#aro term

[isobug]

Amorous Aro

An aro-spec individual who desires some form of intimate, long term partnership(s) and/or considers themself to be Amorous in some way.

Amory here is defined as a relationship style that includes intimate, long-term partnerships, or an individual's definition of one. The opposite term is Nonamorous.

Made by combining this Amorous flag with the Aro flag.

Requested by Anon.

( ID: A flag with seven stripes. The second, third, fifth, and sixth stripes are thinner than the others. In order, they are teal, seafoam green, yellow-green, white, mauve, pinkish-tan, and black. /End ID. )

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

[redysetdare]

enough stories about how someone learns to truely be happy through love. i want a story where someone is desperately seeking out love thinking it's the only way to be happy only for them to learn by the end that happiness is what they make of it and they don't need love at all to make it.

[shmaroace]

amatonormativity isn't something that affects only aro people. it affects all people, aspec or not, queer or not. you can be cishetallo and still be affected by amatonormativity because you're told that being single is bad. amatonormativity isn't a new queer buzzword made for a select few people, it's an actual societal assumption that affects everyone.

[archivomeow]

people that use “asexual” to say aromantic or both aromantic AND asexual annoy me.

[arrows-and-ace-thetics]

Reminder that even if your asexuality or aromantism could have a "different source", if these terms help you feel safe and advercate you needs you can still use them!

Maybe you are a "late bloomer" or "too young to know" but maybe the identity means you can explain yourself better, you can find others who feel the same, you can take things at your own pace. That's OK.

Maybe you're on medication, maybe you have some sort of neurodivergence that is affecting things. If these terms help explain your emotions or how you are "lacking" a certain thing, that's OK.

Maybe you're trans and you're not sure how your dysphoria effects it. Identities and feelings are confusing. That's OK.

Cause for every person who realises the terms no longer fit, there's someone who wishes they used the terms earlier. If you have shared experience, if the terms help you define yourself and protect yourself or hell just give a small sense of belonging that's OK.

You're welcome here

[aromantic-diaries]

If you're reading this and you have yet to accept your aro identity, I just wanna let you know that it's okay. Learning that you're aromantic and coming to terms with it can be very difficult for a lot of people and it's okay if you're not happy about it. You're not alone and I promise there's joy outside of romance, whether or not you'll come to embrace aromanticism later on

[aroace-menace]

A friend recently told me that relationship anarchy was a “chronically online” term, and I wonder if any aspecs have had similar experiences. Because yes, a lot of the terminology I use to define myself is from the internet, but a large part of that is because I know so few aspecs irl. It must be easy to scoff at “chronically online” people when half the people you know share your identity. It is so much harder for those of us who’s orientations aren’t talked about or even known about to find spaces to be ourselves. I wish I knew more aspecs outside of tumblr, but I’m also infinitely grateful for the community I have found here, and for everything I have learned. I am proud of what I have done here. So maybe stop using chronically online as an insult.

[our-arospec-experience]

How you may feel towards romance as an arospec person:

Romance-repulsed: People may feel disgusted by thinking of themselves in a romantic situation or by seeing romantic content, such as in a movie.

Romance-averse: A person does not have any desire to enter a romantic relationship.

Romance-indifferent: A person is not against entering a romantic relationship but is not seeking it out. People may want to enter a partnership but have no preference on whether it is romantic or platonic.

Romance-favorable: A person enjoys being in a romantic relationship in specific circumstances.

Aromantic people may identify with one of these terms in the long term or fluctuate between them, or it may depend on the situation. Some Arospecs may not identify with any of these. That is okay, you are valid anyway. :)

(https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/aromantic#what-it-means)

[altschmerzes]

hey aro gang? can we collectively make more of an effort to like. advocate for ourselves and our communities and specific identities in ways that aren’t just. actively and openly hostile to other aros or implying or outright stating that they’re harming us or that they have societal and community support they don’t have? like i get it - im non-sam aro, and i relate heavily to a lot of aroallo experiences and it’s really frustrating and hurtful to feel overlooked or erased or anything else, but like. aroaces are not doing anything wrong by talking about their experiences or relating to posts or posting in the aro tag or anything else and it’s getting to a point where im personally getting really uncomfortable seeing people verging on or outright stating that this is the case or that aroaces are some kind of oppressive community force or responsible for the bad experiences of non-ace aros. can we all just cool it a bit please. it’s frustrating and hurtful to feel like you’re being mistreated specifically for not being someone else but that is not that other person’s fault or their identity group’s fault, nor is it always necessarily true. none of us are doing great out here and society at large does not want aroaces to exist or be talked about any more than any of the rest of us i promise.

[npdghost]

Cluster-B attraction flags

(transabled DNI)

FPattraction - BPD exclusive

An aro/ace (depending on how it is used) label where an individual only or mostly feels (romantic/sexual/etc) attraction towards their favorite person.

ATPattraction - HPD exclusive

An aro/ace (depending on how it is used) label where an individual only or mostly feels (romantic/sexual/etc) attraction towards their attention person.

EPattraction / CHPattraction - NPD exclusive

An aro/ace (depending on how it is used) label where an individual only or mostly feels (romantic/sexual/etc) attraction towards their equal person and/or chosen person.

EXPattraction / PICattraction - ASPD exclusive

An aro/ace (depending on how it is used) label where an individual only or mostly feels (romantic/sexual/etc) attraction towards their exception person and/or partner in crime.

[isobug]

Ambiaffectionate Flag

Ambiaffection is being able to enjoy, want, or have both Monoaffectionate and Polyaffectionate relationships; having affection/ate ambivalence. It is an alternative to Ambiamory that is used most often by aromantics and aro-specs.

Ambiaffectionate relationships are based on tertiary attractions, such as intimate platonic, queerplatonic, and alterous relationships. Ambiaffectionate people can have any orientation, however many are aromantic.

The flag's format is based off of the Polyaffectionate/Polyaffection flag as well as the Monoaffectionate/Monoaffection flag. The colors are inspired by those flags as well as the aromantic flag. The Alpha symbol is taken from the Ambiamory flag(s).

Made by request for Anon

[knifearo]

i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a binary i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as a sliding scale of "less" to "more" i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the only two options i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as significantly different things i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as all encompassing i hate the concept of platonic and romantic as the two halves of a shallow concept of love that doesn't actually encompass anything at all i think we need to overhaul every popular conception about "types" of love so we can talk about things that are real and true for once

[rottmnt-residuum]

Any other LGBTQ+ Headcannons that are canon is the comic??;)

*patiently awaits Cupioromantic Donnie*

hmm... had to think about this for a while and talk about it with co-author, but here's what we got. we mostly base this stuff on how plausible it is in show/if there's evidence for it. with a dash of personal experience. This only applies to residuum, btw. I have different personal headcanons for these characters outside the comic.

april: lesbian. this is mostly based off of the fact that most aprils get with their caseys & the comment she said to dale. which could be taken as disinterest in dale specifically, but she seemed more concerned with impressing that popular girl earlier and that reads as more... saphic, i suppose. or at the very least homoromantic.

raph: raph is just raph. we look at him and basically just *tv static*. go crazy. all we got is jokes or stuff that has too little evidence to support. so, yeah, he's whatever you want him to be i guess?

leo: trans. already said my reason in the other post. also, gay. if gay were a power source he could power the entirety of the united states for five months straight without a single power outage. failing power grid notwithstanding (< thats the actual word. its supposed to be mushed together like that. wack.).

donnie: as much as i'd like him to be ace/aro spectrum rep, he just doesn't have the evidence in show for us to apply it to him in this comic. it's funny, for being hc as ace so often he sure is the most outwardly romantic/sexual turtle in the show lmao. one! cherry: "you're so cute, but you're so mean! why do i always go for your type?" two! astrogirl?? (whatever her name is) he is very very romantic with her. he has a type y'all. also just look at those two, he's a leg man lmao (bootyyshaker9000 anyone? ha!) anyway. and with the bromance/instant chemistry he had with that one guy in the purple dragons... Pan. or possibly Omni as he does seem to favor... cute brutal femme... Yeah. Omnisexual.

(you have no idea how fucking bad i want this boy to be ace spectrum. hes got the colors y'all!! The Colors!!!!! but alas... i am bound by my canon plausibility creed for this comic)

mikey: ace. possibly ace/aro. he shows interest in literally no-one. we're aware that the common hc is pan but... we know a pan 13 year old, and let me tell you ahahahaha, kids going through puberty are very uncomfortable to be around sometimes, especially around their partners. or crushes. and mikey... well, that boy is ace behavior personified lmao. aces in the back you get what we mean right?? right??? anyway commiting to aroace

[shmaroace]

the broadness of the terms aromantic and asexual is great because they can literally mean whatever they want to mean for you it's so unrestrictive.

[might-as-well-happen]

Isaac’s storyline in Heartstopper season 2 is so important to me. We’re going to have all these teens seeing themself on screen, seeing the struggles of “what even is attraction anyway and how does it feel?” Seeing the moment when you’re coming across the terms Aromantic and Asexual and finding a part of you that you never understood or wanted to understand come to light. And it feels so much better than you’d have ever imagined. Having to tell a good friend that you’re not interested, and having to hear a platitude that doesn’t actually comfort you. “You’ll find someone, you’ll feel it eventually”, knowing that it probably will not apply to you, but if it does what does that make you? A liar, a late bloomer, indecisive? (Don’t worry it doesn’t - labels can change and feelings can too, identifying with one label at one point and a different label at another is totally fine!).

Finally realizing that you’re ace/aro, and being so so so happy about it. Knowing you’re not alone or weird or wrong, but you’re just you and that’s perfect.

Teens will be able to see that, and see themselves in Isaac’s storyline! It’s so awesome that we have that, and done in such an amazing way too, it makes me so happy.