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Notice that some cultures will not identify with some of these, whilst others will. Some will make no sense and others will be familiar. . . Every culture deals with grief in its own way. We have some similarities and are starkly different in others. . . For example, in the aboriginal culture, wailing is a norm, and heavy drinking is also noticed. . . In some cultures people may leave their community in order to recoup due to the grief and loss. . . Whilst some of these behaviours can seem unhelpful, they are cultural norms deeply rooted and somewhat expected. . . It's important for grief and bereavement counsellors to be mindful of cultural differences in order to provide a non judgemental and informed approach to counselling 💖 . . And it's important for us to be aware in our daily lives that everyone grieves differently and behaviour that appears different to us may be culturally informed 💖 . . #grief #bereavement #lifeafterloss #culture #beliefs #values #griefawareness #grieflosstrauma #gonebutnotforgotten #griefpractice #griefawareness #griefjourney #griefrevolution #griefandloss (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CB51tVoHI_m/?igshid=12k75lrqd5diw

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Yes, DV happens everywhere. A story and moral: Years ago, I was being abused by my ex. I screamed and slammed the walls, to gain attention of neighbours. Nobody came to check on me. Next day I received a letter from the strata of the building saying I was being too noisy and that their building and neighbourhood is a "respectable area" and they won't tolerate "such behaviour" and "philandering". I felt humiliated and cried. A part of me wanted to send them a reply saying, "please call the police next time you hear noise from my apartment because I am scared of this man". I wanted to write them details of what he had done to me that night and make them feel... Something. Maybe guilt. Maybe care. Instead, I ripped up the letter to try and let go, and eventually got enough courage to call the police on him myself one day. The moral of the story is, because these people felt "NOT MY NEIGHBOURHOOD", I was abused that night and repeatedly many times over. If someone had called the police or atleast knocked on my door, abuse could have been prevented. How many other women are in the same situation? How many other children are on the same situation? How many men are in the same situation? It will take a minute for you to call the police or Crimestoppers. You can even choose to remain anonymous, you could even knock on the door if you're feeling brave. Even if you don't know it's someone being abused, even if it sounds like loud music, or "philandering". It might be an inconvenience for you, but for all you know, you could save a life... Or even many lives. 💖 . . . #domesticabuse #Domesticviolence #familyabuse #heartbrokengirl #narcex #narcissistabuse #dvsurvivors #domesticabusesurvivor #domesticabuseawareness #dvalert #dvconnect #dv #dfv #domesticandfamilyviolence #abusiverelationships #smashthepatriarchy #feministan #feminista #endthepatriarchy #endpatriarchy #narcopath #crimestoppers #femaleempowerment #womenempowerment #courageouswomen #notinmyhouse #notinmyneighborhood #notinmyname #notinmycity #notinmyfamily (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CB5KhFnH4fx/?igshid=1p0tl956rhpjr

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When I first joined IG, I saw the big accounts and thought, how did they do that?? I felt upset that nobody was interacting with me the way they were with the bigger accounts. Ofcourse I didn't consider that the people behind those accounts have been doing this for longer, or have other media presence so are well known, or they are being authentic and real without expectations. So in my desperation, I started posting about my cat, scenery, travel, quotes, things I thought people wanted, but I wasn't getting the traction these other accounts got. Somebody told me to join follow loops and like loops, so I tried that, and then I realised I was LITERALLY chasing likes and follows, and that wasn't me at all. So I decided to start over, and be authentic. I followed accounts that created content that I found useful and began creating posts that I found joy in. I post about grief, loss, and trauma around losing my mum, my life changes, sobriety, domestic and family violence, and that feels good! It feels authentic and real and right because it reflects who I am as a person. My presence is for me. Its healing and nurturing for me. Any benefit that others receive is a bonus 💖 . . . . . . #socialmediatips #grieflosstrauma #bloggerlife #authentic #awareness #sanity #sober #socialmedia #joyoflife #beyourself #selfcare #selflove #tbt #SelfCareFriday #authenticity #abrahamhicks #consciouscommunity #mindsetmatters #positivethinking #positivevibesonly #introvertlife #selfcompassion #perfectlyimperfect #motivationnation #inspiredliving #presenceoverpresents #instagood #dvsurvivors #heal #joyinthejourney (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CB4bN94Ho6g/?igshid=mcce1m5ob0g1

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For people in the back: Domestic and family violence a CRIME. Call it out for what it is! Yes this still happens. Survivors are still blamed, doubted, shamed, silenced, and NO IT IS NOT OKAY. It is not the survivor's fault that the abuser cannot control his/her emotions, temper, anger, moods. Infact, statements like these towards the survivor are abuse in itself. As a survivor, there is nothing I could have done differently to ensure my abuser did not do what he did to me. Nothing. And yet I heard every single one of these statements, even from my FAMILY. What I did do, was eventually tell people and tell the police. I got LUCKY that there were people that wanted to and could protect me and teach me that what was happening to me was WRONG. And it did not end there. I carried YEARS of trauma, grief, guilt, shame, fear, and loss. I found myself in further abusive relationships because guess what, my unconscious was convinced I deserved to be treated in that horrible abusive way, which is EXACTLY WHAT THESE STATEMENTS ARE DESIGNED TO DO! They are there to breakdown the survivors self-esteem, self-worth, self-love, you name it, in order to protect the ABUSIVE FAMILY SYSTEM. What I did not deserve, was to be abused and to then not be believed and shamed and berated. Shame and guilt grow in silence and behind closed doors. Don't be silent. All of us are not so lucky. All of us do not get saved. Domestic and family violence ends with DEATH for a lot of victims!! Even if you have not experienced domestic or family violence, learn what it is, what it looks like, and call it out in your communities. Enough is enough. We ALL deserve a safe and free life. 💖 #familyabuse #ifmywoundswerevisible  #healingfromabuse #timesup #domesticviolence #narcissisticabuse #merajismmerimerzi #mindset #grieflosstrauma #bossbabe #abusiverelationship #mentoo #desi #domesticabusesurvivor #dfv #mentalhealthawareness #dv #enoughisenough #auratmarch  #speakup #yourstorymatters #dvsurvivors #womenempowerment #familysystem  #lifeafterabuse #whiteribbon #ptsd #metoo #femaleempowerment #girlpower (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CB1qWAPHwVt/?igshid=14j42j0iqwcz5

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After posting about sobriety and mum, my favourite kind of self-care is breathing deeply the lavender scents of wax melts and all this spiritual goodness. 💖 . . . #SelfCare #SelfcareSunday #selfcarematters #selfcareissacred #selfcaretips #selfcaresaturday #selfcareisntselfish #selfcareeveryday #selfcareday #SelfCareIsHealthcare #selfcareissexy #selfcarecoach #selfcareisnotselfish #selfcaremonday #selfcareboss #selfcarefirst #selflove #selfcarenutrition #selfcareweek #selfcarerevolution #positivevibes #selfcare101 #selfcareeverydamnday #SelfCareFriday #selfhealers #grieflosstrauma #selfcarechallenge #selfcareclub #selfcaredaily #selfcareempowerment https://www.instagram.com/p/CB0R5J9Hk4O/?igshid=15m45tne1nhfo

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My mum was honestly the BEST mum in the whole world. I bet any kid who loves their mother will say that 😅 and I am that kid too. She was selfless, caring, kind, and awesome cook. She was beautiful and had kind eyes and an infectious laugh. My mum made people feel happy and loved. Everything that I am is because of her. I have no idea why she died. She was hospitalised, and just 2 weeks later she was gone. My dad was abusive growing up and towards her, so I feel mum was neglected. If she had received timely treatment, perhaps she could have been saved. Growing up, I was told that my aunties were "just like mum", but truth is, they were nothing like my mum. I remember having a conversation with my aunty about domestic violence and she said that my mum must have done something to deserve to be treated like that. That made me so angry. No one "deserves" to be hit. In that moment I realised how lonely my mother actually felt. Her sisters didn't understand her and her husband was abusive. I used to say my mum is my best friend, but I realised over time that I was my mum's best friend too. She told me once that I saved her by coming into her life. I was the distraction and the joy she needed and it kept her going. Until it didn't. I try not to feel guilty for mums death. I wish she was still alive. I wish there is something I could have done. I really wanted her to leave my dad. He was abusive and she didn't deserve that, but she didn't feel strong enough to do that. Wherever you are, mum, I hope you are happy and safe now. I love you forever 💖 . . . . #grief #imissmymom #imissyoumom #griefblogger #lifeafterloss #lifewithoutyou #mymother #mymom #griefawareness #grieflosstrauma #domesticviolence #domesticviolenceawarenessmonth #mentalhealth #domesticabuse #famlyabuse #traumahealing #healing #heal #therapy #mymum https://www.instagram.com/p/CB0P7-indgX/?igshid=13z22dvduy2ab

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I "fell off the wagon" a few times but especially when my mum died. I had used alcohol for many reasons in the past - feel more fun, confident, relaxed, but for the first time, I was using it to numb my feelings of grief, loss, and trauma. I felt alone without my mum and did not want anyone else in my life. I didn't want to see a therapist or reach out to friends. It was a dangerous spiral and I knew it. It didn't help that I was in a rigid corporate environment that enabled alcoholism. Christmas parties, work functions, afternoon drinks, you name it, there was always an excuse to drink. Any day that ends with Y. One time I fell over at the work Christmas party and cried my eyes out. Everyone laughed but no one asked if I was okay. Apparently it was a joke retold many times at subsequent parties. Truth is, nobody cared, because alcohol is THAT normalised. But I remember feeling hurt and that feeling of loneliness came rushing back. I began to question why I liked being in that environment. Was it because it made it okay to drink? Maybe. I didn't have a lot of friends so work was my world. After that Christmas party episode, I started trying to quit. I relapsed several times. It didn't help that I was dating people who were completely unsupportive about sobriety and big drinkers themselves. In hindsight, I was not ready to quit yet. There was no other excuse. On my 29th birthday, something switched inside of me. Maybe it was because I had thrown myself into studying yoga and counselling, but I have been sober since. I also saw a therapist for a while and learnt about the 12 steps which helped a lot. A big part of my study was addiction and it scared the hell out of me what I had put my body and mind through. Let's face it, alcohol never made me more fun, confident or relaxed either. It was an illusion and depressant the whole time. I am over 2 years sober now and I can look back and say thank God I quit. If you're on a sober journey or curious, I wish you all the courage in the world! Life is honestly too beautiful. 💖 https://www.instagram.com/p/CB0MPODny31/?igshid=1vharc5013048

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Don't take on the shame or guilt that's not yours to carry. You have done and will always do the best you can with what you know at the time. And that is enough. You are enough. You really are. Repeat it to yourself. I really wanted to say that 💖 be at peace with who you are 🙏 . . #youareenough #loveyourself #selfcare #forgiveyourself #grief #trauma #yoga #spirituality #abundance #youareenough #awareness #consciousness #sobercommunity #soberaf #Domesticviolence #dvsurvivors #childabuse #addiction #mentalhealthawareness #psychology #youaregoodenough #behappy #happiness #joy #love #peace #grieflosstrauma #abrahamhicks #neuroscience #shame #quotes (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CByBql1n_C8/?igshid=1b8cfc3vhkyd7

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It has been a rollercoaster is an understatement, but to consider that the emotions we are facing are signs of grief in the wake of #covid19 makes sense. One of the most popular grief models is #elisabethkublerross five stages of grief. She also refers to it as a wave and indicates that we can go back and forth between the stages. I got a little creative and applied it to how I've been feeling during the pandemic. The result is enlightening. I can confidently say I have experienced every single one of these 😅 and have reached the acceptance stage with my mask on public transport and maintaining social distance when I can. Sometimes I feel angry and depressed but I know it's part of the grieving process. Some people that I know are at the anger phase or even bargaining. There is no right or wrong. Grief is a personal journey. Where are you at? #coronavirus #griefmodel #covid19grief #grief #pandemic #socialdistancing #lockdown #depressionhelp #anxietyhelp #corona #sydneyblogger #australia #psychology #therapy #academic #contentcreator #psychology #psychotherapy #stayathome #washyourhands #coronavirusmemes #elisabethkublerross #healing #heal #infograph #counselling #covid19australia #blacklivesmatter (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBxiY9VHtSs/?igshid=7vl9j5khv5a2

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Trauma can be caused by any event, incident, or experience which has a profound negative impact. . . #trauma #traumasupport #grieflosstrauma #psychotherapy #psychology #counselling #traumainformed #freeresources #traumablogger #education #grief #traumahealing #awareness #selfhealers #selfcare #counsellingtheories #psychgrad (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBw66PyHcwd/?igshid=1ulkmz7uvz5db

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• . #grief #loss #trauma #blogger #creator #counselling #psychology #psychotherapy #grieflosstrauma #togetherwerise #selfcare #community #communityovercompetition #communitylove #selflove #counsellor #togetgerwearestronger #sydneyblogger #traumainformed #traumasupport #Domesticviolence #dvsurvivor #addiction #sobercommunity #awareness #togetherwearestronger #recoveryispossible #lifeafterloss #bereavement (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBwSwMEHdW6/?igshid=c7vhzklysb2f

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• . . #sobercommunity #soberlife #soberaf #grief #trauma #lifeafterloss #recovery #aa #blogger #psychology #psychotherapy #addiction #counselling #domesticviolence #dvsurvivor #cbt #therapy #contentcreator #originalart #writer https://www.instagram.com/p/CBvWyqfnzVZ/?igshid=tf2ar6ok3fx7

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Sometimes that guilt is a sign of love and care. We think we have some control over a person's life and death, whilst we are reminded of our own mortality. . . #grief #griefblogger #grieflosstrauma #griefquotes #elisabethkublerross #griefsupport #griefjourney #sydneyblogger #writingcommunity #sobercommunity #domesticviolence #dvsurvivor #1800respect #lifeline #dvalert #dvawareness #mentalhealth #psychology #therapy #lifeafterloss #griefquotes (at Sydney, Australia) https://www.instagram.com/p/CBvFv6BnO_s/?igshid=v7bi5lwomr0m

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• . Small changes can make big impacts. . . • . #narcissistsurvivor #narcopathawareness #narcissist #narcissisticabuse #narcabuse #menshealth #grief #trauma #angermanagement #dv #domesticviolence #domesticabuse #domesticviolenceawareness #abuse #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #psychologicalabuse #timetospeakup #counselling #confidence #believeinyourself #selfcare #emotionalabuse #womenshealth #childabuse #grieflosstrauma #psychology #counseling https://www.instagram.com/p/CBuaQJtnz0R/?igshid=13sx4eqo1fidh

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Grief does not belong in a bucket or a square. It is messy, raw, complex, and different for everyone. . . . #grief #griefsupport #griefjourney #feelings #emotions #selfcare #beyourself #bereavement #petloss #fathersday #mothersday #imissyou #missingyou #gonebutneverforgotten #lifeafterloss #lifewithoutyou #psychology #counselong #counselling #creator #domesticabuse #familyabuse #Domesticviolence https://www.instagram.com/p/CBtrltineue/?igshid=v7g1ll1vdhn0

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By no means an exhaustive list. If you recognise the signs, contact your local domestic violence or family violence helpline. Reach out to trusted friends and family. Do not remain silent. . . #domesticabuse #Domesticviolence #1800respect #grief #loss #trauma #familyviolence #familyabuse #gaslighting #dvsigns #dvsurvivors #dvsurvivor #dv #lifeline #blacklivesmatter #aboriginallivesmatter #psychology #counseling #counselling #narcissistsurvivor #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabuse #narcissisticabusesurvivor #domesticviolenceawareness #domesticviolencesurvivor #domesticviolenceawarenessmonth #dvawareness #dvawarenessmonth https://www.instagram.com/p/CBsNY1xHfm6/?igshid=153il4hu380ba

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• . #griefjourney #traumasupport #lifeafterloss #narcawareness #Domesticviolence #dvsurvivor #quotesaboutlife https://www.instagram.com/p/CBsHl2aHmQj/?igshid=su2xcieaf8mz