's commonly associated with and mixed up with the term radqueer. Radinclus is short for "radically inclusive," the term generally means one is in support of identities like gaybians, lesboys & veldigirls/turigirls and mspec monos (pan lesbians, bi gays, etc.) All of these terms are known as "contradictory" and/or good faith terms.

So, what's the difference? Radqueers have outright stolen terms and are misusing them, whether using the terms in good faith or because they think it's "cute" or "fun" in some way, they're still being misused and causing harm. These terms belonged to different groups that weren't necessarily queer, but are being taken to mean something they never meant in the first place. Terms that those who are radinclus support have history in queer culture and have existed long before radqueers ever decided to appropriate other groups' terms.

The terms lesboy and veldigirl/turigirl are typically used by systems, those who are multigender or those who are trans and still feel a queer attraction towards women or men. These terms were never meant to be used by solely cisgender heterosexual men or solely cisgender heterosexual women. To say that multigender people who may identify as a man and a woman don't belong in either gay nor lesbian communities IS discrimination. You can be a minority and a marginalized group and discriminate against other marginalized groups, excluding multigender people from these spaces is discrimination. By letting them into your spaces, no, we aren't forcing you to date them. But acknowledge that they exist — acknowledge that gender is different for everyone and because of that, so is sexuality.

For those who are trans and still feel a queer attraction towards the opposite gender, that is entirely valid! The NWLNW (Non-Women Loving Non-Women) and NMLNM (Non-Men Loving Non-Men) terms were historically used by TERFs to discriminate against trans men and women and imply that they were not 'actual men' or 'actual women'. Alternative terms to NWLNW and NMLNM are QLM & QLW (Queer Loving Men and Queer Loving Women). A cisgender heterosexual man would never understand the queer attraction that a trans man might feel towards women, nor would a cisgender heterosexual woman be able to understand the queer attraction towards men that a trans woman may hold. And no, a trans man using the term lesbian or a trans woman using the term gay isn't misgendering themselves — if one label fits them more than another & they're using it in good faith, let them!

Now, what's a 'gaybian'? Or a 'lesgay'? Or a 'straightbian'!? Someone who identifies as both gay & a lesbian (or straight and a lesbian, but we'll be focusing on what a gaybian because the same explanation can be used for other variations). You might be thinking now, well if the definition for lesbian and gay are queer loving men and queer loving women, how can you experience queer attraction to both if you're not both genders? Well, for one, most people who are gaybian are multigender — the way they view their attraction to both genders may be different because of that. They may view themself as both a gay man and a lesbian woman, and that's perfectly valid! If you believe that one or both of their identities as such are invalid or that they need to make their own community, that just means you have internalized biases against multigendered people. Others who may use this term are systems due to the varying genders and orientations between the alters.

Finally, mspec monos, also known as mspec gays or lesbians. Firstly, what does 'mspec' mean? Mspec is short for multispec, which is the umbrella term for identities in which one is attracted to multiple genders — i.e. pansexual, bisexual, omnisexual, etc. How can one be both multispec and lesbian? The most common explanation are those who use SAM, the split-attraction model. Many use the argument that SAM was made for aspecs by aspecs, and therefore mspecs cannot use it, but the first example of the SAM was in 1879 by Karl Heinrich Ulrich who used the example of heteroromantic homosexual in his writings. While romantic and sexual attraction may not be as separate and more intertwined for others, that isn't the case for everyone. Not everyone has to use the split attraction model, but it does work for those who's sexuality and romantic orientations are aimed towards separate genders.

Some people just ARE multispec and gay/lesbian — not understanding an identity isn't an excuse to shit on or discriminate against it. That's not to say blindly accept it, but there is proof and recorded history of these identities existing in the queer community for years. You cannot brush them off as "just a new fad" or "trend" when they've existed since before you did. Most radqueers support harmful beliefs and encourage them, radinclus is the inclusion of identities that have always been apart of our community — but have been thrown to the side for more 'easy to understand' ones. Whether you think they're 'the reason people aren't willing to understand' or not, don't fight against people who're in the same community fighting the same fight as you. There will be people who will hate you whether you're the most 'normal', 'straight-person-looking' lesbian ever or the people that you hate in your own community — the only difference is that when they're driving YOU out, there'll be no one left to help you.

Other Good Faith Identity Resources : Lesboys Carrd , Good Faith Resources Hub , Bi Gay / Lesbian Masterdoc