#gender talk...

[sapphire-heart-tippy]

So... I had recently read one of my old diaries from when I was a kid...

Something interesting. I saw there was an entry where I said I wished I was a [old word to describe intersex]. I had discovered what that was and always felt that something was missing from me.

I wish so badly I would've known I was trans sooner, I say that a lot, but it's true. I find myself thinking that same thought I had when I was 11, wanting to have both sets of genitals. I'm trans masculine, but there's something else there. So I call myself trans masc androgyne. I would be called androgynous every now and then too. I wish I was more masculine. I don't know...

I want to very obviously be a masculine person, like it's clear I'm a guy who wears makeup... but there's something else there. Kind of how I feel Bel is. I actually made Bel (trans masc?? maybe he got his top surgery a long time ago and his scars are faded and under his pecs) intersex and xe has both (fully functional) sets of genitals too. Xe's beautiful and handsome, masculine mostly but with androgynous and feminine qualities. Xe wants to be seen as half man and half otherworldly being pretty much, kind of like what I want to be.

I also found out that you can have both with surgery, there's a vaginal preserving phalloplasty and a phallus preserving vaginoplasty. I always felt that something was missing from me. It's become even more apparent now that I wear men's underwear. (apologies for the TMI)

It's clear that I'm not just a "binary trans guy". There is something else, I keep saying that but it's true. I feel I would be a lot happier if I was able to present that way more.

I do answer to masculine language, I prefer masculine language when referring to me, but there's... I don't know how to describe it. How can I be that perfect masculine and androgynous with just a touch of feminine? I don't even know... I guess I was right, just a trans masculine androgynous person who's attracted to men. Some kind of boy critter fairy being of some sort. Gender is weird... (since I want to be both a guy and some flavor of nonbinary, would that make me bigender? I have no idea... maybe just masculine and genderqueer like Bel as well. He's been my muse for the past few days anyways.)

I'm not sure how I would feel if I was born male. Probably just as confused... I don't know. I'm wanting to microdose T. Aaaand get that top surgery as soon as possible

I'm really sleepy as I write this, if anything seems sour or upsetting, please let me know immediately and I will fix it.

[necromimetics]

can’t stop thinking about my friend’s cishet partner who said last night that he doesn’t think anyone is the same gender. god-tier take.

[tuttle-did-it]

David Tennant for Prime Minister, please.

edit- Since this is getting so much attention, edited to include descriptions of screenshots.

This woman has lost her fucking mind.

Jo, are you okay?

[blumineck]

Why do we segregate sports by sex?

Disclaimer: this video was intended as a fun look at the inconsistent logic of gender segregation in sports, but as a short-form video, it naturally does not go into much nuance. One thing I want to make clear is that I do believe we should be making sports more inclusive to trans and intersex athletes, and it seems to me that a great starting point would be to stop gender segregating sports that really don’t need it. Like archery!

[yuribeam]

for whoever needs to hear this:

starting HRT doesn't have to be a huge momentous all-or-nothing decision. you can just try it like you would an antidepressant you've been informed of the risks of.

there won't be any immediate irreversible changes overnight. you can always stop, change your dose, change your delivery system, decide it's not the right time. you can even microdose if you want to.

you don't have to tell anyone. you don't have to announce it if you don't want to.

stop waiting for a perfect time in your life because it won't come.

stop waiting to reach a mythical level of certainty that never comes to anyone, for anything.

you've been thinking about it long enough. if you have the opportunity, just give it a shot. you're worth the courage it takes to make a change in your life.

[dogd0m-charlie]

"doggy style" my ass. if the guy on top isn't tongue-out panting and growling like a dog and the guy bottoming isn't whining and whimpering like a dog, you are NOT doing it doggy style. you guys are POSERS.

[manichewitz]

i think about this post like. at least once a day

[hattersarts]

im already at the south downs cottage guys, catch up

[estragonsgayass]

[the-crooked-library]

so within the universe of Dune, gender roles abide by a rigid false dichotomy created by the bene gesserit - men lead the noble houses, while the women may join their order, and the powers of both are kept intentionally separate. at the same time, the plot demonstrates repeatedly that the role of paul atreides as a character is that of the border between the concepts juxtaposed within dichotomies: he is both an outerworlder and fremen, both harkonnen and atreides, both a duke and a disciple of the bene gesserit.

as such, it follows that within the in-universe gender structure, he occupies the roles of both male and female, thus being functionally and societally nonbinary. in this essay, i will -

[zan0tix]

Assorted homestucks number 72382683

[ash-and-starlight]

The world needs more Yue and Zuko friendship, I squeal just thinking abt the parallels. They deserve a life changing field trip together and if u have abt ideas I’m all ears 👀

Hiii anon this ask fermented in my inbox and in my brain for so long,, so take this??? Post canon yue lives/no war au arts?? Anyway aside from the Parallels and their political position & their duty before hoes grindset I think they could learn a lot from each other. With zuko learning the gift of patience & diplomacy from yue & Yue learning that allowing yourself to feel anger and speaking up can actually be Good.

anyway hypothetical life changing trip outcome: zuko takes an intro gender studies class and yue says fuck

(oh and also must not forget the crush on sokka)

[luckkythirt33n]

8 AND A HALF MONTHS TILL GINGER GENDER TWINK AND ACTING CHOICES BIMBO ARE BACK

The second I see a GOS3 BTS photo I'm going to simply pass away, stimming won't be enough I will simply explode out of this skin prison-

[juney-blues]

any time a transfem audience takes interest in a character, there is an immediate backlash to any transfeminine interpretations of that character. Suddenly it becomes popular to interpret them as trans in literally any other way than transfem.

while it's not *uncommon* to see an audience call a character an agender any pronouns genderfuck, you see it a lot more the second someone goes "but what if she was a girl"

[cath-lic]

“god created them male and female” WRONG. CURSE OF GALATIANS 3:28 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍⚧️‼️‼️‼️‼️

[punk-dad-sharkz]

i hate talking about dysphoria with cis ppl because they immediately clock it as body dysmorphia, and only as body dysmorphia. (i say only bc some trans ppl can and do experience both)

i can't talk about how i hate how my thighs make me feel/look feminine because they always say "but you look fine!" or "i think you look amazing!" or "but you should love them!"

and it's so hard to describe dysphoria, especially to ppl who don't experience it, or who don't want to understand it isn't dysmorphia

and no matter how hard you try to explain they always try to make you love this body you have because "you should love yourself as you are!"

but i do love myself. but not quite exactly how i am. i love what i know I can be. i love knowing that one day i'll have top surgery scars i can trace with my fingers and a scratchy beard from T. i love knowing that I can eventually do my silly little effeminate gestures without hating how it makes me look. i love knowing that eventually i can look in a mirror and grin at the man i've become.

but that's not right now. i may cry a little when a shirt doesn't fit the way it should, but i don't hate the body that makes it that way. I may feel a pit in my stomach when I realize the way that i'm standing makes me look girly, but i don't hate that i'm standing that way.

i don't hate that i used to be a girl but i hate when people still think i am.

i don't hate my body, i just hate how it isn't what it's supposed to be quite yet. could that make any sense to the cis folks reading this?

I am trans and I love my body, just sometimes it doesn't love me back. and one day it will.