#flag server

[vampie-puppiez]

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_ _ Grave Pride Palace ~~ ~~ Flag / Deco Server

_ _ ``🫀`` #semi-soc . #flags . #anti-endo . #progoodfaith . #promogai

-# _ _ take a step into the palace and take a deep breathe , welcome in

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[hirodraga]

"You need a guardian, choose one."

[soup-mother]

one of my discord experiences of all time was joining a "leftist" discord server where the pride flag emojis were really weirdly saturated and harsh on the eyes (particularly the trans one), i politely suggested they might want to change them slightly, and then got accused of being a fascist and "of course you're going after the trans flag specifically" by someone who asked my pronouns "so i can dunk on you".

obviously I was like "I'm literally a trans woman? I'd like to be able to use my own pride flag with hurting my eyes???" and they were like "ah..." and then left the server. I didn't stick around but that's probably my favourite experience I've ever had in a discord server, at no point was "hey this is kinda inaccessible" taken as anything other than a planned attack by fascists. they didn't even ask if i was trans lol.

[catcomixzstudios]

I can barely begin to express how much the course of my life has been altered because of a 40 minute highlight video done by @jelloapocalypse and friends riffing over a 20 year old sky pirate game.

I made an off-handed comment after watching it together with two of my longtime friends, about how much I wish I had what Vyrsa had, and one of those friends STRAIGHT-UP TELLS ME that her and her wife have been crushing on me for a while.

The feeling was mutual, though I'd been of course hesitant to even hint at it.

Anyway now a few months later, we're a thruple, and we decided to honor the genesis of our relationship by cosplaying as the trio that made it a reality for my 30th birthday!

PinkCatNinja, me (CatComixzStudios), and ArtieStokes as Aika, Vyce Vyrsa, and Fina respectively, from SKIES OF ARCADIA!

And as a bonus, a comment I left on the video before my egg would crack completely (was still IDing as genderfluid at the time)

[borreall]

academy era jayvik stainglass ✨ (i started this while the new pope was being chosen and I didn't know until I finished the sketch)

[arcanegifs]

LMFAO the appeal got denied 😂😂😂 guess the lesbians are fr censored here. I think it’s really just that one scene though lol.

[cruciffucked]

PUPPY ATTRACTION: A SECONDARY ATTRACTION LABEL FOR PEOPLE WHOSE CONNECTION TO CANINES (TYPICALLY DOMESTIC DOGS) IMPACTS THEIR RELATIONSHIPS AS A WHOLE INSTEAD OF BEING AN ISOLATED PART OF THEM.

SELF-INDULGENT :-)

[lucinfernos]

request of izzy in a virgin killer xoxo

[pride-stars]

Discordgenic : a system origin in which a system formed due to being in a system oriented Discord server, a friend group of systems on Discord, or even just being surrounded by systems on Discord.

[musashi]

HELLO?!?!?!?!?!??

[parasocialcelebritycrush]

Hey y'all!!

I'm trying to create a poolverine/peanutbub server (18+), because I guess someone's got to do it, but I sorely lack the skills for it (<- very technologically illiterate for someone my age) and I guess here I am trying to outsource some help!

If anyone could help with things like custom selectable roles, bots, channel restrictions, mod permissions or whatever more is necessary via suggestion, or just has in general experience setting up servers, I'd be so appreciative! You'll earn automatic mini mod status for compensation! Love for a community collab on this, all I ask that you're not a weirdo, and in fact a sort of well adjusted adult human being (aka no creeps)! Dms are open! And if any moots would like to contribute that's always welcomed as well! (Discord given upon request)

(Honestly I'm not sure if this is even going to be a hit, I can hope, but a bit worried this will not pick up the way I'd wish, please reblog/like, maybe even add some tags (of encouragement or otherwise), if this is something anyone would like to see. Here's to hoping and praying 🤞)

(peanutbub ship name credit to @/r00tten,)

[bloomshroomz]

Aromantic*

(Alternate Title: Schrödinger’s Romantic)

I keep wondering if “aromantic” is really a good word to describe my romantic orientation. I have plenty of reasons for why it is, but also plenty of reasons for why it might not be. Schrödinger’s romantic.

In order to know whether you experience romantic attraction or not, you first have to have a solid definition of what romantic attraction is. A definition which is clear, and also distinct from other forms of emotional attraction. I don’t think such a definition exists, or at least, it’s not commonplace.

“Romantic attraction: attraction that makes people desire romantic contact or interaction with another person or persons.” - UNC Chapel Hill LGBT Center

But what is romantic contact or interaction? Is it contact which is culturally considered romantic? In that case, the ways in which romantic attraction is defined would vary by culture, and even by gender. Or is it contact which one intends to be romantic? That would make sense, but is incredibly subjective. How do you know where to draw the line? What if you haven’t drawn one?

“[Romantic attraction] involves a combination of physical, sexual, and emotional feelings toward someone.” - WebMD

This definition is ridiculously vague, especially for a page which defines multiple other types of attraction in relation to romance. What physical feelings? What sexual feelings? What emotional feelings? What about alloromantic asexual people, or other varioriented people, who don’t necessarily experience sexual feelings as part of their romantic feelings?

But the article also defines aromanticism as “when you don’t have any desire for a romantic relationship,” so I can’t count on it for accuracy regardless.

“Romantic attraction is the internal pull that you experience when you are with someone with whom you internally feel connected, comfortable and interested in spending more of your life with.” - Choosing Therapy

Do people not feel connected to their friends? Do people not feel comfortable with their friends? Are people not interested in spending more of their life with their friends? Why else would people find time to connect with their friends, to confide in them, to engage with them? What about these feelings is distinctly romantic?

The article goes on to say this:

“Romantic relationships are relationships intentionally initiated and maintained for experiencing sexual and romantic feelings together, whereas platonic relationships are usually centered on another purpose like hobbies, friendship, support, work, etc. Romantic relationships can also include these purposes as well, but the platonic relationship excludes the romance and sexual feelings.” - Choosing Therapy

I ask again, what about alloaces and other varioriented people? What about people who have sex with their friends? Even when it’s taboo, it’s not unheard of. The distinction can’t be sex, so it has to be romance. So, what is romance?

Later in the article, it defines romance once again:

“Romantic attraction: The internal pull that draws your attention to the other person’s positive qualities, and your internal reaction to connect, love, share and spend time with them to have more romance.” - Choosing Therapy

I feel like I’m running in circles here. People draw their attention to the positive qualities of not just romantic interests, but to friends, family, and other people with whom they’d have no romantic interest. Connection, love, and spent time are not exclusive to romance either. If the goal is to have more romance… What is that?

Every answer I find fails to say what romance is on its own. The definitions always rely on presence or absence of sex, or other things which can just as easily be present in platonic or otherwise non-romantic contexts. Romantic attraction is consistently defined by things which are not distinctly romantic.

Is it even a real thing? I mean, I feel like it’s clearly not, but it’s also clearly very real to most people. Most people don’t think about it this hard. It’s like they were given a manual that I can never possess. It comes naturally to them. They feel romantic attraction, and they know, intuitively, that that’s what it is.

Is my lack of intuition evidence that I don’t experience romantic attraction, or am I just autistic? Maybe it’s both. When I described to my aunts my emotional attraction, they described my way of experiencing and perceiving attraction as very “intellectual,” which I initially rejected. But I think they were right. I lack the intuition to understand my feelings in any way that doesn’t involve a literal or metaphorical chart. It’s something I can’t just feel and then know like other people do.

Is romantic attraction always a “you’ll know it when you feel it” sort of thing? It seems like it. Even when I search “romantic attraction” on Google, many results either come from queer Fandom Wiki pages, discussions amongst a-spec people, Reddit, or Quora. Some results aren’t even relevant to the question, including multiple results which just describe what “aromantic” means. The opposite of what I intended to search for.

The thing is, I do have feelings which would likely be perceived as romantic to most people. I have a deep desire for commitment and companionship. To touch and be touched. To love and be loved. To be emotionally and physically intimate with other people. To feel the warmth of other people as we lay in bed together. To live out our mundane lives together. Things that most people would find incredibly romantic.

But are these things romantic if I don’t explicitly intend for them to be? Is it romantic for me to be open to it being romantic, without actively wanting that?

When I’ve described my feelings online, I’ve gotten mixed responses from other people, but I’ve generally been given similar advice from different strangers, and similar labels thrown at me, even when I hadn’t asked for advice or labels.

“I think you’d enjoy a queerplatonic relationship.”

“You might be cupioromantic.”

“You might be bellusromantic.”

And I can understand where they’re coming from. I don’t think they’re entirely wrong, either. I would enjoy a queerplatonic relationship… But not for any reason that wouldn’t apply to other committed relationship types. Queerplatonic relationships, platonic relationships, romantic relationships, and whatever else there is are the same to me in all but label.

Cupioromanticism is something I have considered. I made the flag for it when I was 15 years old as well (yes, the peach one with five stripes; I always asked to be credited anonymously), so I’m biased towards liking the flag. But the definition is “being aromantic, and also wanting a romantic relationship.”

I don’t specifically want a romantic relationship, but I do want committed relationships in general, and romantic relationships are included in that. So, maybe?

Bellusromantic is something I have also considered, and it also has a pretty flag. But I think it’s less accurate than cupioromantic. The definition is “being aromantic, and enjoying traditionally romantic things, but not wanting a romantic relationship (or not wanting a committed relationship, depending on the definition used).”

I do enjoy traditionally romantic things in a way which is not explicitly romantic, and I don’t explicitly want a romantic relationship. But I’m not opposed to romantic relationships, and I do explicitly want committed relationships.

I took some aro-spec tests, and my results had a tendency to skew towards cupioromantic, bellusromantic, and quoiromantic. Quoiromantic is another orientation which I have considered, and it might be the most accurate.

Quoiromantic is also aptly known as “whatromantic” or “WTFromantic” because the defining trait is that romantic attraction as a concept doesn’t make sense to you.

“[Quoiromantic], also known as [whatromantic] or [WTFromantic], is a [romantic] orientation defined by confusion, vagueness, and/or obscurity. A [quoiromantic] person may not understand or relate to the concepts of [romantic] attraction and/or [romantic] orientation. [Quoiromanticism] may involve confusion related to what [romance] is, whether or not one experiences [romantic attraction], and how to differentiate it from other forms of attraction. [Quoiromanticism] can also feel blurry and unclear, and may center around general confusion around one's identity and attraction. It can also refer to a lack of identification with [romantic] orientation as a concept, and can additionally serve as a label for people who cannot fit into more specific identities. [Quoiromanticism] can also refer to when one does not experience [romantic] attraction in a "traditional" manner. It is sometimes used as a catch-all term for people who know they're somewhere on the [aromantic] spectrum, but aren't sure where.” - An LGBTQIA+ Wiki (originally about quoisexuality; I changed some words.)

In a similar vein, pomoromantic (“pomo” being literally taken from “postmodern”) would also fit. My romantic orientation exists from a post-romantic perspective, where romance is understood to be made up bogus which isn’t actually fundamentally different from any other form of emotional connection.

“[Pomoromanticism] is defined as refusing, avoiding, or not fitting any [romantic] orientation label in terms of conventional labels or classifications, such as gay, lesbian, [biromantic], or [aromantic]. It challenges categorizations in favor of largely unmapped possibility and the intense charge that comes with transgression. Some [pomoromantic] people may be queer or questioning, and others may not be.” - Another LGBTQIA+ Wiki (originally about pomosexuality; I changed some words.)

But at that point, is it even worth labeling my romantic orientation? Should I just be bisexual/omnisexual? Maybe with a little asterisk at the end? Does any of this matter? Am I thinking too much? (I am.)

I think that continuing to identify as aromantic will probably close me off to potential relationships. I feel like the word gives people the wrong idea. At the same time, the way that I think about romance is fundamentally different than the way other people tend to, and I do consider my aromanticism to be a notable part of who I am and how I experience the world. Maybe I should just send this to whoever ends up being a potential partner. Probably more useful than any label.

[solargeist]

solar i’m so sorry but i keep thinking the pink in grians wings is red and hes just really patriotic…. america……..

[hongluboobs]

Ishmael icon I made for my discord server mimicking prerelease art we have for some of the sinners :) I wanted to get a new icon on there to celebrate canto 5 but completely forgot to share it here😭

[stiffyck]

Dropping these and running

[pilledfish]

hey you ! yes, you !

are you interested in a casual hangout server?

do you like xenogenders and mogai talk?

are you otherkin, fictionkin, or otherwise alterhuman?

then check out...

nightcare station !

nightcare station is a 13+ hangout spot for creatives and the lgbtqia/mogai/liom community!

we have :

- verification system

- auto roles

- art channels

- discussion channels

- and more !

nightcare station is anti-proship, anti-radqueer, but pro good faith identity and endogenic systems. please do not join if you are against any of these things!

join us now! https://discord.gg/ZVAGWadQYY

tags ;;

@pwusheen

@dykewolf-yapping

@khaenriahplurals