#ftm issues

[st-dionysus]

would you feel comfortable giving an overview of what’s in your book? i wasn’t sure if there were rules around what you can and can’t disclose before it’s published. looking forward to reading it!

My original definition of transandrophobia.

How transandrophobia was coined and why I chose transgender+androphobia as the root words and the Etymology of the word.

Why transandrophobia exists (As in the reasoning people have for participating in it and how it has developed over history)

Why transandrophobia occurs in queer and trans spaces, and how it occurs in cisgender spaces.

How transandrophobia affects the material reality of trans men through both a Marxist and Anarchist lens.

How transandrophobia effects the mental and physical health of trans men.

Discussing the way transandrophobia is used by politicians and law-makers to create anti-trans laws, the way that the transmasculine body is demonized by the public

Combating transandrophobia through activism, organization, and medias.

[mrdeniability]

I’m doing this instead of my morning sudoku so sorry if I’m disorganized, but I think the problem about transfem jokes about transmascs isn’t in the words, but in the context of transmasc invisibility. Like, a few months ago I got sent a screenshot of what I think is the first “Fake an FTM detransition” joke by a transfem, typed out on 4chan and sent to a groupchat by a friend known for shock humor. It wasn’t in the “greater trans community”, it was another absurdist story from the people you didn’t take seriously until something went wrong.

Then, people started putting the story into more normal language and onto twitter or other sites where the takes aren’t the same baseline of absolutely unhinged, and now the joke is supported by transfem hypervisibility and transmasc invisibility. Now, boiled down, it’s another story about a transfem speaking for transmascs.

Same with the “let’s swap bodies” joke- A trans woman I know and I have said kind of similar jokes to each other, but what’s funny in a makeshift changing room isn’t funny from a Reddit stranger. But I noticed someone saying that these are categorically bad jokes, and while that’s regular internet puritanism to me I think it merits my take on the issue.

A joke can be harmful and triggering if it reaches the wrong audience, and sometimes the wrong audience is the general public. Still, breaking down why these jokes are transandrophobic is only useful as an theorizing example. The people making bodyswap jokes aren’t consciously upholding transandrophobia, they’re newly out trans women on Twitter or Reddit or fucking 4chan that haven’t figured out internet literacy and might have lacking social skills, and the message that needs to be spread is “this joke isn’t appropriate to say to internet strangers.”

[chronically-jinx]

okay so basically people who get periods regularly are actually champions because I got mine for the first time in a year (transmasc) and like. you would've thought the world was ending the last two weeks.

and then

today

it was just like "oops you got your period" as if I didn't nearly burn everything in my life to the ground because i was unexplainable sick and angry

[transassdemon]

[My art, don't steal, tag if reposting]

[bullreigns]

Why do like 90% of the tank tops I buy become see-through in the wash? Like I wear them once and then the next time my tits are breasting boobily through the fabric.

[genderqueerdykes]

now more than ever it's blatantly obvious that people go out of their way to erase trans men from communities and queer history. it's always been happening, but it's way easier to watch it in real time now thanks to the internet and social media. we are watching people basically gloating that they misgender trans men and don't see them as men. we are now watching people kick trans men out of queer spaces because they are often "femme and them" or "nonbinary and woman" support groups, conflating nonbinary identities with womanhood, and denying trans men or transmasc nonbinary people places to go. many of them get told that their presence would "scare" the lesbians, women and enbies because they have trauma.

where do the trans men with trauma go, though? we can't go anywhere. when i was struggling with domestic violence that ended up destroying my right leg, i was denied shelter in queer spaces and even women's spaces even though i have F on license. domestic violence shelters especially will turn trans men away if we pass. even if we partially identify as women, we can't go in because 'our voices are deep and scary and we're loud and aggressive and threatening and might prey on the defenseless scared women'

finding transmasc support groups is like trying to find a needle in a haystack. i've seen numerous organizations across the US have transfemme support groups, nonbinary/genderqueer support groups, and then nothing for transmascs. where the hell do we go when they won't let us go anywhere?

we try to exist online and they try to erase us from here, too. bickering and arguing about how we're not real men, sending trans men death and sexual assault threats, acting like they're saviors for kicking out the "dangerous ugly men" from the queer community, as if we don't belong to it at all.

i refuse to be erased. i refuse to sit in silence while people tell me my problems don't matter because now i "have male privilege". I don't. once people find out what my legal name is they view me as a woman. strangers however view me as a cis man and will deny me help, either through programs, or because i'm a "strong young man, i should be able to pick myself up by my boot straps." i'm not white. i'm not abled.

i'm proud to be a trans man and i will be here to fight for other trans men's rights to have a platform to speak, and spaces to occupy. i will not rest until trans men & mascs have safe places to be and meet other trans men.

trans men are queer. we belong here. we are taking up the space we rightfully deserve and we are not leaving.

[r3lapsing-joy456]

[thund3randrain]

"I respect you and won't stop you from being who you are" and "I'm not ready to call you by a new name and pronouns because it hurts me" can not co-exist when the speaker is your parent who has a huge amount of control over your life.

[jtkys]

Biggest fuckin shoutout to trans people who found out they were trans and then sat in their room listening to cavetown/the village and watching videos on how to pass while crying from dysphoria y’all r the realest (it’s me I’m trans people)

[insignificantfailure]

We need to talk about gender options when filling some forms!

Because why can we only choose between binary genders and "I don't want to talk about it"?

I DO want to talk about it. A lot of us DO want to disclose it, even if it's different from the cis female and male. It's not that we do not want to share it, and it's already messed up that most forms don't even offer a third choice, but if they do offer one, at least it could say "Other".

[tolympiabeanie]

Do you think i look good in blonde?🤭🥰

Reblog if you think i look good and if you love trans😍🥰

Answers in my dm🤭

[m3l4nch0ly-h1ll]

Least dismissive and passive aggressive attitude someone in the queer community has towards trans men and transmascs. Why is it that the trans community likes to have the oppression olympics to invalidate each other's experiences and set each other apart?? Plenty of trans men aren't anywear near as passing and respected and privileged as this person thinks they are. Putting on a binder doesn't make you pass suddenly. Anger quite frequently makes people irrational and makes them say stupid shit like this person here. Meet trans guys. Stop going against your own community and making narrow and inaccurate statements. We're all queers being oppressed at the end of time and yet you ignore that fact to throw yourself a pity party and shun the oppression of one side.

[cherry-brewed-tea]

I will never be that one masculine boy and I'll never have a relationship with a boy that will see me as a real boy and I'll never have that teenage boy teenagehood

I will never be that one feminine girl either. And I can't be a feminine trans boy either bc that "just makes me a girl"

I can't be something in between because no gay boy will like me when I wanna be feminine and no straight boy will like me when I wanna be masculine

[genderqueerdykes]

you're not getting revenge on or rebelling against the patriarchy by holding trans men down, belittling us, treating us like we're demons, and not letting us speak. you're being transphobic and harming queer people. youre targeting the wrong kind of men. trans men are not the men who are oppressing you. trans men are also affected negatively by the cisgender patriarchy we live under. remember this.

[uncanny-tranny]

Social transition being seen (by some) as this super easy thing that isn't as hard as real transitioning (medical) is bullshit. Be critical of the idea that there are some trans people who just "have it easy" because they are trans or because they are trans in ways you may not be.

Social transition is just as difficult, hard, and rewarding as medical transition. Maybe it is not as hard for some, sure, but that is not the same as thinking that social transition is inherently easier or lesser. If you're socially transitioning, your voice still matters.

[distant--shadow]

non fanart post over on pillowfort