#indian lesbians

[shorthairedbrownqueer]

Based on a 1970’s guide published by a Feminsit Lesbian Newsletter from Atlanta which is MY NEW FAVOURITE thing on the internet

[janaknandini-singh999]

Being a desi sapphic is like hMmM wHaT is iT gOnNa bE ✨today✨?

*mere sapno ki rani kab aayegi tu uwu* yearny?? or *ek ladki ko dekha toh aisa laga* kinda cute lil crush???? or *jab bhi main koi ladki dekhu* simping bitch????? or *BACHNAA AE HASEEEENOO* gay hoe

[queer-red-panda]

The Talking Walls

SUMMARY

Anushka Nayar. The most rebellious out of King Ismail's three other daughters. Or atleast that's how society labelled her. A young woman with a passion for music, for strategy, and for war, Anushka was one of a kind.

Amrita Joshi. The ghost of Safed Mahal (White Palace), or as it was otherwise called, Bhoot Mahal (Ghost Palace). A girl who died young, whose death remained shrouded with mystery. Anushka's closest friend.

In order to restore peace and harmony in the clashing forces of the kingdom, of peasant against army, Anushka had to find a way to topple the oppressive regime of her father. Dethrone him one way or another.

Amidst the hunt for answers, for support and for liberation, Anushka and Amrita reveal secrets and scandals which are far scarier than ghosts...

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Trying out an original story which is 1. desi-themed, 2. sapphic, annd 3. random <3 i'm pretty excited so show this some love and please do support me on this &lt;3 thanks!

tags: @justsomesapphicbimbo, @desi-girll, @bidisha2812

[the-sappho-of-lesbos]

Source: A Queer Little History Of Art - by Alex Pilcher

Art: Forever Her First - by Chitra Ganesh

[desbianherstory]

Sharan Dhaliwal, “A Letter to My Aunty: I Promise To Live The Life You Couldn't Lead, Loudly“

Dear Aunty,

When womxn of colour are asked if there are any queer people in their families who’ve helped with their journeys, you will often notice an air of silence. It’s rare you see or hear these people. They exist, but it’s rare.

I thought I was the only (out) queer person in mine. I came out as bisexual almost two years ago, in an article for my magazine. I did it without telling anyone first. I was scared of what people might say. And having placed myself in a vulnerable state, I was aware of the isolation that would follow.

Among my relatives, I was already considered a lost cause for being ‘reckless’ with life decisions. Some reacted negatively about my sexuality, too – seeing me as a stain on the respectability of our name.

Then one day I heard about you.

You lived in India your whole life and I knew you mostly as the woman who had untreated schizophrenia. Only recently has your condition been diagnosed; before that, ableist terms were used to describe you. You were always referred to as “the mad one” in your lifetime. The diagnosis came after your death.

There were a handful of times, when I was very young, that I met you, on one or other of the many trips we took to India. You were labelled as dangerous and scary, so I found myself hiding behind my parents when we were introduced. I now remember the pain in your face.

You died in old age, a few years ago and it was only last year that I found out about the relationship you’d had with another woman. I remember saying, “No, you mean she had a girl who was a friend, not a girlfriend.”

I was interrupted with a simple, “No, Sharan. She was gay.”

Things are changing for my generation and those younger than me. But looking back, it was harder then for people in immigrant communities to come out, due to cultural or religious strongholds. It was – is – especially hard in families where there’s an entrenched need to please, whether because of lingering colonial mindsets or honouring back-dated caste systems. In my own Indian family, these things have held some people back from living their true lives.

You never came out. Instead, you were married at a young age and because of your mental health and abusive partner, you went through a divorce. Getting a divorce in those times was looked down upon – but because your schizophrenia was viewed as destructive, you were were branded as unlovable.

So you stayed single and isolated, until this other woman came into your life. She helped take care of you and from there, a relationship blossomed. You fell in love and were by each other’s side constantly. Then one day, the family found out. They stopped you from seeing each other and you died alone.

Anonymity even after death is something I wish to hold for you – your sexuality has rarely been discussed until now. But since I heard your story, I’ve felt a powerful energy. Knowing that someone else in my family was out there, in a relationship with a woman, has meant the world to me.

Now, in my relationship with my own partner, I know that every moment counts, because those before me suffered to get what I have. Every time someone tells me they don’t approve, I know I have the freedom to continue as I am, because I have your story in mind.

Despite all that you went through and your lack of access to the care you needed, you were able to have that moment of joy with the woman you loved.

I didn’t know you had paved a way in my family to conversations about being gay. For so long, I believed I was the only one. Nor did I imagine the young girl hiding behind her parents as she looked at you in fear would one day look at you as someone who validated her existence.

There was a queer woman before me. And the life she wasn’t able to have is the life that I will loudly lead.

Thank you,

Sharan

[thedimlaltain]

Dutee Chand has been so brave. Her courage gives me and other Indians hope. Onwards and upwards.

[i-love-sufjan-stevens]

Vintage Photos of Queer Couples of Color

[laranjafox]

• New Normal (2022) [in] [22min] #sapphicfox

[no age rating recommended, but I'd say +12 for a better understanding of the story]

[comments; no spoiler]

Oh man, this film is fantastic, the visual part is pretty dynamic, the pace is accelerated, you feel how energetic Appu is, she dances, she hangouts with her men friends a lot, she's a free spirit, then she meets Isha and we can feel her nervousness and how agitated she was, "don't judge me", I was giggling all along, their relationship is so cute and Appu was feeling so good, you could see how important the phrase Isha said "it's normal" truly calmed her down like a mantra.

[spoiler]

It was everything so good, I didn't even think about any problem that could happen, I was taken by all the good emotions, when they were in the highway and the car passed by them with that noise that grows loud in your ear, then dissipates, then the melty feeling stopped and the fear came, I thought they'd get into an accident, seriously, thank goodness they didn't 🙏

But the problematic came.

Appu's mother found out about her romantic relationship with a girl and wasn't comprehensive about it, called it unnatural.

Here I have some thoughts about it: Appu just said that her mother made a problem of it and the rest of her family would know sometime, she neither said she was physically unsafe nor that she was being kicked out from home, so I think Appu was a bit rushed when thinking of moving to another city. But, also, if she could do it and wouldn't have financial problems, then it's a better to move out than staying in a place where don't accept and respect you.

When Appu told about her mother's reaction to Isha, she and Rony laughed, like? I felt hurt about it, I understand Appu's side, it's not something trifling. Okay, each person reacts in their own way, but they could laugh and speak seriously about it afterwards, Appu needed support and her girlfriend that should be the first person doing it, didn't. I don't know, even the part where Appu asks Rony a ride and Isha says no I found insensitive, he could give her a ride and comeback 🥺

From this point they completely fall apart, it's hurtful, but what Appu did isn't okay. And here we have space to talk about different forms of romantic relationship: from what I understood, Appu and Isha had a monogamous open relationship, so they could date and have sex with other people, except for other girls, one rule, one! And Appu did exactly this, I know she was hopeless, but instead of trying to confront and talk, she resort to caring and physical support of another girl. If it happened once, but Appu didn't carry it on, maybe Isha would understand, but that's not what happened and it's sad because Appu called Isha her soulmate, but apparently they don't talk anymore 🙁

I'm happy Appu realizes that she messed up, but the girl states that "if there's conditions in a relationship, it messes it up", for me that's hard to believe, every relationship have conditions, even if they're unspoken, implied. But Appu understands more about herself, that she wants to live non-monogamous open relationships. Maybe her relation with Isha was non-monogamous, they don't say names and we don't have enough details to be sure, but for me, from Isha's perspective it seems like it.

I don't know much about non-monogamy, but one concept of it is having no hierarchy, e.g. Appu-Isha is the main relationship and others that happen are "out of this circle", this doesn't happen, it's all equal and Isha seems to live like that, but when Appu is confronted about cheating, Appu brings up Isha's relationship with Rony, so for her, he was out of their circle, he was less important in such a way that even they having an open relationship and Isha being (I'm supposing) multiromantic, but homosexual, meaning she doesn't feel attracted by men and even she saying that doesn't feel comfortable with having physical contact with men, Appu showed feeling bothered by it. Which makes me wonder if she's ready for living a non-monogamous open relationship without any rules as she wish, since considers it the best, but the idea seems great indeed hehe but utopian

[thebisexualwreckoning]

PSA!!!!!

This is for the people who didn't know they were gay or bi or pan or ace or aro in their childhood.

This is for the people who had crushes which could be deemed straight and then came out as gay later in their lives.

This is for the trans or genderqueer or fluid or nonbinary people who did not experience dysphoria in their agab.

This one is for the people who don't want to take T or E or have gender-affirming surgery but are still trans.

This one is for the sex-positive or sex-neutral aces who are told that they aren't ace because they aren't disgusted by sex.

This one is for anyone who has been told, "You just need to find the right girl/guy!"

This one is for all the queer people who have been told that they cannot be queer because of their religion, race, ethnicity, etc.

This one is for all the queer people who were told that they weren't queer just because they didn't fit into somebody else's idea of what being queer is like.

Nobody can tell you how to be queer. The only one who gets to decide that is YOU. Queer people do not need to bend themselves over backwards to make others comfortable.

We have always been here and we will continue to be here, and everyone else will just have to learn to accept that.

[shorthairedbrownqueer]

There are a million different personal experiences and circumstances that impact the decisions we make. Safety should always be the number one prior

But there is no queer Indian identity without queer Indians living in India

There is no queer progress in India without queer Indians fighting for it

[janaknandini-singh999]

apni pasandeeda aurat ki pasandeeda aurat banna chahti hu ~

[mindsynthcreations]

Love

[queerism1969]

[desbianherstory]

I knew I liked girls not because of physical features but emotional attraction. I saw how my female friends when they liked a boy, would be so in love and happy with butterfly feelings. I never felt such emotions as a romantic Bollywood song when the heroine falls for the hero with a boy. But I felt that emotional connection to girls in school and then realised I was gay. But I desperately wanted not to be gay because I thought it was bad and wrong, so I forced myself to try to go on dates with boys, but I just never felt a connection with anyone. By age 23, I had to finally stop lying to myself and admit I was born this way, which doesn't make me a disgusting person. I'm still the same Deepa who loves my mom's Dosa and making corny jokes with friends.

How I Met My Wife

I was too scared to tell a girl I liked her because I assumed all girls are straight. Such people don't have to think about that because anyone they talk to will most likely prefer the opposite gender. Online dating is a blessing for LGBTQ people because we can meet people more safely without having to go anywhere and know they are also in the community. And that is how I met Gauri. After two years of dating and travelling places, were moved in together, and two years later, I decided to propose to her. Gauri said 'YES'. Our families were surprised at first, but they knew Gauri as a friend and her parents knew me as well, which made things easier. Gauri's parents, however, took a couple of days to process it. My mom and dad still loved me and said they would never disown me, but they were a bit nervous about what society would think. However, they realised during the wedding planning that none of the desi aunties or uncles had any issues attending a lesbian wedding, so my parents also came around to being supportive. Now Gauri's parents treat me like a daughter, and my parents also love her. We are fortunate to have such loving parents. People have to realise a child is not an extension of your self to please relatives and society but a human being you must love unconditionally when you become a parent.

Challenges For The LGBTQ Community

But sometimes, we face certain challenges too. Gauri and I cannot really ever hold hands in public because scary people will make comments. We never act like a couple in public out of this fear. The things straight couples take for granted, we have to think twice. For example, we cannot travel to common destinations for vacations like Maldives or Dubai as we could be sentenced to death. Unfortunately, most LGBTQ Indians fear that they will be disowned or even killed by their own families. LGBT Indians from working-class and orthodox families live in the most terrible state. However, things are slowly changing; we see Bollywood movies now with top actors playing gay characters. Most of the comments we received from India have been positive, so we hope things are improving. The Indian Supreme Court is considering legalising gay marriage; hopefully, the future is bright. In all honesty, Gauri and I are privileged because we live in the US. With so much support from aunties and uncles here, our wedding would not happen in India.

[angelixtreat]

that one panel of girls being girls!!!! theyre great friends!!! best friends!!! friends that kiss once and awhile!!!!

[indiansapphic]

BUTCHES. WHERE ARE THE BUTCHES. I WANT TO SCRITCH THEIR HAIR. I WANT TO HOLD THEIR HAND. I WANT TO TAKE THEM ON A SKATEBOARDING DATE. I WANT TO WEAR A SAREE MATCHING THEIR TIE. I WANT TO KISS ALL OVER THEIR FACES. I WANT TO SHARE MUSIC WITH THEM ON THE BUS AND ON THE METRO. MY BUTCHES. WHERE ARE MY BUTCHES IM GOING INSANE—