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goldticket · 9 months

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please have you seen the movie yet i'm going insane and keep going back but also helpppp. if you've talked about it on another blog of yours i'll take that but i'm losing my mind reading reviews of people who don't seem to know even a spec of wonka lore

oh, my dear comrade... for you... i will endure it. i'll try to go see it christmas weekend.

#it looks Awful. based off aesthetics alone (gleaned from the trailer) i hate how they've let the whimsy of wonka himself leak out into the #atmosphere like a hole in an astronaut's suit.#like dressing every character (even the background ones) in fancy colorful slightly eccentric clothes #with no purpose beyond 'doesn't this look fun'.#the trailer and world feels so ungrounded. i love how the 71' characters--while exaggerated caricatures of certain attributes--appear and #feel real and lived in.#everything in this wonka movie looks like it was wrapped in new vibrant clothes like cheap presents or veneers.#i don't want veneers! i want braces! the charm of utility!#it looks so much like it's trying to replicate the feel of the show a series of unfortunate events.#but that is not the point or ambiance of wonka and his movie at all.#it's like they watched asout and then mary poppins and thought 'i can do that'#but don't get me wrong--i WILL have fun watching it. for better or worse.

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scramratz · 3 months

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My hottest take (and I genuinely do believe this) is that most trans women pass perfectly well. They just don't pass as supermodels. Every "nonpassing" trans woman I've ever met looks like your average midwestern cis woman.

#i hope that makes sense #i think most women cis or trans feel like that #that they have to live up to this ideal beauty standard or theyre not “real women”

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cthulhum · 2 months

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i lied theres no sex. were gonna sit down and watch supernatural while we analyze the way almost every character is queer coded especially dean

#supernatural #dean winchester #spn #destiel #castiel #deancas #sam winchester #theyre all queer because i said so #at this point it feels so wrong to call deans queerness a headcanon like it so soo heavily implied its literally canon #sam however......#and if i said a character who has always felt like they dont belong and something is inherently wrong with them is heavy queercoding......#like wow thats Queer Experience literally #ALSO U KNOW WHAT IM SOOOOOO UPSET ABOUT OMG #like i LOVE LOVE LOVE when in dean and cas live together and claire and kaia come over and hang out im gonna cryyyyy #and they sooo shouldve done that in the show #anyway a queer show (real) for queer people (debatable)

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giantkillerjack · 1 year

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Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need.#the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist.#the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28!#a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents.#they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong.#and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives.#you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead?#or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of.#no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow.#i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong.#just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

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stuckinapril · 9 months

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friend wanted to see my tumblr, and when i told him i can’t show it to him bc it’s basically my personal diary he went “oh so I can’t see it but a bunch of strangers on tumblr can??” he literally does not get me. no one will get me like the people in my phone get me

#It’s just so different #even though it’s public it still feels secret and safe. i feel comfy sharing a lot more on here than I do in my actual day to day life lol #in my head I’m also just speaking to myself 90% of the time which helps #if a friend off tumblr saw my thoughts I’d feel so weird ab it #esp bc they might get the vagueposting about certain situations and tell mutual friends #no thank u. this is for me. I’m not about to start censoring my thoughts bc someone I know knows my tumblr #u guys literally saw me have LIVE BREAKDOWNS #meanwhile I’ll have the worst fucking day in history and tell no one about it. I’m already cripplingly private but way more so in real life #this is basically a low stress journaling outlet for me. it’s so important for me to maintain the separation #like this is actually my diary & has been so handy for letting out emotions / articulating thoughts / staying on track !!#& I’ve met so many kind people on here who actually get me. which is so hard to find irl bc I’m surrounded by pre-med gunners/overachievers #who are by standard not very good w emotion & can be competitive/judgmental. or at least it’s hard for me to be vulnerable in front of them #and I’m part of that crowd so I reserve my emotions only to a handful of very close friends #it’s nice to hop on here and express negative emotions!! or positive emotions!! just whatever I want and it’s low stress and people get me #I don’t have to worry about judgment or competitiveness etc etc #like everyone on here is so kind & nice & understanding. & just a breath of fresh air from the types I run w. it’s just nice to have this #so idk that’s why I think I’ll always be strict about keeping the worlds separate. it just works #p

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hinamie · 26 days

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playing around w slightly different hair renders

#my art #jujutsu kaisen #jjk #jjk fanart #jujutsu kaisen fanart #jjk art #yuji itadori #megumi fushiguro #itafushi #fushiita #yuuji #megumi #cries megumi fought tooth n nail..... i refused 2 flip the canvas tho >:(#i vastly prefer drawing him facing right bc fr some reason it makes his hair look better silhouette-wise #so having him face left is alr a Challenge #but also having him slightly look down (difficult angle + changes the silhouette) had me bashing my head in2 th TABLE #same thing happened earlier this month w gardening megu middle pose . i did not learn my lesson #but even worse w this one yuuji's head is blocking th main pointy part tht basically carries the entirety of the shape language #u can imagine my distress i am sure #anyway th render made me a lot happier with it thank god. colours hard carry bless <3333 #i didn't plan on making it a full sheet but i needed 2 remind myself that im good at drawing megumi #so i threw in solos of each of them n tried slightly different render flavours #idk how Different all of them look visually but th process fr each ws Very different so i am satisfied #fight aside this ws useful i think! got 2 break out some Clunkier chalks n dust off a few of my smoother blended brushes #think i picked up some things i can keep also !! which ws. u kno. the Goal #tbh every time i do art studies i feel like i am kirby #one time i got called an art ditto by one of my fav artist mutuals when i did a style challenge #SUCH high praise from her it lives in my mind i take it out on days when i feel like trash #it doesnt Sound good when u say u r good at copying but real talk it is such a good skill i am very happy 2 have it in my arsenal

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rileykeouhg · 11 months

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MATTHEW PERRY as CHANDLER BING FRIENDS (1994–2004) ∞ The One Where We Say Goodbye, Matthew Perry 💔

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messrsbyler · 1 year

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you. yes you, person with rejection sensitive dysphoria. this message is for you. your friends DON'T hate you. they aren't mad at you. they aren't talking behind your back or wished to cut their friendship with you. they love you and treasure you and they are good people who wouldn't hurt you like that! ok, that's all. have a nice day.

#this is for everyone with RSD... except for me #my friends do hate me and do think i'm a burden in their lives and they do wish they had a way to let me know they don't wanna be friends #anymore but they feel pity so they never do #... this is a joke that turned too real and too dark too soon #it'll get better #anyhow this message will self destruct in-#i'm all over the place my brain is being mean to me i'll go to bed ugh #nic posts #and drowns in self pity for NO REASON #i'm going to kick my brain's butt #ok ok bye #rejection sensitive dysphoria #rsd is a bitch #rsd things

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umblrspectrum · 5 months

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being grounded from devices means nothing when you have a robot boyfriend

#i think im getting better with different angles #its obviously not perfect but this is like 1 of 3 times i've ever drawn a character at this angle #n was unreasonably hard to get right here but uhmm i figured it out hopefully #she IS winning. gamer pro #real talk. n would be cracked at fps games. he's been living like one for at least a couple years #he also sits in the tism way. it just feels right i think #dont ask how uzi's playing on that controller she doesnt know either #art #murder drones #murder drones uzi #murder drones n #serial designation n

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thresholdbb · 8 months

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The present, the past, they're both in the future! The future is in the past!

#every day is threshold day #threshold day #I'm not actually sorry #I live in a warp 10 void today #RIP my notifications #already feeling very popular #my time zone is still 25 minutes away but we doing it whatever #TIME ISNT REAL #the word is starting to lose all meaning #thank you to the original Star Trek meme #please enjoy my terrible speed meme

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tunapesto · 10 months

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so when I die which I must do,

could it shine down here with you?

#genshin impact #furina #focalors #my love is mine all mine....#hhuhuhuhu i just realized how well that song fits furina-focalors as characters and their story #a love for humanity so strong that as a god youd fracture and sacrifice your divine self to live out #the true limits and capabilities of humanity. to feel and love and all there is to know #art #the caption is focalors curse BTW (real information)

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poorly-drawn-mdzs · 7 months

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Sorry for not having a Year of the Dragon MDZS artwork; Unfortunately, I can only picture Dragon LWJ in this particular flavour.

#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan wangji #wei wuxian #Dragon AU #MDZS AU #noodleji #(IT'S A REAL TAG!!! AAH!!! THROWING MY HAT TO THE LITTLE GUY LOVERS!)#Yes I watched Fruits Basket in my teen years and yes it left a significant impression on me.#'The Dragon Transforms' and its just into a small little guy.#Even more points if the human form is a Tall Guy.#Sadly this does not appear to be a common nor popular variation so I will sit on my little hill alone. (EDIT: I WAS WRONG)#Dragon LWJ probably would be some kind of river dragon. Lesser god of a small stream.#One that grows bigger with time but always has the reputation of being benevolent and calm to those who seek its clear waters.#Do not pollute these waters or your ass is going to be bit. 1000 tiny puncture marks.#I imagine that's probably how wwx first meets him (accidently pours booze into lwj's river) (gets bit - gets bit - gets bit-)#WWX eventually befriends him through stubbornly showing up every week to give him offerings.#Takes him into town in a little pot of water to show him how the people live. Maybe go to a festival.#When the day is done and he's back in his river and alone - LWJ finally feels a new emotion...it is longing and loneliness.

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hyunjining · 23 days

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so han’s song. that features rainbow confetti as part of the performance. is called “hold my hand”. and when it’s over he holds lee know’s hand. which marks the transition into lee know’s song. and i’m supposed to be sane about that. ok.

#what goes AWN in minsung land #semi related but every time i remember that they live together now i feel like i’m living in a fanfic #like how is that real #minsung #skz

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mossy-aro · 6 days

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tbh as much as i do think it is worthwhile to discuss the topic of shipping aromantic/asexual characters and the nuances of it all (as well as the general attitude allos have towards aspecs in fandom spaces). it also makes me sigh equally because like... what characters. i'll be real guys we don't even have characters to discourse over. literally there are like 3 ever and none of those have fandoms anyway and the ones which do are like 'it was confirmed on twitter in a nebulously worded post by the creator'. its so bad out here

#aromantic #asexual #re my prev post #i pray 4 the day that i can discourse over aro character shipping without it all feeling a bit pointless because its not even confirmed to #be Real. whatever #aroace #aspec #honestly i totally get why its natural to feel so protective of those half confirmed aspec characters though. because we literally get #so little that anything has to be a Win. but we should not be living like this... we deserve better... guys...#mossy posts

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jazforthesoul · 3 months

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every time someone reduces CAPTAIN !!! elizabeth "lizzie" lafayette down to "a sad lesbian" a fairy dies bc i shoot it with my gun. like you're telling me you were spoon-fed a character that has one of the most realistic and RAW representations of grief and perseverance in the series and all you got from that was "she's sad" ????

is she a constantly happy character? Fuck no! that's acknowledged!! but to take EVERYTHING that she is, which has positive and negative aspects THAT ARE BOTH SHOWN, to take the fact that she is THE DRIVING FORCE OF THE MAIN BACKGROUND PLOT, and reduce her down to NOTHING but her relationships?? ?what the hell!!!

#saw someone say that lizzie was the most important npc and i cheered and then they tagged on 'bc riptide is abt sad lesbians'#like ok are we ignoring that it's ACTUALLY about living despite everything? are we ignoring that she's fighting an oppressive gvmt?#her sole motivation is NOT ava dude. RAFT is KILLING HER FRIENDS AND HER FAMILY #like you can acknowledge her relationships w ppl. in fact i ENCOURAGE you to do that #because she loves people DEEPLY even though its rare. and that alone says smthn about her.#but she's not waxing poetic about how much she misses ava. id say she's actively ignoring it #my girl is unstable as shit #idk as 1. a lesbian and 2. a person who feels grief intensely #i just. hate how she's reduced to nothing but person b in a ship #BC THE MFS THAT DO THIS HAVE A DEEPER ANALYSIS OF AVA THAN LIZZIE. DAWG AVA AINT EVEN REAL. SHES BEEN DEAD SINCE BEFORE EP 1 #sigh. lizzie i love you so much.#jrwi riptide #jrwi #captain lizzie #elizabeth lafayette

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diezmil10000 · 4 months

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my body is a machine that turns blank canvases into kanadiamari fanart

#kanadiamari #kanan matsuura #dia kurosawa #mari ohara #love live sunshine #love live! sunshine!!#my art #sometimes you have to draw your favorite blorbos kissing in a white background with no story to tell and zero visual complexity #and by sometimes i mean once every few months because if i don't do it no one's going to draw my favorite ship from a 2016 anime #aqours 9th anniversary is approaching and i feel dizzy #time isn't real

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