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Aroace culture is being flabbergasted when a relationship story tries to tell people to divorce your partner just because they aren't interested in sex/don't want to have sex/don't have sex.

Submitted on Nov 22, 2023

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Aroace culture is headcanoning every character that doesn't seem to be interested in relationships or sex as aroace.

Posted on Nov 09, 2023

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"Love songs especially breakup songs are about romance, not friendship."

Hold my Dragon-

Posted on Nov 8, 2023

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Aroace culture is having their views on love and sex rechecked again and again and again and again.....until they settle on one. Being an aroace sure changes our views on love/sex, it's transformational and deep!....atleast in my experience *ahem*

Posted on Nov 5, 2023

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aroace culture is accepting. alloaro? hell yeah, fuck who you want. alloace? go ahead, have a romantic relationship with no sexual strings attached. aroace? aphobes can fuck off <3!

Both aspecs and allos? amatonormativity and allonormativity can go fuck themselves :3

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So what if love is in the air, I'm only gonna accept oxygen.

Posted on Nov 2, 2023

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Aroace culture is:

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aroace culture is getting asked out and just being like "ok" not realizing romantic feelings are expected from both parties?

I used to think dating was hanging out. Like a ritual before marriage.....ah, those good ol' days.

Posted on Nov 2, 2023

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Another rant.

One day my grandma said, "You should get married soon"

I asked, "what if I don't want to? I have my friends....and you."

They replied, "Friends are never equal to a husband, no matter how close you are".

I was really curious. "Say, what is the difference between the two?"

"You know. The feeling of someone being there for you, with you, always, 24/7 no matter what? Friends are never gonna give that feeling. I have friends too, but my husband is certainly different. Irreplaceable."

Now this is an old lady who married in her teens and spent 60+ years with her husband. She was dependent on him, according to all the stories she told me about their relationship. Now she's over 90. I bet my ancestors were like, "A girl's gotta marry and settle. Marriage is a priority". Because everyone in that era (in our area) mostly married....and sustained in the relationship. It was obviously more than any other relationship. It's on a whole another level. And also because I picked this belief up from them.

What I knew in my heart:

That's bullshit. Friends can give that feeling too. If we try enough to focus on friendship. And can prioritize it enough. If we love our friends enough in our own way. People are different. And there are many among them who value friendship as much as romance. But I get where she's coming from. It is what she learned from her experience. I don't blame her at all.

What I felt:

It hurt. It made me doubt my new beliefs. Growing up, I was taught marriage was the norm. I grew up thinking I would marry one day, it's inevitable. It's impossible for me to be single cuz no one else would be with me. That I needed a person to be always with me. I grew up believing it hard. Now that's backfiring. Especially after I learned about my aroace identity.

All this rant is for one doubt. Is there a norm in this extremely diverse world? Either everything is normal or everything is abnormal. There is not one generalization or stereotype that is completely true because the world is fucking abnormal with kinds of conditions and people. There's not one invalid emotion or identity because humans are naturally complex. It's human nature. It's normal.

Nevermind this is all over the place, lemme just end it with some slogans.

BEGONE THE SO-CALLED NORM!

BEGONE STEREOTYPES!!

BEGONE GENERALIZATIONS!!!

Amen.

Posted on Nov 01, 2023

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Romance-repulsed/negative aro culture is:

Posted on Oct 31, 2023

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Just a rant.

Aroace culture is being annoyed at people over sexualizing and romanticizing things like bedroom, sleepover, boy/girl friendship, dates, physical affection and kissing. Even confessions. I think it has been drilled into our brains so much even aroaces might feel weird and careful displaying any of them.

Though I'm the one saying this, I do feel awkward and afraid of displaying affection to my friends and family. "Is this right? Am I a creep?" I doubt myself, sometimes I even feel ashamed, all this struggle is because my brain follows the so called "norm" which is "a man and woman can't be friends, they can't be alone together in a bedroom without doing anything funny, they can't live together like friends", "Kissing is only sexual/romantic (including pecks)", "dating is romantic" blah blah blah. Gosh! I wanna be so affectionate with my friends, I wanna go on dates, hug them, kiss them, cuddle them...so so much but my brain is currently stuck on these toxic patterns. Even when my friends show affection, I feel weird and ashamed. I hate it.

I gotta get out of these thinking patterns. I hate amatonormativity. I hate over sexualizing or romanticizing things. I hate all the suffering many people including myself are going through because of this, not just aroaces. I just hate it.

Posted on Oct 30, 2023

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Aroace culture, growing up in a super conservative environment is not knowing about sex or romance and feeling like it's something unfathomable after learning about either of them. Like, wtf, something like this exists??!!

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DISCLAIMER: I am probably going to edit this post more than once in the future so always check this post before submitting/asking.

Hi guys! I'm Neela (she/her). I'm pretty much of a novice to aroace-ism myself. A questioning aroace. I thought of creating this blog so that I can learn about this culture myself and also to create a safe space for aroace people. I'll try my best :)

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