#Anger Management for Relationships

[stars-obsession-pit]

A one-sided jazz x Jason or batkid idea

Okay before i get into my own thing, i wanna link this oneshot i found on AO3 which i think is rad

Growing up in Amity Park with mad scientists for parents had not engendered in Jazz a normal sense of danger. She was completely chill in situations that would make most others cower in fear. There’s a reason she was willing to live in as seedy a part of Gotham as she did instead of seeking out more expensive but theoretically safer student housing.

But even so, there were limits. And catching her neighbor climbing up the fire escape at night heavily armed and covered in blood and gore went way beyond them. She is not living next door to a serial killer! Especially considering the way she’d caught him staring at her recently…

Which brought her here, packing her bags as quickly as she could after watching him leave for… whatever it was that he did during the day. She was gonna call the cops on him (not that they were likely to actually do that much in Gotham) and then crash over at her friend’s place until her first chance to transfer colleges to somewhere else.

Then, turning to survey the apartment one last time, a thought struck her. A bit of blood stains and wreckage to make it look like she was kidnapped would hopefully prevent him from realizing she was onto him and coming after her for revenge. Plus, getting to work off some of her own anger by breaking things might be therapeutic.

…And so, when Jason returned to his apartment building later that afternoon, it was to see it surrounded by cop cars. Apparently, someone had kidnapped his neighbor Jazz and ransacked her apartment. And there were no leads except that in her call, she had mentioned seeing a blood-soaked figure enter the building a previous night.

He felt dread and rage boil in his gut. He’d never even noticed anyone watching them. Could they have been after him, and attacked her as collateral? He hadn’t even asked her out yet, but he had mentioned his crush around his minions before. If that was the reason, whoever had snitched would pay.

Or even if it was just a coincidence, he’d still make those responsible regret it.

It was time for Red Hood to start hunting once again.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[a-boy-who-likes-boys]

Imagine you and your boyfriend have an argument and you're both feeling angry and frustrated. So you decide to leave each other alone for a few hours to go cool off steam. You feel calmer after you relax and get the tension off your mind. He feels calmer as well after reflecting on his thoughts and he's ready to discuss it further with you. So you two sit down on the coach together to talk about it ❤️‍🩹

[mensahbots]

i am normal about tv mensah and pin-lee's dynamic

[arrayoflightarchives]

Have religion as a queer person is so so difficult

My religion is so so personal to me but the moment I express my faith it immediately feels like I'm being a traitor to my community because I hold that faith - because of what that 'community' has done to MY community

Especially when religion is such a huge part of why my rights are being taken away

Why does it hurt to be who I am as a trans queer person and also as someone who believes in God

[cruorcrave]

Some advice on apologising as someone who was once a MEGA asshole and lost a whole friend group because of it:

It isn't about you. Don't make it about you. If you hurt someone and you want them to know why, you can give a succinct explanation, but don't go on about "I'm having a really hard time" and "I'm a terrible friend" because that quickly veers into guilt-tripping and excuses. That, in turn, becomes them consoling you, when it was meant to be the other way around.

Change makes the apology real. There's more to an apology than just "I'm sorry." Show that you really want to fix your behaviour. Tell them what you're going to do next time so this doesn't happen again. Ask them what they'd like you to do differently. Find a compromise somewhere in the middle. Instead of, "Sorry, I can't help it." try "I'm sorry, what can I do differently?".

Read the room. This can be hard if you struggle with social cues, but if the person is actively backing away, turning away, leaving or telling you to stop, then stop. Do not keep apologising if they're telling you not to. They may have heard enough, they may be holding back anger or tears, and they might just need to cool down. Leave them be rather than being pushy. A pushy apology is uncomfortable, not helpful.

Read yourself. Do you feel like you're going to start shouting at them? Do you feel like this could turn into an argument? Stop. Finish apologising and give yourself and the other person space. An argument might get your anger out, but it will only make the situation worse and make both you and the other person feel like shit. You can be honest about this. You can say, "I'm feeling really annoyed, I need a minute." or "Is it okay if we talk about this later, please? I need to cool down first."

Be patient with yourself and the other person. Everybody makes mistakes. Some are small, some are huge, but everyone makes them. Doing something an asshole would do doesn't make you an asshole. Apology and change proves that you are a good person and are willing to improve for the better. The other person may need time to breathe before they talk to you about the situation. Give them time. You're not evil for having an argument or making a mistake.

They don't have to forgive you. Some things are unforgivable, and this can change from person to person. One person might find something mildly annoying whereas another may see it as a complete no-go for continuing a friendship, relationship, etc. If they don't forgive you, it is okay. You're not an evil person. You just made a mistake. All you can do is all you can not to make the same mistake twice.

You can be sad, or hurt, or angry. But don't take it out on them. If you hurt someone, going to them and airing out your struggles makes them feel as though they have to console you, when this was meant to be about them and their feelings. Complain to your friends, your family, your therapist, your journal etc. but don't bring those grievances into your apology.

I hope this is helpful to someone! Be patient with yourself. 🖤🙏

[rummigumi]

Yes, I have too many WIPs already. Yes, I've also started another Jason/Jazz one-shot from Bruce's POV where Jason gets retrograde amnesia and Jazz (a neurosurgery resident who helps at Dr. Thompkins clinic) is introduced to help

[spacedace]

“I’m hanging up the mask.” He finally said.

It wasn’t quite like the first time he’d said it out loud, in the privacy of his apartment, curled in bed with Jazz. Only brave enough to whisper the words in the dark. There wasn’t that rush of anxiety and relief that had hit him at finally saying what had twisted over and over in his head for weeks. Now there was just that settled feeling, the certainty of it all, the surety of being on the path he wanted to be on.

He closed his hand into a loose fist, fingers rubbing over his palm, imagining he could still feel the warmth of Jazz’s skin beneath his hand. The tiny thump-thump-thump that always made his stomach flip and his heart squeeze when he felt it. It made it all the easier to say, “I wanted to ask if you’d look after my territory for me when I do.”

(Jason asks a fellow Alley Kid for help as he begins the next chapter of his life.)

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Chapter 2 of Gotham Ghosts is up! Jumping ahead to Year 3, featuring Jason & Steph bonding, some Anger Management, and Jason taking a step back from the vigilante/crime lord business! :D

[spocks-kaathyra]

"ur repressed" okay well have u even considered that emotions r purposeless and only serve to cause harm to those around u and I have achieved a unique transcendent state beyond them. have u considered that

[pastorhogg]

Real Friends Tell the Truth

Real Growth Happens When We Don’t VentLife Lessons Learned In a world that prizes charm and charisma, it’s easy to think of friendship as something you win through strategic behavior. Books, workshops, and seminars offer countless techniques to “win friends and influence people”—but often, if we’re honest, that influence is less about care and more about control. Beneath the polite smiles and…

[headmate-ideas]

Peeks in

Creators choice? I love doing creators choice it’s so interesting

I am an adult (20) so you’re welcome to include adult centred things if you would like to

[This template contains adult themes! Minors DNI!]

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✦ Name(s): Yelzdrin, Oro, Johann ✦ Pronouns: he/him, it/its, x/xs/xself, ix/ixs/ixself, li/lir/lirs/lirself, star/stars/starself ✦ Species: Void Incubus ✦ Age: ageless adult ✦ Role(s): kink headmate, relationship manager, spiritual headmate, BPD holder, anger holder, addiction holder, anxiety holder ✦ Labels: agender, pellic, solarian, transmasc, torenamoric, daroric, kenochoric ✦ Xenos: meat, shadows, kink ✦ Interests/likes: slasher movies, coffee, pet care ✦ Dislikes: canceling plans ✦ Music taste: doom metal, industrial metal, prog metal ✦ Aesthetic(s): devilcore, glowcore, horror aesthetic ✦ Objectum attraction(s): knives ✦ Kins: lions, rats, stars ✦ Emoji proxy: ⛓️🐈‍⬛ ✦ Details:

Yelzdrin is a Void Incubus who holds the system's non-sexual kinks, particularly ones that involve interpersonal dynamics (as opposed to kinks that can be fully done on one's own). He is also a holder for the system's spiritual practice of worshipping Bast, Hathor, and Sekhmet from the Egyptian patheon under a view that holds them as aspects of each other. It helps manage the system's relationships, both external and internal. Yelzdrin has BPD, including anger and addiction, and he does not always manage these symptoms well. He also experiences a lot of separation anxiety when the system's DP is away. He has no social inhibitions and is comfortable sharing any information, which is not always a good thing, but it can help the system reach out when they're having trouble meeting new people.

[These can be edited and changed as needed, and headmates will almost definitely not turn out EXACTLY as described.]

[niggadiffusion]

Navigating the Silence: When Your Voice Feels Lost and Your Worth Overlooked

Ever felt like you're shouting into the void, only to be met with indifference or dismissal? You're not alone. The struggle to be heard and respected is woven deeply into the human experience. Whether in relationships, the workplace, or personal reflection, this yearning for validation is universal. When unmet, it can stir emotional turmoil and erode our sense of self-worth.

This exploration aims to offer clarity, support, and actionable strategies to help you cope with these emotions and foster more meaningful connections. The truth is, feeling unheard and disrespected is a shared experience, but with intention and the right tools, positive change is within reach.

The Weight of Being Unheard

At its core, feeling unheard is the painful sense that your thoughts and emotions are overlooked or misunderstood. It’s that invisible barrier that isolates you, even when surrounded by others. This emotional disconnection can range from mild frustration to profound loneliness, often chipping away at self-esteem and trust in others. Over time, these experiences can leave you questioning your own worth.

The Sting of Disrespect

Disrespect, on the other hand, strikes at your inherent dignity. It can be blatant, like an insult, or subtle, like being repeatedly interrupted or dismissed. What defines disrespect varies from person to person, shaped by personal values and cultural backgrounds. Yet, the emotional toll—anger, hurt, shame, or even fear—is universal.

Where the Two Intersect

Often, feeling unheard and disrespected go hand in hand. When your voice is ignored, it’s easy to feel devalued. This dynamic can stem from mismatched communication styles, unmet emotional needs, or power imbalances in relationships. In the workplace, it might manifest as being overlooked for your contributions or having your ideas dismissed.

The Internal Struggle

Sometimes, these feelings are rooted in internal factors. A passive communication style, self-doubt from past experiences, or difficulty expressing emotions can all contribute. These patterns can lead to a cycle of emotional distress and reinforce the belief that your voice doesn’t matter.

The Ripple Effect

In the short term, frustration, anger, and sadness are natural responses. Over time, these emotions can morph into anxiety, self-doubt, and social withdrawal. The chronic stress of feeling unheard and disrespected can even affect physical health and lead to unhealthy coping mechanisms.

Reclaiming Your Voice

Self-Reflection: Identify what being heard means to you. Is it validation, empathy, or uninterrupted listening?

Assertive Communication: Use "I" statements, like "I feel unheard when..." to express your needs without blame.

Active Listening: Show genuine interest in others' perspectives and mirror their words to ensure understanding.

Setting Boundaries: Clearly define what behavior is acceptable and follow through with consequences when boundaries are crossed.

Building Self-Worth: Practice self-compassion, challenge negative self-talk, and celebrate your achievements.

Mindfulness and Emotional Regulation: Use grounding techniques and mindful breathing to manage emotional overwhelm.

Seeking Professional Support: Therapy can help unpack past experiences, develop healthier communication patterns, and build resilience.

The Path Forward

Healing takes time, but every step toward self-awareness and assertiveness strengthens your ability to connect with others and protect your emotional well-being. You deserve to be heard and respected. By prioritizing your voice and valuing your own experience, you can create spaces where your truth resonates—and your presence is truly seen.

[deoidesign]

I have a question, but it may be already have been answered in the story (my brain is just not the best with memory).

Since vampirism symbolises for you chronical illness (which, omg, that is a hot take I've never thought off before and love from now on), does Steve count as chronical ill, too, with the whole halfvampire thing going on? So, would his uncontrollable time jumping each month be a symptom of that chronical illness?

not in the story, no worries! Just a possible interpretation and my personal intent when writing.

As a small aside I personally don't like to think of chronic illness as something that people "count" as, so to speak, it's an extremely personal label and incredibly varied between individuals and as with all disability there is never such thing as hard lines or black and white... but I understand why you worded it that way and I understand what you're asking.

So, yes, Steve is also chronically ill within this framework. The entire comic is sort of shaped around this, to be honest! I mean he canonically has some pretty extreme memory issues... He's also canonically homeless (not that this is an illness but I just mean it's something I think most people forget about him when discussing him). And, yes, his condition is uncontrollable and is severely impacting his ability to live the life he wants to live.

He has just been barely coping up to the point we meet him, and has been very desperate which is what led him to creating that list of deviations. He has periods where his body is out of his control, he is unable to form relationships, he hurts others without meaning or wanting to... Yeah. He's metaphorically relating to a lot of things, really.

So, yknow, you're welcome to interpret him as you'd like! for me I relate a lot with my various issues and conditions and thus that's why I've projected on him the way I have, but of course I would understand entirely different interpretations of what is inherently metaphorical.

[lover-of-mine]

Yes, people, Luke has a point. That's the whole point. Luke's thought process is correct, there needs to be change, but he goes about it wrong and Kronos takes advantage of it. Luke's fatal flaw is wrath. That's what makes him escalate like that. He might have the right idea, but his anger makes it so he's not justified in his actions.

[gurpreetsinghuk]

Why argue in relationships

Arguments are a natural part of any relationship. The absence of arguments is sometimes a bigger cause of concern. When working with couples in relationship counselling, I often find that a couple’s ability to resolve arguments becomes the criteria for predicting their relationship success.

Understanding arguments – why they happen, how they happen and what to do about them can help have healthier arguments and lead to better relationships. Relationship counselling is often helpful in doing this. In this article, I explore why couples argue.

The difference – attraction or irritation

Two people from different backgrounds, different upbringing, perhaps different culture or micro culture, perhaps different gender, and many other differences are bound to clash at some point. It is inevitable.

The difference between the two partners is part of the attraction at the start of the relationship. The introvert likes being in a relationship with the extrovert. The thinker likes being in a relationship with the explorer and so on.

Over time, the attraction is replaced with irritation. The introvert returns to its comfort zone and the extrovert wants to go out more. And they get irritated with each other over the inability of the other person to see the world from their eyes.

Content and Process

The couple don’t know how to separate the content from the process. Relationship counselling is again very helpful in helping the couple see this. Content is the subject of the argument, and process is what the what the argument is really about. For example, the argument may be about who loads the dishwasher, but it is really about the unfairness of the workload one person might feel.

Role of relationship counselling

With not enough objectivity in the relationship, it is difficult to separate content from process. You end up pulling your hair out because you get caught up in the right way to do things and the wrong way to do things. Rather than understanding each other and collaborating on a solution that works for both, the argument gets polarised. Whatever you were arguing about gets lost when you feel unheard and ununderstood. Relationship counselling can bring objectivity to your conversations and help you understand each other.

How I can help you

I can help you with relationship counselling needs for couples and families in my office in Central London and in West London. I also provide relationship counselling online on Zoom, Microsoft Teams, and other mediums.