#the aroace defense

[the-aroace-defense]

the sex bots are in every nsfw tag, not just y'all

Yeah where they should be. In the nsfw tags. That's not the problem. The problem is that they're in the asexual tag. Where they shouldn't be. The asexual tag is not an nsfw tag.

[czache78]

Um… Spotify??

By listening to that song I did not mean I wanted this…

[show-us-kaidenshenandoah]

every time i watch anything with him in it (admittingly, predominantly from the Dropout app), i am reminded that Lou Wilson is the most handsome man to have ever lived. like, objectively. he just is. i will hear no arguments for any other person to be ranked higher. Lou Wilson: whose face single-handedly shows humanity can go no higher in beauty. he is THE most attractive man in the world. argue with the wall lmao

[short-wooloo]

The Jedi are an aro/ace culture that live happy and fulfilling lives and people hate them for it

People steeped in amatanormativity can't stand the idea that people don't want/need romance and can not only be content without it, but in fact very happy without romance

And thus they hate the Jedi, because an entire culture (even a fictional one) that is aro/ace-normative is an affront to them

[luck-of-the-drawings]

[OLD ART ALERT] A COLLECTION OF SCENES FROM THE GILLIONS CATSCRATCH ARC THAT BROUGHT ME GREAT JOY. i love fishy chips especially when its just gillion being delirious and violent and hostile

[maerhiya]

in regards to the constant dismissal of his aroace identity, i hate it when alastor 'fans' say and use the excuse: "he's fictional, he won't get offended."

like, you're right, but it can and will offend us.

when you see yourself being represented on screen, of course you'd feel enthusiastic about it — representation allows individuals to see themselves reflected in the media they consume, validating their identities and experiences. but when so many people take that representation and decide to disregard and discard it, it is so fucking frustrating. we finally have another character to be part of the tiny amount of representation we have, but then people don't even care about how much it means to us? like yeah, alastor won't get offended because he's not real, but it frustrates and annoys us. do you realize that it's also technically invalidating the aroace community? that you're invalidating our feelings? imagine feeling like you're finally being seen because your orientation is finally being represented in media, and people just decide to blatantly ignore, discard, and invalidate it.

media has such a powerful influence on real life, representation being a prevalent factor of it. there are numerous posts that dictate how people went to watch a movie/show or read a book just because a character depicts their identity in it — obviously, being represented is an incredibly uplifting and validating experience.

which is why seeing an aroace character in a popular show is so meaningful to us because we live in a world where romance and sex are literally everywhere and prioritized above all else. (and it's pretty obvious that alastor's on the repulsed end of the spectrum, but even if he wasn't, at least make an effort to acknowledge his sexuality instead of continuing to portray him as allo; aroace folks can be in relationships but it's not going to be the same thing with allos' experiences.)

any and every representation matters, but why does that seem to stop at people under the aroace spectrum? like y'all can't even let us appreciate the scraps of representation we have. we barely have any, so are we really that dramatic for being upset at how people easily disregard and dismiss our identities that are being depicted on screen just like that? is it truly wrong of us to want to defend and maintain the little representation we have?

[aroacesafeplaceforall]

Do you ever look at yourself and go damn I’m glad I’m aroace coz nobody is ever gonna touch this?

[oh-allie]

my official post to put an end to teruhashi hate

(note: im aroace, so of course i love the headcannon that saiki is too, BUT i also like saiteru a lot ☺️ to me its not a big deal if hes shipped with anyone because he is just a character and its not canon that hes aroace {even though i'd be happy if he was!!})

just admit you just hate confident women (because its CANON that to everyone but saiki, she IS the perfect pretty girl.)

her crush on saiki is incredibly reasonable. it started as her seeking validation, because her entire self worth since birth has been male validation, but over the series its shown how she really comes to care about him.

if you say something like "oh but he obviously doesnt like her back" ?? to US it's obvious that he doesnt outwardly reciprocate her feelings, but to her whenever saiki ignores her, thats just how he is to everyone.

to her, theyve gone on multiple dates, and theyre in the same friend group, so its totally reasonable for her to have some hope still.

refer back to my post about the years of harassment and trauma teruhashi has faced 🙏 i could talk about her and how she deserves better forever 🙏🙏

saiki doesnt even hate her either 😒😒 you are fighting a battle that nobody else cares about 😒 saiki n teruhashi r besties and you guys mightve watched a bootleg version if you think saiki still hates teruhashi at the end of the show or even at the beginning?? he just didnt like how she attracted attention, he acknowledges that everything she thinks about herself is true

and anyway the WHOLE show is about how saiki is growing and accepting the people in his life, and accept the fact that he cares about them. TERUHASHI IS ONE OF HIS FRIENDS TOO 😒😒

[cookie-nom-nom]

My mom, making fun of homophobic conservatives: “hOw am I suPoSEd to TelL mY kiDs Why tHosE MeN aRE kISSiNg?” like, what twelve year old doesn’t know about gay people!?

Me, snickering and slowly raising my hand:

Mom, eyes widening: no. No surely you-

Me: I found out in middle school when my friends started dating. I didn’t know it was an option before then. They’re the first queer people I ever met.

Mom, head in her hands: but….I’m queer….

Me, fully cackling: and yet you didn’t know how to explain why those two men were kissing, either!

[mihai-florescu]

I <3 shipping but i also <3 headcanoning characters as aroace, i dont know why people cant just...do both? I mean, qprs exist, but also not all headcanons have to exist in the same universe. Sometimes it's just fun exploring different perspectives. Idk

[myersesque]

when the moldy peaches said "i don't see what anyone can see in anyone else but you" they were actually talking abt the arospecs in romantic relationships 💪💪💪

[the-aroace-defense]

@staff @tumblrbot @support fix the situation of bots in the asexual tag. This is not a demand, nor a request. No. On behalf of all of the ace community, we are telling you to do this. It is not a suggestion or a choice. Fix it. Do something. Don't stand there watching. Not like you've done in the past.

@aroacesafeplaceforall

@official-garlic-bread

Tag anyone else that you think should be tagged

We will end the bots!!! We will rejoice with garlic bread!!!

[aceinsearchofspace]

I’m going to receive a lot of hate for this, but the best interpretation of Gojo’s and Geto’s relationship is that they are best friends, not lovers.

Now, I know that people have their favorite ships, and I’m not downing anyone for that. I just think that it is so important for us as a society to normalize men having close, loving platonic bonds with other men.

It seems like anytime men are close friends in fiction they are interpreted as being gay immediately by fandoms, causing many men in real life to think they can’t have close friendships without people thinking they’re gay. More platonic relationships need to be accepted without any assumption that there is also a sexual relationship present. Our society is so individualized and sexualized that we can’t even recognize a healthy platonic relationship anymore.

I know people are going to read this post and say, “but we need more representation.” I’m just focusing on a different issue right now. Gojo Satoru and Geto Suguru are canonically best friends and nothing else. Doesn’t it make their story so much more powerful knowing that everything tragic took place due to their platonic love? A love built on loyalty and respect? Just my thoughts

[love-too]

It's difficult for me to put this into words, but I think being aro can feel quite alienating when you're a girl. Not because of exclusion, but because of expectations. I noticed this in the past month while frequenting a new environment that's mostly men and just a few women. I get along with these women, but I felt like there was a missed layer of connection. Now, seeing it from the outside, I honestly think I messed up by not talking about romance/relationships when I was asked. I think that my not saying a lot was not taken as "she's just not interested" but more as "she thinks she's above all that" or "she doesn't trust me enough to open up" and, honestly, it's not the first time it happens but I never manage to catch it before i ruin it.

[western-river]

My friend asked me my thoughts on heartstopper season 2 and i accidentally send a voice message that was 20 minutes long...

[punkeropercyjackson]

Not surprised all the hate towards the changes in the Pjo show from the books is coming from Percabeth shippers.It's been ten years and they still haven't learned what good writing is because they're too stuck on tropes nor how to be nice to others with different opinions and tastes than them.Sad🥺