#harry with kids

[becauseheartsgetbroken-hs]

cuteness too strong

[twopoppies]

Gemma recounting how Harry babysits was not on my bingo card. Don’t imagine him kissing her little hands and feet and stroking her cheek while he sings his songs to her. 😭 https://x.com/2_black_hearts/status/1830046688800633121?s=46

I saw that earlier! It's the sweetest thing. I love how close he is to his family. And it makes me so emotional that everyone calls him H.

[alarrytale]

“My dude is almost in his 30s. Society expects you to start having kids by that age, not jumping from one chick to the other like you are a teenager, and HSHQ needs to understand that quick.”

Anon, I don’t think that’s a good argument for why Harry’s image should change. I get what you’re trying to say about his womanizer image making him look bad, but the whole get-married-and-have-kids-by-x-age is just a different harmful heteronormative narrative. One that doesn’t just hurt queer people. The amount of couples I know who hate each other who’ve still gotten married, then went on to have kids they also hate and treat terribly, all because “That’s just what you’re supposed to do” is frankly soul crushing.

I get that we all want HL to be together and happy, but I feel like the fandom’s forgone conclusion for what that happiness looks like is the standard fanfiction epilogue of domestic bliss with two kids. I’ve seen blogs talk about their hypothetical children as if they already exist, with names and everything. Maybe it’s just me, but as someone who is routinely shamed for not wanting kids, it’s disheartening to see a community that prides itself on breaking away from societal norms more or less demand conformity in other ways.

And in terms of switching narratives pushed by management, be careful what you wish for. The last thing we need is yet another babygate.

Hi, anon 💜

First i want to start with saying that i'm so sorry you are shamed for not wanting kids. No matter your reasons (you don’t need one), that's just not on. I'm proud of you for standing your ground!

At the same time, despite it being another harmful heteronormative stereotype, it's still something society expects. That's just fact. So i get that people would start questioning harry at this age, because everyone thinks that a spouse, a house, a full time job and 2,1 kids is the gold standard of happiness and having a fullfilling life. I think people are following the standard, and wishing for others to follow it too, because they feel fullfillment abiding by society norms, and they think you will too. (That lasts until they realise they were oh so wrong).

I also think, like i've said before, there is a lot of projection going on. At the same time people take cues from H and L. They've both said they want kids (as young as you are interview) and we've seen plenty of examples of both of them seeking out kids when they are around and playing with them. They seem like they're both good with kids. So i don't see the harm in people fantasising and naming their future kids (that might never happen). I don't think H and L will name their kid Darcy just because fandom expects it. I also don't think they feel the pressure to conform to other fandom expectations, at least when it comes to their private life.

And about switching narratives. I don't think spending time worrying about what other horrible ideas of closeting schemes they can throw at us is very productive. Fandom wouldn't be very fun. We survived bg, so what can top that? Another one would just be a repeat of the current one. Except this time we're better prepared. Also people would leave, and i don't think they want that. I think they've pushed the line as far as we'll allow already.

[talaricula]

Things I've seen tumblr memeing about James Somerton doing à la "How did no one see how bigoted he was!" as if those things haven't been a significant part of tumblr culture for over a decade :

Presenting untrue and bordering on conspiratorial versions of (queer or otherwise marginalised) history without any sources

Completely disregarding and disrespecting any expertise on socio-cultural topics/humanities and distrusting academics and historians (incl. acting as if no academics or historians could be queer or marginalised)

Downplaying the role misogyny played in the historical oppression of queer women and concluding that queer men must have been more oppressed than queer women

Bi women are, at best, not as queer as "real" queer ppl, and at worst, simply equivalent to straight women

Despite nominal trans inclusivity, transmasculine ppl are functionally women when convenient (combined with the above, bi transmascs are functionally straight women)

Despite nominal trans inclusivity (bis), shamelessly attacking, threatening and actively endangering any trans woman who questions them or smth they find important (often by unfairly presenting her as violent or as a threat)

Having absolutely fucking wild and reductive takes about ace ppl, the oppression they face and their place in the queer community

Stating that marriage equality is an assimilationist fight while completely ignoring its direct roots in the horrifying consequences of the AIDS crisis for partners of ppl who died of AIDS

Praising western media creators from the past for queer coding even under censure and in the same breath condemning current non western media creators for being homophobic bc their representation isn't explicit enough

Blaming China for all existing homophobic censoring in western media

Assuming all queer media would be better told by western creators and by western standards

Only out queer ppl get to tell queer stories

Heavily criticising almost all queer media created by women or ppl they see as such (see above points about trans ppl) or involving/starring a significant amount of women for any perceived or real amount of "problematicness", but fawning over and praising and negating criticism of queer media created by and starring mostly or even functionally exclusively men (even when it could be argued that, you know, not involving/seriously sidelining women is a pretty clear example of misogyny which should probably be considered "problematic")

And I'm probably forgetting stuff or there's stuff I have internalised myself and don't recognise as an issue

Like idk but I feel like the takeaway from Hbomberguy and Toddintheshadow's videos should maybe be "be aware of such patterns in your communities bc they definitely exist" and not "this guy is uniquely awful" and I feel like a lot of the discussion I've seen surrounding this has been severely failing at that. Most ppl who've spent any significant amount of time on tumblr prob either have internalised at least one of those thought patterns, have had to de-internalise them, or have had to be extremely vigilant to not internalise them (which is done by, you know, seeking out other sources, which also seemed like an important takeaway from the videos)

[girl-drink-drunk]

you would fuck that old man. i would fuck that old man. we are the same. hold my hand

[vanessas-bookereport]

one thing that so many students forget is that, a win is a win. if you planned on doing english homework but instead you finished your history essay, celebrate that, don’t be upset taht you didn’t sick to your plan, at least you got SOMETHING DONE. a win is a fucking win and don’t let anyone tell you different.

[my-midlife-crisis]

[madefortherain]

MY favourite canon wolfstar moment? oh, definitely when harry wonders why sirius never complains about being on his knees for floo calls

[faiell]

seventeen years old

[izooks]

Regular school shootings are only a "fact of life" in the USA because a small minority have figured out how to game the system and impose their will on the majority.

[capricorn-0mnikorn]

I have ~Thoughts~ on the Harry Potter Phenomenon that was

(Courtesy of memories prompted by this Tumblr Poll)

Back when I was a senior in college (back in the mid-to-late 1980s), I actually wrote a fantasy novel for kids aged ~8 - ~11 (in a self-designed course for a single credit, under the guidance of my Literature advisor), inspired by a series of dreams and recurring characters that showed up in them.

My advisor encouraged me to try and get it published. And so, I arranged with teachers from my old school to have a class of 30 or so 10 year-olds beta read it, and give me feedback for revisions. The kids also encouraged me to try and publish it.

So I did.

Now, back then, there was no "Self Publishing." The closest thing was "Vanity Publishing," where you would pay 100% of the publishing cost of your book, which would be printed in hard copy, for the benefit of having 500 -1,000 books shipped to your personal address, which you were then responsible for storing and selling out of the trunk of your car in a parking lot, somewhere. And if word got out that you were trying to claim credit for being a "published author" because of a Vanity Press book, actual publishers wouldn't touch you with a 40-foot pole.

If you wanted to get published, you had to buy that year's copy of Writer's Market: a listing of magazine and book publishers, and agents, with a brief description of what material they published, and what they wouldn't touch.

Guess what genre no agent or publisher was interested in handling?

That's right, Gentle Readers: Fantasy for children aged 8 - 11. I would have happily sent out a dozen queries for each story I wrote, if there were publishers and agents willing to look at them. But for three to four years of trying, in directories of two-columns of tiny print, and several [hundred]* pages long, I'd be lucky to find two or three outlets even willing to look at fantasy for kids.

The general consensus, across the publishing business, was that fantasy was a dead and obsolete genre. If it was for kids old enough to read chapter books and novels, it must also be firmly grounded in realism and actual history, because everyone knows the only people buying books for kids that age were teachers, who wanted stories with practical applications in the classroom.

***

After 3 - 4 years of trying, while I was in grad school, I finally got a rejection from the one agent who agreed to read my novel. A few days later, I received news that my mother had died from the breast cancer she'd been fighting, and my heart just went out of the project altogether.

A few years later, the first Harry Potter book was published. And it became a worldwide phenomenon. And it was the kids, themselves, who were driving the sales.

See, I think the real reason the books were such a success, even though they were never really very well written, was because they were in a genre the audience was hungry for -- a genre they'd been denied access to for all of their young lives.

Someone who is starving will think even moldy bread is delicious.

*Gosh, what a word to leave out via typo; the Writers Market rivaled the Manhattan Yellow Pages in length.

[twopoppies]

https://x.com/sparklymusics/status/1814802019862888682?s=46

he is so sweet :)

I died when I saw these message. He is truly the sweetest man. I truly hope that wherever he was staying gets to remain private for him.

Edit: more info here

[lilithofpenandbook]

The scene where Snape protects the kids from Werewolf Lupin is so fucking funny to me

He goes from "IM GONNA MURDER YOU" to "What's going on" to "oh SHIT SHIT SHIT!!!"

The amount of emotions that he goes through in those five seconds is priceless

He literally fucking pauses for a whole second going 'what the fuck..?' and then his brain catches up to his eyes and he goes "WHAT THE FUCK?!!"

[imlittlestressed]

It's so funny to look at Harry's thoughts when you have Empathy Skill 8+ because what is this?

It's laughter! :o

There, he's laughing again!!! :O

Sometimes he reacts like a four years old child and that's what we all (including Kim) love in him.

[sher-ee]

Rep. Mike Collins, who represents the district where the school shooting happened today in GA, was asked in 2022 if he favored ANY gun laws including red flag laws. The answer is no, he said God is the answer.

I’m voting for the party that doesn’t wear AR-15 pins on their jackets.

My God. Fuck these people.

[daddiesdrarryy]

Remus: So you and Pads’s brother are just sleeping together now?

James: Yeah, and I’m not great at casual relationships. I don’t want to scare Reggie off

Remus: Then just give him some space, all right? Don’t Floo, don't write him letters, don’t call

James: That’s crazy, Moony. What if I see a sunset that reminds me of him?

Remus: …

Remus: When do you see him next?

James: We’re having dinner tonight

Remus: Okay, put a rubber band around your wrist, and any time you start planning your wedding or naming your children, I want you to stab yourself in the hand with a fork

James: What’s the rubber band for?

Remus: To slow the bleeding